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Dating: Should you steer clear of dirty talk?

There is something supremely creepy about a guy who talks about sex all. the. time. Listen, I’m no prude, by any stretch of the imagination. I can handle conversations about anything, but a little variety doesn’t hurt anyone. Does a person really have to bring it up every other minute to have an engaging conversation?

Have you ever met someone who constantly talks about raunchy stuff? Why do you think they honed in on that topic all the time?

I actually think that is one of the topics that you can wait to cover/discuss. If you bring up sex on the first date/encounter, you are probably not going to be taken seriously.

What do you think? Should you really jump straight to the hot and steamy talk? Doesn’t it sort of take away the fun in the build up? What do you have left to look forward to?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Blog

Apologies for the unplanned blog break, I lost internet access and couldn’t find a safe path to my nearest coffee shop, but I’m back online now! I hope everyone has weathered the storm safely!

264 comments Add your comment

nicole

January 13th, 2011
7:40 am

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Breezy

January 13th, 2011
8:14 am

This is a GREAT subject – I’m new in the dating game and it’s like every man I come in contact wants to immediately start SEXTING once they get my cell #. So I keep asking myself, is this just how it is in today’s dating community?

Dan - Simply...Superior

January 13th, 2011
8:21 am

Meh.

If you’re a sexually active person, you should express that; on a first date – if the mood is right why not?

I think what WD is referring to (and correct me if I’m wrong) is a sexually aggressive person. From that perspective, if you’re sexual interests, experience level, and drive aren’t compatible then it ain’t gone work anyway.

Leggs

January 13th, 2011
8:41 am

Good morning to all thawed out snow bunnies.

@Dan, even if you’re a sexually active person, I don’t think you should be making sexual innuendos, or even outright talking about your favorite positions, how many partners, etc on the first encounter. It comes across as sleezy. What’s wrong with getting to know a person and talking about other things other than sex on the first date?

Leggs

January 13th, 2011
8:44 am

And, Dan, as time goes by you’ll get a chance to determine the level of your sexual compatibility with the person you’re interested in. If you find you’re sexual compatible on the first date, but have nothing else in common, like carry on a conversation that’s not geared toward sex, what do you do then. Get a hotel room, do your do, get dressed and finish talking about sex? In that case, just go to Craigslist and find a call girl!

czBrat

January 13th, 2011
8:45 am

Hola Dan!

well, i’ve been called a prude more than once, so i accept that i’m reserved when it comes to private talk with the general public. sexually aggressive discussions (as Dan put it), where happening all over the dating sites i frequented a couple years back. today’s topic makes me wonder if those same folks are so eager to show that side of themselves in person.

if you “jump straight to the hot and steamy talk” i’ll either shut you down or let you work yourself into a frenzy just for the fun of it (depending on my mood); but you’ve already lost any chance to actually take me there.

welcome back Diva!

Beautiful

January 13th, 2011
8:46 am

gmorn bloggers!

czBrat

January 13th, 2011
8:58 am

even if you’re a sexually active person, I don’t think you should be making sexual innuendos, or even outright talking about your favorite positions, how many partners, etc on the first encounter.
agreed. and that’s why i get called a prude. smh

made it to kroger yesterday only to have my brownie dreams dashed because they were out of milk and eggs. :cry:

Dan - Simply...Superior

January 13th, 2011
8:59 am

@Leggs

Why it gotta be about Craigslist? #fail

In my post, I stated “if the mood is right” – i.e. if both parties are into it. That you don’t talk like that on a first date is on you, but (obviously) everyone isn’t you. There are women that *bring up* sex on a first date, if nothing else than to get it out of the way.

SlimNumeroUno

January 13th, 2011
9:03 am

Good morning,

I’m finally back to work after a 3-day Snowed-In hiatus….and still didn’t want to get up this morning. (Blaming it on the G-g-g-goooose

Leggs

January 13th, 2011
9:08 am

@Dan ~ I know you stated “if the mood is right”. Damn, where is the mood right on a first date. Unless you hooked up with a call call, the mood is right. But for us average joe blows, not many go on first dates setting the mood for sexual exploits to be put on table. I know, to each their own, just trying to wrap my head around “if the mood is right.”

Ok, perhaps I too am a prude, because to talk about sex, complimenting the body, licking your lips and undressing me with your eyes is not helping me warm up to you or even me wanting to get my body next to yours.

I made it out yesterday only to run into a patch of ice that scared the heeby jeebees out of me. I coasted through it, collected my nerves, made it to the store. I was so happy to get back and put car in the garage. Only to come back and find Blogsville closed!

Leggs

January 13th, 2011
9:16 am

@Dan, reference to Craigslist was just a small joke.

Dan - Simply...Superior

January 13th, 2011
9:18 am

@Leggs

I caught that

SlimNumeroUno

January 13th, 2011
9:19 am

Too much raunchy bedroom talk early on is a Turn Off. I don’t want to sit there feeling like he’s a giant Coo chie vulture flying circles around me waiting for me to roll over and let him have some.

Leggs

January 13th, 2011
9:35 am

@SlimNU ~ basically, that’s exactly what’s going on! It’s an art for a man to not have you think along those lines (LOL).

Frugal Chef

January 13th, 2011
9:42 am

Blackfoote

January 13th, 2011
9:48 am

Hello:

When I was growing up it was taboo to bring up sex conversations around women out of respect as guys we talked about it frequently. Times have changed but it doesn’t mean that you lose respect because of it. If I’m sitting here thinking about having sex with you and we’re talking about what you did during the snow storm I’d give you that option on whether we start talking sex. Men we’ll talk about sex anytime and I believe for women they will to among themselves but it is a turn off for them if it’s not warranted.

SlimNumeroUno

January 13th, 2011
9:49 am

‘It’s an art for a man to not have you think along those lines ‘

Leggs – Exactly, because we all know that eventually sex is something that they want. When you first meet, you’re going off of the physical anyway…unless it’s someone you’ve sort of already known for a while and you guys are just now considering dating or whatever.

SlimNumeroUno

January 13th, 2011
9:56 am

Blackfoote – I just see it as a bit co coky and presumptuous to assume that I have even considered whether or not I wanna give you some goodie goodie. As I’ve gotten older, I have learned that there are more factors, as far as I’m concerned, that aid in whether or not I want to be intimate with someone. I goes far beyond just their physical attributes. If there isn’t any other substance to them outside of what kind of pipe they can lay, then there isn’t much of a desire on my part to want to be physical. Four play begins in my mind.

czBrat

January 13th, 2011
10:07 am

slim, you’ve seen it posted here many times that women supposedly know the moment they meet a guy whether or not they want to sleep with him. the blog gents have said the key is simply to stay out of their own way and NOT muck it up.

but i’m with you; my thoughts lean toward NOT giving it up no matter how impressive he may be. if we’re vibin on date one, then hopefully we’ll vibe even more as dates progress. if not, the sex wasn’t gonna happen anyway.

leggs, the trip wasn’t a total loss; i did restock the wine rack :)

Blackfoote

January 13th, 2011
10:08 am

Leggs:

Absolutely it is an art. One reason men talk about it first is in our mind it’s 50/50 either you will or you wont have sex with us. I have come across some women who do talk in that way but as you stated they are call girls which is business for them.

Slim:

You make a good point because it’s all about your maturity level you’re at. I would be very cautious and on the other hand flattered if a woman made speak easy or sexual advances toward me. I know my level of maturity would prevail while most men would like the ego stroke I’d want to get to know you at the least.

Dan - Simply...Superior

January 13th, 2011
10:19 am

It’s one thing to “want sex” and another to want it from you (the nebulous you).

I’mma a guy, I like sex, I want sex, but where a lot of ladies get throwed is thinking that all guys want sex from them personally. I can have a conversation about sex and not intimate directly or indirectly that I want sex from [you].

I’ve had dates where our personal sexual habits, mores, and restrictions with no mention/use of the word “us”.

I’m merely stating that the conversation is possible without being sexually aggressive to the person.

Shoot, it’s preferable for me; cause if missionary is all you “do”, then I need to be (subtly) gesturing to the chick at the other table at the end of the night.

Blackfoote

January 13th, 2011
10:23 am

Hope everyone enjoyed their unplanned vacation. If this winter hold up like it has we may be in store for more time off. Problem I had I didn’t get any time off shoot I was working 12 and 18 hour shifts cause my (co-workers employees) couldn’t get to work.

SlimNumeroUno

January 13th, 2011
10:41 am

‘I can have a conversation about sex and not intimate directly or indirectly that I want sex from [you].’

That is true but the topic is on more of the lines of a person you’re dating ALWAYS choosing sex as the topic. It’s kind of nice to have a dude know my last name, number of siblings, where i’m from before he knows the In’s and Out’s of my bedroom resume, qualifications and specialties. lol

Dan - Simply...Superior

January 13th, 2011
10:51 am

And I thought it was first date.

Though, if his habit of bringing every conversation to sex is a problem, why would you have more than one or two convo’s?

