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Dating: Do we still need the chase?

You can predict how some conversations about love and sex will unfold among a group of men and women. Not unlike the discussions we have on the Misadventures in Atlanta blog, you realize how differently men and women think.

I think that seeing different perspectives can be quite enlightening though! Some of the best revelations I’ve had about men have come from talking to men about men.

I remember a group of us were having dinner to celebrate one of our friend’s birthday. That evening turned into what we called The Great Chase Debate of 2010 because we ended up having a heated debate about chasing and pursuing someone you are interested in. I was surprised to hear the women say men in Atlanta don’t pursue them.

A few of the men admitted that they really don’t “chase” women all that much. One of the guys even said that a lot of women in Atlanta make it super easy for them em> not to chase.

Interestingly enough, the argument got most heated when we debated whether “modern day” dating scene even had a need for pursuing a chase. How often do you see men persistent about getting a woman to go out with them?

Do women still want to play hard to get? Are men interested in chasing and pursuing women?

What do you guys think? Has the way men pursue women changed all that much?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Blog

452 comments Add your comment

SexyCool

January 3rd, 2011
4:24 pm

kimmie – every time I think about you, I get giddy for you all over again!

kimmie

January 3rd, 2011
4:29 pm

SCool – Thanks Sis, it is wonderful!

Leggs

January 3rd, 2011
4:31 pm

@SexyC ~ am I the only who’s surprised she didn’t fall down the stairs when she saw all three of them standing there with him on bended knee. WHEW! My legs would have buckled and I would have turned that staircase into an instant slide!

BlackMagicWoman

January 3rd, 2011
4:34 pm

“Black winning the most likely to live up to her blog persona is BULL! She did not show up to the Havana club when my brother, I and Julia waited on her.”

Man see what had happened was…. :lol:

“BMW – or that one straggler hair that loves to hang out at the very BACK of your dayum tongue having you hack and drive heave for about 10 minutes until you can cough it up”

SLIM….girl that will have you sounding like a cat trying to cough up a hairball! :lol: Now you know I’ve got asthma man….don’t make me use unnecessary breath! :lol:

SEXYCOOL…where have you been girl. I read all the Twilight books and saw each movie on opening day…usually at Midnight with the rest of the screaming teens. Now that Jacob is 18…almost 19…I don’t feel like such a dirty perv! :lol:

KYM…where you at girl? Get up to dis’ podium an accept your award for the Best Verbal B*tchslap!!!! :lol:

Sassy Me...Onward and Upward :-)

January 3rd, 2011
4:35 pm

i wish you all success and prosperity in 2K11

I wish you the same I am..

kimmie

January 3rd, 2011
4:38 pm

Leggs – I did have to sit down on the stairs! :lol:

SexyCool

January 3rd, 2011
4:41 pm

Mamba – I just didn’t think I would be interested in the series. TheDude’s sister had him watching one day and he mentioned it to me a couple of times. So much so that the three dvd’s were a part of his Christmas gift.

Leggs

January 3rd, 2011
4:41 pm

:lol: :lol: :lol: I knew it, I knew it! Congratulations!

I am whatever you say I am- no really I'm not into the dude

January 3rd, 2011
4:43 pm

i demand a re-vote

I am whatever you say I am- no really I'm not into the dude

January 3rd, 2011
4:45 pm

Awww Thank you Sassy me

Sassy Me...Onward and Upward :-)

January 3rd, 2011
4:47 pm

You’re more than welcome :lol:

Leggs

January 3rd, 2011
4:49 pm

@BMW ~ I texted Kym telling her you were calling her to the podium. Here is the speech she dictated to me. She humbly accepts the honorable mention and would like to thank God, her mama and me for being available to accept the award on her behalf. She is honored and tickled silly. She wants me to let you know she loves everyone except one and for all of you to keep doing whatcha doing!

She also would like to acknowledge Ms. Tazzee as the romance of 2010. It has inspired her.

@I am ~ LOL…no fret, you weren’t the only only in that category.

I am whatever you say I am-who am I kidding, I like the dude

January 3rd, 2011
4:49 pm

I’m not a ditz :-(

Leggs

January 3rd, 2011
4:50 pm

you weren’t the only one….

I am whatever you say I am-who am I kidding, I like the dude

January 3rd, 2011
4:50 pm

I find it hilarious that we all thought White Man had the worst moniker

I am whatever you say I am-who am I kidding, I like the dude

January 3rd, 2011
4:51 pm

I was the only one?

i demand a re-vote! :evil:

Leggs

January 3rd, 2011
4:53 pm

No, I am, you weren’t the only one. You beat this person out by two votes. No doubt the outcome would have been different if more had voted.

