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Dating: Do we still need the chase?

You can predict how some conversations about love and sex will unfold among a group of men and women. Not unlike the discussions we have on the Misadventures in Atlanta blog, you realize how differently men and women think.

I think that seeing different perspectives can be quite enlightening though! Some of the best revelations I’ve had about men have come from talking to men about men.

I remember a group of us were having dinner to celebrate one of our friend’s birthday. That evening turned into what we called The Great Chase Debate of 2010 because we ended up having a heated debate about chasing and pursuing someone you are interested in. I was surprised to hear the women say men in Atlanta don’t pursue them.

A few of the men admitted that they really don’t “chase” women all that much. One of the guys even said that a lot of women in Atlanta make it super easy for them em> not to chase.

Interestingly enough, the argument got most heated when we debated whether “modern day” dating scene even had a need for pursuing a chase. How often do you see men persistent about getting a woman to go out with them?

Do women still want to play hard to get? Are men interested in chasing and pursuing women?

What do you guys think? Has the way men pursue women changed all that much?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Blog

452 comments Add your comment

kimmie

January 3rd, 2011
12:19 pm

you all know that I am really going to have to act up this afternoon since I am being all mushy this morning LOL)

Purple Olive – I would expect nothing less! :lol:

Purple Rain

January 3rd, 2011
12:22 pm

Now where are the Scarlet Letter wearers? Easy one’s only please

Leggs

January 3rd, 2011
12:30 pm

@PR ~ wouldn’t expect anything else from you. And, we all know how happy she makes you feel. When two people love each other and are on the same page in almost everything, the snags of life are so much easier to deal with you.

I’m happy for all of you that are in love!!! Keep working it because the reward is priceless.

Purple Rain

January 3rd, 2011
12:31 pm

i'm swiss™

January 3rd, 2011
12:40 pm

“I loves me some Swiss!”

Back at ‘ya, BMW. Now, when are you going to come over & teach Mrs. Swiss some of those naked belly dancing moves while I video? :lol:

BlackMagicWoman

January 3rd, 2011
12:41 pm

Hey did we scare the rest of the guys away? Purple and Swiss, where is your other h0rny cohort? :lol:

Leggs….shall we expect the winners to be revealed around 2:15?

Purple Rain

January 3rd, 2011
12:50 pm

Black, I do not know. I always ask about people and never get an answer so I stopped asking. LOL

BlackMagicWoman

January 3rd, 2011
12:52 pm

Purple…gotcha!

SWISS…you ole nasty boy you! :lol:

2CPTG©--"that dude from da innanet"

January 3rd, 2011
12:53 pm

Purp, BMW, the other “cohort” has been sentenced to an undetermined length of time to Blogsville Correctional Institution….

Purple Rain

January 3rd, 2011
12:56 pm

Serving time. LOL

Trevor0529

January 3rd, 2011
1:02 pm

the other “cohort” has been sentenced to an undetermined length of time to Blogsville Correctional Institution

However, if you say his name five times, he will appear.

Wishing everyone in Blogsville a happy, healthy and prosperous new year.

@Kimmie, congratulations to you and your fiance’ on your upcoming wedding.

Purple Rain

January 3rd, 2011
1:02 pm

I am thinking that the stars are aligning for the Falcons to win the Superbowl…everyone is going to take each other during the playoffs and the Falcon will catch a team on the sly and beat them

Sassy Me...Onward and Upward :-)

January 3rd, 2011
1:06 pm

Wishing everyone in Blogsville a happy, healthy and prosperous new year.

Right back atcha Trevor and to the whole blog familia,too!!

Purple Rain

January 3rd, 2011
1:10 pm

Where is Simple Man, is he holding the missing blog women hostage in his basement?

SlimNumeroUno

January 3rd, 2011
1:15 pm

Howdy there Purple Passion! ;-)

Purple Rain

January 3rd, 2011
1:21 pm

SlimNumeroUno

January 3rd, 2011
1:24 pm

swiss – please take off that Yogi Bear costume…seems as if ever since you put it on and started dry humping the air, everyone cleared out. Not into the furries thingy. :lol:

Sassy Me...Onward and Upward :-)

January 3rd, 2011
1:30 pm

seems as if ever since you put it on and started dry humping the air, everyone cleared out.

