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Dating: Do we still need the chase?

You can predict how some conversations about love and sex will unfold among a group of men and women. Not unlike the discussions we have on the Misadventures in Atlanta blog, you realize how differently men and women think.

I think that seeing different perspectives can be quite enlightening though! Some of the best revelations I’ve had about men have come from talking to men about men.

I remember a group of us were having dinner to celebrate one of our friend’s birthday. That evening turned into what we called The Great Chase Debate of 2010 because we ended up having a heated debate about chasing and pursuing someone you are interested in. I was surprised to hear the women say men in Atlanta don’t pursue them.

A few of the men admitted that they really don’t “chase” women all that much. One of the guys even said that a lot of women in Atlanta make it super easy for them em> not to chase.

Interestingly enough, the argument got most heated when we debated whether “modern day” dating scene even had a need for pursuing a chase. How often do you see men persistent about getting a woman to go out with them?

Do women still want to play hard to get? Are men interested in chasing and pursuing women?

What do you guys think? Has the way men pursue women changed all that much?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Blog

452 comments Add your comment

Purple Rain

January 3rd, 2011
2:12 pm

Look at this!

Purple Rain

January 3rd, 2011
2:12 pm

SlimNumeroUno

January 3rd, 2011
2:13 pm

Ared – well maybe she can sneak and scape it for him….just have a small pair of those hair scissors nearby whenever she gets ready to face the jungle gym and trim it over a period of time…I believe that once he does it, he’ll actually become fond of the new look. Hopefully the face that it looks longer will be the kicker

Purple Rain

January 3rd, 2011
2:14 pm

For the Category of Man most likely to ask/show another man his pubes: “Meeelloo”

i'm swiss™

January 3rd, 2011
2:14 pm

ARed — Yeah, Purple’s right… dudes don’t talk about that kind of thing w/ other dudes. Some of us just figure out that we get more oral service when we clear the underbrush… :lol:

BlackMagicWoman

January 3rd, 2011
2:14 pm

SLIM….you get a time out! :lol: Girl you are straight CRAZY!

PURPLE…I asked for 2:15 because I have a staff meeting at 2:30…Now what??? :lol: Yes I can! and Yes I did! :lol:

LEGGS….My dad got 3 scratch offs in a Christmas card…he one to my mother and me. We all scratched ours…and I won $50. They got a rock! :lol: I bought a nice size bottle of Hennesy and added it to my Coquito. It was a Merry Christmas indeed. :lol:

Purple Rain

January 3rd, 2011
2:15 pm

She should just spill some nair on him. Ok, I just realized what I am talking about, change of subject. Time for the Awards show.

AmazonRed™ - beat up her alarm clock

January 3rd, 2011
2:15 pm

PR – I think once the wife complains, he’d have reason to ask his boys about it…

Or at least take a peep in the men’s locker room for comparison purposes. :lol:

i'm swiss™

January 3rd, 2011
2:16 pm

“well maybe she can sneak and scape it for him…”

Slim — She could try the Flowbee — kill 2 birds with one stone: it sucks & cuts at the same time… :lol:

Purple Rain

January 3rd, 2011
2:16 pm

Swiss and her tongue on bald balls feels better than her tongue on carpeted balls

AmazonRed™ - beat up her alarm clock

January 3rd, 2011
2:16 pm

Ared – well maybe she can sneak and scape it for him….

She said she did take scissors to it once while he was sleeping. It didn’t go over too well.

He should have known how serious it is to her if she has to resort to that!!! :lol:

Leggs

January 3rd, 2011
2:16 pm

******DRUMROLL PEASE ******* AND THE WINNERS OF 2010 BLOG AWARDS GOES TO:

Best Posts = kimmie
Best comebacks = SexyC
Most creative = SlimNU
Most serious = dan
Most Beloved = Leggs
Most Analytical = abc
Most “Huh” moments = I am
Best Moniker = Willie Dynamite
Worst Moniker = White Man
Most wittiest = SlimNU
Best Recap = For Real
Most Combative = Professor
Most loved for their understanding of life = Raqi
Most don’t care what they say = African Guy
Most Intellectual = abc
Knows everything google doesn’t know = I’m swiss Most corniest = Leggs
Most realist = 2CPTG
Most horniest = African Guy
Most likely to live up to their blog persona = BMW
Most clueless = I am
Most chattiest = Leggs
Most friendliest = Leggs
Longevity = SexyC
Most Popular = Leggs

Please note: Only a little over a handful of bloggers sent in their votes. The results are what they are from what was sent.

