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Superficial side of the dating game

The last decade has seen a huge surge in plastic surgery and other body enhancing (distorting?) procedures. It’s not just the ladies who spend money on cosmetic procedures either.

How do you think this has changed the way we see each other on the dating scene? I read somewhere that guys are no longer into the “plastic” look. Does this mean natural is back in style?

I remember seeing pictures of a young man I was seeing that were only taken three years before I met him. I didn’t even recognize him! He had a completely different nose and an extra 30 lbs on his frame. What a difference a gym membership and a nose contour makes.

I thought of how much I adored his wit and sense of humor and wondered if he needed to change his looks to showcase these qualities.

It’s impossible to say for sure, and I never asked him about his slightly drastic changes to his face. I just wonder if he saw himself differently, which made him feel confident enough to present his personality to people.

Do you think we spend too much time focusing on image and the outer layer, while ignoring the good stuff? I mean, does it really impress anyone that you are in the gym all the time if you are a raging jerk with anger issues you have yet to address?

How much work should single people put into personal growth? What do you think?

How do you handle the superficial side of the dating game?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

316 comments Add your comment

Leggs

January 21st, 2011
11:51 am

@ARed ~ remember, that’s all I did too was shovel food in my mouth. It caught up to me about a year ago. I’m still somewhat slim (that’s questionable), but no more a size 4. If you exercise and workout, your luck will never run out. Now me, I’m chasing luck down to get back on my side of the fence!

Yep, Raqi V ~ nothing but age!

AmazonRed™

January 21st, 2011
11:51 am

The MOMania topic is about kids walking in on their parents having sex. I guess Modern Family did an episode on it recently. The stories are HILARIOUS (once you get past the trolls posting)

kimmie

January 21st, 2011
11:52 am

I do have this camisole type shirt that I wear that gives me a little lift and clevo.

Slim – Now you know you should not be wearing that DECEPTIVE top, according to some of these men!LOL!!!! Completely dishonest! :lol:

Raqi V

January 21st, 2011
11:53 am

BlackMagic, breastfeeding actually tightens the abdominal muscles and helps you get back to your pre-preg weight. I can only assume that it also tightens the t!t muscles also. LOL Maybe her babe sucked the fat away. LOL

I asked my doc about it years ago. She says it just don’t happen like that. She did say being pregnant can ruin you abdominal muscles though. Some women have the abdominal muscles tear and have pouch that can only be surgically altered.

AmazonRed™

January 21st, 2011
11:53 am

She did say being pregnant can ruin you abdominal muscles though.

:cry:

Raqi V

January 21st, 2011
11:54 am

Glad everything is cool and I like your attitude about it!

AmazonR, it’s just been 1-1/2 days. Stay tuned. LOL

Raqi V

January 21st, 2011
11:56 am

BlackMagic, yep. He and I are agreeing to close the production line. Only the production line. The machine will still be up and running. LOL

kimmie

January 21st, 2011
11:56 am

Amred – I saw that episode of Modern Family, it was hillarious! Later in the episode, the parents that got caught were kissing each other in the kitchen and their teen daughter walked in. She screamed “Not again, what’s wrong with you two?!!!” I was rolling!! :lol:

kimmie

January 21st, 2011
11:58 am

Raqi – Then I guess my friend is genetically predisposed!

AmazonRed™

January 21st, 2011
11:58 am

AmazonR, it’s just been 1-1/2 days. Stay tuned. LOL

Raqi – True. I had friends who were loving beind snowed in…til day 4 or so. Then they were going crazy.

AmazonRed™

January 21st, 2011
11:59 am

kimmie – I hate that I missed the boat on this show. I’m waiting for it to come on DVD so I can watch the first season. I don’t have Netflix so I have to wait til Blockbuster gets it!

I can’t find one person who doesn’t like that show!

Raqi V

January 21st, 2011
12:00 pm

AmazonR, ruining the abdominal severely only happens to maybe 5% of women. You probably have nothing to worry about unless you are planning to get knocked up by Shaq or John Coffey (Michael Clarke Duncan). LOL Have some big monstrous babies.

Purple Rain

January 21st, 2011
12:03 pm

Let’s get this topic away from pregnancy after effects

AmazonRed™

January 21st, 2011
12:07 pm

You probably have nothing to worry about unless you are planning to get knocked up by Shaq or John Coffey (Michael Clarke Duncan). LOL

I’m not opposed to it. :lol:

My mom loved Shaq when he played for the Lakers and would often say that’s the kind of guy she wanted to see me with. I’m hoping she didn’t mean the infidelity part, :lol: but she really liked his playful attitude.

