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Bad dating habits you should change this year

I got a stern talking to from my male friends about the bad dating habits that I, and apparently women in Atlanta, should stop immediately. I did not like hearing it. I’m still a little bit salty about the “male intervention” but I promised I would do a dating blog PSA. Perhaps a little tough love could make a difference!

Bad habit #1 Comparing men to your father. Good or bad. Some women adore their fathers and want their men to spoil them like Dad did/does. Then there are women who had awful fathers and believe all men are just like their no-good fathers. Regardless, the men you date should not be unfairly compared or harshly judged by unrealistic expectations. The truth is, all Dads are men/human so they made/make mistakes too.

Bad habit# 2 Judging men by where they are in life. My friends tell me that men feel a huge amount of pressure to be successful. Men won’t go around broadcasting to women that they had setbacks in their past. Who knows what they have already endured to get where they are already? Stop scrutinizing so-called “shortcomings” and focus on character and compatibility.

Bad habit# 3 Let sex get in the way. Women spend too much time stressing on the right/wrong time. Men appreciate a woman who is confident in her choice and respect your decision. Make your choice but don’t play games.

These were the top three bad habits that my friends thinks women should change. What do you think? Would changing these bad habits make a difference for women?

Do you have any bad dating habits that you wish single people would drop?

360 comments Add your comment

Purple Rain

January 18th, 2011
3:10 pm

Queen Latifah sexy

Kim Kardashian is not sexy

Raqi V

January 18th, 2011
3:10 pm

Purple, I agree with the other ladies. It is just what it is. I have been told a few habits that I have are sexy however I am seldom aware of when I am doing them so I can’t even capitalize on them even if I wanted to. LOL

Celisea

January 18th, 2011
3:11 pm

and too, if a woman threw out an extreme, stereotypical example, she’d be pegged as bitter.

Purple Rain

January 18th, 2011
3:11 pm

Michelle Obama, her confidence and the way she is a lover of her husband and kids. Very Sexy

Purple Rain

January 18th, 2011
3:12 pm

I make no excuses for being the man that I am, rough, strong headed, tempermental. But my wife calls me sexy and thinks I am sexy so I stick to it. LOL

kimmie

January 18th, 2011
3:14 pm

Purple – If it’s not broken, don’t try to fix it!

Purple Rain

January 18th, 2011
3:17 pm

kimmie, I am sticking to the script. LOL, this winter I have developed a little gut. Being back near mom and not being outdoors as much is killing me and my abs. I hate it but she loves it and trys to pinch and rub it. I have a complex about it especially with her always commenting on it and how she likes it, but it has to go.

Leggs

January 18th, 2011
3:17 pm

“strong headed” I thought it’s “hard headed!”

kimmie

January 18th, 2011
3:17 pm

Purple – It’s also too exhausting trying to be something other than yourself!

That’s why I decided a long time ago – to H with it, I fine just as I am, imperfections and all.

Don’t hate me cause I’m beautiful!! :wink:

Purple Rain

January 18th, 2011
3:17 pm

Leggs, strong headed as in strong willed. I am not hard headed, when she tells me to do something I do it. LOL

Raqi V

January 18th, 2011
3:17 pm

Purple, you think I can convince my husband he is sexy when he mops the kitchen floor?

I told him once that I find it sexy when he loads the dishwasher but that didn’t work. LOL I have to convince him that he is sexy doing it.

Purple Rain

January 18th, 2011
3:18 pm

kimmie, you blog very sexy.

Purple Rain

January 18th, 2011
3:20 pm

Raqi, I don’t know about that. There is nothing sexy about doing dishes or mopping a floor. LOL

BlackMagicWoman

January 18th, 2011
3:20 pm

PURPLE..why….you scurred? :lol:

Oh and Giselle lloks like a chain smoking man-horse in the face. Not to mention she is a$$-less! :lol: I agree on Angelina..she has a body like a 12 year old boy!

Let’s see…my girl crushes… (only women can get away with calling another woman sexy) :lol:

Sophia Vegara
Kerry Washington
Adrianna Lima
Kelly Hu

Just to name a few!

Purple Rain

January 18th, 2011
3:20 pm

It’s only sexy when a woman does it. LOL

Purple Rain

January 18th, 2011
3:22 pm

Black, yes very scared and this is sexy in a lust kind of way

http://www.subliminal7.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/07/Gisele-Bundchen.jpg

Leggs

January 18th, 2011
3:23 pm

@BMW ~ my girl crushes are:

Keri Hilson
Nia Long
Megan Fox
Charliez Teron (sp?)

Just to name a few (LOL).

Raqi V

January 18th, 2011
3:26 pm

Girl crushes? I haven’t thought about it. Let me see…

kimmie

January 18th, 2011
3:26 pm

Thank you Purple Olive! :lol:

Purple Rain

January 18th, 2011
3:26 pm

Not calling anyone here a lesbian but why is it not a lesbo tendancy when a woman has a girl crush? If a guy said something like that, dude is gay

DreamsMaterialize

January 18th, 2011
3:27 pm

Celisea the initial statement was that men are no longer men…not like men of the past. No woman here has experience dating men in that long bygone era (whenever that was), but the statement still gets made all the time. Is that statement not a comparison of SOME men now to men of the past? My example does the same, compares SOME women now to women of the past. Maybe I should have just said “women aren’t what they used to be either” and been done with it.

BlackMagicWoman

January 18th, 2011
3:27 pm

PURPLE…she looks great there. But it’s make up and the profile of her face. But regularly….she looks like a chain smoking man! :lol:

I agree with you on First Lady too!