Purple Rain

January 3rd, 2011
4:53 pm

I Am, your blog peers have spoken…LOL

SlimNumeroUno

January 3rd, 2011
4:55 pm

So does her name have to be modified to reflect the category she won….I am…a ditz? :lol: Sorry but couldn’t resist

I am whatever you say I am-who am I kidding, I like the dude

January 3rd, 2011
4:56 pm

I’m going to have a Kanye moment and boycott the awards

I am whatever you say I am-who am I kidding, I like the dude

January 3rd, 2011
4:57 pm

I AM NOT changing my moniker :evil:

Leggs

January 3rd, 2011
4:58 pm

@I am ~ Kanye showed up to these awards. He sure did!

Purple Rain

January 3rd, 2011
4:58 pm

I Am you are whatever we say you are…according to your moniker. LOL

BlackMagicWoman

January 3rd, 2011
4:58 pm

See…that is why you have to vote! :lol: Nobody pulled a George W. Bush!

Good night all. Now I must go battle folks on the stinky subway! UGH!

Purple Rain

January 3rd, 2011
4:59 pm

I didn’t vote because my blog citizenship is not approved yet I am still on a work visa

Leggs

January 3rd, 2011
5:01 pm

@I am ~ I’m visualizing a petulant little child with your evil emoticons.

Leggs

January 3rd, 2011
5:02 pm

Wait, wait, I’m not calling you a child, just the evil face makes me think of one.

i'm swiss™

January 3rd, 2011
5:02 pm

“I AM NOT changing my moniker”

But i am… you are whoever we say you are & apparently the blog says you’re a ditz. ;-) j/k (I didn’t vote, BTW… I was busy giving Mrs. Swiss her Holiday Wang last week…) :lol:

Celisea

January 3rd, 2011
5:02 pm

No Doubt is playing…Don’t Speak…..just a random

Leggs

January 3rd, 2011
5:03 pm

“Life’s challenges are not supposed to paralyze you—they’re supposed to help you discover who you are.” ~Bernice Johnson Reagon

Good night! Don’t step on anyone’s toes, BMW!

Celisea

January 3rd, 2011
5:03 pm

Random: Never take a late break, walk to Publix (exercise) and pick up “stuff” outside of a snack…it’s a mug pulling the hill with bags.

SlimNumeroUno

January 3rd, 2011
5:04 pm

swiss – I am picturing your holiday wang with a popcorn garland and a nal bead ornaments…

Celisea

January 3rd, 2011
5:05 pm

What else can I say before this thing closes….hmmm

i'm swiss™

January 3rd, 2011
5:08 pm

Slim — Have you been spying on me? You naughty girl, you… :lol:

Leggs

January 3rd, 2011
5:08 pm

@Celisea ~ go give I am a hug….

Celisea

January 3rd, 2011
5:09 pm

Do people work late the first official business/work day of the year?

Purple Rain

January 3rd, 2011
5:09 pm

Celisea, what is on your mind?

Celisea

January 3rd, 2011
5:09 pm

Blog hug to you I AM….I think you’re ok…I would have pegged you at the chattiest….Blog Hug to you

Celisea

January 3rd, 2011
5:10 pm

PR – Nothing…blank…LOL Is is possible to literally have a blank mind for any given seconds or are we always thinking…the wheels turning?

Celisea

January 3rd, 2011
5:11 pm

any given “number” of seconds…is what I meant.

Flash Dance by Irene Cara is playing

Celisea

January 3rd, 2011
5:12 pm

“as” the chattiest…

Leggs

January 3rd, 2011
5:14 pm

Big Hug to you I am! Those random thoughts probably did you in. :lol: :lol:

Celisea

January 3rd, 2011
5:14 pm

Those random thoughts probably did you in

Guess it’s not a good look blogging alone…lol

2CPTG

January 3rd, 2011
5:15 pm

hey……………

Purple Rain

January 3rd, 2011
5:15 pm

The mind is never blank, I dont think it is

SexyCool

January 3rd, 2011
5:16 pm

I am, you may not BE ditzy, but your blog persona certainly reads as if you are easily given to flights of fancy and a bit of eccentricity.

Celisea

January 3rd, 2011
5:16 pm

I don’t think it is PR…I was seriously thinking about that…at all times it’s moving

2CPTG

January 3rd, 2011
5:17 pm

take your award in stride……

Celisea

January 3rd, 2011
5:19 pm

Yet another random:

I don’t have a New Year’s resolution but I’m getting off these 8 pounds I’m carrying…I’ve done really well keeping down almost 25 pounds for the last 2 years…can’t fail now. I think I’ve dropped a couple already. I walked Friday, Saturday and today…yaaah me.

Celisea

January 3rd, 2011
5:21 pm

I think the mind can be lifted to a spitual realm but never blank…I’m gonna google it