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Where do you find the good guys?

One of the most common questions women ask me when they hear I write about dating is where are all the good men in Atlanta. As if I have the physical address to a magical man tree somewhere in the city that grows good men that you can just go grab off the vine. Good guys are everywhere!

I can’t guarantee that they are the type of men that will appeal to them (or vice versa). Who knows if that elusive chemistry will spark an interest or not. I just know that they are out there and you don’t have to look far.

The gym, recycle center, Trader Joes, churches, and records stores are pretty prime locations that have made me stop and think, “Ok, I must always look cute when I come here” because it’s crawling with the types I am drawn to. A lot of times women don’t realize that some of the best guys to date are already their friends!

When was the last time you were out somewhere and thought that it was hottie central?

I was hanging out in Smyrna at a wing place on karaoke night and I couldn’t believe the number of cuties that were there. Who knew!?

Where do you think the quality women are? How do quality men seek out their counterparts? What are the best places to meet someone that you think is compatible to you?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Blog

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mytw♥cents

December 23rd, 2010
12:39 pm

Ok, BRAT – Tongue bitten. I think I may do a big chop for my birthday. There’s this Dark n Lovely (?) ad with some kinda cropped bob I’m diggin.

SEXXXY COOL – Your homegirl is the epitome of allowing the negativity in to fog up her head and cloud the better judgment.

JEFF It’s okay to be shy, every girl doesn’t like a brash guy. But are you aggressive or passive when you’re interested? Aggressive meaning you’ll make it known, but not necessarily throw her over your back.

SexyCool

December 23rd, 2010
12:40 pm

Celisea, that’s why we typically only talk when she calls – so I can limit the listening that I do.

When she talked about being by herself on Christmas, I didn’t say anything, since I’d just zinged her on the “Nathaniel” situation. (I mean really, you put the dude out of your house because he wouldn’t move a tv. Never mind the fact that you let him into your house knowing he has a girlfriend. smdh)

I wanted to say to her, “You’ve been dealing with this dude for three years. I understand that when you met, he’d just gotten divorced and wasn’t ready for anything serious. That excuse would have run out two years ago. Now, here you are, about to spend the holiday by yourself when you have this dude that you are sleeping with, spending time with regularly? Do you see how that looks a little crazy to me?”

Kym--Live from Holiday Central

December 23rd, 2010
12:42 pm

@AmazonRed I would like to go ahead and give you a fiver for that last comment..

Men pass up good women all the time..then they hit 35 or 40 plus, grab their flashlight, throw on house shoes and go quail hunting hoping to bag them a real winner..now Ms..Good Sister Sho Nuff..is suppose to get all excited cause he finally got back around to her…but too late cause she has moved on to higher ground..oh well sorry sucker!… but I digress.

Leggs

December 23rd, 2010
12:43 pm

@mytwo ~ you’re going to let go all that beautiful black hair! Give it to me. Wait, I don’t do weaves. Donate it to “locks for kids.” :lol:

SexyCool

December 23rd, 2010
12:44 pm

Actually, Kym, chicks like my girl will be lined up and ready for him to “choose” them. (lol)

czBrat

December 23rd, 2010
12:45 pm

yup, BMW. got one very close to my house that does a great job on a blowout but not so good at actual styling.

Leggs

December 23rd, 2010
12:45 pm

@Kym ~ that’s exactly what I’m going through. He’s grabbed his house shoes and is now ready to be with me, but I’ve moved on (mentally). Told him he always desired me, but never wanted me and now that his marriage is broken up he wants me. I’m the wrong sister for that mister.

Kym--Live from Holiday Central

December 23rd, 2010
12:46 pm

@Sexy…I know and its sad…they are not helping to control the population of jokers if they just keep letting them regenerate.

Celisea...on vacay

December 23rd, 2010
12:46 pm

Ain’t no such thing as a shortage. Only if we stop procreating. As long as we’re breeding, there will always be good me. At any rate you have to be a good match to be happy pair. Just because a woman or man i
s decent doesn’t always means it’s a match. Sometimes being mixmatched carries about as much drama as a rotten. Don’t force or kill a good friendship solely because that person is a good person. A good relationship is a result of a good/perfect match. Not error free but a perfect match.

