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Christmas gifts gone wrong

If you have met someone new and have contemplated buying a present for Christmas, I urge you to be mindful of what you choose. In some cases, it may even be better to not buy anything at all.

If you have known each other for a short time, a really nice date or special outing may be the way to go. I know some classy people decide to dump their potential relationships to avoid the gift exchange, but it doesn’t have to happen that way!

I have seen gift exchanges derail a new romance simply because the person didn’t know enough about their date. You can misjudge their humor or personal taste and come off looking like a jerk.

Guys, don’t give someone you just started dating lingerie. It’s just lose-lose and way too risky, it’s hard to live down a bad gift purchase like that!

What is the best and worst Christmas exchange you have had?

I can recall this one guy that gave me what I thought was drug paraphernalia but it turned out to be an odd shaped crystal piece. It’s always good when the person can tell what the gift is right away!

Whatever you receive, good or bad, remember to be gracious and say thank you! Even if you have the urge to hurl the empty box at their head. Don’t do it!

By Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Blog

407 comments Add your comment

AmazonRed™

December 22nd, 2010
10:42 am

Hey Raqi,

Glad you made it in safely.

I am whatever you say I am

December 22nd, 2010
10:43 am

Dreams : Tap open the blog bar
It’s always 5:00 somewhere.

I need something spicy.
Captain Morgan and coke please!

Celisea...on vacay...changing channels

December 22nd, 2010
10:43 am

I have to agree on the cuff links idea. I gave a pair of onyx ones for Valentines Day a few years ago…it was a good idea

AmazonRed™

December 22nd, 2010
10:44 am

I tell my mom not to get me anything every year, she does anyway. And usually it’s stuff I could do without. Like a few years ago I was really into Suze Orman, so I saw that she was ordering a Suze Orman book of affirmations. I don’t need positive affirmations from Suze Orman. I just like her show. :lol:

So yeah, someone can know you well and still be off base on the gift giving.

When I do want something I just come out an say it. It’s funny how you can be direct, and folks think you’re giving them a signal for something else.

Fion

December 22nd, 2010
10:46 am

Fellas, here it is. hold on before ya’ll start hollerin’. A day at the spa. Buy the facile, message, manicure/pedicure package . I’m tellin ya, you’ll be in there like Swim wear.
Out the Park Home Run.

Raqi V

December 22nd, 2010
10:46 am

Hey AmazonR. Thanks.

We got back early last Thursday morning. When we saw the forecast of a snow storm coming thru we hit highway. I didn’t really care for us driving overnight with cold weather and wet roads but thanks to the Lord above we made it safely.

I am whatever you say I am

December 22nd, 2010
10:48 am

random: can someone that is sitting 5-6 desks away from me honestly have a phone that vibrates that loud I can hear it even when people in close proximity to me are talking while this is going on :shock:

2CPTG©--"that dude from da innanet"

December 22nd, 2010
10:48 am

So, A Red, what do you want? If a dude asked directly, what’s on your wish list?

2CPTG©--"that dude from da innanet"

December 22nd, 2010
10:49 am

I am….that just means you’re nosey as hell….that’s all that is!

I am whatever you say I am

December 22nd, 2010
10:49 am

Fion: for me that wouldn’t work
I am very picky about who I let do my feet. Some place look good on the outside but when you step inside, you notice they don’t clean/sterilize their tools.
Eewwww gross!!!

AmazonRed™

December 22nd, 2010
10:50 am

Fellas, here it is. hold on before ya’ll start hollerin’. A day at the spa. Buy the facile, message, manicure/pedicure package . I’m tellin ya, you’ll be in there like Swim wear.
Out the Park Home Run.

Hold the phone. I never want that gift. Truth be told, I got a massage certificate for my birthday and was a lil peeved. Especially since it didn’t even cover the cost of a full massage. So now i’ve gotta shell out my own money for a massage I’m not even juiced for.

SexyCool

December 22nd, 2010
10:50 am

No, Dan. No news. Just celebrating life today.

Raqi V

December 22nd, 2010
10:51 am

Fion, we did a gift exchange at the office party last night and I got a spa certificate. This year that was a gift that I was actually not wanting to get. Don’t get me wrong I love taking a spa day to be pampered and whatnot but I have two spa certificates from family that I received for an anniversary presents.

I am whatever you say I am

December 22nd, 2010
10:53 am

Fion: It’s a little tricky for most women.
We are unique and what works well for one chick may not work well for another.

It’s best to ask her what she likes and what she doesn’t.
Do that and any guy is in there like Flint!

AmazonRed™

December 22nd, 2010
10:53 am

So, A Red, what do you want? If a dude asked directly, what’s on your wish list?

This year I wanted a Shark Steam Mop to steam clean my floors. I told my mom and she actually bought it for me. However, had I told a dude I wanted this…I’m sure he would have gotten me something else, since mops aren’t all romantic and stuff.

For the last 5 years, I want the full box set of Sex and the City (6 seasons). I’ve had at least 3 dudes say they’d get it for me, but then they go to the store and find it’s like $200. :lol: It’s probably cheaper now that the show has been off the air for a while.

But again, I’m good with just doing something fun like dinner, ice skating, paint ball, etc.

Dan - Simply...Superior

December 22nd, 2010
10:53 am

Uh-oh, don’t wanna jinx it but the last day is moving kinda fast…

Luvbug

December 22nd, 2010
10:53 am

2C- I hear that. Don’t ask me then go in another direction. LOL

I am whatever you say I am

December 22nd, 2010
10:54 am

For example,if a guy that I was dating were to get me anything on my wish list , that is a guarentee he is in like Flint!

SexyCool

December 22nd, 2010
10:56 am

Fion – I would appreciate that gift simply because you thought enough of me to make the effort. However, it is a woman who *never* does those kinds of things for herself who goes ga-ga over it.

AmazonRed™

December 22nd, 2010
10:57 am

I am – Is someone you’re dating reading this blog or something? We get it. You want gifts on your wish list… :lol:

SexyCool

December 22nd, 2010
10:57 am

Dan, what are you talking about?

Dan - Simply...Superior

December 22nd, 2010
10:59 am

@SC

I’m with you on that.

Even with the camo t-shirt, the thought was appreciated – and reciprocated. It might be something that I wash my car with on down the line, but the thought’s still there.

Raqi V

December 22nd, 2010
11:00 am

AmazonR, my hub told me that my son got me all 6 seasons of “The Office”. I never watched that show before but the past few weeks I have catching the reruns and absolutely love it now. My son was standing in the kitchen when I said I would like to see the previous seasons so when the hub and boy was out doing their shopping the boy paid over $200 to get me all 6 seasons.

He is starting off right by paying attention to what the women in his life says she wants. LOL

Dan - Simply...Superior

December 22nd, 2010
11:01 am

@SC

Today’s my last day before next year, and you know *darn* well how slow that last day before a vacation roooooollllss ooonn iiinn slllooowww moottion

Fion

December 22nd, 2010
11:02 am

“I got a massage certificate for my birthday and was a lil peeved. Especially since it didn’t even cover the cost of a full massage.”
ARed_ now that’s just plain tacky. Another Poacher strikes again!

SexyCool

December 22nd, 2010
11:04 am

I feel you, Dan. I was debating taking the last week of the year off. But decided that I didn’t want to burn up that much of my vacation time. I already loathe having less than 120 hours in the pot. That would have taken me down too far.

BlackMagicWoman

December 22nd, 2010
11:04 am

Morning all…..

I have always wondered what to get a guy that you have just started to date for Christmas. You don’t want to go extravagant because it looks like you are trying to push things too fast. But you don’t want to be impersonal…like a gift card. I have decided on a bottle of his favorite booze and a nice card would suffice! :lol: Henny and Grey Goose is NOT cheap! Also his favorite cologne (really that works for you if you love the smell of him) would be a good gift. Or find out what his hobbies are and work from there.

An excerpt from my upcoming novel, “The Broke-A$$ Christmas Diaries:….”once for Christmas I was so po; (that’s right, I couldn’t afford the other “o” nor the “r”), I dressed up for my boyfriend at that time in one of my Sexy Mrs. Claus outfits and sang and danced to “Santa Baby” while I stripped! “Birthday Sex” be damned! Nothing tops “Christmas Sex”! This was some straight up sleigh riding….stocking stuffing…ho ho hooooooo…sex! And the best part of it….it only cost me $Free.99″! :lol:

WORST GIFT from a new guy is lingerie. I agree WISE!

I love cheezy funny gifts…like a singing stuffed animal, crazy looking knee socks or let me build my own bear at Build-a-Bear. I also love things from Hot Topic. Oh take me to a beauty supply store and let me go crazy. I love hair. I don’t care if I have a head full. I like wigs and things to change my look like you change knickers! It suits all my personality!

In a perfect world and I had a rich man….they the possiblilites would be endless! But alas….this is not a perfect world! :sad:

Leggs

December 22nd, 2010
11:05 am

@Raqi V ~ glad you guys made it back safely. So, how was the party? How did the game go over, if you played it?

Raqi V

December 22nd, 2010
11:06 am

the thought was appreciated

SexyCool and Dan, I’m calling you two to come front and center. I agree it’s the thought that counts but what about a Chia Pet/Thingy for a gift? LOL

One year my son wanted to get a gift for his teacher. All the kids were getting gifts so I took him shopping. He wanted to get a Chia Pet because the teacher had live plants in the room that kids helped her to water sometimes. He told me because she likes plants most of the kids said they were getting Chia Pets. I know two people who received one of those for a gift and would rather have not. LOL

I am whatever you say I am

December 22nd, 2010
11:06 am

No Red: not dating anyone reading this blog.

Just kinda sad because I want some if not all the things on my list but it doesn’t appear that it will happen.
My mom gave me $100 which was a nice gift but I don’t even get to keep it or spend it on myself. I had to use it to pay bills.

Raqi V

December 22nd, 2010
11:06 am

Leggs, I sent you an email.

AmazonRed™

December 22nd, 2010
11:07 am

Fion – I was appreciative of course, but there is no rule that you have to like everything given to you.

But I would like to remind the fellas that a spa certificate is not a “home run, slam dunk” type gift. Women are very particular when it comes to their beauty regimine.

Delight23 ...Heading South for X-Mas...1 Day 2 Go

December 22nd, 2010
11:08 am

DreamsMaterialize, I’m with you. I’m a drag to friends/family. I’m a big girl I don’t really have a wish list for x-mas. I just like to travel and do funs thing year-round.

Outside of a winning lottery ticket (I am, a good idea’s a good idea :-) ), meh…

I am whatever you say I am

December 22nd, 2010
11:08 am

an awesome awesome gift that I would do back flips for would be if someone could find and pay for soccer lessons for my soon to be 3 year old.
I haven’t found any classes for him near me and a Y membership is out of my budget.

AmazonRed™

December 22nd, 2010
11:08 am

One of the best gifts I did get this year. The week between Christmas and New Years off with no charge to our vacation time. You gotta love an employer who realizes it’s a dead period and governs accordingly.

And the Christmas bonus was nice (and totally unexpected) too!

AmazonRed™

December 22nd, 2010
11:09 am

I am – Keep your head up. Your time is coming. Maybe you’ll even get your #11 one day.

AmazonRed™

December 22nd, 2010
11:10 am

He is starting off right by paying attention to what the women in his life says she wants. LOL

Raqi – Gotta love that.

And yeah, those full season sets are never cheap!

Dan - Simply...Superior

December 22nd, 2010
11:10 am

@Raqi

Be it a watch, a Chia pet, or a card – it is appreciated.

I take the view that, in the moment [you] bought it, [you] were thinking of me, and that I might like/enjoy the gift.

That’s the thought that’s appreciated – at least for me.

SexyCool

December 22nd, 2010
11:10 am

Hey Rock. I was only referring to the spa deal as thoughtful. If you buy me something cheesy, I’m probably not going to like it. (Unless it was intentionally cheesy and we both know it. That makes it funny which means you just gave me the gift of laughter.)

And if you know me well enough to be buying me a gift (and you really should only be buying me a gift if you know me well enough to do so), I would think that you would put some thought into the present. (Hence, the thought that counts.)

However, if you just dived into your re-gifting bag and just threw any old thing out at me or bought me something tacky or not to my tastes, then you weren’t thinking and that doesn’t count.

Fion

December 22nd, 2010
11:11 am

……not getting too deep into this, but u would want to pick a 1st tier place.
Something the woman wouldn’t object to. Something with a little wow! factor.

Celisea...on vacay...changing channels

December 22nd, 2010
11:11 am

I received a Spa Sydell gift certificate (same dude that got the cuff links) and I was pretty pleased. That was a home run for me :)

Leggs

December 22nd, 2010
11:12 am

@Raqi V ~ cool. I’ll log into my account a little later. I’m home this week. I have too many hours and must use. Sure wish I could give some away. I’m rolling over 360 hours toward 2011. Will definitely take a few trips in 2011. Lil leggs wants to go on another cruise.

AmazonRed™

December 22nd, 2010
11:16 am

……not getting too deep into this, but u would want to pick a 1st tier place.
Something the woman wouldn’t object to. Something with a little wow! factor.

Yeah, but who determines what is first tier?

Celisea loved her Spa Sydell certificate. I’m looking for way to regift mine.

Leggs

December 22nd, 2010
11:16 am

I cleaned my boss’ office one year. He won the distinction of having the messiest office in Atlanta. The company gave me a full Spa Sydell certificate. I loved it. Even the waxing that left me a bit light headed and woozy. :lol: :lol:

2CPTG©--"that dude from da innanet"

December 22nd, 2010
11:17 am

I am….you soundin’ real depressed right about now.

Fion

December 22nd, 2010
11:17 am

Celisea loved her Spa Sydell certificate. I’m looking for way to regift mine.

ARed_ ……..There’s always Craigslist.

AmazonRed™

December 22nd, 2010
11:18 am

Fion – Good idea.

Celisea...on vacay...changing channels

December 22nd, 2010
11:19 am

I would be good getting another day at the spa…on somebody else…quite thoughtful in my book.

Leggs

December 22nd, 2010
11:19 am

Stay away from Criagslist…stay away….there’s another Craigslist killer on the rampage!

Fion

December 22nd, 2010
11:20 am

The best gifts I’ve given (according to those that received them) were gifts that dealt with the development of the self triad.
The Mental, Physical and Spiritual identity. Books, 1hr counseling, Spas ect. Ect. Ect.