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What makes someone marriage material?

I think it’s really interesting that the happy couples I know admit that they did not foresee marriage when they first met. I even remember one couple saying they downright disliked each other upon introduction!

If you can go from utter dislike to tumbling head over heels, I’d say that’s proof positive that we don’t always know what we are looking for in a future partner. Even if we claim to know what makes someone marriage material, would we be able to tell if someone had it or not?

I used to think that anyone who desires to be married is marriage material! Do you think it’s that simple, though?

How do you know if you are marriage material? How do your ideas about love, marriage and what you expect from them play a role in all of this?

428 comments Add your comment

Celisea

January 6th, 2011
1:33 pm

Everyone is not to be respected!

I’m going to have to go in another direction on this statement. I don’t ever think a child should be taught who should be respected versus not. I think children should be taught what respect is and learn it…if they do they can’t help but take it a notch higher and respect those some may feel not deemed. Too, as humans I think we all “deserve” respect. Some may not display the best behavior but we all humans just the same.

2CPTG

January 6th, 2011
1:34 pm

“The fact that it’s still in heavy syndication to this day dispels that.”

perhaps cause the folks that grew up watching it, are still interested????? talkin bout a new audience! The majority of syndicated shows cater to their old constituents……ala, the remake of old cartoons/heroes into movies????

For Real

January 6th, 2011
1:34 pm

Swiss: I agree it’s semantics, what you describe is common decency. Respect to me mean a person whose action meet their words. Oh and I don’t have to agree, like or trust you to respect you either.

Celisea

January 6th, 2011
1:35 pm

Alright I gotta break and run to Lenox (on the train) this will get my walk in for today seeing I have a later engagement. Too I despise evening traffic. You can do it Celisa…you can do it.

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January 6th, 2011
1:36 pm

talkin bout a new audience!

I’ve seen every episode of the Cosby Show a hundred times. But if I had kids, I’d let them watch because I wouldn’t want them to see all the oversexualized stuff on regular tv.

But yes, new audiences, in addition to the old of course.

Raqi V

January 6th, 2011
1:37 pm

ForReal, you are right. The best depiction of a good family structure shown within the last few years is “Everybody Hates Chris”. That other stuff I know nothing about.

I remember a girl on our street getting caught by her mother doing the do in their house. Me feeling all grown up (about 16) asked my mom what she would have done if that had been me. She said that boy would still be inside of you right now because I would have glued him to. LOL I do believe she meant it.

Dang I love and miss my mama. (as I wipe away the tears)

For Real

January 6th, 2011
1:37 pm

For Real now slapping the ish outta of Celisea for motivational purposes.

Celisea

January 6th, 2011
1:38 pm

The majority of syndicated shows cater to their old constituents……ala, the remake of old cartoons/heroes into movies????

Yep, cause my brother swears I’m the only person still watching Good Times, The Jeffersons, The Cosbys, Three’s Company. This new generation ain’t watching nor interested. My daughter watches the Cosbys but it’s ONLY because of Rudy and Olivia and the fact that my dad use to say Olivia reminds him of her….as a baby/tot of course.

Celisea

January 6th, 2011
1:39 pm

Thanks For Real…I’m motivated

kimmie

January 6th, 2011
1:39 pm

Amred – Definitely new audiences, cause whenever I have it on, the kids are spellbound!

For Real

January 6th, 2011
1:40 pm

“I would have glued him to” – For Real now picturing Raqi and that dude walking up to Mase at the club like that Burger King commercial.

SlimNumeroUno

January 6th, 2011
1:41 pm

BMW – great assessment there…I’ll help you with that campaign when you get ready to run for prez. ;-)

cba – Yeah I just read that about TI & Tiny…man’s gotta do whata mans gotta do. lolol Tip be feening for dat hoochie coochie like Samuel Jackson in Jungle Fever. :lol:

For Real

January 6th, 2011
1:42 pm

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January 6th, 2011
1:42 pm

Definitely new audiences, cause whenever I have it on, the kids are spellbound!

;)

I’m not making this ish up cuz it sounds pretty. There is actually research out there on it.

2CPTG

January 6th, 2011
1:42 pm

Kimmie…I wonder then, why no new “wholesome” family shows are coming out, only a new reality show about some washed-up celeb?

