Boomerang: When BAD dating karma finds you
I think every single woman needs a male friend. It’s one of the most enlightening relationships you can have because it gives you a chance to see men in a unfiltered, uncensored state. My guy friends are fairly candid with me about what they feel, how they deal, and the way they think. It has saved me a boatload of therapy to know them!
When they are going through a tough break up, I try to be supportive. I have seen them in their player days when they didn’t care so much about heartbreak they caused. I have also witnessed the moment when they realize that a female has “their nose wide open” and they are vulnerable for the first time ever.
This is when they get a little taste of what women go through. Men deal with breakups differently then we do but they definitely feel it as deeply as we do, especially when cheating was involved!
How do men deal with break-ups? From what I can tell, a lot of booze and sport fixation. They begin to meet as many women as possible to forget the one that betrayed him. Of course, this doesn’t do anything but distract them temporarily.
Have you ever watched someone who was a player suddenly get a little taste of what they put others through? Were you a heart breaker that seemed to get a little of that heartbreak back in one bad breakup or relationship?
What did you learn when you bad karma caught up to you? Do you think it changed how you handled dating after that experience?
By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Blog
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Delight23...resolving early
December 28th, 2010
1:01 pm
Oh inflation! Curse the economy! (lol)
See SexyCool, that’s exactly why I say in this city $60-80K is just getting by. And the line-up will reflect this based on quality of the bench.
Purple Rain
December 28th, 2010
1:01 pm
Well we are supposed to be superior and have the upper hand according to the good book. LOL
Leggs ~ Just Like You (Sapphire CD)
December 28th, 2010
1:01 pm
@PR ~ I was wondering if anyone would read between the lines with that date. Popsicle toes all the way, my man, popsicle toes all the way!
I am whatever you say I am
December 28th, 2010
1:01 pm
so is it fair to say broke dudes have you on lock and are not involved with rotation chicks?
Purple Rain
December 28th, 2010
1:02 pm
Leggs, I don’t remember her. Is she happy? So the guy is getting by just by making dyyck payments?
Celisea, no since in being a broke pimp or broke dealer. LOL
Delight23...resolving early
December 28th, 2010
1:02 pm
Maybe I’m going somewhere else in this convo. Shrugs
Naw, I’m following…
Delight23...resolving early
December 28th, 2010
1:03 pm
Well we are supposed to be superior and have the upper hand according to the good book. LOL
Which is why y’all followed us into the Garden right? I mean according to the very same good book.
Purple Rain
December 28th, 2010
1:04 pm
I Am, good point. According to theory the ladies should want a broke dude if they want a faithful man. LOL
Leggs, Yes I was over here thinking that would be a great date, with popsicles….plus you can check out her “popsicle” skills.
SexyCool
December 28th, 2010
1:05 pm
Plito – we must be reading different books. My *good* book does not say that.
Or…more likely, you are interpreting it to your benefit.
Purple Rain
December 28th, 2010
1:06 pm
Delight, I was talking about the book of pimps, not the Bible. LOL But since you brought it up he didn’t follower her into the garden he left her un tended to and was out of place when someone came against his woman. He left, fact of the matter is that if you spend your time with your mate there is no room for any misdeeds or anything to happen. BOOM, that just happened. LOL
Celisea
December 28th, 2010
1:08 pm
Delight – Naw, I’m following…
I am whatever you say I am
December 28th, 2010
1:08 pm
the things I get myself into.
Dude I’m not really into (no matter how much I try to convince myself otherwise) is on his way over
Guess I should go shower
Fion
December 28th, 2010
1:09 pm
Sexy_ I was being funny with the Ghetto Physics comment. But your statement presupposes all experiences are bad.
Nothing wrong with looking for quality people. If you are of Quality the more people are seeking you out.By default you have more options.
Purple Rain
December 28th, 2010
1:09 pm
Uh Oh, we are about to get into gender roles. LOL
The man is the leader, a woman wants to be led, yes she can have her say but the truth is..it is never equal because when stuff goes wrong she looks to the man to fix it. Can’t have two leaders, the majority has to be with one of them. Okay, ladies bring it! LOL
DreamsMaterialize
December 28th, 2010
1:10 pm
I wonder what minimum wage gets you on the dating scene.
PR a Rucker Park bench player or a And 1 reject.
Celisea
December 28th, 2010
1:10 pm
Alright, Imma pass today on what could become the battle of the sexes I’m going to get lunch. Maybe when I come back the topic will have turned
Delight23...resolving early
December 28th, 2010
1:11 pm
pbbbbbllllltttttt
Leggs ~ Just Like You (Sapphire CD)
December 28th, 2010
1:11 pm
Can’t figure what word the blogmaster has stuck in its throat!
Purple Rain
December 28th, 2010
1:11 pm
Celisea, is our date 2012 or 2038..You know with the world ending and all, I just need to have my popscicles ready There is one christian group that is paying for billboards that read “Jesus is coming on May 21, 2011″
Delight23...resolving early
December 28th, 2010
1:13 pm
The art of leading is to do so without actually appearing to do so. Delegation with the appearance of power…just saying.
mytw♥cents
December 28th, 2010
1:13 pm
Awww KIMMMMMMMMIIEEEE! I super swear that I thought of you this past weekend and that you may have been asked a certain question… so I decided to check in today. CONGRATULATIONS, girl! I know you’re so excited.
Leggs ~ Just Like You (Sapphire CD)
December 28th, 2010
1:13 pm
@PR ~I don’t know if she’s happy. She doesn’t share her relationship with me anymore. She never told me they were living together, another friend told me. She probably didn’t share the info with me because I told her what I thought of him when she first asked. Told her he probably was only interested in tackling her jungle. Some are truly fine with mere d…. payments…there’s someone for everyone!
Leggs ~ Just Like You (Sapphire CD)
December 28th, 2010
1:14 pm
WOW, a word I used all the time now offends the Blogmaster! Go figure.
Fion
December 28th, 2010
1:14 pm
“If you’re sharing Fion…share.”
Delight23… Me , I’m just a “Garden Varity River Rat”
Purple Rain
December 28th, 2010
1:14 pm
Delight23, and that is the art that a real man masters until it gets to the “Would you just sit down and shut up!” stage. LOL
Celisea
December 28th, 2010
1:15 pm
PR – Now you know I’on believe it’s given to any man/group/persons to predict the return of Christ but I’on joke about that stuff either…I’m a believer
Aside from that slight chastisement, we’re still on love for 2038. I like quality dudes, you gotta bring more than popscicles though right?
SexyCool
December 28th, 2010
1:15 pm
I will not debate gender roles as I am one that believes in the whole “man as the head of household, submission” deal.
However, the thought of it as “superiority” or as an “upper-hand” grates on me in a crazy way.
Purple Rain
December 28th, 2010
1:16 pm
There is somebody for everybody. I am just happy we are happy. I don’t care about anyone else. LOL
Purple Rain
December 28th, 2010
1:16 pm
SexyCool, I am just trying to get you riled up for some makeup sexy time. LOL
Celisea
December 28th, 2010
1:17 pm
PR – And if popscicles is the best you can do, I’ll still be present for the date….bring a box though…and sugar free
SexyCool
December 28th, 2010
1:18 pm
“Would you just sit down and shut up!”
^THAT reminded me of TheDude this weekend. (Well, not the shut up part.)
I was trying to carry a box from the truck, up floor flights of stairs and dropped it. He looked at me and said, “Just leave it. Gone upstairs. I got this. You always trying to do too much.”
The authority in his tone was hot!!!
Delight23...resolving early
December 28th, 2010
1:18 pm
Delight23, and that is the art that a real man masters until it gets to the “Would you just sit down and shut up!” stage. LOL
Leggs ~ Just Like You (Sapphire CD)
December 28th, 2010
1:19 pm
Sorry for the interruption: Here are the blog award categories. If any of you are interested in playing along, I’ve set up an email address. Please send all votes to
Leggs52@yahoo.com. All votes will be tallied by two individuals and winners will be announced Thursday afternoon. The categories are as follows:
Best Posts
Best comebacks
Most creative
Most serious
Most Beloved
Most Analytical
Most “Huh” moments
Best Moniker
Worst Moniker
Most wittiest
Best Recap
Most Combative
Most loved for their understanding of life
Most don’t care what they say
Most Intellectual
Knows everything google doesn’t know
Most corniest
Most realist
Most horn iest
Most likely to live up to their blog persona
Most clueless
Most chattiest
Most friendliest
Longevity
Most Popular
SexyCool
December 28th, 2010
1:19 pm
We can sit on a curb and eat popsicles, but we can’t go to a pool hall and have drinks?
