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May-December romances

At the age of 84, Hugh Hefner is engaged to Crystal Lewis, 24. I also read that actress Vivica Fox, 46, is engaged to Atlanta promoter Omar White, 27. As I read about the pending nuptials for these couples, I started to wonder why so many of us get hung up on age and our target age ranges in dating.

Celebrity aside, if two people have found that they have enough in common, how much does age really matter?

Admittedly, my last two misadventures in dating were with younger guys (both were 9 years younger!) I can’t figure out if it was the age difference that played a role in the break ups or not but I usually vow to leave the younger dudes alone. Of cours, this is also when I meet the really mature for his age, (read: very hot guy) that has me lifting the so-called ban on younger men.

I believe there can be pros and cons to dating younger/older, though. Maybe you just have to decide if it’s worth a shot.

What do you think? What are the really great reasons you should date someone significantly (at least 10 years apart) younger or older ?

In your opinion or past experiences, what are the pitfalls?

Happy Wednesday!

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Blog

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AmazonRed™ - Happy 100th "J5" Kappas!

January 5th, 2011
10:26 am

he told me he had loved me from the very time he first saw me (20 something years earlier) and just “waited.”

Waited for 20 years? I would have checked your late husband’s food for poison. :lol:

Just kidding. Nice story. Congrats to you!

Leggs

January 5th, 2011
10:26 am

@ARed ~ yes, I did. I’ve won $1500 in the past 3 weeks.

@kimmie ~ 310 is coming back, so is 329.

@joe ~ only you can answer how young is too young. As long as they’re legal and you have a lot in common, go with what you feel. Had to laugh at don’t want to date below age 30 since they’re still in their party it up years. That’s funny, cuz I’m still in my like to party it up years and I’m much older. That really tickled me.

kimmie

January 5th, 2011
10:28 am

Truth, I looked up Atlantis in Dubai, it is incredible. That view from the rooms is spectacular! And that spa!!!

PrincessNik

January 5th, 2011
10:29 am

Good Morning,

My dad was 16 years older than my mom and they were married for almost 30 years. I usually try to stick pretty close to my own age, between 3 years younger and 3 years older.

The Truth-You're all invited to my wedding-but it's going to be in Dubai

January 5th, 2011
10:29 am

Ared, don’t know how it happened. We were on a trip to Istanbul Turkey and after watching her I knew I had to make a power play. I always said she was the best gf I ever had and I plan on making her the best wife too. She has so many more dimensions than I gave her credit for. Rather I wasnt looking because I didnt want to get married. Now I plan on putting as much energy into my marriage as I did being single.

Hey Cool. Happy new year. Your fam still over this side?

Btw, whoever wins money you were my favorite blogger and I’m real happy for you. Don’t forget about me because I wont forget about you. :)

SexyCool

January 5th, 2011
10:33 am

Yep. My mom is *saying* that she is coming home in April. (I will believe it when I see it.)

My dad’s contract goes through August. So, it’s a possibility that both of them may be home before the end of the year….but I doubt it. They are really loving it over there.

o/t – House hunting is work. (I feel like I’m repeating myself. lol)

DJ Sniper

January 5th, 2011
10:34 am

I’ve never really been hung up on age. There’s a 7 year difference between me and my wife (I’m 34, she’s 27) but it’s never been a problem. Honestly speaking, I’m the youngest dude she had dated in a while. Her last two boyfriends were at least 10 years older than her. Her brother is the same way. He’s 24 and his wife is 36. They’ve been together for at least 3 years. When they first got together, we were like, “how did that happen?” lol They are great together though.

Kym

January 5th, 2011
10:36 am

@Leggs..how do you know what number will fall..don’t tell me you have the lotto atlas or bible?

Leggs

January 5th, 2011
10:37 am

Hello DJ Sniper….Truth comes on and the oldies come out! :lol:

Sassy Me :-)

January 5th, 2011
10:37 am

Now I plan on putting as much energy into my marriage as I did being single.

