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Worst first date plans?

I have had my fair share of great dates but I could probably write a book on the not so great ones. I’m convinced that some men think it’s a good idea to test women with some outrageous dates to see how she “handles” it.

The first couple of dates can set the tone of a dating relationship. Why would you want to risk sending the wrong message at the crucial stage of dating? Have you ever dumped someone because of the plans that were made for your date?

What would be the places to avoid during your first couple of dates?

I remember a guy friend telling me he didn’t call a girl back after she had them watch Last Tango in Paris. Apparently there are even some films that are not good date movies!

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Blog

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SlimNumeroUno

January 7th, 2011
8:08 am

SlimOne is number 1 this morning. Imagine that….

Haven’t had any bad first dates so far.

Dan - Simply...Superior

January 7th, 2011
8:37 am

The one chick who, at 25, wanted to go on a group date.

I didn’t go, so does it still count (at least as a plan)?

whatup Slim goodie?

SlimNumeroUno

January 7th, 2011
8:41 am

A first date idea being a ‘group date’ says to me that the person may feel a bit nervous or uncomfortable about being one-on-one with you, not really sure what they think of considering you as someone they’d like to really date….OR is still very impressionable as far as what their friends think.

Howdy Dan – HPY to ya ;-)

Dan - Simply...Superior

January 7th, 2011
8:44 am

HPY? – Slim, I’m old, what does that mean?

Celisea

January 7th, 2011
8:47 am

h appy n ew y ear

SlimNumeroUno

January 7th, 2011
8:48 am

HAPPY NEW YEAR!

SlimNumeroUno

January 7th, 2011
8:52 am

Dan – and last time I checked, I thought I was a bit older than you? lol

Simple Man!!!

January 7th, 2011
8:54 am

Bad first dates….. Night Clubs!!! They are always loud and there is are always a million folks trying to holla at your date…..

Simple Man!!!

January 7th, 2011
8:55 am

BTW…Morning Folks!! Happy Friday!

Dan - Simply...Superior

January 7th, 2011
8:57 am

Aight, same to you.

It wasn’t that she was afraid to be alone with me, it was her idea of “cute”. A bunch of couples going out on dates together.

I wasn’t with it because I don’t do adult playdates. You know, when the ladies decide to hang out together and bring the SO’s (who’ve never met).

LeeH1

January 7th, 2011
9:00 am

Worst first date for me is the woman who wanted me to fix things around her house. Leaky faucets, squeaking doors and and an uneven sofa were not what I considered a good date- only a cheap handyman.

As far as I know, she is still single, and I’ve been married to another woman for twenty years.

Steven Q. Stanley

January 7th, 2011
9:00 am

My wife’s and I first date was a concert, Butch Walker. It actually worked out well. As a divorcee I had not been on a date in about 7 years and she is the shy type, it gave us a chance to feel more comfortable together. We got to talk a little bit in between sets, but mostly we just listened to some music together, hugged and said “let’s do it again”.

About 18 mos later we were married.

The Sleeper

January 7th, 2011
9:16 am

My worst date ever was a surpirse date. This girl and I had been dating for about 3 months. She said she wanted to take me out for a change, which I have to say was an awesome thing to do. The problem was it was a surprise date to the opera, which we both slept through. Miserable. By the way, we broke up shortly thereafter.

USMC dawg

January 7th, 2011
9:41 am

I have more than one bad idea for a first date:

1) Bar/Night club
2) Movie
3) Anywhere with her friends (or yours)

I have found that keeping it simple always works well. My number one place to take a first date is a coffee shop because it allows you to sit and ENGAGE in each other and is inexpensive. After that initial time together, I think you get a good feel of the other person and know if you want to pursue.
-just my .02.

AmazonRed™ - avoiding crazy...

January 7th, 2011
9:51 am

Morning all -

Well, fortunately, I haven’t had a lot of bad first dates, but I do have an epic tale of the worst.

The first problem was there were no plans.

The second, he was home for Christmas break w/out his car, so I had to pick HIM up.

The third, since he now had a chauffer, he asked me to make a quick run for him.

The fourth, the run was to pick up some weed

The fifth, him asking me to go to the motel!

Blackfoote

January 7th, 2011
10:00 am

Happy New Year All:

May have you beat Ared:

How about going to pick up ole girl for a date and her ex-husband (just out of jail) answers the door. I’m standing at the door with the I’m surprised look on my face and dude starts to tell me he and his (wife) are planning to get back together. I left the door way thinking what a blessing that was not to go any further with her but feeling slighted at the same time. Three weeks later she calls to say he has left and is out of her life for good and I responded “good for you”.

i'm swiss™ (grasping at straws to get in them draws)

January 7th, 2011
10:01 am

C’mon now, ARed…. How you gonna put our business out there like that? :lol:

Sassy Me :-)

January 7th, 2011
10:01 am

The fourth, the run was to pick up some weed

The fifth, him asking me to go to the motel!