SlimNumeroUno

January 13th, 2011
11:08 am

Dan – Good point….touche, touche ;-)

Dan - Simply...Superior

January 13th, 2011
11:21 am

@Slim – Touch, touch? Let’s let the ice thaw and we’ll see.

SexyCool

January 13th, 2011
11:27 am

Greetings, people.

I have thoroughly enjoyed Snowcation 2011. We were running low on bread yesterday. So, we walked the two blocks up the street to Kroger. On the way back, we were making snowballs with the snow still packed on top of my truck. I was winning until I tried a sneak attack around the back of the vehicle and fell and busted my ass (and elbow).

When we won’t take time to slow down on our own, nature forces us to do so. I do believe it is a way of maintaining balance.

SlimNumeroUno

January 13th, 2011
11:28 am

Aight den lol

Dan - Simply...Superior

January 13th, 2011
11:31 am

@SC

Agreed.

I didn’t know how tired I was til I started taking naps. And the D don’t nap.

SexyCool

January 13th, 2011
11:35 am

As to the raunchy talk, a person whose filters don’t work properly in that area should clue you in that they probably have issues in other areas as well.

Especially when it’s upfront and you are still getting to know me. You should have at least *assume* that I am a lady and not approach me in that way until you learn me well enough to know whether or not I am receptive to that sort of humor or that kind of approach.

Purple Rain

January 13th, 2011
11:38 am

It takes two people to have a conversation, if if someone keeps talking about it from the initial you have invited or condoned it because it keeps happening. Maybe try not to look like a hooker on the first date or while you are out. LOL

Besides, if people are mature enough any conversations can be had at any time and often. LOL

SlimNumeroUno

January 13th, 2011
11:38 am

SexyCool – Even though I had a mild case of Cabin Fever, I must say I enjoyed being snowed in….with a friend ;-) We actually threw some burgers and hotdogs on the grill yesterday. MMmmm good

AmazonRed™ - Proud ΔΣΘ! Happy 98th!!!

January 13th, 2011
11:41 am

Morning all -

Yup, talking about sex too early will get you dismissed. No one is new to the game.

You can get the physical done with most anyone, so focusing on what lies past that is what you should be seeking. Control yourself.

Leggs

January 13th, 2011
11:41 am

Breakfast was delicious.

Hello Blackfoote! She you’re still working very hard. Good for you! I’m working from home. Had to do 2 spreadsheets. Excel and I are not very good friends, but I’m winning the battle (for now).

@Dan, I agree. If all his convo consists of sex and asking if I got the next c o c k picture he sent, no need to converse any longer. Nip it at the bud and keep stepping….

AmazonRed™ - Proud ΔΣΘ! Happy 98th!!!

January 13th, 2011
11:42 am

Yeah, I did leave the house today. A friend of mine came over and helped clear my iced over driveway. So grateful for that. The roads aren’t that bad once you get out of the neighborhood and onto bigger streets.

AmazonRed™ - Proud ΔΣΘ! Happy 98th!!!

January 13th, 2011
11:46 am

I must say I enjoyed being snowed in….with a friend

:lol: We’ll plan your blog baby shower for August! :lol:

SexyCool

January 13th, 2011
11:46 am

I decided that I was not going out again today because I don’t want to risk crashing or having someone crash into my truck.

Because please believe that an insurance company is only going to pay me for their estimated value of my 11 year old vehicle, not what it’s worth to me. In my case, the value of the loss of use, plus the fact that I don’t have a monthly car payment are priceless.

Purple Rain

January 13th, 2011
11:47 am

You all still snowed in?

Leggs

January 13th, 2011
11:50 am

@SexyC ~ your 11:35 is on point.

czBrat

January 13th, 2011
11:53 am

iced in, reign.

leggs, “unsung” troutman brothers … one word; yikes!

Varinia

January 13th, 2011
11:54 am

Can’t keep myself from chiming in here , I’m a woman and I’m with Dan.. And I’m not a prostitute. Granted, I’m German, so we grow up with a different attitude about sex. I’m all in favor of talking about sex on the first date. That does not mean that I’m going to have sex on the first or 2nd date. But, frankly, if you’re both not on the same page sexually, why waste each other’s time? Sexual compatibility is important in a relationship. If the sex is good it’s 10%, but if the sex is bad it’s 90%.
In fact, I find it quite a turn on to talk about sex, when I know that we won’t jump into bed right away. Knowing that someone’s comfortable enough with their sexuality to openly talk, but respects me enough to accept that we won’t finish the date in bed, is extremely attractive to me.

Angel

January 13th, 2011
11:54 am

I believe if a man talks about sex with you on the first date let that be your last date with him. So many women give up the goodies for absolutely nothing which leads the man to assume that every woman he meets is as desperate as the last woman he was with. Women are even giving men money. I am sorry I am an eighties baby a time when men never asked for money

SexyCool

January 13th, 2011
11:55 am

Or…ARed…there could be a *Sip-n-See* in December. (lol)

DreamsMaterialize

January 13th, 2011
11:56 am

Why do you think they honed in on that topic all the time?
Lots of guys take verbal and bodily cues from the woman when it comes to this. Dudes aren’t usually just jumping out there with the sex convo without anything to go on. Lots of women need to check what they’re putting out there. Sure, some dudes are just gonna go there every time cues or no cues, but I’d say they aren’t the majority.

Leggs

January 13th, 2011
11:58 am

@Varina ~ I definitely understand where you’re coming from, but tables can turn ever so quickly. To have the majority of the conversation centered around sexual discussions, but expect respect at the end that you won’t finish the date in bed, may lead to him calling you out your name. Men don’t take to kindly to all the talk, hype only to find out the person is a dud. Not saying you are, but I can see problems arising.

Purple Rain

January 13th, 2011
11:58 am

Varinia, American’s are oversexed thats why it’s such a huge turnoff to talk about it. You can look at the tv programming as an example. In other countries nudity on television is no big thing but here in America it is. I just think it’s just a maturity thing.

Angel, women want sex just as much as men and some of the want it on the first meeting…does that make her an easy lay…no it just means they are mature enough to deal with the consequnces

Kym

January 13th, 2011
12:00 pm

Good Morning All,

Well I am out among the working..but we are on a short schedule. Sex talk on date one..uhhh not so much..I mean there is a time and a place for everything..and normally the time and the place are not date one..I mean it can happen..two people click and wind up rocking and rolling on date one..but I would think the sex talk wouldn’t start until after the two folks are comfortable and both have an idea that having sex is where this whole thing is going.

Leggs

January 13th, 2011
12:01 pm

:lol: :lol: @ sip and see! Cute.

Purple Rain

January 13th, 2011
12:02 pm

Dreams, I agree with you. It is not just random in your face conversations out of nowhere.

Dan - Simply...Superior

January 13th, 2011
12:03 pm

the downside to having a girl outtastate….

Varinia

January 13th, 2011
12:05 pm

Leggs, I just tell him from the beginning that I have no problem talking about it, but that I need some time to get to know him before I actually sleep with him. I don’t understand why it has to be so black or white, as the comments here show. It seems to be seen as : if she talks about it she’s ready to give it up – if he talks about it he’s a pig.

czBrat

January 13th, 2011
12:07 pm

I’d say they aren’t the majority.
i’m on the older end of the dating spectrum, so thankfully the outright lewd are by no means a majority. but this brings to mind something SC has mentioned before. for the younger daters, do the ladies understand they should be treated like a lady? do the gents realize they ought to take the time to get to know more about her than her sexpertise?

Dan - Simply...Superior

January 13th, 2011
12:08 pm

“Knowing that someone’s comfortable enough with their sexuality to openly talk, but respects me enough to accept that we won’t finish the date in bed, is extremely attractive to me.”

^^Love this

And I’m from SW Atlanta

People take themselves far too seriously.

Varinia

January 13th, 2011
12:08 pm

Talking about sex on the first date is not the same as having sex on the first date.

Dan - Simply...Superior

January 13th, 2011
12:11 pm

@Brat

So, you can’t talk politics if you’re of a different ideology?

Can you discuss finance if she’s a saver and he’s a spender?

Sex is a subject matter, like any other IMO, why not broach it?

Leggs

January 13th, 2011
12:12 pm

I think we’ve veered away from the original meaning of the topic (not that this is unusual). It’s the lewdness and insensitivity that many come with.

@Varina ~ I agree with your 12:08.

SexyCool

January 13th, 2011
12:12 pm

Talking about sex and being raunchy can be two totally different approaches.

Celisea

January 13th, 2011
12:14 pm

There is something supremely creepy about a guy who talks about sex all. the. time.

Ummmm, yeah! I think most dudes have sex on the brains most times….when concious. However I think most men by now should know or have learned there’s more to a “lady” and getting/having/pursuing a relationship aside from sex. I think all knows at some point sex will factor in, that in and of itself should be indicative that we ain’t gotta talk about it all the time. If we ain’t talking so much about it you might be closer to getting it. For a dude to attempt off the rip to talk sex shows a lack of respect and that he’ll push the envelope in getting away with as much as he can as quickly as he can. I mean don’t get me wrong, I’m certain there are those that will test the waters. I just think a dude that’s in it to really relate is classy enough to allow the natural progression of what’s probably a constant thought.