:lol:

Purple Rain

January 3rd, 2011
1:33 pm

I am tired of standing on this red carper waiting on the Awards show to begin. Where is Leggs?

i'm swiss™

January 3rd, 2011
1:35 pm

“please take off that Yogi Bear costume…seems as if ever since you put it on and started dry humping the air, everyone cleared out. Not into the furries thingy.”

Slim — Costume? What costume? Dang, let me go do a little man-scaping, then… :lol:

SlimNumeroUno

January 3rd, 2011
1:35 pm

Purp – maybe she is on CP time….maybe you got the date wrong…did you check the invitation thoroughly? lol

SlimNumeroUno

January 3rd, 2011
1:38 pm

swiss – :shock: :shock: Daaaaaaaaayum!!!! :lol:

AmazonRed™ - beat up her alarm clock

January 3rd, 2011
1:39 pm

Aww…I love love! I’m glad our marrieds and soon to be marrieds are so happy!

Purple Rain

January 3rd, 2011
1:40 pm

Swiss, LOL

Slim, she said after lunch. LOL

AmazonRed™ - beat up her alarm clock

January 3rd, 2011
1:41 pm

Dang, let me go do a little man-scaping, then…

My friends husband…he refuses to manscape. He thinks it’s gay :? In the meantime, she’s having trouble finding his johnson through the forest, and when she does, she usually is coughing up a hairball when it’s all said and done.

I guess one reason I’m not married, cuz I would boycott til the problem was fixed!!!

Bill

January 3rd, 2011
1:42 pm

I hated the chase. It is a game and no one wins except in the movies. My experience when I met my wife is that we recognized each other from day 1. That does not mean that I did not have to perform a normal courtship and convince her that I truly was who I was – but if you are HONEST and do not resort to trickery and such, good things can and do happen.

Leggs

January 3rd, 2011
1:43 pm

:lol: :lol: :lol: @PR, I actually have some work to do and lunch to eat. I was asked to post at 2:15. Posting will take place at 2:15.

SlimNumeroUno

January 3rd, 2011
1:45 pm

’she’s having trouble finding his johnson through the forest, and when she does, she usually is coughing up a hairball when it’s all said and done.’

Ared – I think you need to get the windex & paper towels again. :lol: :lol: Her hubby doesn’t have to go straight baby’s bottom on the scaping, just a mild nip, tuck, trim would suffice i’m sure. Cuz somma these menfolk pubs are longer than the hair on their head. Maybe you could suggest she try to cornroll it…

Sassy Me...Onward and Upward :-)

January 3rd, 2011
1:45 pm

she usually is coughing up a hairball when it’s all said and done.

:shock: ….cough..cough..

Her dude would definitely get the point if she boycotted…

AmazonRed™ - beat up her alarm clock

January 3rd, 2011
1:47 pm

Her hubby doesn’t have to go straight baby’s bottom on the scaping, just a mild nip, tuck, trim would suffice i’m sure.

I mean seriously! She jokes that she can cornrow it! :lol:

Besides, doesn’t manscaping make the johnson look…longer???? :lol:

Sassy Me...Onward and Upward :-)

January 3rd, 2011
1:47 pm

Maybe you could suggest she try to cornroll it…

:lol: What a visual…you guys slay mee.. :mrgreen:

BlackMagicWoman

January 3rd, 2011
1:48 pm

Purple…..you know I loves me a Red Carpet! I am ready for my close up! :lol:

SlimNumeroUno

January 3rd, 2011
1:54 pm

BMW – after your mention of having that celeb CT, it’s hard to take you then mentioning RED CARPET…ready for a close up is giving me a visual that is questionable at this point. :lol: :lol: You try throwing these things in a mental blender and tell me what you come up with:

Red Carpet
Celeb CT
Close up

:shock: :oops:

Leggs

January 3rd, 2011
1:54 pm

Any of you played my birthday cash 3? I told you it was a good number but you have to keep playing it….Yep 129 = $500 straight.

