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Where do you find the good guys?

One of the most common questions women ask me when they hear I write about dating is where are all the good men in Atlanta. As if I have the physical address to a magical man tree somewhere in the city that grows good men that you can just go grab off the vine. Good guys are everywhere!

I can’t guarantee that they are the type of men that will appeal to them (or vice versa). Who knows if that elusive chemistry will spark an interest or not. I just know that they are out there and you don’t have to look far.

The gym, recycle center, Trader Joes, churches, and records stores are pretty prime locations that have made me stop and think, “Ok, I must always look cute when I come here” because it’s crawling with the types I am drawn to. A lot of times women don’t realize that some of the best guys to date are already their friends!

When was the last time you were out somewhere and thought that it was hottie central?

I was hanging out in Smyrna at a wing place on karaoke night and I couldn’t believe the number of cuties that were there. Who knew!?

Where do you think the quality women are? How do quality men seek out their counterparts? What are the best places to meet someone that you think is compatible to you?

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Blog

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i'm swiss™

December 23rd, 2010
11:06 am

Morning, folks…

On topic: “Where are all the good guys?” We’re with the good women. ;-)

:lol:

CoolShadow

December 23rd, 2010
11:06 am

Good men (and women) are everywhere, there’s just no designated zone for them. You can try to look for them but that’s like watching a clock move to strike quitting time. The best thing to do is to get outdoors, be observant, open and aware and you might bump into one literally. I’ve offered that advice to female friends because they won’t find a good man by sitting on their couch with a pint of Haagen Daz watching Love Jones for the 87th time.

I’ve also told them to occasionally reevaluate (read: not necessarily lower) their standards. If you have super stringent standards with laser beam tolerances, chances are great you’ll never find what you’re looking for in one person.

SlimNumeroUno

December 23rd, 2010
11:06 am

Read between the lines ladies…2C been pushing these ‘couch sessions’ bc that’s where his azz been sleeping the last week and a half. :lol:

blue© - final day, and i'm out!!!

December 23rd, 2010
11:08 am

@Leggs – greasy, malnoursished lion with those blue eyes! – just d@mn :!:

AmazonRed™ - yay vacay!

December 23rd, 2010
11:08 am

Read between the lines ladies…2C been pushing these ‘couch sessions’ bc that’s where his azz been sleeping the last week and a half

:lol: :lol: :lol: I wondered why he was so stuck on that ish. Glad we’ve got a decoder in our midst! :lol:

AmazonRed™ - yay vacay!

December 23rd, 2010
11:09 am

Well, I know the one person that needs to stop wearing colored contacts is Ashford Simpson. He looks like a greasy, malnoursished lion with those blue eyes! YUCKO! YUCKO! YUCKO!!!

Please go away!!!!!!!!!!! :lol: :lol: :lol:

BlackMagicWoman

December 23rd, 2010
11:09 am

Where do I find good guys???? Hmmmmm…the verdict is still out on that! But girl….holla when you find out! :lol:

I know where not to find them…..let’s see…church, blogs :evil: , clubs,…and when I think of some others, I will let you know! :lol:

2CPTG©--"that dude from da innanet"

December 23rd, 2010
11:10 am

SexyCool

December 23rd, 2010
11:13 am

I will also add that another mistake that I made was in allowing my emotions to cause me to compromise my standards, excuse and rationalize unacceptable behavior. If I had stuck to my principles, I would have saved myself some of the heartache in the long run.

AmazonRed™ - yay vacay!

December 23rd, 2010
11:13 am

Dang BMW, you’re the 2nd person to say church is not the place to meet good guys. Wow.

czBrat

December 23rd, 2010
11:13 am

**between the skeleton crew and xmas muzak i’m struggling to keep my eyes open up in here.**

2CPTG©--"that dude from da innanet"

December 23rd, 2010
11:14 am

“I will also add that another mistake that I made was in allowing my emotions to cause me to compromise my standards”

men do this too….we just call it “horny”!

SexyCool

December 23rd, 2010
11:15 am

Naw, Toucan, those are hormones, not emotions.

blue© - final day, and i'm out!!!

December 23rd, 2010
11:15 am

@cz – i was thinking of asking you how the new place was, but guess that about describes it….for now at least lol

Leggs

December 23rd, 2010
11:18 am

@2C ~ you’re gonna have to work a little harder to meet your goal of 10 pages today.

SlimNumeroUno

December 23rd, 2010
11:18 am

2C – don’t be mad boo. Just stop letting your ‘hormones’ lead you to chaos because in life there are always consequences and repurcussions ;-) Now are you ready to make up now?

BlackMagicWoman

December 23rd, 2010
11:19 am

LEGGS…girl we NY’ers have ALWAYS BEEN crazy! :lol:

ARED….. I have seen with my own eyes…Satan quoting scriptures! :shock: And he did not spontaneously combust (though I would have loved to see that) :evil: So the church must hand out cloaks to disguse wolves as sheep. Although, real wolves are better than those creepozoids! :lol:

AmazonRed™ - yay vacay!

December 23rd, 2010
11:19 am

I’m watching “Good Hair” for the first time… I wanna go to this white guys salon now. :lol:

2CPTG©--"that dude from da innanet"

December 23rd, 2010
11:20 am

yes, I’m ready!!!!

music to my ears!

Rell- I wear the black hat

December 23rd, 2010
11:20 am

the good guys ladies are usually your closet “male buddies”…lol…you already found them they just dont make your hood move :-)

AmazonRed™ - yay vacay!

December 23rd, 2010
11:22 am

BMW – Damn. :lol:

Question for you… how much time do you spend really getting to know the guys you date? And what are some of the things you pay attention to?

You tell such a colorful story about these dudes. But hopefully it’s not been that bad for ya.

2CPTG©--"that dude from da innanet"

December 23rd, 2010
11:23 am

Leggs, we gon get there! Like MLK said, even if I don’t get there with you, mine eyes have seen the glory of 10 pages!!!! we, as a blog, shall see the promised land!

Leggs

December 23rd, 2010
11:25 am

@BMW ~ yeah. I must have been crazy to have posted that. :lol:

@Rell ~ then they’re not the good ones for us. If the hood doesn’t move, must vacate the premises!

SlimNumeroUno

December 23rd, 2010
11:25 am

‘yes, I’m ready!!!!’

2C – Awww darn, I forgot, this isn’t my week with you, being that we have scheduled weeks so all the sister-wives get fair QT with you. oops sorry

czBrat

December 23rd, 2010
11:25 am

it’s good blue. things are chaotic so i’ll have to woosah through the organizing process, but it’s good. i ended up with more vacay time, better benefits and a quarterly bonus option, so overall it has turned out to be a VERY good move.

Leggs

December 23rd, 2010
11:27 am

@Rell – are you wearing the hat to promote the new movie True Grit?

czBrat

December 23rd, 2010
11:28 am

omg Ared, i actually looked him up after i saw that movie. come to think of it, i should have followed through cuz i’m still rocking this sad pony tail. LOL

i'm swiss™

December 23rd, 2010
11:28 am

BMW — You could meet this guy at church… :lol:

Simple Man!!!!

December 23rd, 2010
11:29 am

OK…..

Why the hell did one of my Vendors just bring 4 dozen Rum muffins up in here today????

BlackMagicWoman

December 23rd, 2010
11:29 am

ARED…the sad thing is..you never REALLY know a person. I take the time to learn what i can about them. Now I don’t want to go all Scooby Doo and the Mystery Van when I meet a guy. It woudl be nice if dudes wouldn’t lie so bad. You try giving the benefit of the doubt…but that nagging suspicion can’t be wrong. Now I can sneal around and investigate. But I’d rather confront you with my suspicions. But it seems guys don’t take too well to that. So…it’s back to learning about you behind your back sice we can’t be adults and put it all out in the open to save us both some trouble. Maybe that’s my problem. I don’t do the games and hiding things about myself. If want to know….ask. Hell I may offer so you know what you are getting. Too bad I don’t get the same in return. Oh well…..

BlackMagicWoman

December 23rd, 2010
11:30 am

:lol: SWISS I am gonna get you for that one!

Willie Dynamite

December 23rd, 2010
11:30 am

Rell – You know what you might be right. In my past what I’ve found is that the best way to get a Woman is through her mouth (NOT channeling Zulu haha). What I mean is usually her best Male Buddy is the dude she can talk to and get a male perspective. Dudes nowadays dont know when to just shut the heyal up. If you just let a Woman talk without running ya mouth then she’ll tell you everything you need to get where you wanna be. The problem is you can’t let her go on too much without interjecting some well placed shots of ISM. Mess that part up then you’ll be trapped in the FZ.
The best place to find a Good Woman is anywhere you can have a conversation with her.

i'm swiss™

December 23rd, 2010
11:31 am

BMW — Haha! Made you look! ;-) :lol:

AmazonRed™ - yay vacay!

December 23rd, 2010
11:31 am

LOL @ czBrat. I still haven’t found a stylist I LOVE in ATL. Well, I did, but he wanted movie star prices and I’m all for simple maintenance. When I lived in New England, I had a great stylist and can’t believe it’s been hard to find one I really like in this black hair mecca. :lol:

Blackfoote

December 23rd, 2010
11:32 am

Mr. Goodnight:

That’s freaking wrong………LOL

Leggs

December 23rd, 2010
11:33 am

@I’m swiss ~ good one.

AmazonRed™ - yay vacay!

December 23rd, 2010
11:33 am

I take the time to learn what i can about them. Now I don’t want to go all Scooby Doo and the Mystery Van when I meet a guy. It woudl be nice if dudes wouldn’t lie so bad. You try giving the benefit of the doubt…but that nagging suspicion can’t be wrong.

BMW – I feel ya. LOL @ Scooby Doo and the Mystery van!!! :lol: :lol: :lol:

SlimNumeroUno

December 23rd, 2010
11:33 am

Blog Monster :mad:

blue© - final day, and i'm out!!!

December 23rd, 2010
11:34 am

@cz – good deal!!! glad its working out so well :)
@Simple Man – Rum Muffins hmmm…and we just have some weird cranberry “holiday” bread…wth is “holiday” bread? is that code for fruitcake???

Kym--Live from Holiday Central

December 23rd, 2010
11:35 am

@CzBrat congrats on the new job..you are blessed to have found something so quick..lot of folks still looking..

Settled on bacon, grits and cheese eggs for breakfast and lemon zinger tea to drink..yummy!

Now I have to put on clothes and take the boy for a haircut and go to the grocery store.. ugghhh!!

Luvbug

December 23rd, 2010
11:37 am

Where do you find the good guys?

Everywhere. How do you know he’s a good guy? *shrugs*…hmph!!

SexyCool

December 23rd, 2010
11:37 am

Oh…and one more thought, I believe that there is the ability to be “good” in every person as a potential mate. However, if we do not require them to be good and accept bad behavior, then we don’t get good treatment. (And you can say, “I didn’t accept their cheating/lying/whatever…but really, when you didn’t leave, when you stayed, that’s exactly what you did, perhaps by default, but…it was an acceptance nonetheless.)

Consequently, we end up crying foul and moaning about there being “no good men/women” out here. When really, it could be that it wasn’t that he/she wasn’t good, it just could’ve been that #1, you didn’t “require” it, you only “expected” it….or….because they were not ever going to be a match for you, then they were not equipped to be good to you, but have no problem being good to the next person.

Rell- I wear the black hat

December 23rd, 2010
11:39 am

@leggs…the black hat = bad guy :-)

@bmw….yea you never really know a person…

Kym--Live from Holiday Central

December 23rd, 2010
11:40 am

@blue..holiday bread is not as dense as fruitcake. I am in the mood to bake..I found recipe for brownies plus..going to try that this weekend..just put on chicken so I can make some chicken and dumplings for this evening.

SlimNumeroUno

December 23rd, 2010
11:41 am

Random thought…

Was grooving to Chris Brown’s No BS until I started listening to the words….boy I tell ya, he shole make a booty call sounds smooth as heyal.

Leggs

December 23rd, 2010
11:43 am

@Kym ~ I’m staying in my pjs all day. My ex just picked up lil leggs to take her shopping to buy me a gift….woo hoo, I’ll have a gift to open Christmas morning. Too bad I already know what it is (LOL).

@Rell ~ :lol: Don’t hurt anybody!

czBrat

December 23rd, 2010
11:44 am

thanx blue, thanx kym. blessed indeed. God knew i was at the end of my rope with them folks, and the phase out news was just Him asking “any other signs you need from me, child?”

Ared, don’t even get me started on good stylists. they’re harder to find than good men. i guess that’s why my pony and i are besties. :)
i must admit, s/o is completely disgusted with my refusal to let a professional do something about all this dead weight on my head. *sigh. why do i feel a new year resolution coming on?*

SexyCool

December 23rd, 2010
11:44 am

I have an example of my point above and basically what we are talking about today.

It’s gonna be kinda long.
(lol)

AmazonRed™ - yay vacay!

December 23rd, 2010
11:45 am

I’m staying in my pjs all day.

Me too…until happy hour of course. :lol:

i'm swiss™

December 23rd, 2010
11:46 am

SlimHere’s another song for you to jam to…