:shock:

SexyCool

January 7th, 2011
10:03 am

On my first movie date night with TheDude, I chose Crooklyn. We *still* laugh at how horrible we think that movie is.

(Yes, I understand that it is a classic for some of you. It’s just not to our tastes.)

Simple Man!!!

January 7th, 2011
10:07 am

Well damn…..

I need to burn one…and WE need to be at the Motel 6 when I do…..

Leggs

January 7th, 2011
10:11 am

Good morning!

@ARed ~ I remember you telling us that story about picking up the weed and I laughed then, and I’m laughing now.

Blasphemy, SexyC ~ the opening scene to Crooklyn is one of my favorite street games growing up in NYC…Skelzies (sp?)

@Blackfoote ~ I’m visualizing the entire thing. I can see your eyes bucked and the wheels spinning in your head with you telling yourself, I didn’t come here to fight for life and I sho ain’t fighting over a woman I just met! Glad you got out without any engaging in any fisticuffs!

Kellibean

January 7th, 2011
10:12 am

I’ve had a couple of horrible first dates. The first one, I was set up with a guy I went to school with, but hadn’t seen in about 10 years. He was attractive and I was newly single at the time, so a friend arranged for us to talk. We decided to meet at a restaurant for dinner. It was nice until he started to talk about t*tty bars and saying the F word many times, while other families were near us. I made up an excuse after dinner to why I had to leave. I went in for a hug goodbye and he grabbed my booty and then tried to stick his tongue down my throat! I told him that I don’t kiss on the first date (not necessarily true) and got in my car. He leaned in to say goodbye and I gave him a little kiss on the cheek, but he moved and tried to stick his tongue down my throat again! I jerked away and hightailed it out of there!!! He even called me the next day to say he had a nice time and hopes that we can get together again soon. I never called him back.

The second bad date…a guy I met at a bar, who seemed really sweet and was cute. We decided to go out to dinner and then have a couple of drinks at another place with live music. We met at about 10 pm, which limited where we could go for dinner (I wasn’t too pleased about that). After dinner, he asked if we could go by his place because he left his cash there. We were in separate cars and I followed him there. We grabbed his cash and then he asked me if I could drive so he could have a couple of drinks. At this point, I didn’t care because I wasn’t drinking at all that night. We got to the other place with the live music and he didn’t open the door (which he didn’t do at the restaurant either). He told me all about how much he enjoyed playing World of Warcraft. Then, when I went to the restroom, I came back and he was sitting at the only available seat at the bar. He didn’t bother to get up and let me sit…I had to stand there next to him. By the end of the night, both of us were texting on our cell phones and it was obvious we were not a match. I took him home and he actually asked me if I’d like to come up! I said that I had to get up early and left.

I’m so glad that I’m not single anymore!!! I hate dating!

SexyCool

January 7th, 2011
10:13 am

Well, Leggs, that’s the thing. The movie has such great promise. In some ways, it is a nostalgic look back at *the way we were*, but as far as actual plot, dialogue and most of the talent in the movie, it falls flat.

AmazonRed™ - avoiding crazy...

January 7th, 2011
10:14 am

SCool – I’m not a fan of Crooklyn either, Girl 6…Spike Lee is hit or miss with me.

AmazonRed™ - avoiding crazy...

January 7th, 2011
10:15 am

Blackfoote – I think I still win cuz at least you didn’t actually go out with that woman! I lost hours of my live I’ll NEVER get back! :lol:

Leggs

January 7th, 2011
10:15 am

Ok, I see my bad typing is still in tact…carry on!

DreamsMaterialize

January 7th, 2011
10:20 am

Morning Everyone
Can’t say I’ve had any horrible first dates, from my perspective. Simple, yet creative, seems to work best for me. Simple puts everyone at ease, and creative makes it fun.

TenderRoni

January 7th, 2011
10:21 am

Is it stil morning,

I have only had a hand full of bad dates. But the worst of all, still to this day is the date with a guy I knew for like two years and after many attempts on his part asking me out I went. And he turned out to be a straight ole dirty PERV!

He completely flipped the script on me, talking all nasty and at the end of the date he pulled out his ‘junk’. whewwww

TenderRoni

January 7th, 2011
10:23 am

Hi Dreams, how are you?