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January 6th, 2011
1:43 pm

I do want to watch this show “Modern Family” everyone raves about. I guess it’s reflective of the times now!

Though Married with Children was a great sitcom about a dysfunctional family. Nothing new under the sun!

Leggs

January 6th, 2011
1:44 pm

@Celisea ~ let me reiterate, all children should be taught respect. However, no matter what you teach them, when they get a certain age, their mannerisms toward that person you told they should respect will let you know whether they do or not. Even if they’re civil toward that person, doesn’t necessarily mean they respect them.

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January 6th, 2011
1:45 pm

why no new “wholesome” family shows are coming out, only a new reality show about some washed-up celeb?

Because us “oldies” love trainwreck TV! I watch all the Kardashian shows too.

Network tv shows target adult demographics, not teenagers. Unless you’re talking about a network like MTV!

Raqi V

January 6th, 2011
1:45 pm

2CPTG, I know you asked kimmie but here’s my take. Because “wholesome” doesn’t sell these days.

Raqi V

January 6th, 2011
1:45 pm

ForReal, yep. LOL

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January 6th, 2011
1:45 pm

And yes, I’m excited about Khloe and Lamar getting their own show. I will be watching!

For Real

January 6th, 2011
1:47 pm

2C: Cause wholesome shows cost more money to develop and write. How much money does it cost to put a fool on tv and tell them to be themselves?

2CPTG

January 6th, 2011
1:47 pm

“Network tv shows target adult demographics, not teenagers.”

this substantiates BOTH of our points….networks targeting their older viewers, who in turn, will turn their youngin’s on to what they grew up watching….

PrincessNik

January 6th, 2011
1:48 pm

now picturing Raqi and that dude walking up to Mase at the club like that Burger King commercial.

now For Real that made me hollar out loud

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January 6th, 2011
1:49 pm

this substantiates BOTH of our points….networks targeting their older viewers, who in turn, will turn their youngin’s on to what they grew up watching….

No it doesnt, cuz I was answering the “why so many reality shows” question, which I wouldnt’ let my youngins watch.

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January 6th, 2011
1:49 pm

How much money does it cost to put a fool on tv and tell them to be themselves?

:lol:

PrincessNik

January 6th, 2011
1:51 pm

Ared

What do you think this new season of The Game is going to be like?

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January 6th, 2011
1:51 pm

kimmie – Have the youngins ever seen “Family Matters?” It’s not on much these days, but I wonder how they’d feel about Steve Urkel. :lol:

SlimNumeroUno

January 6th, 2011
1:52 pm

Let’s do a little pondering shall we

In the world of entertainment

WHOLESOME show does NOT equal RATINGS
WHOLESOME show pitched as an idea goes into File 13

TRASH tv euals RATINGS which equals MONEY
TRASH tv shows pitched as an idea gets top consideration.

Celebrity Rehab = ratings = $$$
16 & Preggers = ratings = $$$
Jersey Shore = ratings = $$$
Disorder in the Courtroom = ratings = $$$

(some examples)

2CPTG

January 6th, 2011
1:52 pm

“No it doesnt,”

??????? huh?

then why’d you say this, “Aww… The fact that it’s still in heavy syndication to this day dispels that.”

after, I said this, “I’m willing to bet that folks today probably wouldn’t even watch the Cosby show”?

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January 6th, 2011
1:53 pm

What do you think this new season of The Game is going to be like?

I think BET has the potential to mess it up! Bootleg as they are! :lol: I hope they brought back the same writers. Wonder why they moved filming to Atlanta. Is BET based here now?

Leggs

January 6th, 2011
1:53 pm

Sorry, but I love Disorder in the Courtroom!

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January 6th, 2011
1:55 pm

2Can – keep up sweetie. I’d let my kids watch a network where quality family program was still on. So yes, old shows DO spawn a nation of new viewers.

I wouldn’t let KIDS watch reality tv shows like the Kardashians…but I would watch. Therefore giving them MY (adult, old person) ratings.

Raqi V

January 6th, 2011
1:55 pm

Heck just your every day cartoons aren’t what they used to be.

The Flintstones, Tom&Jerry and Bugs Bunny have all been replaced with Ed, Edd and Eddy, and Pokemon and whatever else super natural cartoons they show.