I’m more of a Kobe fan :twisted: except for that whole Colorado thing. :lol:

Raqi V

January 21st, 2011
12:07 pm

Having a child walk in during doing the do with the hub? Yep!!! Happened 3 times. Once by the oldest and the other two times but the boy.

Thankfully it was “state of emergency” for them so they weren’t really paying attention to the tiny bit they did or did not see. But you know just because it can happen and does happen we aaaalllways check the lock on the door twice when it starts to get beyond your regular everyday “ole fashioned man on top” doings.

BlackMagicWoman

January 21st, 2011
12:07 pm

I’m afraid for my t*ts if I get pregnant. For some reason…my 34D’s have jumped to 34F’s since the summer. Yeah DD’s do not work. Victoria’s has DDD’s but only some of those work. So I have to shop Frederick’s. Well…at least they are still perky! So I can’t complain. Except having to buy new bras is NOT cheap! But I waited for the sale and stocked up! :lol:

Raqi V

January 21st, 2011
12:11 pm

We also had a housekeeper to walk in while on vacation in Mexico. That was her bad. We had the do not disturb thingy on the door even if we didn’t apply the privacy hasp.

Raqi V

January 21st, 2011
12:12 pm

LOL I am trying to post a comment but I cannot figure out what is in it that the blog filter does not like. No profanity or anything.

Kym

January 21st, 2011
12:13 pm

Good Afternoon All,

I am not sure if y’all are still on topic..its a slow news day so I figured I would hang out and see the sights. It’s the weekend baby!

Raqi V

January 21st, 2011
12:14 pm

jumped to 34F’s

BlackMagic, :shock:

AmazonRed™

January 21st, 2011
12:15 pm

For some reason…my 34D’s have jumped to 34F’s since the summer.

Hello brickhouse!

Leggs

January 21st, 2011
12:16 pm

@Raqi V ~ breastfeeding helps contract the uterus back to its rightful size.

Purple Rain

January 21st, 2011
12:16 pm

As the men just sit back and watch.

So out your League

January 21st, 2011
12:17 pm

my 34D’s have jumped to 34F’s since the summer.

-Speechless-

BlackMagicWoman

January 21st, 2011
12:17 pm

http://bossip.com/333863/ladies-with-the-tig-ole-bitties-there-is-now-an-l-cup-bra-thanks-to-bravissimo/

I think I will check them out! :lol: RAQI will you be needing them in the next few months? :lol:

Purple Rain

January 21st, 2011
12:18 pm

So if I suck on the breast the uterus will stay tight? lol

Kym

January 21st, 2011
12:20 pm

@PurpleRain..uhh no..it doesn’t work that way.

Leggs

January 21st, 2011
12:22 pm

@BMW ~ jumped to 34F’s…WTH are you eating/drinking over there???? Oh my!

BlackMagicWoman

January 21st, 2011
12:22 pm

LMAO…PURPLE…you will have to wait until your baby is out of there! Then there will be milk coming when you do!

RAQI….question. If you are nursing, does milk always come out…even if you are getting your freaky sneaky on?

Leggs

January 21st, 2011
12:23 pm

@PR ~ sorry, but it doesn’t work that way! Pregnancy has to play a part therein! :lol: :lol:

SlimNumeroUno

January 21st, 2011
12:24 pm

‘Now you know you should not be wearing that DECEPTIVE top, according to some of these men!LOL!!!! Completely dishonest’

kimmie – I figured someone would catch that…but really in my case, it isn’t like my chest is protruding out waaaay from my chest when I wear it…just gives it a little lift. And when the top comes off, the boobs still look at you eye to eye. lol (the good thing about itty bitties, not much weight on them to bring em down)

Leggs

January 21st, 2011
12:26 pm

@BMW ~ you do know milk can come out when you hear a baby cry in a supermarket! :lol:

i'm swiss™

January 21st, 2011
12:26 pm

“after giving birth and having my tatas feel with “baby food” is the only time my breast are the size my husband really likes.”