Wait…it’s cool as long as the curb is in Vinings, right?
(teasing….)
Delight23...resolving early
December 28th, 2010
1:20 pm
…my blood doesn’t flow south at the same rate as yours.
I am whatever you say I am
December 28th, 2010
1:26 pm
Leggs! I wanna play
all bloggers are welcome to vote for me
Purple Rain
December 28th, 2010
1:27 pm
Leggs, I don’t know that many people to vote for all of those categories.
SexyCool, I haven’t told her to shut up but I have said be quiet. Sometimes you all just try and do to much. LOL
Celisea, sugar free
Purple Rain
December 28th, 2010
1:28 pm
If I don’t win the “huh” moment category or the Don’t care what they say category. I will have a Kanye moment!
I am whatever you say I am
December 28th, 2010
1:31 pm
I’m not into dude but I just asked if I could check him out while he dj’s tonight
smh
Celisea
December 28th, 2010
1:31 pm
Leggs – Can we vote the same person for different categories?
Leggs ~ Just Like You (Sapphire CD)
December 28th, 2010
1:32 pm
@SexyC ~ yep. I can sit on a stoop and eat popsicles and have a lot of fun talking than sitting up in a dirty pool hall reeking of cigarettes and liquor…yep, that’s what I’m saying. The stoop could be at 1206 Franklin Avenue, Bronx NY. Still would be a better date.
mytw♥cents
December 28th, 2010
1:33 pm
DREAMS But he’d still be a baller, with a baller’s build, right? lol She’ll probably still be happy, then.
I think lotsa times men paint the women’s intentions (must be an NBA groupie) rather than take us at face value. Then after parting ways it becomes crystal clear and that’s when the boomerang really happens. Dudes will point out your stellar qualities (to you)as if they’ve just suddenly appeared.
Leggs ~ Just Like You (Sapphire CD)
December 28th, 2010
1:35 pm
You can nominate as many people as you want for any particular category. Some people definitely fall into many categories.
@PR ~ vote for those you know that will fit the category.
@SexyC ~ I know you’re making fun of me in a fun way…no sweat!
SexyCool
December 28th, 2010
1:35 pm
As long as he asks you if you like popsicles right, though, right?
DreamsMaterialize
December 28th, 2010
1:38 pm
in this city $60-80K is just getting by.
Delight When did Atlanta get so uppity?
Median income for a male according to the census:
Dunwoody – $70k.
Alpharetta – $69k
Sandy Springs – $60k.
A single person in Atlanta making $60k-$80k should be doing quite well for themselves. They can buy a decent house in a decent neighborhood, drive a nice car, travel, etc. Unless they’re just financially irresponsible, they’re hardly “getting by”. Now if this were NY or San Fran, I’d say you were right on the money.
mytw♥cents
December 28th, 2010
1:39 pm
I AM – Do you think getting lots of immediate attention from anyone, even if they’re of little consequence is equal to or better than waiting and getting some attention from a person who actually matters to you?
SexyCool
December 28th, 2010
1:43 pm
Okay. Sometimes, I don’t know what gets this blog filter going.
What in theheck could be wrong with saying that I like grape popsicles and would be swinging my feet off the stoop besides Leggs and her date?!?!?
Leggs ~ Just Like You (Sapphire CD)
December 28th, 2010
1:44 pm
He wouldn’t have to ask, everyone who meets me knows popsicles and pizza are two of my favorites…it finds it’s way into the convo pretty early on (LOL).
SexyCool
December 28th, 2010
1:45 pm
Go on den, TeeTee! (lol)
I am whatever you say I am
December 28th, 2010
1:46 pm
Shyyyyyyttttttttttttt… (long draw like Bunk from the Wire) dude on his way and I’m not dressed.