Purple Rain

January 18th, 2011
3:27 pm

kimmie, you are welcome

BlackMagicWoman

January 18th, 2011
3:28 pm

“why is it not a lesbo tendancy when a woman has a girl crush? If a guy said something like that, dude is gay”

It’s that double standard PURP…..

Purple Rain

January 18th, 2011
3:28 pm

Black, Victoria Secret shows and the other times I have seen her she looks good to me. I would not kick her or the First Lady out of the bed. If i could get both of them in the bed at the same time that would be better.

Leggs

January 18th, 2011
3:29 pm

@PR ~ because we can tell another woman she’s gorgeous without being gay. It’s weird for a man to tell another man, “your handsome.” Only the strong, self-confident woman will do this. I’ll give a woman her props any day, every day!

Purple Rain

January 18th, 2011
3:29 pm

Should a man be worried if his woman comments on girl crushes?

Purple Rain

January 18th, 2011
3:30 pm

Leggs, so how do you know if a woman is giving you a compliment or if she wants to mow your grass?

Purple Rain

January 18th, 2011
3:31 pm

You know some of you ladies really help me understand women more. That’s what I use this blog for. Some of you others…not so much. LOL

DreamsMaterialize

January 18th, 2011
3:32 pm

If a guy said something like that, dude is gay
Gayer than a Freddy Jackson, Luther Vandross duet.

Leggs

January 18th, 2011
3:34 pm

@PR ~ it’s called “intuition.” Believe you me, we will know IMMEDIATELY the difference between a compliment and wanting a munching session!

kimmie

January 18th, 2011
3:37 pm

I would call my girl crushes women whom I admire for their style & guts!

Sade
Michelle Obama(plus we share a birthday!)
Nancy Pelosi
Diana Ross
Judge Judy
Oprah
Audra McDonald
Judith Jamison
Beyonce
Lena Horne
Laila Ali
Ruby Dee

I have probably told you all on here before that I collect biographies on public figures. So a lot of these women I know more than the mainstream stuff about and admire them for these qualities. There are way more but I can’t think of them all right now.

BlackMagicWoman

January 18th, 2011
3:39 pm

“Believe you me, we will know IMMEDIATELY the difference between a compliment and wanting a munching session!”

:lol: Now that’s funny! But it’s true! I am on a Strict D*ck Diet! I don’t don’t digest carpet and I know this without even trying it! :lol:

Leggs

January 18th, 2011
3:39 pm

@kimmie ~ I love, love, love, love, love, love, love, love Ms. Diana Ross. And, I too love reading biographies.

DreamsMaterialize

January 18th, 2011
3:40 pm

Now that’s funny! But it’s true! I am on a Strict D*ck Diet! I don’t don’t digest carpet and I know this without even trying it!
BMW Don’t call it a diet, call it a lifestyle. ;-)

Purple Rain

January 18th, 2011
3:42 pm

kimmie, sounds kind of like a stalker to me. LOL

kimmie

January 18th, 2011
3:44 pm

Leggs – I always thought she was bad, but after I saw that interview I think Diane Sawyer did with her & her kids, I was sold. The way her children spoke about her and how SHE raised them, not a nanny, and how she was never away from them for more than a day, would beat it to get home and be there to fix them breakfast and get them off to school – my respect for her grew 10 times!

Purple Rain

January 18th, 2011
3:45 pm

Let’s talk about what is not sexy in the opposite sex.

A drunk woman is not sexy to me

BlackMagicWoman

January 18th, 2011
3:45 pm

:lol: Ok DREAMS….a Strict D*ck Lifestyle! Although…..I have been lacking! By choice of course! :lol: I am puddy selective!

Leggs

January 18th, 2011
3:45 pm

Purple Rain

January 18th, 2011
3:46 pm

Black, you know I was turned on by you up until you made that #1 joke. LOL

kimmie

January 18th, 2011
3:46 pm

Purple – No more than you stalking Giselle & Mrs O!!LOL!!

I just admire these women and what they accomplished, thru hard work and determination. And they looked good while doing it!LOL!!

Purple Rain

January 18th, 2011
3:47 pm

So me and all of my google resources had to look up what “no hands” meant. No ma’am, I would like it to do it with your hands joining the party too. LOL

Purple Rain

January 18th, 2011
3:47 pm

kimmie, what I keep in my safe is my business!!!

Purple Rain

January 18th, 2011
3:49 pm

Barack better not ever slip up. LOL because Michelle is toned

Purple Rain

January 18th, 2011
3:50 pm

Oprah is not sexy but we can work something out

kimmie

January 18th, 2011
3:52 pm

Laila Ali, other than having an obvious example in her father, got encouraged to go boxing after beating up her step daddy. He was abusing her mother and Laila wiped the floor with him!

Kym

January 18th, 2011
3:53 pm

Okay I am stationary now..I didn’t know women had girl crushes I have women I admire here are a few

Maya Angelou
Diahann Carroll
Lena Horne
Oprah Winfrey
Agatha Christie(hey this is my list )
Nina Simone
Condi Rice(again this is my list)

@PurpleRain..you mean you wanna waste valuable blog space talking about how the Fakecons got the brakes, tires and rims beat off of them by the Packers..sure why not? I need a laugh. LOL!!

Purple Rain

January 18th, 2011
3:54 pm

Laila Ali, is how. I just could not date a woman who stood up for me. I mean if we are walking in the park and someone accosts us. I would feel kind of bad if she put up her dukes and jumped the guy before I did.

Leggs

January 18th, 2011
3:54 pm

WOW, that’s good trivia to me. I love stuff like that.