Raqi — So that’s why he keep knocking your azz up… ;-) :lol:

cba

January 21st, 2011
12:27 pm

When my daughter was about three and it would be thundering, she always came into our room. One night she came in, quiet like a ghost and witnessed how she came about. She asked my wife later, why was dad on top of you?? :-)

Purple Rain

January 21st, 2011
12:28 pm

Free Uterus Tightening!

or a T-Shirt that say’s

“Save a uterus, suck a boob”

Purple Rain

January 21st, 2011
12:31 pm

If my son bursts in I am going to put him on Camera duty

Purple Rain

January 21st, 2011
12:33 pm

What does baby milk taste like?

Raqi V

January 21st, 2011
12:34 pm

BlackMagic, yeah I do go up one size once the milk ducts start to do their thing.

When my hub saw the Jill Scott Butterfly bra on the news one morning he said “Damn now that there is too much of a good thing”. LOL Way too many clasp to be fighting with.

BlackMagicWoman

January 21st, 2011
12:35 pm

PURPLE…again I just FLATLINED________________________________________ :shock:
:lol: You are crazy man!

LEGGS…whatchu talkin’ ’bout Willis? Just like that, you’re a diary cow? :shock: Is that the reason nurding moms wear pads in their bras?

BlackMagicWoman

January 21st, 2011
12:39 pm

*I meant to say Nursing moms*

RAQI….yes I saw that bra. See if you have a wide back and your number are up there along with the cups then you may need that support. My problem is….usually if you are an F you have at least a 38 back. Having a 34 makes it hard for girl to find the bras. And being the creative chick I am….I wull but a plain bra in my size and “Divarize” it. I guess that is my dance background. And since I make costumes with rhinestoned and feathered bras for my shows, I have stuff to make my regular bras sexy!

Purple Rain

January 21st, 2011
12:39 pm

Black, we don’t have to have sex but let me keep your uterus tight for ya! :)

BlackMagicWoman

January 21st, 2011
12:40 pm

“I wull but a plain bra in my size and “Divarize” it”

I meant to say I will buy a plain bra in my size.

Leggs

January 21st, 2011
12:41 pm

@BMW ~ girl, you have me cracking up. Yes, must wear a nursing bra when in public. You will start dripping on the spot…nothing like milk stains on your blouse. It can be very embarrassing!

Raqi V

January 21st, 2011
12:43 pm

Yes BlackMagic, they milk flows as long as the baby is nursing. The flow actually adjust to the baby’s needs. The woman’s body can tell once the paps have been drained and the baby continues to suck it needs to produce more. That’s why even when the baby is not nursing and the jugs get full you need to pump them. If you don’t the milk flow will slow down. Ain’t it funny how nature works. LOL

Not to mention when the jugs are engorged with milk it hurts like hell. LOL

I will tell you ladies this, when you are paired with a man that is very fond of the tatas…touching, kissing, sucking…he will be fighting the urge while they are “for baby only” off limits.

Wearing a bra during the do helps him remember Do Not Touch. LOL

Raqi V

January 21st, 2011
12:44 pm

BlackMagic, having a 34 back, do they not make your back hurt?

i'm swiss™

January 21st, 2011
12:50 pm

“You will start dripping on the spot…nothing like milk stains on your blouse. It can be very embarrassing!”

Leggs — Yeah, I remember that happened (leaky taps) to this girl in the cafeteria when I was in school. In middle school, no less.

Raqi V

January 21st, 2011
12:53 pm

Leggs, I bought the little nursing pads to put in my bra. It was the worse when I was trying to let the milk dry up. As long as Lizzy was nursing they would get full be never engorged to the point of over flowing. But when I was letting them dry out they leaked for like two days. LOL

Leggs

January 21st, 2011
12:59 pm

@Raqi V ~ I was wondering if anyone would bring up the nastiness of engorgement. Mine was so bad I considered taking an axe to them myself. Had to be carried into the lactation center off N’lake Parkway. Whew. It was bad!!!

:lol: :lol: at wearing a bra during the do…you damn skippy, you’ll have breast milk all over the place if you don’t. Once the leak springs he’ll want to play/taste the baby’s food! :wink:

i'm swiss™

January 21st, 2011
1:02 pm

Hmm… Morning sickness, enlarged, sore & leaky boobs, back pain, etc… Maybe I should schedule a sit-down between you moms & expectant moms with Mrs. Swiss… might put a damper on the crumbsnatcher pangs… :lol:

Wait… on second thought… it does serve as a good excuse to f__k more often, so it might be worth the risk… Nevermind! :lol:

Purple Rain

January 21st, 2011
1:16 pm

I think that would be pretty cool if she was on top and breast milk was flying all over the place..lol