Awww…congrats Truth!! :-)

i'm swiss™ (grasping at straws to get in them draws)

January 5th, 2011
10:39 am

Truth — RE: baby-making… We’re working with live rounds now, but so far no mini swiss-mocha swirl. We’ll see how it goes. Mrs. Swiss had to have some pretty massive fibroids removed over the summer (still not sure where she was hiding those suckers — they were HUGE), so there may still be issues w/ scar tissue, etc. We’re going to give it a year on our own & if that doesn’t work, we’ll probably start forking over $$ to a fertility doc…

(And just as a blog FYI… Yes, my little swimmers have been tested & are in tip-top shape, thank you very much — it ain’t me, got dammit!) :lol: :lol:

Mo (aka Moeisha)

January 5th, 2011
10:40 am

Truth – Congrats man!! Sooo happy for you!

Kym – I was about to say the same thing about Leggs!! winning everything!!

Mike P

January 5th, 2011
10:40 am

I seem to mostly attract much younger women. I’ve dated a woman 11 years younger than me and one 5 years older. I actually prefer dating women 7 to 10 years younger than me; it just seem natural to me.

Leggs

January 5th, 2011
10:41 am

@Kym ~ not at all. Never used any of those books. I pick numbers that mean something to me. 310 (your 130) is the exchange of one of my good friends phone number. 329 is my boss’ number and he irks me, 829 is lil leggs bday (hard number to catch), 371 was my favorite club in The Bronx, 282 is the address of the first house my mother bought, etc. Pick numbers that mean something to you and keep playing them.

Mo (aka Moeisha)

January 5th, 2011
10:42 am

Swiss – best of luck to you and the Mrs, however LMAO @ the disclaimer on your swimmers!

Leggs

January 5th, 2011
10:43 am

And, the infamous 129 (my bday)…it’s coming back as 921 (I betcha!)

The Truth-You're all invited to my wedding-but it's going to be in Dubai

January 5th, 2011
10:47 am

Swiss, if your swimmers dont have paddle its ok. We’re here for you. Watch out for those fertility drugs. You’ll be doing that octomom thing. Good luck with that. Glad the wife got that taken care of.

Leggs

January 5th, 2011
10:48 am

@Truth ~ If I keep this winning streak up, I’ll be able to afford a ticket and attend your wedding (LOLOLOL)!

DJ Sniper

January 5th, 2011
10:52 am

LOL@ Leggs!!!!!

i'm swiss™ (grasping at straws to get in them draws)

January 5th, 2011
10:54 am

Truth — Tell me about it… that (octomom) is my worst nightmare… :lol:

Mo — Yeah, that is a humiliating experience, walking out of that little room and everybody in the building know what you just did… :lol: Oh, and you best believe when we got those results back, I jumped up & did a little victory dance in front of Mrs. Swiss… “IN YA FACE! BOOM!” :lol:

Honeybun

January 5th, 2011
11:04 am

Amazonred- actually it was 27 years total from the time we first met…….

i'm swiss™ (grasping at straws to get in them draws)

January 5th, 2011
11:20 am

Willie Dynamite

January 5th, 2011
11:21 am

Morning All and Happy New Year,

Truth – Congrats and good to read you again. Hope all is well with you and the soon to be Fam.

Swiss – Sending a GodSpeed out to your lil troopers. Good Luck and enjoy the practice.

Sassy Me :-)

January 5th, 2011
11:23 am

Leggs

January 5th, 2011
11:25 am

@WillieD ~ not sure if you’re aware, but you won the award for best moniker!

i'm swiss™ (grasping at straws to get in them draws)

January 5th, 2011
11:27 am

Thanks, Willie D — Yeah, when it comes to baby-making, I’m the anti-Allen Iverson. I loves me some PRACTICE:lol:

Sassy — Whew… I was starting to think we’d shut this M__ F__ down…

Kym

January 5th, 2011
11:29 am

Awww they caught Montel Williams with a pipe at the airport..he smokes that medicated…weed..they should have given him a pass.

Sassy Me :-)

January 5th, 2011
11:36 am

I was starting to think we’d shut this M__ F__ down…

I got you Swissie…and I wish you and the Mrs. good luck on lil baby Swiss… Practice,practice and mo practice ;-)

i'm swiss™ (grasping at straws to get in them draws)

January 5th, 2011
11:36 am

“Windin’ your way down on Baker Street
Light in your head and dead on your feet
Well another crazy day
You’ll drink the night away
And forget about everything”

RIP Jerry Rafferty

Leggs

January 5th, 2011
11:40 am

I actually like that song, i’m swiss. I like Stuck in the Middle better.