AmazonRed™ - beat up her alarm clock

January 3rd, 2011
1:57 pm

Any of you played my birthday cash 3? I told you it was a good number but you have to keep playing it….Yep 129 = $500 straight.

We need to get together soon so you can rub some of that luck on me.

I started buying scratch offs, which I’ve never done before, cuz of you!

2CPTG©--"that dude from da innanet"

January 3rd, 2011
2:01 pm

just outta curiosity, A Red I see you mentioned you kept up with tradition by allowing a man to be the first to cross the threshold on New Year’s Day…I, too, adhere to those old customs….any idea where it comes from….I just do it ’cause that’s how I was raised…

Purple Rain

January 3rd, 2011
2:02 pm

Leggs, who asked for 2:15, I missed that vote.

Black, Red Carpet does now sound to attractive like the Celeb CT does. LOL

Amazon, your friend told you about her husbands wang getting lost in the forest? So that means his pubes are longer than his wang. Your poor poor friend and her husbands little curly fry wang. LOL

AmazonRed™ - beat up her alarm clock

January 3rd, 2011
2:04 pm

2Can – I’m not certain of where it comes from either. I know I didn’t do it last year, so I’m not taking any chances with this one! :lol:

Leggs

January 3rd, 2011
2:04 pm

@ARed ~ scratch offs are good. Have you won anything. Like PoppaG would say, try the big dollars (MegaMillions, Win4Life). Cash 3 is fun and much easier.

@2C ~ that’s one NYE tradition I also adhere to. Last year I went and got my neighbor, this year he voluntarily came over (LOLOL).

Leggs

January 3rd, 2011
2:05 pm

@PR ~ no vote, BMW asked for that time.

AmazonRed™ - beat up her alarm clock

January 3rd, 2011
2:05 pm

PR – I’m sure she’s exaggerating, but if he NEVER manscapes, perhaps she isn’t. I mean, that’s years and years worth of pube growth!!!

Maybe we’d find Jimmy Hoffa under there. :lol:

AmazonRed™ - beat up her alarm clock

January 3rd, 2011
2:06 pm

Leggs – The most I’ve won is $3. And I’m feeling some kind of way about the Asians at the likka store starting to recognize me.

I’ll feel better after I win some real money! :lol:

Purple Rain

January 3rd, 2011
2:08 pm

Amazon, your friend must love that jungle for it to grow like that. LOL, Stuff is cooler and cleaner down there when I cut my own down, plus you can see what’s going on down there better. I am really laughing because women will talk about anything with their friends. “Yeah my man refuses to shave his pubes, I get lost down there” LOL

Leggs, who is BMW to be making requests like that? I thought this was a Democracy….Yes we can! LOL

AmazonRed™ - beat up her alarm clock

January 3rd, 2011
2:08 pm

Wait, the most I won was $10. Big difference. :lol: :arrow:

i'm swiss™

January 3rd, 2011
2:09 pm

“…he refuses to manscape. He thinks it’s gay”

ARed — Well, I guess he can just call me gay then, ‘cos I gotta keep the playground properly manicured… :lol:

AmazonRed™ - beat up her alarm clock

January 3rd, 2011
2:09 pm

Amazon, your friend must love that jungle for it to grow like that. LOL

She hates it, which is why we know about it. My advice was to boycott!!!

AmazonRed™ - beat up her alarm clock

January 3rd, 2011
2:10 pm

Well, I guess he can just call me gay then, ‘cos I gotta keep the playground properly manicured

He needs some male friends he can talk to. Cuz he doesn’t believe that dudes do it. I’d require it!

Purple Rain

January 3rd, 2011
2:11 pm

I have never spoken to another man about my womans bush or lack thereof or have I gone up to a guy “Hey man do you think I need to shave my pubes?” LOL

i'm swiss™

January 3rd, 2011
2:11 pm

“..you know I loves me a Red Carpet!”

BMW — Hmm. Never would have thought you dug red-heads…

Leggs

January 3rd, 2011
2:11 pm

@PR ~ BMW has some clout here in Blogsville. That’s all I can say. :lol: :lol: