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Dating: Actions speak louder?

I’ve met and dated some really “charismatic” men in my day. I’m talking about the smooth, slick, totally engaging type that could convince you of just about anything. Oh they can make you swoon for days. It’s all fun and games until all that lip service they served is not backed up by actions!

I don’t know if we really grasp the idea that actions hold the most value when you are trying to get to know someone. I think it’s normal for people to talk a good game but how do you know who is playing to win?

If someone doesn’t back up their words with actions, do you think they are trustworthy?

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Leggs

January 10th, 2011
2:53 pm

Since it’s a great snow day,what are some of your best snow memories.

Here’s one of mine. I lived in Pavilion Apartments off Flat Shoals. Was making my way to my gf’s house not too far away (Alpine Aptmts.). My car stalled. Had to trek through SoDeKalb Mall to her place. My coat was frozen when I finally arrived. They had to chisel me out of it. A few nice warm drinks of straight brandy and lots of laughter made it all worth while. I knew I didn’t want to experience the blizzard of ‘82 or was it ‘83 by myself. Got my car 3 days later.

cba

January 10th, 2011
3:31 pm

Leggs have you been here that long? I think it was ‘82 and I lived in Macon. I was just celebrating my first anniv. My newbie wife made date cookies and we were still in honeymoon mode :-)

Leggs

January 10th, 2011
3:40 pm

@cba ~ yes, I came to the ATL in ‘79 and knew I was never going back to live in NYC. By the Grace of God and all I’ve endured, I managed to not go back home to live w/Mama. :lol:

Ok, nobody has any fond, or even scary, snow day memories?

mytw♥cents

January 10th, 2011
3:58 pm

I was tryna narrow it down cuz they’re mostly fond. I remember one time when I was in middle school maybe, they plowed the snow real early and it was like four feet high of fluffy whiteness. The block had a snow fight which really meant my brother and the twins from down the street somehow buried all the girls in the snow, put it all inside our hoods and everything… heathens! We gave up after a couple hours before dripping inside & thawing out with hot chocolate and whatever treats mommy made us, probably sittin watching Kung Fu & G.L.O.W. Good times!

Leggs

January 10th, 2011
4:05 pm

@mytwo ~ had to laugh at the “block” had a snow fight. Not many say “block” anymore. As much as I hate snow and cold, I remember when I worked on Wall Street and had to go pick up my paycheck. The snow was up to my kneecaps. Every part of my body was covered. All you could see were my eyes. I had on some fierce sheepskin boots and sheepskin coat and hat. I was warm as anyone could be fighting the elements. I got my check and even did a little shopping.

PrincessNik

January 10th, 2011
4:08 pm

I think my favorite snow memories are from when I was in college in SC, sittin in the window watchin the “Florida Boys” scrape up enuff snow to make snowballs. Most of them had never ever seen snow. It was quite entertaining, cause they wld be the only ones out there playin in it

mytw♥cents

January 10th, 2011
4:23 pm

PNIK I went to school here in GA and saw a lot of the same. One time it came down and the campus was blanket of snow – it was beautiful, but nothing I hadn’t seen before. Those fools were outside in t-shirts losing their minds! It’s always fun to watch someone else discover new joys, tho.

LEGGS You were already dressed, so why not? Now did you say you were tryna text up some trouble earlier??? ;)

DreamsMaterialize

January 10th, 2011
4:28 pm

Remember when I was in grad. school in Michigan, and there was a huge storm after Christmas. I was riding in the car with my homeboy who was from Alabama and had never seen snow like that. So, he’s driving and all of a sudden loses control of the car. We start sliding and spinning, all the he’s trying to regain control, but failing miserably. Out of nowhere, he says “muthaf@ka! get back on the road!”, and immediately the car stops spinning, straightens up, and regains traction. I think he even shocked himself ’cause we looked at each other in disbelief for a second, and then started crackin the he!! up. lol

Leggs

January 10th, 2011
4:29 pm

@mytwo ~ I only had on my turtleneck. Got half my hair done when I decided I wasn’t going to risk trying to go in. I washed my hair and been chillin ever since.

Girl, as much as I would love to text up some trouble, nobody’s getting out.

Leggs

January 10th, 2011
4:33 pm

I remember going home one winter (which I rarely did). I walked to the pizza shop in a blizzard….best 2 slices of pizza I ever had. That was fun to me THEN and very rare for me to go out.

