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Should you wait for a date?

You always hear dating advice to women about how men are supposed to pursue you when they are truly interested. We know that “when he’s into you” he will and then you will know that it’s real.

I don’t know if that is always the case though. A lot of men are laid back and take things slow because they don’t like to rush things. If you meet someone that you are interested in, how long should you wait to go out with them?

For some people, the process is: swap phone numbers; hold a few conversations on the phone to weed out the crazies or married people; text and/or email; add each other on Facebook; schedule a date. I have known at least three relationships that started this way. The date didn’t get set up right away at all.

Is there a time frame when a date should be scheduled? If someone hasn’t asked you out, do you move on right away and cut off communication?

How long do you usually wait to set up a date after you meet someone?

Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Blog

293 comments Add your comment

For Real

December 20th, 2010
4:33 pm

“I need intervention right about now” – For Real now slapping the ish out of Celisea

SexyCool

December 20th, 2010
4:33 pm

Because Dude is the one that initiated the chase while otherwise involved.

Red even said she asked *him* upfront what he would do if it turned out to be some romantic interest.

Celisea

December 20th, 2010
4:34 pm

Luvbug – I would if I felt she did know as you’ve suggested…wouldn’t if I didn’t.

Agreed.

For Real – I think they said she’s just now finding out. Remember he promised to tell her but never got around to it.

AmazonRed

December 20th, 2010
4:35 pm

Uh of course she and I are still friends. Why wouldn’t we be? I did nothing more than look out for her. She’s upset she was too chicken to ask him straight up what his deal was. She didn’t feel it was her place. Don’t get that one but hey… She learned a good lesson I guess!

Melo!!

December 20th, 2010
4:36 pm

Luvbug?

its either u compelling or u not…
In situation so u hesitant…

u just lame

u deem her expensive

u had second thoughts

u want to have another chance meeting,during the day this time before u can say exactly u wanna take her out! :lol:

Celisea

December 20th, 2010
4:36 pm

“I need intervention right about now” – For Real now slapping the ish out of Celisea

LOLOLOL…cut it out man

Sassy Me..4 days til MY birthday :-)

December 20th, 2010
4:37 pm

She learned a good lesson I guess!

Good for her :mrgreen:

Integrity is doing the right thing when no one is watching…

Luvbug

December 20th, 2010
4:38 pm

Melo – Expensive?

What would make you (a guy) think that?

…oh, and expensive in a way you (a guy) can’t afford, or just in general?

Celisea

December 20th, 2010
4:39 pm

Integrity is doing the right thing when no one is watching…

love this

For Real

December 20th, 2010
4:40 pm

Scool/Celisea/Luvbug: “She’s upset she was too chicken to ask him straight up what his deal was. She didn’t feel it was her place.” – See she knew exactly what she was doing even when ole boy approached.

For Real now slapping the ish out Celisea with his left hand while wondering if he should tell her he is ambidextrous.

SexyCool

December 20th, 2010
4:41 pm

Luvbug – he wants to see how the date goes with the chick that he asked out right away before he asks the *backup* chick out???

AmazonRed

December 20th, 2010
4:41 pm

Uh…of course my girl and I are still good. I was looking out for her and she knows that. She didn’t feel it was her place to ask and I guess she learned a lesson there.

I am whatever you say I am

December 20th, 2010
4:41 pm

random: can someone please explain to me all these issues Delta is having with their aircraft?
Seems like every other week there is an emergency landing.

Celisea

December 20th, 2010
4:43 pm

Ummmmm, why am I the only still getting slapped if you can use both hands equally well???!!! You can’t slap other folks with the other hand?

Melo!!

December 20th, 2010
4:43 pm

Think that?!

my perception of u….right or wrong.

we all develop perceptions about people based on our own ideosynchracies.

above my pay grade…I think so I shy away!

men don’t like financial castration..feeling of being sub her financially.

SexyCool

December 20th, 2010
4:43 pm

And…IF all they’ve done is kissed and talk on the phone, what does she have to beat herself up about?

This would say to me that while this this dude is attracted to me and enjoys my conversation, he obviously is not at a point where actually spending time with me is a priority.

AmazonRed

December 20th, 2010
4:44 pm

Yup. Integrity which is why I told. :-)

Celisea

December 20th, 2010
4:45 pm

This would say to me that while this this dude is attracted to me and enjoys my conversation, he obviously is not at a point where actually spending time with me is a priority.

….and the point of today’s post. What does it mean to you if someone is not bringing it? You can chat it up and enjoy my convo but no other real live interaction? I would wonder at that point what’s up? You got a girl? You don’t like girls? You have a rotation? You got a wife….something should have poked her to go further

SlimNumeroUno

December 20th, 2010
4:45 pm

‘Good One Slim…’

For Real – you knows I try to look out fa ya ;-)

swiss – You never fail me….but I sort of pictured it that same way.

(Channeling For Real):

You ladies can view an eclipse anytime you want. Here, just lie down on the ground & look up while I… [ZIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIP]

Chick – I’m looking but I don’t see anything.

For Real – Look in that hole in the top. You might wanna try closing one of your eyes and opening your mouth.

:lol:

Melo!!

December 20th, 2010
4:46 pm

The kiss is sending signals to the coochie!

that’s why Sexxycool :lol:

Luvbug

December 20th, 2010
4:47 pm

SexyCool – LOLOL…assuming the guy has no chick (not involved or attached in anyway, sexually, emotionally, potentionally or otherwise)

I know you were joking but side not: I’m mad we gotta define single nowadays…and I know there is some dude some where laughing cause even that long description wasn’t comprehensive.

You know what…da hell with dating.

Steve Q, you sell cats now?

i'm swiss™

December 20th, 2010
4:48 pm

“men don’t like financial castration..feeling of being sub her financially.”

F@#k that! I’ll take Sugar Mamas for $1000, Alex.

Shhhh…. Don’t listen to him, Oprah… He doesn’t know what he’s talking about. You just keep making that money, boo… :lol:

Luvbug

December 20th, 2010
4:49 pm

*side note*

…and *comfortable* (from earlier)

For Real

December 20th, 2010
4:51 pm

Continue from slim…..

Chick: Like this?

For Real: Yeah that it. Now twist it back and forth gently to get it into focus.

Chick: Like this?

For Real: Oh yeah that’s it. Don’t stop!

Chick: OH LOOK IT’S HALEY’S COMET!

i'm swiss™

December 20th, 2010
4:53 pm

:lol: @ For Real

On that note, have you seen the South Park episode with the “Shake Weight?” If not, you need to… :lol:

SlimNumeroUno

December 20th, 2010
4:54 pm

For Real——> :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

i'm swiss™

December 20th, 2010
4:56 pm

For Real

December 20th, 2010
4:58 pm

Swiss: CLASSIC!!!!

i'm swiss™

December 20th, 2010
4:59 pm

“Here’s your cab fare. Now going to sleep mode.”

:lol: :lol:

Celisea

December 20th, 2010
5:03 pm

I know you were joking but side not: I’m mad we gotta define single nowadays…and I know there is some dude some where laughing cause even that long description wasn’t comprehensive.

You know what…da hell with dating.

Amen Amen

Celisea

December 20th, 2010
5:05 pm

Celisea

December 20th, 2010
5:06 pm

Rum flavored filled chocolates…okay let me stop. Ya’ll gonna think I’m a pig

TenderRoni

December 20th, 2010
5:07 pm

I with you Celisea…the heck with dating…it gets to be too much.

Celisea

December 20th, 2010
5:08 pm

Hey Tender, I was agreeing with Luvbug but yeah it can be waaay to the left sometimes and not worth the effort.

SexyCool

December 20th, 2010
5:10 pm

Yes, Melo. And the cookie is talking louder than common sense is whispering.

For Real

December 20th, 2010
5:12 pm

Tender/Celisea: Dating ain’t hard. What’s hard is dating but wanting something else. If you look at dating for what it is (fun) then it’s no problem.

blue©

December 20th, 2010
5:12 pm

Rum flavord filled chocolates….yes, thats what caught my attention lol….Celisea – share, lol

TenderRoni

December 20th, 2010
5:14 pm

Enter your comments here

Luvbug

December 20th, 2010
5:17 pm

For Real – I know you didn’t address me, but I agree…it’s not hard. It’s made hard by folks who complicate it with lies or partial truths. A person should know if he is available and be able to openly communicate it without being cornered. I get one check and it aint for the FBI or CIA or DHS…all that extra work takes the fun out.

Celisea

December 20th, 2010
5:18 pm

For Real – You’re right..dating ain’t hard…you can do that all day and easily but it’s the other “stuff” that factors in that becomes a problem.

Blue – Mmmmmm delish

Luvbug

December 20th, 2010
5:18 pm

Celisea

December 20th, 2010
5:19 pm

Other “stuff” being lies, less than forthcoming, etc. If everybody would lay it on the line, up front and honest, that would shave off so much other stuff. I realize though that’s too much like right in asking

SexyCool

December 20th, 2010
5:38 pm

“I get one check and it aint for the FBI or CIA or DHS…all that extra work takes the fun out.”

Pricelessly hilarious.