R.I.P.

The Truth-You're all invited to my wedding-but it's going to be in Dubai

January 5th, 2011
11:45 am

Happy New Year WillieD. Hope you and yours have a great year.

Thanks Sassy.

Leggs

January 5th, 2011
11:53 am

Where is everyone…is there a conference going on???

PrincessNik

January 5th, 2011
11:57 am

Leggs

I’m here, maybe you should do a roll call ;) :lol:

Leggs

January 5th, 2011
12:00 pm

Seems like everyone stopped posting at the same time!

i'm swiss™ (grasping at straws to get in them draws)

January 5th, 2011
12:03 pm

Since we’re on the topic of age differences… perhaps some of the more… ahem… experienced blog ladies could answer a question that I for one am dying to know…

Is it true that women get hornier as they get into their 30’s, 40’s and onward? Please say yes… please say yes… please, please, please… :lol:

kimmie

January 5th, 2011
12:04 pm

Swiss – Yes :)

Mo (aka Moeisha)

January 5th, 2011
12:05 pm

Im still here, just got a lil busy for a sec…..calling all these daggone customers.

I am grateful for my job, i am grateful for my job

Leggs

January 5th, 2011
12:06 pm

@i’m swiss ~ let me answer that for you. It’s two-fold. If the older woman is getting some on a regular basis, yes, her libido becomes more heightened. If she’s not getting it on the regular, she learns to deal with that fact and not rush between the legs of any man showing her interest. How’s that for an answer? :lol: :lol:

i'm swiss™ (grasping at straws to get in them draws)

January 5th, 2011
12:09 pm

“How’s that for an answer?”

Nothing personal, Leggs, but I like kimmie’s answer better… ;-) :lol:

Leggs

January 5th, 2011
12:12 pm

:lol: :lol: :lol: figured as much…cute!

Willie Dynamite

January 5th, 2011
12:12 pm

Leggs – huh, wasn’t aware but Thanks to whomever voted that thought I had a cool Moniker. Where are the awards posted so i can check them out and when was it decided? Guess I should actually check in more often.

Purple Rain

January 5th, 2011
12:13 pm

Age, difference 5 years or more in any direction is to much for me.

i'm swiss™ (grasping at straws to get in them draws)

January 5th, 2011
12:14 pm

Wille D — Since you couldn’t be here for the ceremony, Kanye West accepted the award on your behalf. And he’s gonna let you finish, but 2CPTG has one of the best monikers of all time…

Leggs

January 5th, 2011
12:16 pm

@WillieD ~ the winners were posted Monday at 2:16.

Celisea

January 5th, 2011
12:16 pm

…..and since WD decided to mention Vivica’s engagement today, someone just emailed a red carpet pics of her and him (and others). She REALLY need to stay away from the knife. She becoming dangerously close to becoming unrecognizable.

Leggs

January 5th, 2011
12:17 pm

No doubt, the results would have been different if more had voted! I agree, 2C has a cool moniker!

Celisea

January 5th, 2011
12:17 pm

“she’s”

Mo (aka Moeisha)

January 5th, 2011
12:22 pm

Leggs – well dayum, I need to check and see who won! I was out on monday!

Sassy Me :-)

January 5th, 2011
12:23 pm

Is it true that women get hornier as they get into their 30’s, 40’s and onward?

Yes…

If she’s not getting it on the regular, she learns to deal with that fact and not rush between the legs of any man showing her interest.

True..true…well from what we’ve read recently all of us don’t learn but I digress…

i'm swiss™ (grasping at straws to get in them draws)

January 5th, 2011
12:26 pm

Leggs — I think we need to have multiple blog award shows — just like there’s the Oscars, Emmys, Golden Globes, People’s Choice, etc…

In that spirit, I’m announcing the first annual Swizzies. (The statue is a life sized bronzed depiction of The Matterhorn — ladies, it’s not just an award, it’s a companion for those lonely nights…)

Categories & nominees coming soon… ;-)