PrincessNik

January 10th, 2011
4:39 pm

I work with a guy from NY who will not go home in the winter unless absolutely necessary, he is retired military and doesn’t want to go bk to the cold. My bff from college grew up in NY and on days like these she would be yelling “ya’ll don’t know what cold is, this aint cold”

Leggs

January 10th, 2011
4:46 pm

@PrincessNik ~ true that everything is relative…this is COLD. The Hawk may not be nipping at your ears, your toes or your lips, but it’s still freaking COLD.

mytw♥cents

January 10th, 2011
4:48 pm

Oh, I was talkin’ bout the Wall Street shopping spree, silly.

Some people call on da Lawd, and others just start cursing,,, lol Stuff like that’s only funny AFTER the danger’s past…

I’m looking out now and there are sheets of ice where the street should be. I ain’t tryna go nowhere till Wednesday unless they start doing salt drops from the sky tonight.

Leggs

January 10th, 2011
4:52 pm

@mytwo ~ :lol: :lol: Yep, why not! Bartering system at its best when vendors want to make a deal on a very, very slow day! Too funny, believe it or not, it’s when I got one of those vintage blouses you guys laugh at me about!

TenderRoni

January 10th, 2011
4:55 pm

Afternoon on this snowy,cold day

Whenever I start dating again, he will have to lead with his actions, cuz i realize even good guys can talk a good game, but the actions are undeniable.

Everyone be safe

Leggs

January 10th, 2011
5:00 pm

Good night all!

Frosty the snowman, was a very jolly soul. All the kids loved him….blah blah blah blah blah!

I forgot the words.

Stay warm, alert and careful!

PrincessNik

January 10th, 2011
5:00 pm

Leggs u r right about everything bein relative, 60 degrees was cold to the “Florida Boys” especially the ones from S. Fla,

DreamsMaterialize

January 10th, 2011
5:07 pm

Some people call on da Lawd, and others just start cursing,,, lol Stuff like that’s only funny AFTER the danger’s past…
mytwo you’re right. we were scared as he!!, even speechless for a little while after the car straightened up, but it’s funny as he!! now. wasn’t nothing else he could do but scream at the car, some ol’ irrational shiznit. maybe GOD saw the humor in it and righted the sitchiation. lol

Kym

January 11th, 2011
8:36 am

Good Morning!

Is the bootleg blog open?

czBrat

January 11th, 2011
9:01 am

hey kym. just popped in for convo. bored out of my wits being homebound yet again. i think i go in the backyard and let the dogs pull me across the ice.

Kym

January 11th, 2011
9:09 am

@czBrat…same here..Daytime tv sucks…and I am afraid what I might do if I watch QVC too much. My little wish list online keeps growing.

DreamsMaterialize

January 11th, 2011
9:11 am

Hey Kym and czBrat. Ya’ll still snowed/iced in? I’m working from home today again.

Kym

January 11th, 2011
9:15 am

@Dreams..yep still home..trying to figure out how I am going to break up this ice in my driveway. I don’t own a shovel.

czBrat

January 11th, 2011
9:22 am

hiya Dreams.

agreed, kym. and i’m just about movied out too.
it’s official. i’d make a lousy housewife. i cannot take another day of piddling around here looking for things to ‘take care of’. :mad:

Kym

January 11th, 2011
9:26 am

@czBrat…yep I’m with you. Everything that “needs taking care of” requires me to leave the house. Naw..June Cleaver I am not.

czBrat

January 11th, 2011
9:29 am

note to self: next time bad weather threatens, stock up on brownie mix, wine, and board games.

DreamsMaterialize

January 11th, 2011
9:32 am

I don’t own a shovel.
Kym but you do own a son, right? he can get out there and break it up with his bare hands…builds character. lol

i cannot take another day of piddling around here looking for things to ‘take care of’.
czBrat have you knitted some clothes for the kids? come on now, snap to it! ;-)

Kym

January 11th, 2011
9:34 am

@czBrat ohh I got the board games..and the brownie mix…I made mega-chocolate chip cookies Sunday..and I may whip up some more brownies if we are stuck here a bit longer.

czBrat

January 11th, 2011
9:36 am

i don’t knit, DM. but now that you mention it, perhaps i can sew together a couple of patchwork shirts for the dogs. LOL

hey, would you believe i had the audacity to be upset when i logged onto three different pizza chain sites yesterday to place a delivery order and all were closed? LMAO
yeah. i gotta get outta here. i’m losing what little common sense i have.

Kym

January 11th, 2011
9:37 am

@Dreams..LOL yeah I will have to put the boy out there and at least try to clear my driveway since apparently the DOT will not be clearing 75North any time soon.