AmazonRed™ - Proud ΔΣΘ! Happy 98th!!!

January 13th, 2011
12:15 pm

Or…ARed…there could be a *Sip-n-See* in December. (lol)

*hollers!!!!!* The royal family!

SexyCool

January 13th, 2011
12:16 pm

“I enjoy experimenting with different sexual positions when I am with my partner.”

“I love smacking it up, flipping it, rubbing it down. Oh no!!!! Doggy style is my sht.”

Two totally different approaches.

Celisea

January 13th, 2011
12:16 pm

I’m talking raunchy….IMO that’s reserved for “my man” and when he’s all the way in like that, we might share a moment of nasty talk…it’s sort of what we do…sometime intimacy and sometime straight to it but ummm, you don’t get a pass in going there when I just met you.

DreamsMaterialize

January 13th, 2011
12:16 pm

which leads the man to assume that every woman he meets is as desperate as the last woman he was with.
Angel so a woman who talks about sex on the first date is desparate? How so?

Grown and mature people can talk about sex and any other topic that arises.

Celisea

January 13th, 2011
12:17 pm

Alright…back to the grind…I ain’t been here I have emails flowing over.

Blackfoote

January 13th, 2011
12:17 pm

I’ve had women tell me up front hey don’t talk dirty to me. So I know from the begining this is a lady who wants to be respected and she will be and admired by me for saying so. I think the way Sexy put is let the woman be receptive to whether she favor that approach or humor. One thing it’s for all to enjoy another is there’s more to life than creating life.

Leggs

January 13th, 2011
12:18 pm

@SexyC ~ that’s exactly what I’m talking about….the raunchiness.

Dan - Simply...Superior

January 13th, 2011
12:18 pm

@Leggs

We haven’t.

If we’re on a first date conversing and during the time we’re talking the topic of sex comes up wholistically; then for me the measure of the woman is whether we can have an adult conversation about sex, in general and in particular.

If you assume that just because the convo goes in that direction that that’s *all* I’m out for, or you clam up, that says more about your presumption than mine.

AmazonRed™ - Proud ΔΣΘ! Happy 98th!!!

January 13th, 2011
12:19 pm

Sexual compatibility is important in a relationship. If the sex is good it’s 10%, but if the sex is bad it’s 90%.

Varinia – Talk is cheap when it comes to sexual compatibility…you’re gonna have to test the merchandise anyway. So there really isn’t a point to talking about it so early.

czBrat

January 13th, 2011
12:26 pm

well i see a few get the difference between sex as a subject matter (whether you’ve known each other a day or a year) and a constant need to drag a convo into the bedroom/boardroom/bathroom/backseat.

Purple Rain

January 13th, 2011
12:26 pm

If you are holding back you are not being your true self. LOL

Varinia

January 13th, 2011
12:26 pm

Amazon – to each their own. If someone came at me with that attitude then we’d both know that we don’t connect and can move on, instead of wasting more time dating.

DreamsMaterialize

January 13th, 2011
12:27 pm

What’s the big deal about sex conversation? My conversations on a first date tend to cover a wide range of topics…religion, politics, current events, sex, dating, whatever. I don’t see why sex has to be in some special taboo category.

Dan - Simply...Superior

January 13th, 2011
12:28 pm

@Blackfoote

She’s still a lady if she can discuss sex in a mature manner.

@All

Being respected as a “lady” should be less about how you talk than what you say. The content of a “lady’s” speech is just as important as the tone in which it is delivered.

Are you more of a lady because you don’t talk about sex or any other serious matter?

Is she more of a lady because she can give me a dissertation on ‘the Game’ premier, as opposed to the President’s speech?

Half the problem is label things without defining them upfront. A woman “lady” is the sum of her parts – the physical and the mental. And if I see that she has the mental enough to hang in a convo about sex, that speaks more to her mental than the physical to me.

Purple Rain

January 13th, 2011
12:29 pm

Dreams, yep. Dating someone only to find out that they speak to bluntly about sex down the road is a waste of time.

Purple Rain

January 13th, 2011
12:29 pm

I’ve seen mean and women joke about sex sometimes overboard. Then when they are around someone they like the just act like its taboo.

AmazonRed™ - Proud ΔΣΘ! Happy 98th!!!

January 13th, 2011
12:32 pm

If someone came at me with that attitude

Virinia – Came at you with what attitude?

Dan - Simply...Superior

January 13th, 2011
12:36 pm

Another thing

If we can’t talk sex outside the bedroom while lucid and calm, what happens when I go to do something that I think you might like and you don’t and vice versa?

*Not to say that you have to give a rundown of do’s and don’ts but still…*

AmazonRed™ - Proud ΔΣΘ! Happy 98th!!!

January 13th, 2011
12:40 pm

Uh…let’s not get it twisted. The “lets talk about sex talk” is important and necessary. But needs to be done when you actually have a chance of getting some, and not because you just exchanged phone numbers.

Varinia

January 13th, 2011
12:41 pm

Amazon – the attitude that to talk about sex before hand is not important, because the proof only lies in the pudding, so let’s just hang out until we’re ready to do it.

To me it shows alot about the maturity of a man that can talk about sex before. I know that I wouldn’t be compatible with someone that’s really conservative and only likes missionary. I’d rather know about that right up front. And if they refuse to talk about it that tells me that they have hangups.

And talk doesn’t have to be dry or clinical. I believe if the boundaries are set by letting him know that I’m not going to sleep with him on the first date, then talking about what we like and don’t like can be a huge turn on. And if we click on other topics as well, then every date will potentially just be more fun. Whereas if each person is scared of bringing up the topic, (she, because she’s afraid that he’ll lose respect for her. He, because he’s afraid of being labeled a pig) then it takes something away from the intimacy that otherwise developes if each is really open with the other.
Just my opinion

Blackfoote

January 13th, 2011
12:42 pm

Dan:

In my eyes yes she would still be a lady if she discussed it even though it’s on my mind all the time but the key would be and we are talking first dates is allow her the flow cause I can talk about anything she wants sex included. But I’m just old school if she takes it there then I’ll go there.

Celisea

January 13th, 2011
12:44 pm

Frankly, I don’t want to sip my first cup of coffee during my first meeting with you and you’re wanting to know if if I want my hair pulled and if I like to cum while hanging off a cliff… That ain’t your business….yet Just saying. There’s a time and place and it ain’t all the time in all places. And certainly not when initially getting introduced or acquainted.

AmazonRed™ - Proud ΔΣΘ! Happy 98th!!!

January 13th, 2011
12:44 pm

the attitude that to talk about sex before hand is not important, because the proof only lies in the pudding, so let’s just hang out until we’re ready to do it.

Well, that’s not the attitude I was referring to in my response, but ok.

But it’s true…you can bring up sex early…even though actually having it is way down the road, or not at all. But doesn’t mean the words will match the actions.

SexyCool

January 13th, 2011
12:45 pm

And again, I say, it’s not about talking about it or not talking about it. It’s in the way you approach me with it and how you determine what approach works with me.

My advice is to err on the side of caution in this instance and assume that I would prefer a more *genteel* approach to this particular subject.

Purple Rain

January 13th, 2011
12:45 pm

So guys, if a woman was brash sexually on the initial meetings would you see that as a deal breaker? If she were just talking I would not be, but if she was reliving her loose days and talking about specific acts with specific guys I would be.

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January 13th, 2011
12:46 pm

I believe if the boundaries are set by letting him know that I’m not going to sleep with him on the first date, then talking about what we like and don’t like can be a huge turn on.

Sounds like mixed messages to me. Especially talking about “turn ons” and then expecting folks NOT to be “turned on.” :?

Raqi V

January 13th, 2011
12:49 pm

Good morning Snowflakes.

Being snowed or rather iced in for 2 days at someone else’s house is so not fun. I love my baby brother and his wife to death but there is no place like home. LOL

SlimNumeroUno

January 13th, 2011
12:50 pm

‘We’ll plan your blog baby shower for August!’

Ared – Don’t put that sort of ‘blessing’ out in the Universe. I’m Not da mama!!

czBrat

January 13th, 2011
12:50 pm

um. yeah, Ared. that one ^ had me a little cross-eyed too.

Blackfoote

January 13th, 2011
12:53 pm

Ared:

12:46
Control it honey you’re opening up the funny pages……LOL

Baba

January 13th, 2011
12:54 pm

Nope, I encourage dirty talk. Actually, when I pick up my date I make sure that Sirius Howard100 is on the radio. I play Howard Stern the whole night. If she can’t handle it then I drop her off on the side of the road. Most of the broads like it so it’s usually not a problem.

Dan - Simply...Superior

January 13th, 2011
12:54 pm

@Cel

It’s not the first cup (see: sexually aggressive), what I’m talking about is the 3rd or 4th after we’ve been setting a while and enjoying one anothers company.

If the topic comes up (no pun intended) and we can continue talking about it, then that’s something pleases me about you.

Varinia

January 13th, 2011
12:58 pm

Amazon – I never said that I don’t expect the guy to not be turned on. I think for 2 people that really want to date each other we both need to be turned by each other. Isn’t that what we’re hoping when we meet someone to date? That we meet someone that we can be really into?

I love sex, but I need to have developed a certain intimacy with the guy to sleep with him. And to me that’s by both being open and honest. I need to have a certain trust, and that doesn’t come with the first date. But I’d love to go home and have all kinds of fantasies about what we could do, if we connect in other areas as well. And I would like him to feel the same. Why pretend that sex is not on our minds?

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January 13th, 2011
1:00 pm

Being snowed or rather iced in for 2 days at someone else’s house is so not fun.

Bless you! I agree. My friend was like “dang, I should have had y’all come over to my place so we could all be together.” I told her love you but HELL NO. It’s been great being in my own space – my TV, bed, DVR, food…etc. We would have been trapped for days in her place, smelling her daughters dirty diapers that are piling up! (dumpter is at the entrance to her complex)

SexyCool

January 13th, 2011
1:02 pm

Purp – if a woman is being sexually brash in her conversation, telling you what she likes and how she likes it, isn’t it a given that she is talking about specific acts with specific people even if she’s not naming those people? She did have to do those things with someone at some point in the past, right?

Blackfoote

January 13th, 2011
1:02 pm

Purp:

You know what Purp to me those type of women don’t last long with me. I’d give her about 3 or 4 trys and she’s done and it’s on to next the one. But I do understand a man have to go through so many women like that to find that one.

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January 13th, 2011
1:04 pm

Why pretend that sex is not on our minds?

Why put it in your minds, bring it to the forefront, and then tell him to wait?

Celisea

January 13th, 2011
1:04 pm

Dan – I guess I should maybe understand are we “targeting” the topic of sex….over our 3rd or 4th cup of coffee? At some point, IMO it would only be natural to talk about it but it would seem to me to talk about it when we’ve arrived at that point. Hey I guess to though some folks arrive on day one. Seems to me it all depends on you and your (being her or you) flavor and appetite. For me, Imma give the side eye to a dude tryna talk sex when it’s not (IMO) the appropriate time. I guess when I’m feeling some kind of way about you and vice versa then it would naturally come up (no pun intended). I guess I’m a bit old school and I can’t feel some kind of way on day one. I mean I might dig you and want to pursue further but not feeling it enough to talk sex…that’s just me though

Celisea

January 13th, 2011
1:06 pm

I mean I’m sure we all agree that there’s some sort of spark, interest or chemistry that we’ve even talking. Wouldn’t it suffice it to say let’s allow that to bloom and come out? Why we gotta lay it on the table day one? Just asking…but not really asking.

Celisea

January 13th, 2011
1:06 pm

we’re not we’ve….

Purple Rain

January 13th, 2011
1:10 pm

Anything sexual has been done with another person. I am you arent the first person he made climb the walls, and you are not the first person whose toes she made curl up. LOL

Varinia

January 13th, 2011
1:15 pm

Well, maybe I’m just weird, but I a slow build-up. And I want to know that I’m not wasting my time with someone that is on a different page sexually. And I don’t mean that we have to talk about every little thing that we like to do, but I want to know if he’s adventurous and is willing to try things or if he’s kind of in one mode. I personally don’t relate that well to guys that are super serious and think of sex as a performance. I think sex is fun and enjoyment and 2 people exploring each other. It’s a journey and not just about the destination. If you fall off the bed you laugh and go on to the kitchen cabinets, and not one person getting miffed because the position wasn’t perfect. Sex is playing with each other. And talking about sex is also playing with each other. If I have to avoid things, because they might turn him on, then that takes the fun away for me.

Beautiful

January 13th, 2011
1:16 pm

lol @ We’ll plan your blog baby shower for August!

Varinia

January 13th, 2011
1:16 pm

I meant ‘I like a slow build up’

Dan - Simply...Superior

January 13th, 2011
1:16 pm

@Cel

If I’m having a conversation with you, I want to get to know you. Even the limiting of a sexual conversation tells me something about you. For me, what you see is what you get at all times.

So the idea that there’s some special time, place, or situation that would warrant or restrict conversation is silly to me.

Leggs

January 13th, 2011
1:19 pm

@baba ~ if Howard Stern is on your radio and your date isn’t feeling it, I see no need for you to drop off at the curb. Come on, you’re sounding very shallow. Why can’t you just take her back home if you’re not feeling her. Why act like a caveman and shoo her out the car? And, the fact that you label them as “broads,” says a lot….carry on!

Leggs

January 13th, 2011
1:23 pm

Please replace “I see no need” with “why is there a need to drop her off at the curb?” (lol)

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January 13th, 2011
1:27 pm

Well, maybe I’m just weird,

Yeah…guess so…

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January 13th, 2011
1:27 pm

@Var

You and me are right chere together.

Dan - Simply...Superior

January 13th, 2011
1:29 pm

And you’re not weird.

Celisea

January 13th, 2011
1:29 pm

Dan – It’s not so much as limiting the sexual conversation. “What you see is what you get” is how I roll. However, because I’m not giving it all to you in one gulp shouldn’t mean I’m faking or pretending or limiting myself. No matter how much you would tell me about yourself and in truth (or vice versa) there’s no way I’m going to know all of that (nor you…about me) until and unless I experience it over time and during interaction. So just because we don’t cover everything all in one night shouldn’t indicate I’m not on the up and up nor limiting.

Purple Rain

January 13th, 2011
1:30 pm

You have to do what works for you…or continue doing what has not been working for you.

blue®

January 13th, 2011
1:32 pm

Hola Peoples,

you guys still on topic?

Celisea

January 13th, 2011
1:33 pm

And really Dan, when there’s chemistry there’s so much ground you can cover before approaching sex. It’s like the conversation can effortlessly go on and on. I feel more boxed and tight if we covering a checklist rather than let the conversation open up and flow. So if I get the side eye from a dude cause we haven’t approached sex, I’m giving him the side eye for giving it to me. And trust I’m fully aware it’s on your mind but as I said with chemistry and a nice flow you’ll know how to spot an opening. Don’t force it or say something is wrong because it didn’t come up or happen. But I think the topic is talking about someone getting fresh…too much…day one.

Raqi V

January 13th, 2011
1:33 pm

LOL AmazonR. Monday was fine. Walking out in the snow, watching the few kids that live in the S/D out playing, watching movies and drinking out cocoa with the fireplace burning, eating some rather good soup that I managed to throw together with the ingredients they had at the house and staying tuned to the countless news/weather updates…all of that was good. But by Tuesday afternoon I was ready to come home.

There is nothing fun about having to borrow someone else’s underwear. LOL The hub and boy got lucky because my brother had a pack of boxers that the wife had gotten him for their honeymoon and he hadn’t opened them yet. I on the other hand was not so lucky.

One of the men in the neighborhood had a 4 wheel drive truck so the hub and baby bro hopped in with him and went to the closest store they could find open on Tuesday. It took them over 3 hours to go and come back but he did bring me back a pack Hanes.

My brother found a pizza place that was delivering pizza on Tuesday but we paid $40 apiece for a large pizza. Thankfully the pizza was good. Cold but good. LOL

We had a long drive home yesterday early afternoon. It was under 2 hours but twice the time it would have normally taken us.

When we got here our yard and driveway were untouched so it was impossible to pull into the driveway. The hub and boy had to break up the ice and make a path thru the grass so Lizzy and I could safely get to the front door.

I am glad to be home.

BlackMagicWoman

January 13th, 2011
1:33 pm

Afternoon all…. I have been out sick for 2 days and I get back to a mountain of work.

If a guy brings up sex on our first date…there will NOT be a second! To me that is all you after! You should get to know if I am crazy, have bodies in my basement, D&D free, my likes, my dislikes, etc. before asking my favorite position. Hence the reason for dudes having “crazy baby mamas”. Oh you don’t know thay beyotch was nuts. You probably were blinded by the T&A and could not see the neon sign flashing “Crazy B*tch”. It’s also the reason why some chicks are baby mama number 3 because they did not take the time to learn about this man’s history and his moral compass or lack thereof. I know its a new millenium. But there is nothing wrong with taking things slow. Sometimes it help to avoid a lot of drama and heartache in the longrun.

ARED…a “sip-n-see”…for who??? :lol:

Off topic: check this shhhhh out! My fellow Sags: ARED & LEGGS we have been bamboozled. We are not Sags anymore….we are some new sign: Ophiuchus! WTF is that? What is our birthstone? Oy Vey! Let’s see who else has lost their sign.