Purple Rain

January 3rd, 2011
2:17 pm

Black, LOL

Amazon, and how will that play out in a locker room while he is meat gazing? He will get punched or raped.

kimmie

January 3rd, 2011
2:18 pm

Thank you Trevor!

Leggs – You inspire me to get back into lotto! I’m definitely going to play my birthday – 117.

Purple Rain

January 3rd, 2011
2:19 pm

LOL, I Am is a ditz. LOL

Leggs

January 3rd, 2011
2:19 pm

If there are any protests, please note Blogsville turns a deaf ear to protests! :wink:

Purple Rain

January 3rd, 2011
2:19 pm

Scissors while sleeping, only a woman can come up with that idea

BlackMagicWoman

January 3rd, 2011
2:20 pm

“Hmm. Never would have thought you dug red-heads…”

SWISS…you go in the time out corner with Slim! :lol:

As fas as Manscaping…hell yes I prefer it. I Landscape so there is no APB being put out for you stating that you were last seen taking a dive in the promise land of BMW’s valley! :lol: Not to mention is cleaner. Now I have no problem singing on my man’s microphone. But I do not want a pubic dental floss at the end of my solo! :lol: Do re mi fa so la ti doooooo (now sucking my teeth because something’s in it) No sir!

kimmie

January 3rd, 2011
2:20 pm

Best Posts – Why thank you Blog Fam! I want to first thank God. Then my mama and my man. Then, the members of the Academy! :lol:

AmazonRed™ - beat up her alarm clock

January 3rd, 2011
2:21 pm

Amazon, and how will that play out in a locker room while he is meat gazing? He will get punched or raped.

Yeah, I admit I have no idea how he’s supposed to get his info…but come on…how can he be one of the only dudes out there not manscaping???? How did you learn to do it?

Purple Rain

January 3rd, 2011
2:21 pm

Black, you just turned me on for some reason. LOL

i'm swiss™

January 3rd, 2011
2:21 pm

“She said she did take scissors to it once while he was sleeping. It didn’t go over too well.”

ARed:shock: That was a dangerous maneuver on her part. Man Law Code, Section 206.19 clearly states that if you ever wake up to find a chic hovering over your wang with scissors, you may legally kill that b!tch & claim self defense. :lol:

Sassy Me...Onward and Upward :-)

January 3rd, 2011
2:22 pm

Congrats to all the winners!!

SlimNumeroUno

January 3rd, 2011
2:22 pm

‘She could try the Flowbee — kill 2 birds with one stone: it sucks & cuts at the same time’

OMG I AM CRYING!!!!!!!!! Swiss – go to timeout now until I clean all this oatmeal cookie off my keyboard. (I just can’t eat or drink around yall) :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

BlackMagicWoman

January 3rd, 2011
2:22 pm

OMG…OMG!!!! I am so shocked…and honored to be receiving this award today. (sniff sniff) I’d like to thank the lil’ people! :lol:

Leggs is all over the awards! :lol:

AmazonRed™ - beat up her alarm clock

January 3rd, 2011
2:22 pm

Okay fellas :lol: Well, what do you suggest she do????

2CPTG©--"that dude from da innanet"

January 3rd, 2011
2:24 pm

“LOL, I Am is a ditz. LOL”

that seems to be the concensus…..lol

i'm swiss™

January 3rd, 2011
2:24 pm

“Well, what do you suggest she do????”

ARed — Boycott until he trims that mess. That’ll get the point across real quick.

SexyCool

January 3rd, 2011
2:25 pm

“First, I would like to thank God and my momma.”

Purple Rain

January 3rd, 2011
2:25 pm

I learned to shave the jewels because I lost a bet to a woman, and then afterwards I learned the enjoyment of having smooth balls. The upper area I just started cutting on my own. Less sweat, cooler, I free ball sometimes and don’t want the hair caught in my zipper. LOL

But never ever shave everything off guys, when it grows back folks will think that you have crabs or something from you scratching all of the time

Leggs

January 3rd, 2011
2:27 pm

@kimmie ~ the frustrating thing is when you stop…that’s when your number usually falls. You will throw away some dollars before you hit. It depends on what your threshold is when you see you’re not winning. Let me say this, 117 is a good number. Play it straight and box. Another thing, I usually don’t play midday. Pick which one you prefer.

@PR ~ stop that laughing. Anybody surprised by anything?

SexyCool

January 3rd, 2011
2:27 pm

SexyCool interrupting SexyCool….