DreamsMaterialize

January 11th, 2011
9:40 am

Dang why ya’ll gotta talk about brownies and super duper mega ultra chocolate chip cookies? Can I get some? I got a few bottles of wine to put in on it.

czBrat see I knew there was something you could be doing. Let me know if you need more suggestions. lol

czBrat

January 11th, 2011
9:48 am

i like kym, so i’m not gonna say what i REALLY want to say about her mentioning brownies and cookies at a time like this. instead …. good for you! :mrgreen:

ok, my first act of shut-in insanity will be to cut my hair.

DreamsMaterialize

January 11th, 2011
9:49 am

Kym my bad I think I had an old folks moment. That sounded like some stuff my dad would have said to me.

pops: clean those gutters boy.

me: we don’t have a ladder.

pops: what you mean you need a ladder?!? you don’t need no ladder. When you’re done, go mow the lawn.

me: that lawn mower is like 100 years old and doesn’t even have a motor.

pops: yep and it works just as good as one with a motor. matter of fact, mow the neighbor’s lawn too.

Leggs

January 11th, 2011
10:13 am

Good morning. WTH didn’t I think to buy some salt for the driveway??? Now, I have to go find something that’s called a shovel somewhere in my garage. Me, shovel. Well, guess I have no dang choice. Probaby turn into a three stooges moment with me attempting to shovel and losing my grasp on the handle only to have it bonk me in the head!

No wine, no liquor, no man! I’m going crazy!!!! :wink: :lol:

Kym

January 11th, 2011
10:36 am

@Leggs..Good Morning

@czBrat…please don’t go so do-lalaeh nuts that you wind up bald..LOL Sorry about the brownie and cookie references.

@Dreams..not sure it if is your thing..but err Syfy network is running these old episodes of the Green Hornet..BRUCE LEE LIVES!!!

Leggs

January 11th, 2011
10:39 am

Good morning, Kym.

I haven’t made any brownies, but I have lots cinnamon buns!

Kym

January 11th, 2011
10:40 am

@Leggs..my son is going to take a rubber mallet to my driveway that should break the ice up. It is warming up a bit..if you call 30 degrees warm.

Leggs

January 11th, 2011
10:48 am

Hey czB ~ pls don’t go crazy over there. I’m going to light the fireplace and play a game of scrabble when my child wakes up. These kids can sleep!

@DreamsM ~ how do you feel being surrounded by all these lovely ladies on this cold, snowy morning?

Kym

January 11th, 2011
10:54 am

@Leggs we are watching the Green Hornet all day marathon…I made pancakes and at some point I believe another nap will be in order. I know cabin fever gets to folks but I am just so grateful to have a cabin. There are some folks who spent the night on the highway.

Leggs

January 11th, 2011
11:02 am

You know, Kym, I was saying the same thing last night. May not live in the best of houses, but so glad I have a roof over my head, heat, water, lights and food. Now, how can I get some wine in this place? Then, I’ll have it made in the shade! Well, looks like wine is out the question so let me call on some bootleggers that are close by.

DreamsMaterialize

January 11th, 2011
11:23 am

Kym Bruce is the man. I’m actually working though. Maybe I’ll sneak in an episode or two though.

Hey Leggs. Don’t go crazy up in there. I am feeling kinda special though, with all the beautiful blog ladies surrounding me. too bad transporters haven’t been invented yet cuz it seems like a few people are in need of wine, and I have enough to go around. lol

Leggs

January 11th, 2011
11:34 am

SlimOne

January 11th, 2011
11:42 am

(Slim walking in throwing ice covered snowballs) Wzup yall!

Leggs

January 11th, 2011
11:45 am

Dang, SlimOne, who you’re trying to take out???? GWBush still looking for those Weapons of Mass Destruction and you’re walking around ambushing folk.

SlimOne

January 11th, 2011
11:49 am

LOL…I was just making sure yall were awake. I’m getting a bit stir crazy myself, being snowed in for the last day or so. I might need to start chugging beers in a minute.

SlimOne

January 11th, 2011
11:53 am

Well I was just peeking in. I guess i’ll go eat me some leftover ghetto ghetti ;-)

DreamsMaterialize

January 11th, 2011
11:53 am

slim! what’s good? the more women the merrier. toss me a couple beers when you start chugging.

SlimOne

January 11th, 2011
11:59 am

Sup Dreams. Hope you don’t mind Heineken. They are good and cold too since I just sat the whole damn box out in the snow in the backyardb lol

Kym

January 11th, 2011
12:08 pm

Okay the ice in the driveway is about 2inches thick..it is warming up and ice is melting but if we are getting another cold snap it will just refreeze..I wonder if you can rent a dogsled?

DreamsMaterialize

January 11th, 2011
12:15 pm

They are good and cold too
Slim ahhhh just the way I like em.

I wonder if you can rent a dogsled?
Kym funny I saw someone out on an ATV earlier.