Blackfoote

January 7th, 2011
10:25 am

Leggs:

Hello there, nah wasn’t gonna be that kinda party this happened a few years ago but I aint ever going forget it. What comes across to me is dude was so smooth and carefully saying the right things cause I could see her shadow behind the door. You’re right my eyes bucked wide open my mind racing thinking I didn’t to here fight anybobdy but dude was cordial and I was swallowing a lump in my throat…….LOL

Sassy Me :-)

January 7th, 2011
10:27 am

He didn’t bother to get up and let me sit…I had to stand there next to him.

You’re good Kelli cause he would’ve had to catch a cab home if it were me. I would’ve gone to the restroom and once I saw that he was at the bar I would’ve pulled a 007 and been ghost. I think all he wanted was…well you know.

he moved and tried to stick his tongue down my throat again!

A good throat punch would’ve prevented that…it works trust me :lol:

DreamsMaterialize

January 7th, 2011
10:28 am

talking all nasty and at the end of the date he pulled out his ‘junk’. whewwww
This is a strategy known as “going for broke”. lol It’s a last resort, but it will get a response, good or bad. In the end you’ll either get some or know without a doubt that there’s no chance.

Tenderoni How are you this morning? Ready for the weekend?

Blackfoote

January 7th, 2011
10:29 am

“I lost hours of my live I’ll NEVER get back!”

Right you’ll never get that back…….LOL

Sassy Me :-)

January 7th, 2011
10:29 am

talking all nasty and at the end of the date he pulled out his ‘junk’.

eewwwwww…how gross and tacky.

TenderRoni

January 7th, 2011
10:31 am

@Dreams, yes I’m ready. Work is kicking my but so can’t wait to unwind. Hope you a good weekend.

2CPTG

January 7th, 2011
10:32 am

g’morning……

I had recently met this chic, and we spoke a few times; So I invited her to a game, and as we were going into the Dome, I ran into a few friends…as I was about to introduce her, my mind went blank — I forgot ‘ol girl’s name…..I was stuttering like crazy….she realized it….after I played it off, she was like, “I know you forgot my name…” all I could do was laugh…..after I dropped her off, we haven’t spoken since, and I still don’t remember her name….

Mo (aka Moeisha)

January 7th, 2011
10:33 am

SexyCool – I, too, am sooooooo not a fan of Crooklyn. I have tried a couple of time to watch and I just dont get it. That movie is all over the place to me

TenderRoni

January 7th, 2011
10:34 am

@Sassy, it was horrible, then he had the nerve to call me later first he asked was I ok, then he was like are you going to call the police.

SexyCool

January 7th, 2011
10:40 am

Toucan – I’ve GOT to call bllsht on you not remembering her name. Because you have to have it in your phone unless you’ve got her saved as “Chic I met at the gas station” or “Ol’ Girl.”

Exactly, Mo…I’m like, “What the hell is this movie about?!?”

Leggs

January 7th, 2011
10:40 am

@2C ~ shameful :lol:

@SexyC ~ yes, good movie for “the way we were.” I’ll keep that in mind.

Blackfoote

January 7th, 2011
10:43 am

2C:

I feel you bruh I’ve stumbled with names and faces like that before. I felt bad but after you know it’s over all you can do is laugh about.

PrincessNik

January 7th, 2011
10:43 am

Morning

I can’t say i had any really bad first dates, awkard maybe

I also am not a Crooklyn fan, Like Ared, Spike Lee is hit or miss for me.

Michael

January 7th, 2011
10:43 am

Speaking of guys just out of prison, my paralegal sent the case-closing letter to the bankruptcy client and her recently released husband called threatening me because the closing line of the letter was just too personal for him. I told him I just sign stacks of motions and form letters that my boss created so he should take his beef to him. He continued to threaten me . . .

Chelle

January 7th, 2011
10:44 am

Bad 1st date…went to the movies with “M” it was raining and he failed to tell me his wipers were not working nor was his defrost. So as he was driving with ONE WINDSHIELD WIPER. We both were wiping the windshield on the inside keeping it from getting foggy. BTW he also didn’t have any HEAT!!! Have a great day/weekend everyone :)

Kellibean

January 7th, 2011
10:44 am

@Sassy…yes, I was too nice back then!!! I’ve definitely learned what to do if that ever happens in the future. Hopefully, I won’t have to endure any more first dates!

Leggs

January 7th, 2011
10:45 am

What was the closing line…Sincerely yours?

SlimNumeroUno

January 7th, 2011
10:45 am

2C – daaaaaaaaaamn :lol:

2CPTG

January 7th, 2011
10:46 am

Sexy, trust, I wish it was BS…..my mind just drew a blank at that moment…

2CPTG

January 7th, 2011
10:47 am

sorta like being in mid conversation and forgetting what you are about to say…..

Leggs

January 7th, 2011
10:49 am

@2C ~ much like a brain fart…but your fart is still going on, you still don’t remember her name (LOL).