Boomerang: When BAD dating karma finds you
I think every single woman needs a male friend. It’s one of the most enlightening relationships you can have because it gives you a chance to see men in a unfiltered, uncensored state. My guy friends are fairly candid with me about what they feel, how they deal, and the way they think. It has saved me a boatload of therapy to know them!
When they are going through a tough break up, I try to be supportive. I have seen them in their player days when they didn’t care so much about heartbreak they caused. I have also witnessed the moment when they realize that a female has “their nose wide open” and they are vulnerable for the first time ever.
This is when they get a little taste of what women go through. Men deal with breakups differently then we do but they definitely feel it as deeply as we do, especially when cheating was involved!
How do men deal with break-ups? From what I can tell, a lot of booze and sport fixation. They begin to meet as many women as possible to forget the one that betrayed him. Of course, this doesn’t do anything but distract them temporarily.
Have you ever watched someone who was a player suddenly get a little taste of what they put others through? Were you a heart breaker that seemed to get a little of that heartbreak back in one bad breakup or relationship?
What did you learn when you bad karma caught up to you? Do you think it changed how you handled dating after that experience?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Blog
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2CPTG©--"that dude from da innanet"
December 28th, 2010
4:03 pm
“Toucan – that’s just like my FB post from the other day, “Unless you saw me do it, I didn’t do it. And if you *think* you saw me do it, I’m pretty sure you were just seeing things.”
touche’….”believe none of what you hear, and only some of what you see!”
Purple Rain
December 28th, 2010
4:05 pm
Blogger we’d like to hunch? Ok I will do my list here in the open for every category. LOL
Celisea
December 28th, 2010
4:06 pm
I’ve actually gotten a good bit of work done today
I feel guilty like a mug when I blog and hardly work…for real…I do
DreamsMaterialize
December 28th, 2010
4:07 pm
Ok so I’m campaigning for
“Blogger you’d like to give some” from the ladies.
That one’s not on the list, so you can just send your vote to me personally. hahaha
Leggs
December 28th, 2010
4:08 pm
@Celisea ~ ok, I’ll go with the latter.
I have to skiddaddle. Boss in Mississippi and just pdf me a questionnaire with about 150 revisions. Check in on you guys tomorrow. Keep sending me your award nominations. Thank yhou.
ATL Guy
December 28th, 2010
4:09 pm
Celisea just typed what I was thinking … you all need to get a Life & Do Something Productive !!! How bout that for Dating Karma …
2CPTG©--"that dude from da innanet"
December 28th, 2010
4:12 pm
aiiight, C, here’s my initial offer:
Your own wing in the house, weekly allowance, own personal assistant, car with driver, healthcare, and “family” credit card for your own incidentals and expenses.
Celisea
December 28th, 2010
4:16 pm
2Can – Deal…where do I sign?
2CPTG©--"that dude from da innanet"
December 28th, 2010
4:17 pm
“2Can – Deal…where do I sign?”
a handshake still works for me!
ATL Guy
December 28th, 2010
4:19 pm
What is this … Mail Order Bride !?!?
Purple Rain
December 28th, 2010
4:20 pm
Celisea, what are the nights that 2CPTG, lets you have off?
Celisea
December 28th, 2010
4:20 pm
Atl Guy…no mail order here, we’re sealing the deal in person…2Can don’t know it yet.
2Can – No handshakes, you might renig…I need paper contracts and we need to meet somewhere in the middle so I can sign hard copies….K?
mytw♥cents
December 28th, 2010
4:21 pm
LEGGS I never heard that term till I got down here and went to college. Sounds like a hump is a hump is a hunch. And I agree wholeheartedly with your assessment about the futuility of it all. I don’t think most get involved with it unless it’s categorized under foreplay.
TenderRoni
December 28th, 2010
4:21 pm
sweet deal…lol
Celisea
December 28th, 2010
4:22 pm
PR – Celisea, what are the nights that 2CPTG, lets you have off?
Seeing I just became betrothed (I think…ain’t that what we were doing), Imma start off right and let him take the reigns…I can’t go in all bossy and overstepping my hubby to be. Dear (2Can) you can to answer. If you get no response PR I guess the silence would be the obvious answer
SexyCool
December 28th, 2010
4:23 pm
“What is this … Mail Order Bride !?!?”
See…this is what happens when individuals come in on the tail-end of a conversation.
All up in the Kool-Aid…..
Purple Rain
December 28th, 2010
4:23 pm
Celisea, I have a feeling that I should have picked a year that was sooner than 2038, 2CPTG leave some for me. LOL
Celisea
December 28th, 2010
4:23 pm
….and don’t know the flava…k that was corny but that’s how we use to say it
Celisea
December 28th, 2010
4:25 pm
PR – No worries…dear By year 2038 I will have had a new everything added/put in/replaced. You shouldn’t have to work with seconds. Nothing but the nu nu for you….dear
DreamsMaterialize
December 28th, 2010
4:25 pm
2Can – Deal…where do I sign?