AmazonRed™ - yay vacay!

December 23rd, 2010
12:47 pm

Thank you Kym!

See, men know we got these biological clocks and how we just HATE to be single or like to prey on our fears of never getting married/finding a life partner.

I have no such fears. Don’t get me wrong, I’d like to find “the one” as well, but I’m not gonna give in to desperation just to have someone. I don’t even really want kids, so I don’t feel that pressure either.

A lot of us are calling “foul on the play” and it’s starting to trip these dudes up again. How dare we not want some “good guy” just because he’s come calling with his half ass game. :lol:

Kym--Live from Holiday Central

December 23rd, 2010
12:48 pm

@Leggs…been there..hardest thing was telling Mr. M..peace out…but I did..it has gotten old..real old. I want someone who can appreciate and respect my level of crazy—LMAO!!!

Celisea...on vacay

December 23rd, 2010
12:49 pm

SexyC – I dig your stance. You hate to cut folks off so you minimize bs hitting the airwaves by talking when they call…oh i so get it

AmazonRed™ - yay vacay!

December 23rd, 2010
12:50 pm

I know and its sad…they are not helping to control the population of jokers if they just keep letting them regenerate.

That’s what burns me up about the dating game. I find myself more upset with the ladies then the men these days. Keep giving all these fools the power! :lol:

BlackMagicWoman

December 23rd, 2010
12:51 pm

ARED…but you heair looks better and it is healthier! :lol: Mine is in Norcross and it $25 for a wash/blow/set. But since I grew my hair a bit…it is now $30. And folks wonder why I keep my hair cut! This shhhhh is expensive! :lol:

Oh and I second KYM’S high five! That post was on point.
But like you….I am in no rush to find “the one”, if such person exists. I don’t want kids so if it come later in life…then so be it. I will take Mr. Right Now until that time comes!

SexyCool

December 23rd, 2010
12:53 pm

Because what she really wants is for John to make a commitment to her and then, she would stop dealing with these other guys.

But like I told her, until she requires a commitment, she won’t get one. And as long as she is afraid of making it a requirement, John is cool to let things keep flowing like they are.

(Although I did tell her, too, that he might not be committing because she snores like a damn buzzsaw. I promised after the last girls trip that I would not ever again share a hotel room with her o’loudsnoringass. Who wants to deal with a lifetime of THAT?!? LOL!)

AmazonRed™ - yay vacay!

December 23rd, 2010
12:54 pm

BMW – Yeah, my hair responds well, but my gas tank didn’t! Norcross! Jimmy Carter, Indian Trail, might as well be the moon and then I still had to pay $60 to boot?! No thanks.

Now $25, $30… we might have a winner. :lol:

BlackMagicWoman

December 23rd, 2010
12:54 pm

SC…I have cut off plenty of freinds, family members who A-ha moment either came later and they came calling to admit they were being a dumb a$$…or it still hasn’t come yet!. I have enough crap of my own to deal with. No time to listen to you whine about why this same ole raggedy a$$ dude is treating her like crap. When all she has to do is leave his trife a$$ alone! Ugh…good night!!! :lol:

Speaking of….I am out folks! Feliz Navidad!

mytw♥cents

December 23rd, 2010
12:55 pm

Aww, thanks, Leggs :oops: I can only imagine you w/ the short n sassy – just fits your personality to a t! Did you ever wear it longer?

Some men really get outraged that some women realize they’ve got options.

Jeff

December 23rd, 2010
12:55 pm

@Leggs, good to meet you.

@Swiss – No we don’t know each other. I’m a Seminole fan. Good to meet you.

BlackMagicWoman

December 23rd, 2010
12:55 pm

Oh…last thing….
ARED the Salon is called Juanita’s. It’s off of Beaver Ruin and Buford Highway.

SexyCool

December 23rd, 2010
12:58 pm

OH…and when I say commitment, I mean just “boyfriend/girlfriend, significant other” at this point. I’m not talking about marriage. You’ve been dealing with this dude for THREE YEARS and he ain’t yo’ man?!?! Y’all just “kickin’ it”?!?!?

AmazonRed™ - yay vacay!

December 23rd, 2010
12:58 pm

I have cut off plenty of freinds, family members who A-ha moment either came later and they came calling to admit they were being a dumb a$$…or it still hasn’t come yet!.

:lol: Like that time Page and I picked you up at the airport and you cussed that girl out for being stupid the whole way home. :lol:

AmazonRed™ - yay vacay!

December 23rd, 2010
12:59 pm

Thanks BMW – I’ll keep them in mind when up that way. Hopefully this one close to the house will be good!

Celisea...on vacay

December 23rd, 2010
1:01 pm

blue – Yes girl, it’s the tough spot where you realize the kind of friend you are and the kind of friends you have. Heck, have the talk with me if you see me looking through the window of the short bus…lol

Alright I’m getting off for now…tryna blog from my IPAQ, watch TV and ’splaining an entire movie to moms ain’t exactly the easiest :)

Leggs

December 23rd, 2010
1:02 pm

@mytwo ~ my hair has never really been long. Much longer than how I presently wear it, but never really long. I’m not a hairy person and it seems like it takes 6 mos for one strand to grow.

And, you’re right. Some men look :shock: when the woman in his sight doesn’t respond the he wants her to. Just because you checked me out and is interested in me, doesn’t mean I have to give you the red light special.

Feliz Navidad, BMW.

Jeff

December 23rd, 2010
1:02 pm

@Kym – “Men pass up good women all the time..then they hit 35 or 40 plus, grab their flashlight, throw on house shoes and go quail hunting hoping to bag them a real winner..now Ms..Good Sister Sho Nuff..is suppose to get all excited cause he finally got back around to her…but too late cause she has moved on to higher ground..oh well sorry sucker!… but I digress.” I hadn’t heard this. Maybe its because my guy friends aren’t “dogs”. One friend of mine found himself at 36 still dating a woman (after 7 years) and she didn’t want to get married. Now he’s single. I have another buddy who is 45 and has been looking for someone to settle down with since his 1 year marriage ended 8 years ago. For myself, I’m 42 and NEVER thought I would be single again. My ex left me 2 years ago (long story, but I didn’t cheat, abuse her, have addictions, or anything like that). So there are lots of guys in their late 30’s-mid 40’s who just have had a hard time finding a good woman , at least here in Atlanta.

Leggs

December 23rd, 2010
1:04 pm

@Jeff ~ good to read you too. Stay strong. Our time is a coming….

Celisea...on vacay

December 23rd, 2010
1:05 pm

I won’t recommend my stylist cause you ain’t getting nothing under 70 for a retouch and trim nor anything under 35/40 for a wash…AAAANNNDDD she’s on LaVista

AmazonRed™ - yay vacay!

December 23rd, 2010
1:07 pm

Yeah, I’d have to see your hair first too. :lol:

Fion

December 23rd, 2010
1:14 pm

Soldier on brother Jeff. If it don’t kill ya it only makes u stronger. Lol, but I feel ya Cat!

Fion

December 23rd, 2010
1:18 pm

There’s an old country saying, “ you can’t catch Trout in a Catfish pond.” Birds of a feather flock together and so on.
We’ve all heard them. Truth is, quality folks find quality folks. It’s all on you. Your World, your reality.
If you look around and can’t see any quote “Good women or men” maybe its time you take stock of exactly where you are.

Leggs

December 23rd, 2010
1:19 pm

@Jeff ~ someone told me a few weeks ago that the dating problem in Atlanta is piss poor. Too many women, way too many coc*ky men, and entirely too many enablers from both sexes. But, to be honest, this scenario probably plays out all across America.

Jeff

December 23rd, 2010
1:21 pm

Thanks Fion. Trust me, I have a real understanding of that quote now (what doesn’t kill you….). I think I’m finally stronger, and I know I’ve learned lots of lessons. The next woman in my life will greatly benefit from that.

Leggs

December 23rd, 2010
1:22 pm

@Fion ~ yes, quality folk find quality folks….Eventually. You still have to jump over quite a few frogs.

Luvbug

December 23rd, 2010
1:23 pm

Trail of tears… :roll:

Are men using ‘I’m a battered man. I bet you’re a stank ho” as a pick up strategy nowadays? Is it working??

Until this blog, I’ve never witnessed so many menstruating men.

Jeff

December 23rd, 2010
1:23 pm

@Leggs – I do see a lot of women out and about in my part of town. I just hesitate to approach them. And you’re so right about the cocky men in Atlanta. Its ridiculous, and it makes women think its the norm. Bottom line is this is a pretentious city, and that really irritates me.

SexyCool

December 23rd, 2010
1:24 pm

My girl definitely is not helping the dating problem.

She allows Darnell to drop by when he has a moment to spare.
She allows Nathaniel to come over and watch movies and whatever even though he has a girlfriend.
She allows John the benefit of being with her but having zero commitment.

One the outside, she is the textbook definition of that “successful black woman who can’t find a *good* man.” But here she is with three dudes sniffing around her and she has no requirements that any of them actually do right by her. She is just hoping and wishing.

Fion

December 23rd, 2010
1:27 pm

Leggs_ but kiss’em all baby!

Fion

December 23rd, 2010
1:28 pm

I meant don’t kiss’em all

AmazonRed™ - yay vacay!

December 23rd, 2010
1:28 pm

Until this blog, I’ve never witnessed so many menstruating men

Luvbug – Me too. I guess they need some place to let it all out. :lol:

mytw♥cents

December 23rd, 2010
1:29 pm

JEFF, It’s gotta be slow at work today. Please answer :)

It’s okay to be shy, every girl doesn’t like a brash guy. But are you aggressive or passive when you’re interested? Aggressive meaning you’ll make it known, but not necessarily throw her over your back.

czBrat

December 23rd, 2010
1:30 pm

SC, clearly that has low self-esteem written all over it. your gf has to take some time to come to terms with her own worth, build it up, and learn to cherish it before she can share it.

so that which doesn’t kill us makes us stronger? well, i’m feeling quite proud of the “good man” i helped my ex become for his current wife. of course, i’m totally assuming he’s being good to her. just the same, i’ll be checking the mail for my thank-you gift from her. should arrive any day now.

Leggs

December 23rd, 2010
1:30 pm

:lol: :lol: :lol: I was about to say, I can’t kiss all of them.

Fion

December 23rd, 2010
1:34 pm

I’ve actually been working the last 2days and doing poor job of multitasking (typing).

Jeff

December 23rd, 2010
1:35 pm

@mytwocents – I let it be known when I’m interested, but I also need to have some signals, as I hate rejection. I know, what person doesn’t hate rejection, right? But I don’t think I handle it as well as most. When I know a woman’s interested I will pursue, to answer your question. But I’ll do it without being a jerk about it or overly clingy.

AmazonRed™ - yay vacay!

December 23rd, 2010
1:36 pm

Okay, now the DVR is 87% full. We’ll see how things look by January 3, 2011. I’m not even sure I care about most of the shows on my DVR anymore. :lol:

Wonder if the first season of “Modern Family” can be rented on DVD now. I have to get into that show, I don’t know one person who doesn’t love it.

And perhaps I can find Entourage. HBO OnDemand only gives you 4 episodes every month. It will take me forever at this rate. :lol:

Luvbug

December 23rd, 2010
1:39 pm

ARed – It’s overwhelming at times. Mind boggling…is what’s being released here with anonymity the truth or what I experience in my real life at work in my family and such? I’m starting to think the guys I see everyday, everywhere are ticking time bombs…and I just don’t know it yet. :mad:

Kym2

December 23rd, 2010
1:40 pm

Hey Guys ! Wish I had the time to tell yall about my GF who ” dates” these married men who are in the ” process” of a divorce and blah blah..you know the rest….But Im too tired..I had a hair appt at 530 am this morning…I need some shut eye..TTYL

Fion

December 23rd, 2010
1:40 pm

This a question for the ladies. Rex Ryan the coach of the Jets has this video floating on the net of his wife dangling Her feet out of an SUV and other situations showing just her feet.
“Me” thinks Rex has a foot fetish.
Would you be turned-off to find out your person of interest / SO had a foot fetish?

think you're a princess?

December 23rd, 2010
1:41 pm

I’m a quality guy and I’m off doing the things I’m interested in. If you’re there too, we’ll meet. If you’re bored, looking for a sugar daddy, need constant attention, …forget it. I don’t have time.