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Bad dating habits you should change this year

I got a stern talking to from my male friends about the bad dating habits that I, and apparently women in Atlanta, should stop immediately. I did not like hearing it. I’m still a little bit salty about the “male intervention” but I promised I would do a dating blog PSA. Perhaps a little tough love could make a difference!

Bad habit #1 Comparing men to your father. Good or bad. Some women adore their fathers and want their men to spoil them like Dad did/does. Then there are women who had awful fathers and believe all men are just like their no-good fathers. Regardless, the men you date should not be unfairly compared or harshly judged by unrealistic expectations. The truth is, all Dads are men/human so they made/make mistakes too.

Bad habit# 2 Judging men by where they are in life. My friends tell me that men feel a huge amount of pressure to be successful. Men won’t go around broadcasting to women that they had setbacks in their past. Who knows what they have already endured to get where they are already? Stop scrutinizing so-called “shortcomings” and focus on character and compatibility.

Bad habit# 3 Let sex get in the way. Women spend too much time stressing on the right/wrong time. Men appreciate a woman who is confident in her choice and respect your decision. Make your choice but don’t play games.

These were the top three bad habits that my friends thinks women should change. What do you think? Would changing these bad habits make a difference for women?

Do you have any bad dating habits that you wish single people would drop?

360 comments Add your comment

Purple Rain

January 18th, 2011
3:54 pm

Or she might have me mopping floors and doing dishes under threat of beating my head in.

Raqi V

January 18th, 2011
3:54 pm

BlackMagic, aint that the truth. LOL

I have said it before I don’t want nothing soft clinging to and rubbing against my nekkid body except my freshly laundered 1200 ct Egyptian cotton sheets and my Hotel Living towels.

Strictly…well you know the rest. LOL

Purple Rain

January 18th, 2011
3:55 pm

Kym, the Falcons are who we thought they were. LOOOOooooooOOOOOSers!!

Leggs

January 18th, 2011
3:56 pm

@PR ~ she might just hesitate a smidget of a second to see if you’ll put up your dukes first. If not, TKO!

kimmie

January 18th, 2011
3:57 pm

Purple – She was defending her mother. She has not had to box a dude, not that I know of anyway. But Google her, she is gorgeous and tough!!

Raqi V

January 18th, 2011
3:58 pm

Yeah little Ali is a nice looking lady.

Raqi V

January 18th, 2011
3:58 pm

Angela Bassett is also a nice looking woman that does not get nearly enough credit.

Purple Rain

January 18th, 2011
3:59 pm

Leggs, it’s her instincts she would just jump in.

Denise

January 18th, 2011
4:00 pm

This hit dog hollers! I do compare men to my father. I was spoiled (I just think I was loved) and my boyfriend always says I’m spoiled. I did have my lip poked out this morning over my birthday so I guess I am a little bit spoiled.

Purple Rain

January 18th, 2011
4:00 pm

kimmie, I met her and her husband in Vegas one time at a funeral. I think they are divorced now

Celisea

January 18th, 2011
4:00 pm

I see women I admire but for accomplishments and overcoming. I see women I think are beautiful but it don’t register with me nor does my mind wonder past that part. Girl crushes lean a bit towards hitting the switch for me.

Leggs

January 18th, 2011
4:00 pm

I’ve always admired Cicely Tyson!

Kym

January 18th, 2011
4:01 pm

@Purple Rain…LMAO!!

Leggs

January 18th, 2011
4:02 pm

@PR ~ don’t know about that…she’s with her man…I think she understands the importance of letting the man be the man! I think her instincts are honed enough to stand behind her man until she sees she needs to come and be front and center with that TKO!

Kym

January 18th, 2011
4:02 pm

@Purple..I thought Lalia just had another bambino..she is divorce!?

Raqi V

January 18th, 2011
4:04 pm

Leggs, I don’t mean to be funny or anything but why Cicely Tyson? I hear folks raving about her but I never knew why. I guess I haven’t read about her to know her accomplishments. I love the movie Sounder but that’s about it. Enlighten me please.

Kym

January 18th, 2011
4:04 pm

Comcast won approval to take over NBC..ugh..now I have even more reason to hate Comcast.

Sweet Pea

January 18th, 2011
4:05 pm

Just returning from a meeting! @ABC…it’s good enough for the guys you hang out with….Hmmmm Never hung out with em just talked on the phone which helps weed out folks…IMO I don’t entertain a low class bunch as there are none in my group!…IJS

Thanks everyone for your input!

kimmie

January 18th, 2011
4:05 pm

Leggs – She is divorced and remarried, preggers with her 2nd child with him, I think, or has already had the child. And she seems to have no trouble attracting men. From what I’ve read about her, she has no problem with her man actually being the man!

Purple Rain

January 18th, 2011
4:06 pm

I am certain that she divorced my friend who died friend. But they were at the funeral together and they were married then. He use to do a little boxing too

Raqi V

January 18th, 2011
4:06 pm

She is married to someone else I think, Purple.

Purple Rain

January 18th, 2011
4:06 pm

His name is Johnny can’t remember his last name, whats the guys name she is married to now?

