Dating: Do we still need the chase?
You can predict how some conversations about love and sex will unfold among a group of men and women. Not unlike the discussions we have on the Misadventures in Atlanta blog, you realize how differently men and women think.
I think that seeing different perspectives can be quite enlightening though! Some of the best revelations I’ve had about men have come from talking to men about men.
I remember a group of us were having dinner to celebrate one of our friend’s birthday. That evening turned into what we called The Great Chase Debate of 2010 because we ended up having a heated debate about chasing and pursuing someone you are interested in. I was surprised to hear the women say men in Atlanta don’t pursue them.
A few of the men admitted that they really don’t “chase” women all that much. One of the guys even said that a lot of women in Atlanta make it super easy for them em> not to chase.
Interestingly enough, the argument got most heated when we debated whether “modern day” dating scene even had a need for pursuing a chase. How often do you see men persistent about getting a woman to go out with them?
Do women still want to play hard to get? Are men interested in chasing and pursuing women?
What do you guys think? Has the way men pursue women changed all that much?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Blog
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Purple Rain
January 3rd, 2011
2:57 pm
Purple Rain
January 3rd, 2011
2:58 pm
Fire & Desire!
i'm swiss™
January 3rd, 2011
2:58 pm
Slim — Do you make your kegel balls with rum or bourbon?
2CPTG©--"that dude from da innanet"
January 3rd, 2011
2:58 pm
Purp….you can have her back….her sh!t sittin on the curb as we speak…
Celisea
January 3rd, 2011
2:59 pm
2Can – Purp….you can have her back….her sh!t sittin on the curb as we speak…
Thanks…you got too many wives entyway AND you didn’t keep good on our handshake…
Purple Rain
January 3rd, 2011
2:59 pm
2CPTG, why are you acting like this wasn’t the plan all along. Who are we swapping next…what you got? LOL
Purple Rain
January 3rd, 2011
3:01 pm
Some men win women over by courting them, dating them, showering the with lavish gifts, time and food. I just threaten to set them on fire…..so far so good.
Celisea
January 3rd, 2011
3:01 pm
PR – 2CPTG, why are you acting like this wasn’t the plan all along. Who are we swapping next…what you got?
Uuuh! So it’s like that huh? Gon head and show out in front of company today. Remember that when you come aknocking.
SlimNumeroUno
January 3rd, 2011
3:01 pm
‘Do you make your kegel balls with rum or bourbon?’
swiss – um…they’re made out of stainless steel But after a few reps, I like to drink a little cranberry juice…gotta keep the tract clean.
Purple Rain
January 3rd, 2011
3:04 pm
Celisea, you know I am just trying to be cool in front of the guys.
2CPTG©--"that dude from da innanet"
January 3rd, 2011
3:05 pm
Purp….I cain’t let you have my “ace”!!! The other one, the jury is still out on her….but my boo-skeezie, nah bruh!!!!
Purple Rain
January 3rd, 2011
3:05 pm
Slim, LOL
Celisea
January 3rd, 2011
3:05 pm
PR – Celisea, you know I am just trying to be cool in front of the guys.
Back pedaling is so not sexy
cba
January 3rd, 2011
3:06 pm
Best “beat down of the year”, Kym on miss perfect
Purple Rain
January 3rd, 2011
3:06 pm
2CPTG, sharing is caring!
AmazonRed™ - beat up her alarm clock
January 3rd, 2011
3:06 pm
Celisea always throws me because of the newer name. It’s like, clearly she’s been on here a while, but the “name” is still like a newbie to me so I always forget. You had a “lu.rker” name before, right?
i'm swiss™
January 3rd, 2011
3:08 pm
Slim — That’s cool. My balls a brass. Here, let me bring you some cranberry juice…
[Clang, clang. Clang, clang.]
2CPTG©--"that dude from da innanet"
January 3rd, 2011
3:08 pm
cba, yeah man, that ass whoopin sent her into retirement!
Celisea
January 3rd, 2011
3:08 pm
AmazonRed – Yep…been here since the old MIA days…”Sexy” and “Scorned” to “Scorned No Mo” to “Raqi” and “2CanPlayThatGame” and a couple of others
i'm swiss™
January 3rd, 2011
3:08 pm
oops… “are” not “a”
Purple Rain
January 3rd, 2011
3:08 pm
Who is miss perfect?
Celisea
January 3rd, 2011
3:09 pm
Yeah, Kym should have gotten some sort of honorable mention…that was a day to remember…LOL
Purple Rain
January 3rd, 2011
3:09 pm
Oh okay I know now.
AmazonRed™ - beat up her alarm clock
January 3rd, 2011
3:10 pm
Best “beat down of the year”, Kym on miss perfect
Damn…I missed it! Anyone remember the topic that day???
So far, I’ve gone this whole year without a blog showdown #gome!
Purple Rain
January 3rd, 2011
3:10 pm
Kym came out of the corner that day with nothing but mass destruction on her mind.
Purple Rain
January 3rd, 2011
3:12 pm
Amazon it is only the 3rd day of this year, here have a trophy
Celisea
January 3rd, 2011
3:12 pm
ARed – Damn…I missed it! Anyone remember the topic that day???
OMG, that was hi la ri ous….should have been just a couple of months back…I believe. It was ALLLL day too LOL
2CPTG©--"that dude from da innanet"
January 3rd, 2011
3:13 pm
C, we ain’t hubby and wife no more….don’t be puttin my blog gov’t name out there like that!
cba
January 3rd, 2011
3:13 pm
Celisea, as I recalled, you also threw a couple of jabs ( honorable mentioned)
AmazonRed™ - beat up her alarm clock
January 3rd, 2011
3:15 pm
Kym has also been a worthy adversary. Fortunately, she hasn’t really come after me. But the force is strong with that one too!
Leggs
January 3rd, 2011
3:16 pm
Must admit, that should have been a category. Ms. Kym held her ground without even a drop of sweat appearing on her brow!!!
Can’t give honorable mention for something that didn’t have a category, but one again, KUDOS!
AmazonRed™ - beat up her alarm clock
January 3rd, 2011
3:16 pm
OMG, that was hi la ri ous….should have been just a couple of months back…I believe. It was ALLLL day too LOL
Damn, I’m gonna go to the archives. Was the blog name actually “miss perfect?” cuz it will come up quick if I google it since it’s not a regular screen name!
2CPTG©--"that dude from da innanet"
January 3rd, 2011
3:16 pm
“But the force is strong with that one too!”
gal, you on a roll, wit it!!!
AmazonRed™ - beat up her alarm clock
January 3rd, 2011
3:17 pm
Amazon it is only the 3rd day of this year, here have a trophy
Purple Rain
January 3rd, 2011
3:17 pm
Amazon on that day King Kong, did not have anything on Kim. I am just happy it was on the blog and not in person. LOL
2CPTG©--"that dude from da innanet"
January 3rd, 2011
3:17 pm
nah, A Red, that tiff was between her and Professor….
Celisea
January 3rd, 2011
3:18 pm
2CanPlayThatGame – Are you still talking? We are done (said while my new husband help me gather my belongings from the curb). Oh, I’m suing for breach of contract…and I’ll call you whatever I wish…2CANPLAYTHATGAME!!!!
cba – If my recollection is on point, it was actually me and “her”, Kym and “her” and I think “her” making snide remarks at a couple of the other ladies. So she felt froggy the next day and didn’t see that baseball bat waiting…LOL But thanks…I think
You know Imma laaaady
SexyCool
January 3rd, 2011
3:18 pm
It’s funny that we have a couple of past bloggers who seem to be like Lord Voldemort – “the one whose name must not be mentioned. ”
Can I just say that I don’t miss them or the energy that they brought with ‘em one bit?
Purple Rain
January 3rd, 2011
3:19 pm
LOL
cba
January 3rd, 2011
3:20 pm
I believe in was around July, before school started.
Purple Rain
January 3rd, 2011
3:21 pm
Celisea, yes that was the day I knew I had to have you by my side in 2038. LOL
Celisea
January 3rd, 2011
3:21 pm
ARed – I think if you google “dirty diana”
Purple Rain
January 3rd, 2011
3:21 pm
I thought it was August September time frame It was last year, for sure. LOL
i'm swiss™
January 3rd, 2011
3:21 pm
Off topic: Ah sweet! The 58-in 3D flat-screen is being delivered Wednesday! Just in time for
p0rnthe playoffs!AmazonRed™ - beat up her alarm clock
January 3rd, 2011
3:22 pm
nah, A Red, that tiff was between her and Professor….
What?! Cuz Professor could hold it down on here! I wonder where that chick went. It must have been epic!!!
Celisea
January 3rd, 2011
3:23 pm
PR – Celisea, yes that was the day I knew I had to have you by my side in 2038.
Ut uh we are done and 2038 has been cancelled. You still tryna give away that trophy? ha ha ha…2038 CANCELLED…OFFICIALLY You can redeem yourself if you want…I’m open
That will call for heavy negotiations though
2CPTG©--"that dude from da innanet"
January 3rd, 2011
3:24 pm
ain’t professor and Dirty D one and the same?
if not, then I’m mistaken, cause it was Kym, and DD…
Celisea
January 3rd, 2011
3:25 pm
Yeah…the same
Celisea
January 3rd, 2011
3:25 pm
I just mentioned the other name cause ARed mentioned googling
Purple Rain
January 3rd, 2011
3:26 pm
Celisea, get your ass in this house. That was a different trophy
Amazon, Key word search on google: “misadventures dirty diana kym barbie money married men”
That should bring it right up