Superficial side of the dating game
The last decade has seen a huge surge in plastic surgery and other body enhancing (distorting?) procedures. It’s not just the ladies who spend money on cosmetic procedures either.
How do you think this has changed the way we see each other on the dating scene? I read somewhere that guys are no longer into the “plastic” look. Does this mean natural is back in style?
I remember seeing pictures of a young man I was seeing that were only taken three years before I met him. I didn’t even recognize him! He had a completely different nose and an extra 30 lbs on his frame. What a difference a gym membership and a nose contour makes.
I thought of how much I adored his wit and sense of humor and wondered if he needed to change his looks to showcase these qualities.
It’s impossible to say for sure, and I never asked him about his slightly drastic changes to his face. I just wonder if he saw himself differently, which made him feel confident enough to present his personality to people.
Do you think we spend too much time focusing on image and the outer layer, while ignoring the good stuff? I mean, does it really impress anyone that you are in the gym all the time if you are a raging jerk with anger issues you have yet to address?
How much work should single people put into personal growth? What do you think?
How do you handle the superficial side of the dating game?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Dating Blog
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Purple Rain
January 21st, 2011
10:52 am
Dreams, I agree…matter of fact women should get plastic surgery instead of all that pushup bra’s, and girdles/form fitting jeans…because the gig is up once she gets naked. If a guy has a gut you know he has a gut before the shirt comes off. LOL Ladies stop being cheap and go all of the way. LOL
i'm swiss™
January 21st, 2011
10:54 am
“I knwo I do NOT want to see a Jay-Z/Beyonce kid.”
BMW — Ah man… That makes me miss that old “If They Mated” bit that Conan used to do on his old show… (does he still do that?) Hilarious…
SlimNumeroUno
January 21st, 2011
10:55 am
Purp – You still aren’t out of the water just yet. You’ll probably get a call from Maury Povich to appear alongside i’m swiss for some future paternity test episodes. So don’t embarrass me
If a dude I was seriously dating had previous work done to medical transform from an ugly duckling to a handsome swan, I would feel bamboozled if I was not able to see the BEFORE pics. Let’s face it, as previously discussed, there are subconscious deciphering that goes into the selection of our partners…specifally for child rearing or what have you. So if it has been altered then i’m being jipped on how our child may potentially come out. Just sayin so don’t judge me lol
Purple Rain
January 21st, 2011
10:56 am
Slim, LOL
BlackMagicWoman
January 21st, 2011
10:56 am
“I’ve had just as much fun with fake boobs as real boobs…they make the same target”
Oh PURPLE….how you do makeme laugh!
DreamsMaterialize
January 21st, 2011
10:56 am
Ladies stop being cheap and go all of the way. LOL
Yeah stop fooling us. The tequila and the strobe lights already got our judgment impaired. lol
So out your League
January 21st, 2011
10:57 am
I will not let myself become “Thicki Lake”!
- lol, wellllllllllllllllllllllllll.
SlimNumeroUno
January 21st, 2011
10:58 am
‘You need this Brat Bustin’ Baby Be-Gone Repellent that I have’
BMW – I’ll take 2 cases, thanks!
AmazonRed™
January 21st, 2011
10:58 am
Is it safe for me to blog now? I though Slim was pregnant…and I was going to stop blogging and just let child support catch me if they could. LOL
Slim, control your CT!
Raqi V
January 21st, 2011
10:58 am
Exactly because if he was that unhappy with your looks who in the world knows what kind of little ogres his soldiers will be producing. The woman deserves to know. LOL You can alter the cover all you want but that genetic material is what it is. The same goes for women that have physical altering procedures.
While some may feel better about themselves after having a procedure done which in turn can slightly alter the personality but it never changes the chromosomes.
So out your League
January 21st, 2011
10:59 am
does not like fake boobs….i have been with women that had them and when i went to squeeze it was not the same feeling…also have been with women that have had breast reduction..and i love love to slurp on some teet…and i love the reaction…with the breast reduction chick it was no response because she had no feeling….i say “play with the uniform your issued”!
Leggs
January 21st, 2011
11:00 am
What I don’t understand is why have plastic surgery (face lifts) only to go into seclusion because you now look like a freak. The infamous “cat woman” needs to stay in her cage. She’s not afraid to come out at all.
Purple Rain
January 21st, 2011
11:00 am
Black, LOL it is the truth.
Dreams, nothing worse than meeting a woman with a nice shape then she gets undressed and crawls across your bed and her stomach is hanging and the boobs are flopped over to the side. There should be some sort of refund involved or something. LOL
i'm swiss™
January 21st, 2011
11:00 am
Purple / Dreams — Come on, now… the busted chicks have their place, too… They help us appreciate the hotties more…
Blog confession: Uh… actually, some of these “ugly ducklings” can f__k you into Nirvana, as long as you keep the lights off…
Allegedly.
Purple Rain
January 21st, 2011
11:02 am
The cheap boob jobs are rough feeling, the ones that are expensive feel nice
Dan - Simply...Superior
January 21st, 2011
11:03 am
@Kimmie
“having everything else in order” is the key, for some folks the order is off.
@purple
I’m sorry, I just couldn’t really do fake boobs again, it’s unnatural, especially when only a part of the ittie moves and the rest stays still….
Neeehh
Purple Rain
January 21st, 2011
11:04 am
Swiss, she would have to blindfold me,actually I had one that I never took out in public. Eventually had to let it go though because I have standards.
Amazon, have a baby by me baby be a thousandaire
BlackMagicWoman
January 21st, 2011
11:04 am
PURPLE…”There should be some sort of refund involved or something”
That is how we ladies feel when you meet a good looking, tall, nicely built man and you are so attractive to him. You get down to that moment and you are wondering if he lost the other half of his soldier in the war!
…”There should be some sort of refund involved or something”!!!! 
Purple Rain
January 21st, 2011
11:04 am
Dan that little shortened jiggle is sexy or just turn her over. LOL
AmazonRed™
January 21st, 2011
11:06 am
Amazon, have a baby by me baby be a thousandaire
JUST SILLY!!!
SlimNumeroUno
January 21st, 2011
11:06 am
‘You can alter the cover all you want but that genetic material is what it is’
Raqi – Heyal Yeah! That dna runs deep lol
‘There should be some sort of refund involved or something. ‘
Purp – Ok, i’m already not paying attn on this conference call…but now I got coffee in my nose. LOL! I bet yall be looking like a chick who bought a wedding dress months ago, then goes for the final fitting only to be convinced that’s not the dress she bought. Or like being at a restaurant starving having ordered a steak…but when the food comes, it’s a slab of greasy ribs. lol Iaint order dat!
BlackMagicWoman
January 21st, 2011
11:06 am
DREAMS & PURPLE….you mean like this?
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=A_JtkSmw808&ob=av2el
Purple Rain
January 21st, 2011
11:06 am
Black in that scenario she could always just spit it out. See that’s a refund LOL
kimmie
January 21st, 2011
11:07 am
I just don’t know of many women, especially any past 25 or 30, that are that gorgeous that they can go without a stitch of makeup, even just a little lip gloss, no supportive bra, no perm/color/nice haircut/use of a curling wand or some type of hair enhancement, and ill-fitting clothes(something that a push-up bra and other supportive undergarments help with)
I know that is a bit extreme, but that’s what I think about when dudes spout out about wanting someone to be totally natural. The Whoppi look I’m just not into, I’m sorry. These things are there to enhance your natural beauty – and I will take advantage of them!
Diva till the end – but that’s ME!
AmazonRed™
January 21st, 2011
11:07 am
I’m a proud member of the IBTC. While an extra cup would be nice, i’ve never ever considered getting a boob job.
Thank goodness for the ass men out there.
reality
January 21st, 2011
11:09 am
I hate to say this but the whole process of pairing up is largely superficial. There are few relationships that are built on true love.
I also believe that many of the people who think they have true love, in fact, do not. If their significant other was to suffer disfiguring injuries, many would not be able to stick.
And that’s sad.
Leggs
January 21st, 2011
11:09 am
@PR ~ I believe I asked this question once before if fake boobs feel the same as real ones. Thanks for breaking it down even further with the cheap ones vs. expensive ones.
@BMW ~ I remember watching a man undress with much anticipation. Girl, when he finally got his boxers off I wanted to bury my head in the pillow and cry. I think it was the smallest thing I’ve ever seen in my life! I didn’t know what to do with it. I thought oral may help it grow, but only a smidget. I thought I had a tootsie roll pop. The night was a wash.
SlimNumeroUno
January 21st, 2011
11:09 am
BMW – A friend and I was just having that discussion the other day. It seems the men get the better end of the deal even if the chick is a bad lay because it’s still a hole and you can pretty much move the pole around to your liking…However, if the equipment is not up to par then you are just S.O.L
i'm swiss™
January 21st, 2011
11:10 am
“Thank goodness for the ass men out there.”
You’re welcome, ARed. We’ve got your back. Literally.
Purple Rain
January 21st, 2011
11:10 am
Black, yes like that. LOL
Slim, yes after we are surprised with the hidden “flab” we are stuck and just have to “sex” her anyway because we are already there. Then we get blamed for being to quick and then limp in bed by her, she should jut be happy she got some for a brief two minutes Us men have so much to deal with. LOL
AmazonRed™
January 21st, 2011
11:11 am
If their significant other was to suffer disfiguring injuries, many would not be able to stick.
I think that is partly because not just the physical changes the mental does as well. I don’t know many people who encounter such a trauma and then are still the same happy jovial person they once were. That anger and emotional aftermath is probably one of the hardest things anyone on this earth can encounter.
blue©
January 21st, 2011
11:12 am
Morning Peoples,
does it really impress anyone that you are in the gym all the time if you are a raging jerk with anger issues you have yet to address – that just made me laugh, met too many of those lmao
hows everybdoy doing these days?
AmazonRed™
January 21st, 2011
11:13 am
You’re welcome, ARed. We’ve got your back. Literally
I’m about to dismiss all the melanin deficient men in this thread. iCant!
SlimNumeroUno
January 21st, 2011
11:13 am
‘I’m a proud member of the IBTC. While an extra cup would be nice, i’ve never ever considered getting a boob job. Thank goodness for the ass men out there”
Ared – Daaaaaamn, now you gotta sistah contemplating Niki Minaj booty implants because I’m part of the IBTC but I ain’t got no arse either. lol
Purple Rain
January 21st, 2011
11:14 am
Leggs, you are welcome. LOL
Kimmie, I know plenty of women who look awesome and are up in age and do not need to wear any makeup at all.
Amazon, I like all of a woman in many shapes and sizes, but I am a pretty nasty dude so as long as whatever she has is firm I can work with it.
BlackMagicWoman
January 21st, 2011
11:15 am
“Black in that scenario she could always just spit it out. See that’s a refund”
BMW just ……Flatlined__________________________
KIMMIE….”Diva till the end – but that’s ME!”
Girl me too! I keeps it tight!
REALITY….”If their significant other was to suffer disfiguring injuries, many would not be able to stick”
That is what I say about sex. If a relationship is built on sex. What happens is an accident or illness prevents yu r normal sex life? Chances are it woudl be over!
ARED….girl I am president of the L.T & L.A (Lotsa T*ts & Lotsa a$$) committee. And it’s no walk in the park!
I want to be loved my mind…not my behind….my wits and not my t*ts! Damnit…I’m a person! 
i'm swiss™
January 21st, 2011
11:15 am
“Daaaaaamn, now you gotta sistah contemplating Niki Minaj booty implants because I’m part of the IBTC but I ain’t got no arse either.”
Slim — Just kinda tuck your CT under & back… No one will know the difference…
kimmie
January 21st, 2011
11:16 am
….i say “play with the uniform your issued”!
So out – Typical dude thought process. Breast reduction is one of those “health reasons” that are necessary. I’ve had family members & friends that endured years of terrible back pain before they had the surgery. One friend had a total of 11 pounds removed from her breasts alone and she still has plenty. You try carrying around a 5 and a half pound bag of sugar around on your chest and see how comfortable it is.
Dan – I get the misplaced priorties. I just hate it when a label is put on someone and they don’t even know their financial and/or emotional situation.
AmazonRed™
January 21st, 2011
11:16 am
now you gotta sistah contemplating Niki Minaj booty implants because I’m part of the IBTC but I ain’t got no arse either. lol
But don’t worry, my sister was the same way. Then she had her baby and she got both!
*runs*
Well, thank goodness for the leg men too.
AmazonRed™
January 21st, 2011
11:17 am
long as whatever she has is firm I can work with it.
So you like breast implants then? I heard they feel like rocks.
SlimNumeroUno
January 21st, 2011
11:17 am
’she should jut be happy she got some for a brief two minutes Us men have so much to deal with.’
Purp – You are on it today….have you been schmoking yourself this morn?
i'm swiss™
January 21st, 2011
11:18 am
“I want to be loved my mind…not my behind….my wits and not my t*ts! Damnit…I’m a person”
BMW — Just so you know, I really respect they way your booty jiggles when you get all worked up like that…
blue©
January 21st, 2011
11:19 am
lmao, been looking back over the day, yall on a roll already? well it is Friday i guess lol
DreamsMaterialize
January 21st, 2011
11:19 am
but that’s what I think about when dudes spout out about wanting someone to be totally natural. The Whoppi look
kimmie I was thinking more Laura Izibor, Corrine Bailey Rae, Jill Scott, Amel Larrieux, old Lauren Hill kinda natural.
Thank goodness for the ass men out there
ARed my pleasure…literally.
Leggs
January 21st, 2011
11:19 am
@ARed ~ since I was a member of IBTC and no a$$, I too welcomed the leg men.
AmazonRed™
January 21st, 2011
11:20 am
ARed my pleasure…literally
You can get dismissed toooooooo!!!!
You fellas are off the chain today!
kimmie
January 21st, 2011
11:20 am
Purple – Then good for them. I don’t wear alot of it myself, but to look polished and professional, or on special occasions, it’s good to have.
I just don’t know of many that are head-to-toe natural with EVERYTHING and they turn heads.
BlackMagicWoman
January 21st, 2011
11:20 am
LEGSS….”I thought I had a tootsie roll pop.”
oh hell nah!
Dan - Simply...Superior
January 21st, 2011
11:21 am
@Kimmie
Yeah, that comes to light anyway.
And, ladies…
A true lover of the female form may have “preferences”, but loves the forms in manner of presentation. From butts, to breasts, weaves, to the Angela Davis, from chipped nails to Co-co (circa ‘96).
If you like it, we love it.
SlimNumeroUno
January 21st, 2011
11:21 am
‘Just kinda tuck your CT under & back’
swiss – Can you say OUCH!
‘don’t worry, my sister was the same way. Then she had her baby and she got both’
Ared – No thank You!! I think i’ll be happy with what I have for now. If someone starts to complain, i’ll just whip out the CT and hypnotize them. lol