Dang Celisea that was too easy. Negotiation 101: whoever makes the first offer loses. There was nowhere but up to go for you. Instead of a wing in the house, might have asked for the guest house. Could have also thrown in flexibility to have visitors of your choosing. You’ll want to personally choose your personal assistant, driver, and type of car. Make sure incidentals also covers personal vacations as well as “accidentals”. lol Come on now…
SlimNumeroUno
December 28th, 2010
4:25 pm
‘“bloggers you’d like to bone hunch’
I’d like to see the list of nominated person(s) lol
SexyCool
December 28th, 2010
4:26 pm
Celisea – you can always add riders to the contract.
Celisea
December 28th, 2010
4:28 pm
Dreams – your 4:25 is actually okay. You’re my first husband and those are a few small additions for us to enjoy at the expense of 2Can and all his other gals….don’t fret, I got this
2CPTG©--"that dude from da innanet"
December 28th, 2010
4:28 pm
Purp, in our family the ladies come and go as they please; We have weekly meetings to see if everyone has met, or is on par to meet, their budget, and go over new business ventures.
Celisea
December 28th, 2010
4:28 pm
SexyCool – you can always add riders to the contract.
Shhh, don’t say nothing but 2Can was an “add-on”
SlimNumeroUno
December 28th, 2010
4:29 pm
2C – I know i’ve been in and out today but um….is there something you failed to let me know? Hmmmm
Purple Rain
December 28th, 2010
4:29 pm
SexyCool are you under contract?
Slim?
LOL
Celisea
December 28th, 2010
4:31 pm
See Dreams…Purp, in our family the ladies come and go as they please; he ain’t watching like he should. We got off good I’d say
2CPTG©--"that dude from da innanet"
December 28th, 2010
4:31 pm
hol’ up….ye’en trynna juice me, are you, C? I recruited you because I see the potential in you! Now, if you wanna go back to that “alley cat, hush puppy shoe wearin” dude, be my guest….
2CPTG©--"that dude from da innanet"
December 28th, 2010
4:33 pm
Slim….trust me, boo….I got it all under control….just stay at the ready, in the event all hell breaks loose….you know I’d never put YOU in harm’s way….I got it, boo…
Celisea
December 28th, 2010
4:34 pm
2Can – hol’ up….ye’en trynna juice me, are you, C? I recruited you because I see the potential in you! Now, if you wanna go back to that “alley cat, hush puppy shoe wearin” dude, be my guest….
Oh Lawd, don’t make me go back! I’z sorry…I’m staying I would juice you….”daddy” never!
Celisea
December 28th, 2010
4:35 pm
BTW…that was funny…..”alley cat, hush puppy shoe wearin”…Celisea don’t like hush puppy wearing dudes…ut uh
Purple Rain
December 28th, 2010
4:36 pm
LOL, okay
Seems as if I’ve lost my stable since I have been gone
Celisea
December 28th, 2010
4:36 pm
Sorry Dreams…I’m staying put….unless you can sweeten his deal…eh?
2CPTG©--"that dude from da innanet"
December 28th, 2010
4:40 pm
See….C, already lil mama, we almost got off to a bad start….like I said the other day, “I ain’t no gangster, but don’t test my gangsta!” You almost made me get gangsta, and that ain’t how we operate over here…this is a well oiled machine, baby!!! All you gotta do is play your part, and I’ll apply the oil….we good?
SlimNumeroUno
December 28th, 2010
4:47 pm
2C – not really about being in harm’s way but woulda been nice to have gotten the New Edition Memo, that’s all. I think I feel a spa day coming on lol
Celisea
December 28th, 2010
4:49 pm
2Can – Yes sir…we’re good.
Purple Rain
December 28th, 2010
4:52 pm
a presto
2CPTG©--"that dude from da innanet"
December 28th, 2010
4:52 pm
Slim, in order to seal the deal, I had to go alone, proxy wouldn’t work in this situation; spa day? that’s all? your Christmas gift wasn’t your only gift….go look outside! then look in the glove compartment…
Bay, 2011 is our year! I think C gon’ be an added bonus to the fam….
Celisea
December 28th, 2010
4:54 pm
2Can – Bay, 2011 is our year! I think C gon’ be an added bonus to the fam….
You just let me know where you need me and need me to fill in…I’m there…for the family
2CPTG©--"that dude from da innanet"
December 28th, 2010
4:56 pm
“You just let me know where you need me and need me to fill in…I’m there…for the family”
Now that’s what’s up….we’ll talk more tomorrow; gotta go home and prepare next year’s agenda, and set goals….
Celisea
December 28th, 2010
5:00 pm
blue – where are you today?
Celisea
December 28th, 2010
5:39 pm
I can’t get my email to go through to Leggs…anybody else (still here) having problems?