Capricorn: Jan. 20 – Feb. 16
Aquarius: Feb. 16 – March 11
Pisces: March 11- April 18
Aries: April 18- May 13
Taurus: May 13- June 21
Gemini: June 21- July 20
Cancer: July 20- Aug. 10
Leo: Aug. 10- Sept. 16
Virgo: Sept. 16- Oct. 30
Libra: Oct. 30- Nov. 23
Scorpio: Nov. 23- Nov. 29
Ophiuchus: Nov. 29- Dec. 17
Sagittarius: Dec. 17- Jan. 20

http://backseatcuddler.com/2011/01/13/whats-your-sign-your-zodiac-sign-probably-isnt-what-you-think-anymore/

DreamsMaterialize

January 13th, 2011
1:35 pm

Still not understanding the big deal about sex conversation. So, do guys have to avoid all potentially contentious topics like religion, politics, race? I guess you just have to keep it superficial on the first date huh? Can’t think of a more bland date.

Varinia

January 13th, 2011
1:35 pm

Amazon – I take that as a compliment ;-) . As they say ‘well behaved women rarely make history’

Dan – thank you

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January 13th, 2011
1:39 pm

Uh…you brought up being weird, not me. So again, what are you talking about. I just want a logical explaination to your thought process. Still waiting.

Don’t you just love going to a nice restaurant …. and they show you the selection of meats and you spot this nice juicy filet. So you order the filet, only for them to tell you they are out of filet, or you can’t have a filet?

And for some of you, don’t you just love going to the rib shack, all set for your favorite slab of ribs, you get to the counter, order the ribs, for them to tell you “we ain’t got no ribs.”

Talking about sex is not the same as talking about the weather. Emotions, expecations and even chemical reactions result as part of the conversation. Is it always fair? No. Is that life? Yes.

So talking about it with someone you don’t know, are aren’t prepared to go there with is not mature or responsible. It can be quite the opposite.

Don’t try to pass off like you’re more evolved because you’ve prefected the art of the tease.

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January 13th, 2011
1:40 pm

blue®

January 13th, 2011
1:40 pm

not sure where were at, havent read back, but dudes that are constantly twisting everything to talk about sex are the ones that quickly turn me off from holding anymore conversations…gotta be able to hold an intelligent conversation

Celisea

January 13th, 2011
1:40 pm

I’m so not wanting the soup and baked potato I brought for lunch….ugh

Raqi V

January 13th, 2011
1:41 pm

BlackMagic, I am not a zodiac follower but that info is quite interesting.

So now I am Pisces and no longer Aries.

So what happens to all of the older horoscopes that have been printed that matched the person so well? LOL Are they now null and void?

Leggs

January 13th, 2011
1:41 pm

@BMW ~ that cracked me up. Please find out what our birthstone is?

@Raqi ~ I was stranded at a co-workers house for 3 days with the blizzard of 83 (?). Never want to be stranded anywhere again but home. Glad you got home safely. But, dang, $40 for a large pizza.

Celisea

January 13th, 2011
1:43 pm

Hey blue – Exactly. You get it chica. And nope, nothing is wrong with you cause you see something wrong with a dude spinning the convo for sex. Yep, I think that that’s all on the brain if we go there. If we by right don’t do everything on our backs, let’s talk about some of the things we do while standing….that’s a conversation piece for you. I eat, drink, walk, work, live, breathe, clean, buy, sell…all while standing. Many many things to cover other than sex.

Leggs

January 13th, 2011
1:44 pm

@blue ~ that’s the word I couldn’t think of. Not so much talking about sex during a date, but “twisting” plain talk to have a sexual relevance is a big turn off…you know, much like how our resident olem can do.

Raqi V

January 13th, 2011
1:45 pm

I guess I need to at least attempt to make a comment on the topic since I am posting here.

Sex talk on the first? I don’t think that’s cool at all. Just one of the many ways some men talk themselves out of getting the sex down the line by being too offensive at the first meeting.

There is a much better way to compliment a woman on her legs besides asking her what time do they open.

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January 13th, 2011
1:45 pm

Raqi – The question is…why weren’t y’all better prepared? No undies, cold pizza? This storm was forcasted three days before it hit?

czBrat

January 13th, 2011
1:46 pm

he!! no i absolutely will NOT become a libra!! and what’s up with signs now starting/ending on the same date? does this mean you have to know what time of day the sign switches over? shenanigans!! lol

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January 13th, 2011
1:47 pm

There is a much better way to compliment a woman on her legs besides asking her what time do they open.

:lol:

I bet some guy is stealing this line right now. :lol:

Raqi V

January 13th, 2011
1:48 pm

Yeah Leggs, $40. My brother said a large from that place usually goes for $15 but that guy was making it worth his while being the only place delivering in those conditions of Tuesday. Had that pizza not been good we would have been really upset. We bought three.

Varinia

January 13th, 2011
1:49 pm

Amazon – why is getting turned such a bad thing? Do you always have to have everything right on the spot? You watch tv and see a commercial for pizza and you immediately order a pizza? When you were little, did you never enjoy the anticipation of Christmas morning? Sometimes waiting makes the rend result more fun.

And it looks like I barged into a conversation of a group of friends – sorry – I just moved back to Atlanta and ended up on this page. So, I’ll bow out now…..

Purple Rain

January 13th, 2011
1:50 pm

Yall are giving me a good laugh today.

blue®

January 13th, 2011
1:53 pm

@Celisea – yes indeed many things to cover besides sex….i like for it not to be so obvious that he has a one track mind
@Leggs – you know, i was thinking the same thing regarding that resident being a prime example! after awhile talking to them just becomes exhausting

Celisea

January 13th, 2011
1:55 pm

blue – :)

Yaaah, I’m still a SAG!

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January 13th, 2011
1:55 pm

Varinia – Who said it was a bad thing? We’re having a discussion here, and if you aren’t able to handle discussion, good tidings to you.

Seriously, in these discussions, we’re able to further dissect the thought process of people who handle situations differently than we would. I can’t ever speak to “the slow build up” on first date, because I find it irresponsible. For someone like you who can…you can give me more insight.

But no, this blog is not for the sensitive.

Purple Rain

January 13th, 2011
1:56 pm

Varinia, don’t bow out. I like what you are saying

Raqi V

January 13th, 2011
1:57 pm

AmazonR, because we live in Georgia. Snow has been forecasted here so many times over the years and we barely got a dusting of flakes. Like Christmas. LOL

We had dinner with them Sunday night and were sitting around talking and whatnot. When we were getting ready to leave my son went outside and came to tell us it had snowed a lot. This was a little past 9:30. They vertical blinds at the patio door in the den and because it’s cold the blinds were closed.

We just didn’t think it was going to get this bad. You best believe if there is ever snow in the forecast again imma make sure I am at home before the first flake hits the ground. LOL

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January 13th, 2011
1:57 pm

Sometimes waiting makes the rend result more fun.

Yes..that’s the point. So why not wait for the convo too? Again, we’re talking about sex, not tinker toys.

Purple Rain

January 13th, 2011
1:58 pm

Why can’t we talk about sex AND tinker toys?

Purple Rain

January 13th, 2011
2:01 pm

And for what it’s worth there have been some raunchy even by my standards sex convos on this blog from the ladies. LOL

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January 13th, 2011
2:02 pm

Why can’t we talk about sex AND tinker toys?

:lol:

IMO, it’s just a dangerous road to tread. There are a lot folks catching cases and being assulted because of the mixed messages people send out. A lot of women think it’s cute to tease, and a lot of men get such messages wrong. I think it’s more responsible to handle topics like these with someone you actually KNOW. And if you know you don’t know someone well enough to give em sex on the first date…why are you talking about it?

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January 13th, 2011
2:03 pm

And for what it’s worth there have been some raunchy even by my standards sex convos on this blog from the ladies. LOL

Heck, we probably know you better than anyone we met last night at the club. :lol:

And also, it’s not dangling in your face on here. At least not until this blog adds a Skype component. :lol:

Purple Rain

January 13th, 2011
2:03 pm

If we go on a date we are having sex….I hope its consensual…..j/k

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January 13th, 2011
2:05 pm

If we go on a date we are having sex….I hope its consensual…..j/k

^ Caught a case. :lol:

Purple Rain

January 13th, 2011
2:05 pm

ZIP! Amazon do you see my virtual wang? LOL

And since you probably know me better than someone you met lastnight in the club, that means we are comfortable with each other hint hint. LOL

blue®

January 13th, 2011
2:05 pm

@PR – sex and tinker toys, lmao

Purple Rain

January 13th, 2011
2:06 pm

Gasoline and Matches, no DNA or body no case. LOL

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January 13th, 2011
2:08 pm

And since you probably know me better than someone you met lastnight in the club, that means we are comfortable with each other hint hint. LOL

*zips PR’s zipper on his wang*

smooches! LOL

Purple Rain

January 13th, 2011
2:08 pm

I will also say this Atlanta has some aggressive women I encountered living there, from the C level executive to the nightclub bar hopper. Guys definitely have to learn how to say “no”. LOL

Purple Rain

January 13th, 2011
2:10 pm

Amazon, I am just happy you touched my zipper. Now we are working towards something, next week I will just be wearing something with an elastic waist and no zipper…then you can put it up again. LOL

Purple Rain

January 13th, 2011
2:10 pm

Varinia are you “I AM”?