“Wait. I’ma let you finish. But er um, ARed has the best comebacks OF ALL TIME!”

*kanye shrug*

kimmie

January 3rd, 2011
2:28 pm

Thanx Leggs! I’m ready to win BIG!

AmazonRed™ - beat up her alarm clock

January 3rd, 2011
2:28 pm

I learned to shave the jewels because I lost a bet to a woman,

Yeah, I learned cuz some guy was on his way to paradise :lol: and said he needed a machete. (I kid, but basically his comment did raise my awareness that perhaps going native was not the only option!!! :oops: )

2CPTG©--"that dude from da innanet"

January 3rd, 2011
2:29 pm

“ARed has the best comebacks OF ALL TIME!”

I concur….

AmazonRed™ - beat up her alarm clock

January 3rd, 2011
2:29 pm

:lol: Thanks SCool. You’re no scrub tho. It’s so much better to bicker with folks who can actually deliver a worthy comeback! ;)

Purple Rain

January 3rd, 2011
2:30 pm

2CPTG, lol seems to be. I wonder if she is an ugly ditz or a pretty one. LOL

Swiss, how can you suggest that a man get boycotted? C’mon Man! LOL She can just take a shower with him lather him up real good. Give him a hand job with one hand and do some trimming with the other…or just spill hair removal on him. At this point though if he has never shaved it maybe she can braid it or he may qualify for the Guiness Book of World Records.

Leggs

January 3rd, 2011
2:30 pm

I too would like to thank all of you who voted for me. I am humbled and honored. I will stop at the likka stor and get a 40 oz and pour some out as a nod to all of your nominations. (pppsssst, can only do that with beer cuz my favorite drink is too expensive to even let a drop go to waste)…again, thank you (mama, you see me curtsey?)

AmazonRed™ - beat up her alarm clock

January 3rd, 2011
2:30 pm

Cuz arguing with folks like Angie and I am makes me seem like I’m picking on the kid who wears the helmet to school. :lol:

Celisea

January 3rd, 2011
2:31 pm

“ARed has the best comebacks OF ALL TIME!”

I concur….

I 3rd that…those seem waaay off. Too, Raqi have some of the best posts I’ve read on here..

SexyCool

January 3rd, 2011
2:31 pm

I know…it probably would have helped if I’d actually nominated and/or voted. But…I was busy doing nothing last week.

AmazonRed™ - beat up her alarm clock

January 3rd, 2011
2:31 pm

I think Slim has the best comebacks cuz she’s so funny you are laughing too hard to think of anything in response.

Purple Rain

January 3rd, 2011
2:32 pm

Amazon, for some reason I am watching bushy women in flicks now. It’s turning me on more than the clean cut ones. LOL

Leggs, it’s just funny to me because I know some folks have met here and then for a few days last year I thought she had lost her mind due to what she was posting. LOL

i'm swiss™

January 3rd, 2011
2:32 pm

“Swiss, how can you suggest that a man get boycotted?”

You’re right, Purple, I was wrong for that. Here’s a better idea, ARed: I’ll come over and allow his girl to demonstrate (on The Matterhorn) how much more enjoyable it is for her to service a clean-cut wang. That should get the message across… :lol:

Leggs

January 3rd, 2011
2:32 pm

I triple that ARed has the best comebacks, but I couldn’t fudge the results. Now, you got a better understanding of American Idol results and DWTS (LOLOL)?

AmazonRed™ - beat up her alarm clock

January 3rd, 2011
2:34 pm

it probably would have helped if I’d actually nominated and/or voted. But…I was busy doing nothing last week.

:idea: :idea: :idea:

Leggs

January 3rd, 2011
2:34 pm

OK…

Honorable mention: ARED with best comebacks for 2010!!!! YIPPEE HOORAY! :lol: :lol:

AmazonRed™ - beat up her alarm clock

January 3rd, 2011
2:35 pm

Looks like I win by write in! :lol:

I long suspected some of y’all pick on me just to see what I’d sling back with!!!! ;)

Purple Rain

January 3rd, 2011
2:35 pm

Amazon, has the “best comebacks”
SexyCool, has the “best one line zingers”
Black winning the most likely to live up to her blog persona is BULL! She did not show up to the Havana club when my brother, I and Julia waited on her. LOL

2CPTG©--"that dude from da innanet"

January 3rd, 2011
2:36 pm

“Cuz arguing with folks like Angie and I am makes me seem like I’m picking on the kid who wears the helmet to school.”

see what I mean…..lawd hammercy!