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Naughty, nice, or somewhere in between

It’s almost time to say goodbye to 2010! I can’t believe how much difference one year makes. I have to say that I had moments of clarity. I have been naughty, nice, and then somewhere in between the two. Thankfully I don’t have many regrets and looking back over the past year, dating has been fairly pleasant!

How would you describe your dating misadventures and adventures this year? Naughty, nice, or a little in between? Have you thought about making any changes to your approach or attitude for 2011?

Is there something new you didn’t try that you are thinking of exploring? Maybe we can inspire one another to shake things up for the new year!

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Blog

303 comments Add your comment

Fion

December 27th, 2010
10:59 am

Sassy_Yippie-yo-ki-ya! lol.

Leggs ~ You Blow Me Away

December 27th, 2010
11:00 am

@Fion ~ what was wrong with it was he didn’t even ask if I played pool, and this particular pool hall was a dive! Just told me to meet him there without inquiring about my interests.

Mo (aka Moeisha - Casanova Brown)

December 27th, 2010
11:01 am

Dreams – Thank you honey, cause they are really trippin in here today!! The heat has been turned on but I’ll be leaving for the day by the time it warms up! GEESH!

Fion

December 27th, 2010
11:02 am

Excuse me. Yeah that does make a difference.

Sassy Me..Fire and Desire :-)

December 27th, 2010
11:05 am

Just told me to meet him there without inquiring about my interests.

:shock:

That’s the kind of stuff that gets you on the D.N.A. list

Fion

December 27th, 2010
11:08 am

Sassy_ I don’t get a do over or nothing!

Leggs ~ You Blow Me Away

December 27th, 2010
11:08 am

@Fion ~ that was a huge sign of wanting/needing to “run things” without even caring what my interests were. Also, insensitivity was front and center, along with “this is what I want to do” and we can figure out “what you want to do later,” if there’s a later! Ok, perhaps I’m strectching it a bit, but you get my point???

Fion

December 27th, 2010
11:10 am

Leggs_ like I asked Sassy, no do over?

Leggs ~ You Blow Me Away

December 27th, 2010
11:11 am

@Fion ~ not with the pool guy. No do over. The fact that you didn’t take time to ask any of my interests showed that we wouldn’t get along.

NY2GA

December 27th, 2010
11:13 am

Thank you Celisea, I’ve been enlightened … and more power to you on the Bigger and Better for 2011…

SexyCool

December 27th, 2010
11:16 am

If it was his first time issuing a “Meet me there.” order combined with a lack of consideration for my interests, I would have called him on it. It is possible that he behaved that way cause chicks he has encountered never required he act differently.

If after putting him on notice, he still did not make the attempt to approach differently in the future, then I would call him a no-go. But…I would have at least let him know that he’d made a misstep.

ijs…

Fion

December 27th, 2010
11:18 am

Man, ya’ll are a rough crew of women. Brother makes 1 error and he’s cut from the roster!

Leggs ~ You Blow Me Away

December 27th, 2010
11:19 am

@SexyC ~ of course I told him he had a misstep. I too thought due to “chicks” he’s encountered in the past he acted with what he knew and was comfortable with. Nonetheless, I did tell him he should first ask if I like pool, knew how to play and if I wanted to meet there. So, after putting him on notice he simply said “I could meet him there or we could meet some other time because he had already ordered his drink.” I had to bow out.

Celisea....bigger and better 2011

December 27th, 2010
11:20 am

NY2GA – Thank you Celisea, I’ve been enlightened

and more power to you on the Bigger and Better for 2011… Thanks a bunch! I’m sure the next year will bring so many more opportunities…in all facets and for us all. I wish you the same!

Leggs ~ Crocodile Tears

December 27th, 2010
11:26 am

@Celisea ~ I was being funny with the “bigger” part in 2011. I knew what you meant. The joke fell flat!

Celisea....bigger and better 2011

December 27th, 2010
11:28 am

You know, I sort of thought that’s where you was going but opted to speak figuratively on becoming bigger. Never BIGGER in the physical sense…lol

NY2GA

December 27th, 2010
11:29 am

I’ve been trying to follow this convo about being invited to a pool hall (which was a dive) but felt the person was controlling because they wanted to do what they wanted, and not asked about your interest (did I sum that up correctly?). If this is the case, I think WAY too much is being made of this.

Why didn’t he simply say, I am finishing up my drink and I can meet you somewhere that you like. Sounds simple to me, especially if he really wanted to see you.

SlimNumeroUno

December 27th, 2010
11:29 am

‘“I could meet him there or we could meet some other time because he had already ordered his drink.” I had to bow out’

So Leggs it almost sounds like he called you as aan afterthought…Hmm, lemme see who i can call to come up here..oh yeah, that new chick I met, Leggs.
I understand how you feel about that because it sort of rubs me the wrong way when a dude calls me let’s say on a Friday or Saturday night (8ish or later) tombout let’s meet up for drinks or whatever…to me that appears you thought of me last minute after some other plans fell through but you still want to get out and do something in the company of a female. If you really wanted to chill with me, the plans would’ve been made earlier in the week already. Who are you to think I had Nothing planned until you called, regardless if I did or not. lol

SexyCool

December 27th, 2010
11:36 am

That sounds like “I’m out at this spot having a drink. Why don’t you come meet me?”

And while I can see your point, I may have looked at it a little differently and probably wouldn’t have written off IF that was his first/only faux pas.

SexyCool

December 27th, 2010
11:37 am

Interesting how we can interpret things in so many different ways.

Leggs ~ Crocodile Tears

December 27th, 2010
11:39 am

@NY2GA ~ naw, don’t think too much is being made out of all this. Perhaps not necessarily being controlling, but hindsight is 20/20. If you don’t care “upfront” what my interests are and I know this going in, I can’t really expect or be surprised when my interests still aren’t being taken into account on other things.

Can’t speak on why he didn’t say what you thought would be simple. It could have gone any number of ways. He could have been “feeling” me out on whether I would easily give in to his pick, or even voice my concern over his pick. I got the impression he really wanted to see by the way he blew my phone up after leaving that pool hall asking to me somewhere. I lost interest that quickly. I’m not usually that quick to end something that didn’t even get started, but my gut was telling me to not even bother!

@SlimNU ~ he called me before I left work asking if we could stop somewhere for a drink. He said for me to think of a place I would like to meet. Nice start. He then calls me back telling me he picked a spot and I could meet him there in 20 mins (from my job). I simply lost interest in the rest of the telephone exchange.

Leggs ~ Crocodile Tears

December 27th, 2010
11:40 am

@SexyC ~ it wasn’t like that.

Celisea....bigger and better 2011

December 27th, 2010
11:41 am

what was wrong with it was he didn’t even ask if I played pool, and this particular pool hall was a dive! Just told me to meet him there without inquiring about my interests.

For me, I can do this as a “first date” as long as the place is decent. Me not knowing how to play pool or pool being of no interest wouldn’t have caused me to cut him off. As long as the place was decent and allowed enough opportunity to talk and interact. I would have been good. Now, if this is a spot of his then I could probably get him to teach me how to play a game or two….AS LONG AS THE PLACE WAS DECENT.

M. (pronouced M dot)

December 27th, 2010
11:42 am

@Slim

LOL I dont just wait until NYE but with an android phone, it holds alot of contacts so I just take some time and remove alot of numbers.

@Leggs ~

LOL Dang you got me beat@!

SexyCool

December 27th, 2010
11:43 am

Understood. What is a turn off is a turn off.

Celisea....bigger and better 2011

December 27th, 2010
11:47 am

Anybody else have something interesting and new on the horizon for 2011? Lord willing?

Leggs ~ Crocodile Tears

December 27th, 2010
11:48 am

@M. ~ :lol: :lol:

@SexyC ~ Exactly. Different strokes for different folk. Ok, let me put this out there. Any of you know O’Reily’s off Covington Hgwy. At least ask if I even play pool!!!

SlimNumeroUno

December 27th, 2010
11:48 am

Mdot – Okie dokie…gotcha lol

Leggs – Well had you thought of any ideas for a meeting place once he called you at work?

Leggs ~ Crocodile Tears

December 27th, 2010
11:52 am

@SlimNU ~ We both said we would think about it since my boss was bellowing for me. But when he called “telling” me he had already picked a spot and had already ordered I saw no need to speak up. No loss on my end.

Leggs ~ Crocodile Tears

December 27th, 2010
11:54 am

FYI ~ Stephanie Mills has replaced Ms. Teena Marie in concert with Maze.

NY2GA

December 27th, 2010
11:58 am

Leggs – Point taken… I also get the feeling from what you wrote that you were probably not that interested in the first place … I could be wrong, but that’s what it sounds like … I mean you lost interest really fast …

SexyCool

December 27th, 2010
11:59 am

That’s what I was thinking, NY.

SexyCool

December 27th, 2010
12:03 pm

And for the record, I’ve never heard Teena.Marie referred to as the “Ivory Queen of Soul.”

Queen of Blue Eyed Soul, yes…but that first title, no.

Kym-RIP Lovergirl

December 27th, 2010
12:04 pm

Okay what is this about drinks and pool hall? Did this turn into Bigelow while I was gone?

NY2GA

December 27th, 2010
12:06 pm

Celisea – Besides the usual things of striving to do better, make smarter decisions, continue with quality vs. quantity (if u get my drift), I plan to travel a lot more and not the usual places (which are cool, Caribbean, Mexico), but really get out there … Spain comes to mind, Dubai would be nice as well ..

Leggs ~ Behind The Groove

December 27th, 2010
12:09 pm

@NY2GA ~ you’re right. I did lose interest rather quickly. There was something about his entire demeanor that didn’t give me the green light to pursue any further. I had met him once before (through a friend), but when he called asking me out for drinks and the whole think turned into a “matter of fact” exchange, I figured no skin off my nose if I don’t pursue this.

@SexyC ~ it’s a title she gave herself and it stuck (at least with me)/

@Kym ~ something like that.

Celisea....bigger and better 2011

December 27th, 2010
12:10 pm

NY2GA – continue with quality vs. quantity (if u get my)drift

Absolutely…first and foremost on my list. Weed out all the rift raft. I’ll take quality over quantity any day :)

I plan to travel a lot more and not the usual places (which are cool, Caribbean, Mexico), but really get out there … Spain comes to mind, Dubai would be nice as well

I haven’t done any international traveling but it’s so not off the list. Matter of fact, if I can move this up a few notches that would be fantab.

Celisea....bigger and better 2011

December 27th, 2010
12:10 pm

Leggs – There was something about his entire demeanor that didn’t give me the green light to pursue any further.

Now this, I can dig. If you get a feeling in the gut, stay with that.

NY2GA

December 27th, 2010
12:19 pm

Celisea, I am going to try those international trips, just gotta make sure my dollars stay right. Things are going very well at the J O B, so I am hopeful.

Quality vs. Quantity, you know us fellas sometimes choose the latter, but that’s old and tired and really, too many problems … lol…

NY2GA

December 27th, 2010
12:21 pm

Leggs – I am with you and the comment you stated (which Celisea pointed out). You not really feeling the demeanor, something in your gut tells you no, then why waste the time … No time invested, nothing to lose.

Fion

December 27th, 2010
12:24 pm

NY2GA_ For a weekend Toronto is great. Not that expensive at all. If you can stay longer 4-5days you can really get the feel of it.

SexyCool

December 27th, 2010
12:26 pm

Lase week, I mentioned my gf who is currently choosing quality over quantity. As is obvious, the danger in that is ending up with a whole bunch of nothing.

Celisea....bigger and better 2011

December 27th, 2010
12:29 pm

NY2GA – you know us fellas sometimes choose the latter, but that’s old and tired and really, too many problems … lol

I agree….although you men haven’t cornered the market with folks chosing all for the wrong reasons. But you’re correct, someone with all the right on the outside and all the wrong or lacking on the inside causes way to many problems and is a total waste of time….I think we can agree

I feel you on keeping the money right for going abroad. Even though it’s not international, I’ll start getting my “every other year” trip plans together next month….usually taken in July or August. I take this in lieu of international travel…for now

Lady-I"M STILL LOVING

December 27th, 2010
12:29 pm

HAPPY ATLANTA FALCONS WINNING MONDAY NIGHT FOOTBALL BABY!!!!!! GOOOOOOOOO FALCONS!

~Celebrating Ms Teena Marie~

Happy Monday!

:)

Leggs ~ Behind The Groove

December 27th, 2010
12:46 pm

Haaaa, the blog didn’t like my last comment. Oh well.

Fion

December 27th, 2010
12:47 pm

Sexy_ sometime it’s best to be by ur @#*^’? self. That’s my saying! lol.

DreamsMaterialize

December 27th, 2010
12:49 pm

Quantity vs Quality isn’t necessarily a dichotomy. Sometimes finding quality is a matter of playing the numbers and casting a wider net.

SexyCool

December 27th, 2010
12:53 pm

Agreed, Fion.

Leggs ~ Behind The Groove

December 27th, 2010
12:53 pm

*****According to Marie’s publicist, Lynn Jeter, the superstar suffered a grand mal seizure last month while watching a movie with her 18-year-old daughter. She was then put on medication that made her suicidal, so Marie “reduced the meds herself,” says Jeter. Marie was looking forward to performing at a gig in Atlanta this week, but that concert never came to pass. “She evidently died in her sleep and her daughter found her,” Jeter says.***

Lady-I"M STILL LOVING

December 27th, 2010
12:54 pm