Varinia

January 13th, 2011
2:11 pm

Amazon – if you feel that talking about sex is irresponsible, then I think that says more about your self-control or lack thereof, than it says about me. Do you equate being horny to having a loaded weapon? Isn’t that like saying ‘the girl having gotten raped is at fault, because she wore a short
skirt.’

And, yes, you have several times alluded to your belief that you think getting turned on is bad, if you can’t have sex. Just go home and masturbate – I think that’s what most men do when they get turned on, instead of blaming the wom

Purple Rain

January 13th, 2011
2:14 pm

Varinia, when I’m horny I do have a loaded weapon. LOL

But the girl being raped because she has a short skirt on, I do think a persons dress does invite some unwarranted attention at times. Is it right no, but does it happen yes. You can expect everyone to be on their best behavior because you decided to wear an article of clothing to the wrong place.

Willie Dynamite

January 13th, 2011
2:19 pm

Wow, did we just jump the shark with this discussion?

Varinia

January 13th, 2011
2:19 pm

Amazon, you mentioned several times that getting turned on is bad, if you can’t have sex right away. I think that says more about you than about me. Do you equate getting horny with having a loaded gun? Isn’t that kind of like saying that it was the rape victim’s fault, because she wore a short skirt?

Frankly, I’ve lived my life pretty good thus far and all of my exes liked the way I dealt with sex, compared to other women they’ve been with. Obviously, we only click with whoever feels similar to how we are. So, there are many women that would connect with your way of thinking and there are many men that like that I’m not hiding behind an image.

Just accept it

As to my bowing out – it was not because I can’t stand my own – but because you obviously all know each other and I feel like I butted into some conversation. This just happened to have been linked from sfgate and I ended up here.

Varinia

January 13th, 2011
2:20 pm

Gee, and here I thought my comment was gone and I had to start all over ;-)

Varinia

January 13th, 2011
2:22 pm

Purple – I AM? This is my first time here, I just moved back to Atlanta last week, so I don’t know who that is.

Purple Rain

January 13th, 2011
2:22 pm

Some of us are still new we just get along.

Willis, the shark has been jumped. LOL

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January 13th, 2011
2:24 pm

Varinia – No I never stated that getting turned on is bad. Please point me to where I did. I’ll wait.

I’m speaking to responsibility. No, I don’t “blame” the woman, but I also think people shouldn’t put themselves in situations where ultimately they’ll get hurt, especially since you didn’t know the person to begin with. It may be HIS fault, but you’d still have to deal with being assaulted.

Lastly, stop your “announcing” either you’re leaving or you’re not. No one told you you weren’t welcome and you can ignore any comment you don’t want to discuss FYI.

Willie Dynamite

January 13th, 2011
2:25 pm

Purp – Who you got this weekend in the NFL? I got Steelers and Pats, GB and Chicago.

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January 13th, 2011
2:25 pm

But the girl being raped because she has a short skirt on, I do think a persons dress does invite some unwarranted attention at times. Is it right no, but does it happen yes. You can expect everyone to be on their best behavior because you decided to wear an article of clothing to the wrong place.

:idea: It may still be 100% his fault, but doesn’t matter much when you end up being the one hurt.

Raqi V

January 13th, 2011
2:25 pm

You almost had folks convinced. LOL

Purple Rain

January 13th, 2011
2:26 pm

Varinia, okay I will take you under my wing and show you the rope….I mean ropes. :) SOme people have been here for years and others for months. never take anything personal and we welcome you to the blog. Leggs will send you a new member package. Amazon is very passionate here on the blog and in the bedroom so don’t mind her, she is a great person.

Varinia

January 13th, 2011
2:26 pm

sorry, meant linked from AJC.com

Purple Rain

January 13th, 2011
2:28 pm

Willie, I am with you on your picks except I have the Falcons over GB and I do not even like the Falcant’s I think they have made some sort of deal with the Devil to make it to the SB. I see The Pats vs the Birds. LOL

Purple Rain

January 13th, 2011
2:29 pm

Amazon, yeah it’s sad that women to take actions to not make themselves the victim.

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January 13th, 2011
2:29 pm

Amazon is very passionate here on the blog and in the bedroom

:lol: Go away! :lol:

Purple Rain

January 13th, 2011
2:31 pm

Amazon, sorry I let that slip. LOL

blue®

January 13th, 2011
2:32 pm

@PR – are you becoming the welcoming committee now? lmao

1000 Ways To Die – idiot put a lavalamp in teh microwave and watched it spin….this show is hilarious!!! got me believing in the process of natural selection….

BlackMagicWoman

January 13th, 2011
2:33 pm

LEGGS…I am flabergasted! I am still a Sag damnit! :lol: “Ophiuchus – is the serpent bearer” Now I do dance/perform with a snake from time to time…but to take away my Archer is no bueno! :evil:

I understand if a guy thinks a lady is very attractive and his normal hetero-male instincts begin to flow. But a real man are supposed to be able to control these things. You can think it…but you don’t have to say everything. You can tell me that you think I am attractive without talking about my booty or my boobs..heck my body period.

Purple Rain

January 13th, 2011
2:33 pm

Are you all ready for some jokes? I haven’t done any in a long time

Purple Rain

January 13th, 2011
2:34 pm

blue, no I just know that if I meet her we can talk about sex on the first date. LOL

Purple Rain

January 13th, 2011
2:35 pm

Q. What’s the definition of ‘Macho’?

A. Jogging home from your vasectomy.

Purple Rain

January 13th, 2011
2:36 pm

Q.What is the difference between ‘ooooooh’and ‘aaaaaaah’?

A. About three inches

Purple Rain

January 13th, 2011
2:36 pm

Q. Why do women rub their eyes when they get up in the morning?
A . They don’t have balls to scratch

Willie Dynamite

January 13th, 2011
2:37 pm

Purp – I actually want the Birds to win but I just dont think they will.

Blue – they should put about 950 of those into one category – Being a complete Dumb-azz.

BMW – Still a sag as well. Also, I think you have beautiful eyes and you personaluty is so charming. Nawwww that didnt do anything for me. Now tell me how did you get all that in them Jeans?

Purple Rain

January 13th, 2011
2:37 pm

Q: What’s the difference between a Girlfriend and a Wife?

A: 45 pounds.

Purple Rain

January 13th, 2011
2:37 pm

Q. How do you find a Blind Man in a nudist colony?

A. It’s not hard.

Purple Rain

January 13th, 2011
2:38 pm

Q: What’s the difference between purple and pink?

A. The grip.

Blackfoote

January 13th, 2011
2:39 pm

Willie D:

After we beat the NFL darlings (Packers) I guess we’ll have to hear how great the Bears are next week. Bring ‘em on down from Chi Town we’ll be waiting. Hold it they have to beat the SeaChickens first.

Purple Rain

January 13th, 2011
2:39 pm

Q What’s the height of conceit?

A. Having an orgasm and calling out your own name.

Purple Rain

January 13th, 2011
2:39 pm

Q. What’s a mixed feeling?

A. When you see your Mother-In-Law backing off a cliff in your new car

Purple Rain

January 13th, 2011
2:40 pm

Q. What is the difference between a Drug Dealer and a Hooker?

A. A Hooker can wash her crack and sell it again.

Celisea

January 13th, 2011
2:40 pm

Alright PR, I laughed…this was funny

Q. What’s a mixed feeling?

A. When you see your Mother-In-Law backing off a cliff in your new car

blue®

January 13th, 2011
2:42 pm

@Willie D – yeam im with you. most of em are idiots, but ooh so funny

Purple Rain

January 13th, 2011
2:42 pm

Celisea, I feel I have done well even if only one person laughed.

Blackfoote

January 13th, 2011
2:42 pm

Ok Purp that 2:37 is the one……..LOL

Raqi V

January 13th, 2011
2:44 pm

Purple, here’s one for you.

He who laughs last thinks the slowest.

Celisea

January 13th, 2011
2:45 pm

There you have it PR…me and Blackfoote laughed…

Celisea

January 13th, 2011
2:46 pm

PR – You wouldn’t be typing from a book of jokes would you? I heard the drug dealer/hooker joke before

Purple Rain

January 13th, 2011
2:46 pm

Raqi, LOL

Blackfoot and Celisea, Thank You! LOL

Purple Rain

January 13th, 2011
2:49 pm

Celisea, no I am copying and pasting the ones I think are funny. No reading from a book though. LOL

Varinia

January 13th, 2011
2:53 pm

Purple – thank you. For some reason I thought Amazon was a guy – oh, well….

AmazonRed™ - Proud ΔΣΘ! Happy 98th!!!

January 13th, 2011
2:55 pm

*still waiting….*

BlackMagicWoman

January 13th, 2011
2:56 pm

PURPLE… you are one sick man! :lol:

Willie…I am gonna get you man! :lol: Leave my jeans out of this! You know I have trouble finding jeans! Sniff sniff!

Blackfoote

January 13th, 2011
2:56 pm

BMW:

Hi Lady you’re a Sag too should have known cause you put it out there like Ared and Leggs. We are known to be outspoken folks but people are drawn toward us because of our kindness. I shoot my arrow to you.

Purple Rain

January 13th, 2011
2:59 pm

Varinia no she is a split tail

Purple Rain

January 13th, 2011
2:59 pm

Willie Dynamite

January 13th, 2011
3:03 pm

BMW – I am here for you, anytime you want to discuss the reasons why you are having such a hard time finding jeans just let me know. I’m here for you. hahaha

Blackfoote

January 13th, 2011
3:11 pm

BMW:

That didn’t come out right. (I shoot my arrow to you) sounds like something Purp or Swiss would say…….LOL

Blackfoote

January 13th, 2011
3:18 pm

And him too……..Whoa you can’t say his name ya’ll know who I’m talking about…….LOL

Blackfoote

January 13th, 2011
3:20 pm

Can’t even type his name Damn WTH………LOL

DreamsMaterialize

January 13th, 2011
3:23 pm

Are they now null and void?
Raqi There were always null and void…just like the new ones! lol

Ok, so now conversations about sex on the first date lead to assault?

I am still a Sag damnit! “Ophiuchus – is the serpent bearer” Now I do dance/perform with a snake from time to time…
BMW serpents are associated with wisdom, so you’re still in good company if you decide to roll with the switch. Now what’s this about the snake dance? ;-)

I am here for you, anytime you want to discuss the reasons why you are having such a hard time finding jeans just let me know.
Willie D Be careful man. You know you’re headed down that dark rocky road to Assaultsville.

DreamsMaterialize

January 13th, 2011
3:28 pm

That didn’t come out right. (I shoot my arrow to you)
Blackfoote Your ACS (Assault Credit Score) just went up.

Willie Dynamite

January 13th, 2011
3:33 pm

DreamsMat – Thanks for the heads up. Please tell me my ACS is still in good standing. Wouldn’t want this new Cliff Huxtable mentality I’m working on to be compromised.

Leggs

January 13th, 2011
3:35 pm

I actually have been doing some work.

@Varina ~ it’s not that you found a blog filled with friends. We’ve been blogging with each other for many, many years and we simply know each other’s style. True, this blog isn’t for the thin-skinned, which it doesn’t appear you are, so stay and add your valued point of view. Each and every one of us will have a bad day from time to time here. Stay awhile. There are lots of jokes, tears, clutching of your pearls, side eye looks and sometimes you’ll even hear crickets…one big dysfunctional family. We are always able to adopt newbies! There are frenemies to galore here, but we all co-exist. P.S., when we blog “bootleg” style, we have lots of fun!

@Raqi ~ I’m so glad you guys enjoyed the pizza. All prices have been raised, why not pizza (LOL)

@BMW ~ Sag for life!!!!! If my new birthstone is a diamond, I may consider adoption!

@Blackfoote ~ nope, can’t say his name, but we all know who he is…He’ll be Back!

Blackfoote

January 13th, 2011
3:45 pm

Dreams…….LOL

Leggs:

Isn’t our birthstone Turqouise I don’t think I spelled it right but hell it could our color as far as I know.

Celisea

January 13th, 2011
3:47 pm

Of course I left my laptop here Friday so I’m the only one on the floor and why did I do that. I have pinged, emailed, called, done favors….cause I’m the one person present…everybody else is at home working online…I tell ya. I might not come tomorrow cause I’ve been the go get it, come hither, take this yond, scan this over to me….girl all day. I’m down though to 16 emails from 160.00….dang I’m good

Celisea

January 13th, 2011
3:50 pm

Ummm, it’s time to go…that should have been 160 not 160.00

BlackMagicWoman

January 13th, 2011
3:51 pm

BLACKFOOTE…I got you chica! I know SWISS & PURPLE & he who shall remain nameless was about to have a field day with that one! Yes I am still a Sag. Although I always said that I had Scorpio tendencies! :lol:

WILLE….Yeah, ok! :lol: You get a time out!

DREAMS…you know I have been known to shimmy with a serpent a few times. ;-)

LEGGS…too late, Diamond belongs to April I think. Now if we are the Canary yellow diamond…I may have to switch! :lol:

Leggs

January 13th, 2011
3:52 pm

@Celisea ~ you have dollars on your mind.

@Blackfoote ~ yes, that’s our birthstone. And, I believe you spelled it right.

@Varina, you still here???

Leggs

January 13th, 2011
3:56 pm

Oops, Blackfoote, just realized you put the “o” after the “q”. So, my dear friend, you did spell it wrong (lol).

BlackMagicWoman

January 13th, 2011
3:56 pm

For my Sags/OPHIUCHUS…here is our description: (I find a 97% of it to be true for me)

LIST OF KEY WORDS DESCRIBING THE SIGN OF OPHIUCHUS

interpreter of dreams, vivid premonitions,

attracts good luck and fruitful blessings,

serpent holder, lofty ideals,

a seeker of peace and harmony,

doctor of medicine or science, natural-pathic,

adds, increases, joins, or gathers together

poetical, inventive nature, expanding qualities,

seeks higher education and wisdom,

overseer, supervisor of work,

fame – either grand, or completely misunderstood,

longevity, aspirations of healing the ills of man,

architect, builder, reaches for the stars, figuratively and literally,

tax assessor, or levys taxes,

astrological talents, intuitive,

large family indicated, but apt to be separated from them when young,

the number twelve holds great significance,

foresight and good fortune to benefit from hard times,

has secret enemies in family or close associations,

many jealous of this subject,

notable father, apple of father’s eye when young,

high position in life expected [depending on aspects] highest fame and legend comes after death

feelings of granular, wise, genius mentality,

likes to wear clothing of vibrant colors, and plaids in particular,

receives the favor of those in authority.

Leggs

January 13th, 2011
3:58 pm

Did you guys see the icicle javelins being thrown through the sky by the high winds? People were play dodge icicle….

DreamsMaterialize

January 13th, 2011
3:59 pm

Please tell me my ACS is still in good standing.
Willie D Man ya ACS took a hit, but over time if you only talk about shopping and the latest tv shows, then your score will rebound. Oh, and you have to go see “Eat Pray Love” two times. lol

DreamsMaterialize

January 13th, 2011
4:02 pm

you know I have been known to shimmy with a serpent a few times.
BMW I’m staying away from that one…trying to clean up my credit. lol

czBrat

January 13th, 2011
4:03 pm

thanx for the laughs, reign. exactly what my loooooong day needed.

V, don’t slam the door. this blog is always good for interesting convo. you don’t have to be part of the “in” crowd to teach new things and learn a few along the way.

BLACKFOOTE…I got you chica!
chica? now i’m confused

czBrat

January 13th, 2011
4:06 pm

so, BMW, who’s been messing with the zodiac? same folks that shook up the solar system and renamed the dinosaurs?

Leggs

January 13th, 2011
4:08 pm

“has secret enemies in family or close associations” – So very true in my case.

And this one :arrow: foresight and good fortune to benefit from hard times, among many others.

Leggs

January 13th, 2011
4:10 pm

I rented Eat, Pray Love yesterday. Had it on for about 10 mins when I had to turn it off..too slow for what I was looking for. Perhaps will look at it this evening.

Celisea

January 13th, 2011
4:13 pm

@Celisea ~ you have dollars on your mind.

Yes indeedy…my motivation for braving the streets today :)

Celisea

January 13th, 2011
4:14 pm

V, don’t slam the door. this blog is always good for interesting convo. you don’t have to be part of the “in” crowd to teach new things and learn a few along the way.

I’m gonna cosign this for you Varinia, just do you and come with grit. Say what you gotta and K.I.M. :)

Raqi V

January 13th, 2011
4:23 pm

Leggs, I haven’t found one person that has seen and/or liked that movie yet.

czBrat

January 13th, 2011
4:29 pm

raqi, you can add me to your list of people who won’t even see it. i don’t do chick flicks. i nearly stabbed myself in the ear with a drinking straw just sitting through “for colored girls …”.

Leggs

January 13th, 2011
4:30 pm

@Raqi V ~ it’s very slow…

Leggs

January 13th, 2011
4:32 pm

Staying at home makes me eat more…must use discipline. Thank goodness whatever I really want to eat I need to cook so that helps a lot. I want a tuna fish sammich, but have everything I need for it, except TUNA FISH!!!!

Raqi V

January 13th, 2011
4:33 pm

CzBrat and Leggs, the hub and I are watching Avatar tonight. I hear it’s very long.

Dan - Simply...Superior

January 13th, 2011
4:33 pm

Reason # 752 I love my job: telework, and Above the Rim

czBrat

January 13th, 2011
4:36 pm

leggs, i’m sitting here listening to the icicles breaking off the gutters and i catch glimpses of them as they fall past the second floor windows. and it sounds like they’re landing with deadly force. at least this means the crap is finally melting.

after several months of conscientious eating, i literally felt the sugar rush of the m&ms i just downed. gotta put these suckers down.

Celisea

January 13th, 2011
4:36 pm

CZ – For Colored Girls was too heavy for me. I get the message but that movie is a damper.

Leggs – I was eating myself out of house and home. Yesterday I had all teenagers watching movies and they made pizza rolls, burgers, fries, noodles. They ain’t a sinful amount of sweets and sodas and left the fruit. But um yeah, I needed to get out of there because I was eating small bits but all day….alllll day. Eating just to be eating.

Celisea

January 13th, 2011
4:39 pm

ate…not ain’t

czBrat

January 13th, 2011
4:41 pm

raqi, it’s good if you can get behind movies that make the white man out to be the devil. (you know what i mean). the storyline is older than dirt, but the cinematography is very impressive. enjoy!!

Leggs

January 13th, 2011
4:41 pm

@Celisea ~ hmmmm, how does noodles fit in with the other food items?

Leggs

January 13th, 2011
4:43 pm

@Raqi V ~ I reluctantly went to see Avatar, and was very glad I did. Excellent movie.

czBrat

January 13th, 2011
4:43 pm

C, i found myself counting down every soliloquy. i just wanted them all to get their dang sob story out so i could take my azz home already.

czBrat

January 13th, 2011
4:45 pm

how does noodles fit in with the other food items? ——–> teenagers.

Leggs

January 13th, 2011
4:49 pm

:lol: :lol: gotcha czB!!

Celisea

January 13th, 2011
4:53 pm

Leggs – @Celisea ~ hmmmm, how does noodles fit in with the other food items?

They don’t….those little jokers was eating everything not nailed down. Actually one of the other girls brough with her. If it was edible, they ate it. Did I say chicken. Oh, wings too.

CZ – I know right. Wasn’t it just drab? Talk about hurry up already. It was too depressing. Not a glimmer of “up beat” in that entire movie.

BlackMagicWoman

January 13th, 2011
4:57 pm

DREAMS…you scurred of a snake? :lol:

CZ BRAT…I tell you. Folks have changed it from 12 signs to 13. Granted 13 is my lucky number and I have always had a fascination with snakes. But to change a sista’s sign to an unknown…and throw of a few other folks is just down right wrong! :lol:

BlackMagicWoman

January 13th, 2011
4:57 pm

So BLACKFOOTE is a guy? :shock: My bad. Well if it makes you feel better, this Viral respirartory infection I have make me sound Tranny-ish. And some trick on the phone called me sir! :lol: I should beat her down….I could blame it on “R0id Rage” since my Dr. has me on them to help my asthmatic culo breathe! :lol:

Celisea

January 13th, 2011
4:57 pm

I like a good love story but not the sappy kind and not the predictable kind but I’d rather see a good mystery or dramatic. No gruesome or gothic stuff either. Nothing like a good movie that holds your attention from start to finish. One of my favs was A Perfect Movie…those kinds of movies

Leggs

January 13th, 2011
4:58 pm

Must admit this, I saw the original “For Colored Girls” back in ‘76 (?). It was inspiring, uplifting and engrossing. I have no idea how this adaptation will be be, but from your two reviews, doesn’t sound good.

Leggs

January 13th, 2011
4:59 pm

I think I’ll lay a fire tonight and watch “Imitation of Life.” Yeah, that sounds good!

czBrat

January 13th, 2011
5:08 pm

drab and depressing just about sums it up. i mean, i realize our people have it rough but damn! “uplifting” it most certainly is not. but maybe that’s just me. i am, after all, incredibly impatient and of a very short attention span.

i like horror movies, but i’ve tried to get away from that recently (thanx to s/o) :) along those lines, one of my faves is “the decent”. i also love action movies like “wanted”. and i like mysteries with a hitchcock-style twist. but sci-fi will always and forever be my top picks.

can’t stand musicals, barely tolerate comedies, and deeply dislike romance flicks.

Leggs

January 13th, 2011
5:18 pm

The Ted Williams story with Dr. Phil and his children is so very interesting. Can’t figure out who’s lying. Well, it isn’t hard. But, it’s very interesting.

Purple Rain

January 13th, 2011
5:19 pm

Getting my arrow ready

SexyCool

January 13th, 2011
5:20 pm

I think they are all lying. I think the daughter is trying to capitalize on her father’s 15minutes. And I had been telling TheDude all along that TW still had that crack demon on him because he was still doing too much Gator I’m a Crackhead-like dancing and jumping around during his interviews.

Purple Rain

January 13th, 2011
5:21 pm

I shoot my arrow to you you and you, LOL

Purple Rain

January 13th, 2011
5:23 pm

I just hope they don’t give that guy to much money to soon.

czBrat

January 13th, 2011
5:30 pm

brings to mind a convo s/o & i had a while back. if you hit lotto for multi millions, how would you handle it among family?

i said i would divide it among my sibs and their offspring. what they do is on them. i am not comfortable saying to any one person “you can’t handle it so you’re not gonna get like he/she got”.

s/o says he would not give $$ to those who have proven themselves irresponsible. he would set up a trust instead. your thoughts?

Purple Rain

January 13th, 2011
5:35 pm

If I won the lotto, I am giving away half. With that half I am giving some to Church, a few Charities then momma, pappa, and my siblings.

czBrat

January 13th, 2011
5:47 pm

so you would give to your sibs with no qualms about whether or not they might do the wrong thing or even harm themselves with that kind of windfall?

czBrat

January 13th, 2011
5:49 pm

oh lawd did SC say the man was doing gator’s crackhead dance? :lol: :lol: :lol:

Purple Rain

January 13th, 2011
6:02 pm

czBrat, yes I would just give it to them

Purple Rain

January 13th, 2011
6:04 pm

They all held me down and took care of me when I was at my lowest. Paid my mortgage, bills, car notes while I was away for five years. I could never ever with hold from them no matter what. That’s my family :)

czBrat

January 13th, 2011
6:04 pm

thank you for your participation, carlito.

stay warm :) ciao!

Purple Rain

January 13th, 2011
6:06 pm

czBrat

January 13th, 2011
6:07 pm

awwww. that’s sweet. i have plenty family members who have proven themselves incapable of doing the right thing. but they’re adults and they’re entitled to their mistakes. as much as it would pain me to bankroll some disaster in their lives, i just don’t see myself withholding or passing judgment. i’d share …. and pray.

i like your style. i often do.

DreamsMaterialize

January 13th, 2011
6:15 pm

you guys still here? lol

If I won the lotto, I wouldn’t tell anyone. I’d hire an attorney to collect on behalf so my name wouldn’t be published. I’d then give monetary or other kinds of gifts to certain family members and tell them not to ask any questions. Example: “Hey Pops, what’s the payoff on the house. Gimme your lender’s number. Don’t ask me any questions.” lol

czBrat

January 13th, 2011
6:21 pm

lol @ DM. you remind me of the guy in douglasville (?) who hit it big a few months back but never said a word. kept showing up for work as if nothing happened while he got the appropriate funds/entities set up.he collected the payout, news broke, and he never showed up again. very smart man.

Leggs

January 13th, 2011
6:32 pm

Hey you guys still here? Ran to the store. Roads are just about clean. Guess I’ll make my way to work tomorrow.

@czB ~ I would so something along those lines. Still show up at work, not say a word to anyone. Get my financial advisor in place. I will be a good conduit if I won a boatload of money. Mama would get something first, lil leggs college taken care of, and I have a list of what to do with the rest.

Now, as far as TW is concerned. He’s so focused on getting paid, I think he’s missing out on fixing what needs fixing. He offered his daughter a LV bag to make up for things. He’s operating on $$ to give since he wasn’t there for them. I can understand that to a point. However, if what he said to his daughter during their fight is accurate, he needs a lot of help and a lot of detox. They all say he’s still drinking. I hope he can rise to the occasion, but I’m not sure. One thing I do feel, is he has acting skills. All this is coming too fast for a man coming off a street corner.

SexyCool

January 13th, 2011
6:34 pm

Yep, czB. Every time I see dude he is dancing (jerking and shuffling) and looking a bit too Gatorish for my tastes. Besides, I’ve had enough exposure to crackish behavior to be able to recognize it.

And that’s not to say that I’m not rooting for TW. I am. I just hope that his story turns out with a happy ending…and not with him dead of an overdose somewhere.

czBrat

January 13th, 2011
6:48 pm

leggs, all addicts have pretty impressive acting skills.

sc, i also tend to cheer for the underdog. always hoping and praying that ‘this time’ they’ll be the victor.

thanx for the input, ladies. stay toasty!
SC, i’m so jealous! this weather makes me wish i had s/o full-time :( btw, he asked about you.
enjoy your boo and have a wonderful evening!

DreamsMaterialize

January 13th, 2011
6:52 pm

you remind me of the guy in douglasville (?) who hit it big a few months back but never said a word.
czBrat I wouldn’t say anything because people base what they expect on how much you won. Let’s say I give you $20,000 and say “Hey I’m at a good place in life right now and wanted to share that with you.” You’d probably be ecstatic…util you found out I won 300 million. Then you might call me cheap and start talking about me to the family. lol