Raqi V

January 18th, 2011
4:07 pm

Last name Conway.

Purple Rain

January 18th, 2011
4:08 pm

When I met them she was very lady like even girlie I was thinking this woman can take me with one punch if she wanted to. LOL

Raqi V

January 18th, 2011
4:08 pm

I found it. Curtis Conway is who she is married to now.

Raqi V

January 18th, 2011
4:09 pm

He played for the Bears, Chargers, Jets and 49ers.

Purple Rain

January 18th, 2011
4:09 pm

I just googled Johnny last name is McClain, they were married for 5 years

http://boxrec.com/media/index.php/John_McClain

Leggs

January 18th, 2011
4:11 pm

@Raqi V ~ I admire her for her acting abilities. She’s a fine actress. Much like I admire Alfrie Woodard. They don’t get called upon a lot anymore. Same with Angela Bassett. Excellent actors. Cicley Tyson embodies the soul of any character she plays. Whether it’s an embattered slave name Ms. Pittman or a strong mother/grandmother in “Mama Flora’s Family,” she makes brings all her characters to live and you forget it’s Cicely Tyson!

Leggs

January 18th, 2011
4:12 pm

@kimmie ~ I figured as much. It makes perfectly good sense to me.

Raqi V

January 18th, 2011
4:14 pm

I love to watch Alfrie Woodard but not Cicely Tyson so much. Like I said I just never knew of anything notable that stood out about her.
I can’t say what I am actually thinking but, uh, yeah never been a Tyson fan.

BlackMagicWoman

January 18th, 2011
4:18 pm

PURPLE…you know you love me! :lol: I am not evil…I have tendencies that can be brought out if pushed to that limit!

Laila Ali is on my Girl Crush list too!

KYM…I loves me some Nina Simone! I have a remixed version of her song, “Feeling Good”. It’s so hot!

CELISEA…there’s no switch hitting or flipping over here. Just giving a female her props. I laugh when I see guys that have been best friends for a long time, I just love their lil “Bro-mance”! :lol:

PURPLE…Laila divorced her first husband and now she is married with a son. She is married to ex-NFL player Curtis Conway.

Purple Rain

January 18th, 2011
4:18 pm

Raqi V

January 18th, 2011
4:18 pm

I guess I cannot fairly state my opinion on Ms. Tyson after just viewing a list of her movies and appearances. I have only seen three things that she has done. So I will humbly bow away from the subject.

Purple Rain

January 18th, 2011
4:19 pm

Black, a smart man recognizes a woman’s potential. LOL

Purple Rain

January 18th, 2011
4:21 pm

I don’t get the whole guy hug thing. You will get an elbow to the chest if you try and pull me in for a hug

Purple Rain

January 18th, 2011
4:22 pm

There will be no sword fighting with me.

Leggs

January 18th, 2011
4:24 pm

@Raqi V ~ :lol: :lol: You know, the world would be a better place if many would do what you just did and not try and debate that which they know nothing about.

Purple Rain

January 18th, 2011
4:25 pm

Leggs, but then the blog would be boring

Leggs

January 18th, 2011
4:25 pm

@Raqi V ~ And, that wasn’t meant as a slur toward you! Hopefully, you took it as a compliment.

kimmie

January 18th, 2011
4:26 pm

I admire anyone, woman or man, that goes for what they want and what they believe in, even enduring all kinds of criticism and hate.

Raqi V

January 18th, 2011
4:26 pm

There will be no sword fighting with me

Dude, why are the swords even drawn? LOL I mean you are standing there talking to a man. All swords are at ease. Or should be.

There is nothing wrong with two men hugging when they haven’t seen each other in ages. No lingering in each other’s arms but it’s okay to hug.

Leggs

January 18th, 2011
4:27 pm

@PR ~ not talking about here on the blog. In the real world (lol).

Raqi V

January 18th, 2011
4:28 pm

Leggs, I didn’t take it as an insult even if you meant it as one. LOL I am woman enough to bow out humbly when I know I should.

Leggs

January 18th, 2011
4:31 pm

@Raqi V ~ I took it that PR meant the male appendage! I think???

Celisea

January 18th, 2011
4:32 pm

Staceye – CELISEA…there’s no switch hitting or flipping over here.

I feel you lady….all the way and all day long…no can do :)

Leggs

January 18th, 2011
4:32 pm

@Raqi ~ excellent…and that’s exactly what I was thinking…you’re woman enough to bow out….yep, that’s where I was going with it. :lol:

Celisea

January 18th, 2011
4:34 pm

Staceye – CELISEA…there’s no switch hitting or flipping over here.

I feel you girl….alllll day long

Purple Rain

January 18th, 2011
4:34 pm

Raqi, if the sword is “at the ready” or not there shall remain a distance between two of them. Now go over there and hug Celisea so I can see yalls tittaayy’s rub together

Leggs

January 18th, 2011
4:35 pm

Ok, Raqi, I read your entire comment about the swords. You on the same page. This speed reading isn’t working for me!

SexyCool

January 18th, 2011
4:37 pm

Completely random thought – I have had the same microwave since 1994.