Very little innocence left for the kids to grasp hold to these day.

PrincessNik

January 6th, 2011
1:56 pm

Ared,

I don’t think BET is based in ATL now but then they do the hip hop awards here and some other things too (I think). Who knows, but you are right BET can be pretty bootleg, I loved the show before never missed an episode I sure hope BET kept it “intact” and didn’t put their own spin on it.

Leggs

January 6th, 2011
1:57 pm

@2C ~ speaking on the newly found golden vocal cords (Ted Wms), did you see his mother on tv? She’s 92. No disrespect, but man o man, it’s true “black don’t crack!” :lol: :lol:

Raqi V

January 6th, 2011
1:57 pm

I tried to post the cutest little email my hub just sent to me but WiseD won’t let thru.

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January 6th, 2011
1:57 pm

I loved the show before never missed an episode I sure hope BET kept it “intact” and didn’t put their own spin on it

Me too! I’m a little peeved it doesn’t come on til 10 pm. What the hell does BET have to show between 8 – 10 pm that I’d like better???

PrincessNik

January 6th, 2011
1:58 pm

Raqi

I agree with you about these new cartoons, not to mention these “tween” shows like I-Carly, Hannah Montana and others….. My little one loves to watch Tom and Jerry, Garfield, and Scooby Doo go figure

2CPTG

January 6th, 2011
1:59 pm

yeah, Leggs, I saw a pic of his Mom….just hope he stays true to what he wished for….and he capitalizes on his second chance.

SlimNumeroUno

January 6th, 2011
2:00 pm

Leggs – I’m not saying I don’t like trash tv because Disorder in the Courtroom is a riot. lol

PrincessNik

January 6th, 2011
2:01 pm

What the hell does BET have to show between 8 – 10 pm that I’d like better???

Ared, those movies they run in the ground that have worse “editing” than the old Godzilla type movies, man they can kill a good movie

Raqi V

January 6th, 2011
2:03 pm

Leggs, you know what I think help Ted Williams get this break outside of his magnificent voice? His shear honesty. He didn’t try to blame anyone got his downfall.

In other news, is it a bad thing that there is another adult here with me and I haven’t seen her in over 3 hours. LOL Maybe she thinks I am still taking a nap so she is keeping the little one from bothering me. She’s a good grandmother to and for Lizzy. I am glad to have her as an addition to our lives.

Imma send some of you that email in a couple of minutes. I have desire to go hold my baby. LOL

Raqi V

January 6th, 2011
2:03 pm

Princess, yep those shows too.

Leggs

January 6th, 2011
2:04 pm

@2C ~ I sure hope so too. I sure hope so. Heck, he should be very grateful anyone even stopped to read all those words he had on his sign from the get go!

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January 6th, 2011
2:08 pm

Speaking of the good ole days, there was an article today talking about what this newest generation of kids will never know about. Things like movie rental stores, video tapes, film cameras, watches, newspaper classified ads, dial up internet, encyclopedias…

Years ago, this kid born in 1990 asked me what a cassett tape was. :lol:

kimmie

January 6th, 2011
2:09 pm

2C – Quality costs money. And I believe kids are jaded now because of their dysfunctional parents. And yes, it’s cheaper to make reality shows. But we, as a society, are paying for the horrible images and examples we are setting for our kids, in more ways than one. Society has been dumbed down and excellence is not an expectation any more.

Amred – They have not seen Family Matters, but I can bet you they would LOVE Steve Urkel!LOL!!!

i'm swiss™ (grasping at straws to get in them draws)

January 6th, 2011
2:11 pm

ARed — Holy f__k… I just realized that “kids” born in 1990 turn 21 this year. :shock: Got d@mn I’m old! :lol:

Sassy Me :-)

January 6th, 2011
2:12 pm

and he capitalizes on his second chance.

I heard some of an interview he did on GMA this morning and he said that when he was on top and doing well he NEVER thanked THE MAN ABOVE but now he does regularly. I hope he does well.

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January 6th, 2011
2:12 pm

ARed — Holy f__k… I just realized that “kids” born in 1990 turn 21 this year. Got d@mn I’m old!

Right! And 1990 seemed like yesterday to me! :oops: