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Superficial side of the dating game

The last decade has seen a huge surge in plastic surgery and other body enhancing (distorting?) procedures. It’s not just the ladies who spend money on cosmetic procedures either.

How do you think this has changed the way we see each other on the dating scene? I read somewhere that guys are no longer into the “plastic” look. Does this mean natural is back in style?

I remember seeing pictures of a young man I was seeing that were only taken three years before I met him. I didn’t even recognize him! He had a completely different nose and an extra 30 lbs on his frame. What a difference a gym membership and a nose contour makes.

I thought of how much I adored his wit and sense of humor and wondered if he needed to change his looks to showcase these qualities.

It’s impossible to say for sure, and I never asked him about his slightly drastic changes to his face. I just wonder if he saw himself differently, which made him feel confident enough to present his personality to people.

Do you think we spend too much time focusing on image and the outer layer, while ignoring the good stuff? I mean, does it really impress anyone that you are in the gym all the time if you are a raging jerk with anger issues you have yet to address?

How much work should single people put into personal growth? What do you think?

How do you handle the superficial side of the dating game?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog

316 comments Add your comment

Celisea

January 21st, 2011
11:22 am

I think plastic surgery is superficial but I also think it’s surperficial to hone in on thid one particular when there is so much superficialism that goes on. I agree too that the other side of the coin is just becuase you (for self) like nic and want nice and want to look nice it’s labeled as being materialistic. IMO, as long as a person is not moved, defined and lives for impressing others in any way shape or form then do you. We say it all the time

BlackMagicWoman

January 21st, 2011
11:22 am

SWISS…..”BMW — Just so you know, I really respect they way your booty jiggles when you get all worked up like that…”
I am soooo gonna get you for that one! :lol:

i'm swiss™

January 21st, 2011
11:23 am

Truth is all you ladies (well, okay, most of you ladies) have at least something that some dude finds sexy as hell…

SlimNumeroUno

January 21st, 2011
11:25 am

‘I thought I had a tootsie roll pop’

Leggs – An elephant sucking on a tic tac comes to mind. :lol: (In the corner I go)

Purple Rain

January 21st, 2011
11:26 am

Amazon, you want to dismiss us and all of this good oral? LOL

Slim, yes I have been doing my thing this morning :) cough cough

Amazon, cheap boob jobs feel like rocks, expensive ones feel great. They both require upkeep though. And I will tell any man here he is lying if he has this nice shaped naked woman in front of him ready to take him to bed and he says “No your boobs are fake” You are already to far gone once you find out they are not real. Even if you know before hand that they are fake, but yet they are sitting pretty, cleavage and all that he is going to say no. Even if he did not like fake boobs before.

Dan - Simply...Superior

January 21st, 2011
11:26 am

@Swiss

So true….

I’m all about the one’s that love (her) thing, whatever it may be.

^^that’s sexy

DreamsMaterialize

January 21st, 2011
11:27 am

You can get dismissed toooooooo!!!!
I meant that in the most humble and wholesome way. ;-)

Leggs

January 21st, 2011
11:27 am

@SlimNU ~ my face is hurting from laughing. The visual leaves me :shock: Good one! Naw, that one was worthy of you staying in the midst of your blog peers. No corner (yet)!

Celisea

January 21st, 2011
11:27 am

Blogging on a cell ain’t easy….I didn’t finish my comment but this phone is acting quirky….my signal is going in and out…for the most part I agree do you. Just don’t lose your way all based on the opinions of others

Purple Rain

January 21st, 2011
11:28 am

When little Furio is born and ravishes my wifes breast if they start to sag or lose their ummph after he is done breast feeding she will be getting a booby lifting, we both agree

kimmie

January 21st, 2011
11:30 am

Dreams – Those ladies have the “natural look”, especially the hair, down pat and are pretty! They all wear makeup too. That’s how makeup is supposed to look – like you’re not wearing it, but it gives a certain polish, especially when performing and being photographed. Jill better not step out without any support up top!LOL!!

You right the old Lauren Hill, cause the new one wears clown makeup and looks like she’s high(which she prolly is)LOL

SlimNumeroUno

January 21st, 2011
11:32 am

Speaking of cleavage, can one of the fellas please explain to me what the magnetism to yall and boob cleavage is??? Just curious. I would have to tape mine together AND lay down sideways to get some cleave action going. lol

Leggs – I really didn’t want to hit the corner just yet. Yall are making this conf call FUN lol…but please don’t give me a pop quiz because I got nuttin

AmazonRed™

January 21st, 2011
11:32 am

Furio? :lol:

I wonder how I’ll be if I have kids and my body changes. I love how I look naked. :lol: And my stomach is awesome! I wonder if I can get it back. Probably not!

Raqi V

January 21st, 2011
11:32 am

Purple, stop listening to all that nonsense. Breastfeeding does not make the breast sag. Just like your wifey having a baby or three will not stretch out her canal.

Stop listening to folks who don’t know what the heck they are talking about.

Purple Rain

January 21st, 2011
11:33 am

Celisea, 2038 you will need some plastic surgery. Please

So out your League

January 21st, 2011
11:34 am

@purp

And I will tell any man here he is lying if he has this nice shaped naked woman in front of him ready to take him to bed

then i would hit it from the back only…i like to look down at a nice natural pair.spread nice..legs up..watching me give her the bozzzzzack..i like the way they bounce…i cant get with the other program so i would just give her LD from the back and call it a day…its about the visual for me…visual turns me on or what i have going on in my head…if the visual not right…its hard for me to do it…

Purple Rain

January 21st, 2011
11:34 am

Raqi, being that this convo was brought up by her to me and it’s our first child how are we supposed to know? LOL

kimmie

January 21st, 2011
11:34 am

Purple – That 11:26 last paragraph – now THAT’S real talk.

But what’s with the booby lift? Don’t you want her to stay how she will NATURALLY be?LOL!!! Just kidding, I’m all for happiness!

BlackMagicWoman

January 21st, 2011
11:35 am

“When little Furio is born and ravishes my wifes breast if they start to sag or lose their ummph after he is done breast feeding she will be getting a booby lifting, we both agree”

See…any man that wants me to have his baby had better have the money upfront in accout in in my name to pay for the work that I will require after the kid is popped out! I’m talking lifts and lipo! :lol: No backsies sucka!

So out your League

January 21st, 2011
11:35 am

I would have to tape mine together AND lay down sideways to get some cleave action going. lol

…lol…wow…

Raqi V

January 21st, 2011
11:35 am

kimmie, I agree a little enhancement has never hurt any one. Some folks need to learn though that enhancing and completing altering is not the same.

Purple Rain

January 21st, 2011
11:36 am

Slim I like the little small ones also. :)

So Out, fake boobs are a “work around” but not a deal breaker. LOL

Raqi V

January 21st, 2011
11:37 am

Purple, then tell her to stop listening to such craziness. LOL

If her breast sag at any point it will be because they are already genetically predestined to do so. LOL

SlimNumeroUno

January 21st, 2011
11:38 am

S.O.Y.L – Exaggerating a little but just like to paint a very vivid pic for you all….i love my B’s ;-)

AmazonRed™

January 21st, 2011
11:38 am

. Breastfeeding does not make the breast sag.

Raqi – Never ever? I know some women who did NOT have flapjack t.its before the kid but do have them after. :lol:

Purple Rain

January 21st, 2011
11:38 am

The breast job after breast feeding is her idea not mine. I am going to enjoy it either way. LOL

abc

January 21st, 2011
11:38 am

One may be equivalent to a gourmet meal in a brown paper sack. Unless someone is really hungry, they won’t open the bag. Everyone should do what they can to look their best.

Just the same, a woman is most beautiful first thing in the morning, no coffee, no preps, no nothing. Personally, I don’t think I can claim the same for myself!

So out your League

January 21st, 2011
11:38 am

@purp..yeah remember i said visual…so if she can mask it visually i am good…just dont let me see how it looks fa real…lol

small ones or big ones…i like em all..variety

@bmw…upfront money…wow

Leggs

January 21st, 2011
11:39 am

@SlimNU ~ from a woman’s point of view, I always thought clevage was sexy. It made anything V-neck look so much better. I’m glad I finally got some (albeit late in life).

@ARed ~ don’t worry about your stomach. You will get it back. You may not keep the boobs, but every woman is different. I had a quiet memorial service when mine left. :lol:

Purple Rain

January 21st, 2011
11:40 am

Raqi, well as long as she is doing what makes her comfortable I am fine and she wants them to stay just how they are now. So I am not telling her nothing, LOL

So out your League

January 21st, 2011
11:41 am

lol@flapjack…

AmazonRed™

January 21st, 2011
11:41 am

The blog monster does NOT like porn. He spits that out.

He does like t.its. He ate that. :lol:

Purple Rain

January 21st, 2011
11:41 am

abc, except for her morning breath. LOL

In the morning I am farting, coughing and have eye boogers all with a woody trying to get “some” that women must love me because I am sure that is not a pretty sight. LOL

DreamsMaterialize

January 21st, 2011
11:41 am

I can appreciate all the women. Gotta say though, a chick that can rock the sweats, girl timbs, and a ball cap…damn that’s sexy.

Raqi V

January 21st, 2011
11:42 am

BlackMagic, after giving birth and having my tatas feel with “baby food” is the only time my breast are the size my husband really likes. LOL

I wonder is that why he keeps knocking me up. LOL But he does know the baking dept of this company’s production line is getting cut off after this load. The plug on the oven gets cut.

Purple Rain

January 21st, 2011
11:44 am

Dreams, I like a women that looks good in a bikini and heels or a nice strapless dress and some flats. Our as long as she has smooth skin and straight teeth we can do business. LOL

AmazonRed™

January 21st, 2011
11:44 am

don’t worry about your stomach. You will get it back. You may not keep the boobs, but every woman is different. I had a quiet memorial service when mine left.

:lol: :lol: :lol:

My mom went from an A to a D cup. So there is hope. She also had three kids in 5 years tho.

As for the stomach, a lot of my Slim sisters (my real live sisters and the blog’s own Slim) had lil pooches anyway. You can still grate cheese off my abs and all I do is shovel food on in my mouth. I’m thinking my luck will run out. :lol:

BlackMagicWoman

January 21st, 2011
11:44 am

RAQI..I had a friend who is very thin girl. Now I saw picture of her from when she was like 20. She had like a B cup and just had some curve to her small frame. I met her at like 25 and she had a baby and nursed. She was always complaining about her breasts being small. Ok in the bra they looked like they went to like an A cup. Ok she had good reason to be upset. But she was always saying she is saving for a boob job. I couldn’t understand why. She said her son sucked her dry. I said it can’t be that bad. so I thought. Well one day, we were both swimming and we went back to her place to change to go out and I accidently walked in on her naked. OMG..I have never seen boobs like this. :shock: It was like beyond saggy. It looked like something vacuum-sealed her breasts. I’m talking no fat, just saggy deflated balloon t*ts! No woman in her late 20’s/early 30’s shuodl have breasts like that. Hell I doubt a 90 year old’s boobs look like that! Now I understand!

Celisea

January 21st, 2011
11:45 am

Hey PR, I don’t think nip and tuck will be needed for our 2038 date but to make certain things ain’t hanging too low for you by then, we’ll keep our options for improvements open :)

SlimNumeroUno

January 21st, 2011
11:46 am

Leggs – I think cleav looks better too but i’m not sure why. Figured the men might have had some insight. I do have this camisole type shirt that I wear that gives me a little lift and clevo. ;-)

Raqi V

January 21st, 2011
11:46 am

AmazonR, Nope. The breasts are a combination of muscle and fat tissue. Within those tissues are milk ducts that are already in place. When those ducts fill up the breast become larger. Some times a whole lot larger. When they no longer produce milk they go back to their normal size and sometimes that will make them seem like that got flatter or flabby.

Breastfeeding does not take away from the muscle and fat. Age does that.

AmazonRed™

January 21st, 2011
11:47 am

But he does know the baking dept of this company’s production line is getting cut off after this load. The plug on the oven gets cut.

I stopped by your spot recently. Saw the “sentence.” Glad everything is cool and I like your attitude about it!

Purple Rain

January 21st, 2011
11:48 am

AmazonRed™

January 21st, 2011
11:49 am

Age does that

Raqi – Thanks. Good to know. I walked in on my 90 year old great great grandmother once.

Yes folks, your t*ts can sag to your knees. :cry: But at 90, I guess you don’t really care!

Purple Rain

January 21st, 2011
11:49 am

Plastic Surgery Rocks

Dan - Simply...Superior

January 21st, 2011
11:49 am

@Slim

Cleavage is in the eye of the beholder.

Sometimes the just that little shadow under say a “B” is enough to get the engine started in the same way that curve of the “DD” does.

Purple Rain

January 21st, 2011
11:50 am

Amazon, I need to see your abs

kimmie

January 21st, 2011
11:50 am

BMW – That exact thing happened to one of my best friends after she had her baby. She had a low cut top on one day and they literally looked like deflated balloons and she always had a D cup. She’s been talking about getting a lift.

Purple Rain

January 21st, 2011
11:50 am

As long as your boobs are bigger than my chest. LOL

BlackMagicWoman

January 21st, 2011
11:50 am

“@bmw…upfront money…wow”
Hell yeah. No way to get out of it. You want his kid from me…I need assurance that I can fix myself after the hell of pregnancy is over! 9 months of looking fat is already too much for me. So as soon as possible I would need to be on the table to get me back! :lol:

RAQI…”But he does know the baking dept of this company’s production line is getting cut off after this load. The plug on the oven gets cut.”

You are going to tell the Dr to cut, burn, karate chop and bury your tubes after this one huh? :lol: