Has masculinity changed?
I grew up around men who built stuff, hunted, and were skilled at fixing cars. I think many of the men in my family still play traditional roles but I’m not sure how the next generation has embraced them.
A lot of people are used to traditional gender roles but I always wonder how much has changed, especially when it comes to the male roles. We are in a different time, so a lot things are different today. Do you think the definition of masculinity has changed?
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PrincessNik
December 9th, 2010
3:42 pm
2Can
your 3:38 made me start singing Jermih, Birthday s3x
Sassy Me :-)
December 9th, 2010
3:42 pm
I thought errbody got some on their birthday…..
Well I’ve got a birthday coming up on the 24th and am wondering the same thing should I get some birthday nookie or should I stay disciplined…decisions,decisions.
Leggs - Loving 52!
December 9th, 2010
3:43 pm
Hmmmmmm, they do! Must have missed that memo. I understand everyone should, but it doesn’t usually work out that way.
Rell - 23 months to retirement
December 9th, 2010
3:44 pm
saturday night i have crima parties and i am riding dirty…holla…matter fact i want to drank my weight in that “fire water” rat na….i want to slap somebody too
Purple Rain
December 9th, 2010
3:44 pm
Delight, if she is good there will be no spots. LOL
SlimNumeroUno - Independently Dependent ;-)
December 9th, 2010
3:45 pm
Question for you fellas
I know women tend to be more apt to do this over men, but have any of you said, Hey for the next (insert specified amount of time…let’s say a month) I will refrain from sex, touching myself, oral etc?
Rell - 23 months to retirement
December 9th, 2010
3:45 pm
@sassy…..smh letting that body go inactive..smh
Purple Rain
December 9th, 2010
3:46 pm
Sassy, atleast if you choose not to get some nookie, nookie yourself on your birthday
It’s my birthday atleast 3 times a week
Leggs - Loving 52!
December 9th, 2010
3:46 pm
@SassyMe ~ so go and get bday nookie just because it’s your bday knowing you have no relationship with the dude is good for you…go for it!! Question, do you spend time with said person of interest doing anything other than mere sexing??
Purple Rain
December 9th, 2010
3:47 pm
Slim, I have done that before. I always lose though, I love myself the longest I have gone without nothing at all is about six months.
2CPTG© - "that dude from da innanet"
December 9th, 2010
3:48 pm
Slim…..I’ve tried….
btw, when are you gonna resume your therapy sessions?
Rell - 23 months to retirement
December 9th, 2010
3:49 pm
Hey for the next (insert specified amount of time…let’s say a month) I will refrain from sex, touching myself, oral etc?
- slim i did that back in the 90’s when i was trying to walk with the “nation”
- i did it for a minute after my divorce because i was not feeling women…evil thoughts
- i did it before i meet my wife
- even now i will go a couple of days just to clear my head and re-up my energy..or focus or lack there of…
SlimNumeroUno - Independently Dependent ;-)
December 9th, 2010
3:52 pm
2C – how long did you last for…and what was the reasoning behind doing it in the first place?
Purp – I would have to say that 6 months is a long time for a dude who loves getting it in. lol I’ve done it before as far as no sex but I had to be one with myself every now and then. lol It’s always hard in the beginning because you know that you’re about to starve yourself.
Trevor0529
December 9th, 2010
3:55 pm
have any of you said, Hey for the next (insert specified amount of time…let’s say a month) I will refrain from sex, touching myself, oral etc?
Slim, honestly I don’t even utter the words.
For Real
December 9th, 2010
3:58 pm
For Real now voting Slim as the Grinch that stole Xmas sex.
I never understood why people deny themselves the few true pleasures you get on this earth. So why would you choose not to have sex is a better question in my opinion.
Sassy Me :-)
December 9th, 2010
3:59 pm
do you spend time with said person of interest doing anything other than mere sexing??
Leggs there is no one..literally. The last one I had was the boy toy and I’ve gotten rid of him. I know I can call him if I want but if I go there I want some nu nu…
nookie yourself on your birthday It’s my birthday atleast 3 times a week
Rell..it’s just a matter of time…Imma “get it in”..
For Real
December 9th, 2010
4:00 pm
Slim: I bet you wouldn’t not eat for 6 month so why deprive yourself of sex for 6 month? What does it fix, resolve or prove?
Purple Rain
December 9th, 2010
4:01 pm
I am more intensed and focused when my pipes are backed up and tons of more energy. If there is a tough mudder event or something that requires alot of physical exertion I will not clean the pipes the week of.
2CPTG© - "that dude from da innanet"
December 9th, 2010
4:01 pm
Slim ….almost a year….and it was because I needed to do some soul-searching…I was bad!!!!! real bad…..not to mention the ramifications – one time I thought was hunching so much that my peter was gon’ stop working….and I got scared one time cause I had finally got this bad ass broad to the crib, and “dude” obviously wasn’t with it…..I seriously thought something was wrong…..so I had to re-evaluate things…
SlimNumeroUno - Independently Dependent ;-)
December 9th, 2010
4:02 pm
‘re-up my energy’
Rell – dang, does it take that much outta ya to where you need to periodically Re-up?
Leggs - Loving 52!
December 9th, 2010
4:04 pm
@SassyMe ~ not trying to be a prude, but if there’s no one…literally, why give such a valuable piece of you just because. I understand For Real’s comment on why should a person deny themselves….because there’s no one there to appreciate it or you! If you just want a sexual relationship and he wants one too…fine. However, if you want more, then seek more! And, you can’t seek out the right with your legs open…JMO!!
For Real
December 9th, 2010
4:06 pm
“I am more in tensed and focused when my pipes are backed up and tons of more energy.” – I am the exact opposite. Once I get some my mind is clear and I’m ready for the world. Especially when I get some in the morning.
SlimNumeroUno - Independently Dependent ;-)
December 9th, 2010
4:10 pm
2C – sorry about that limpy noodle when you finally got Mizz Badazz over to the crib…it happens. BUT A DAYUM YEAR….WHOA! No palm pump action during that time either??
Sassy Me :-)
December 9th, 2010
4:12 pm
why give such a valuable piece of you just because.
Cause I get hot n horny and need to be seen…I’m still human.
you can’t seek out the right with your legs open…
Exactly my point and reason for my sexual hiatus…I know that I can’t find who I’m sposed to have if I’ve got some random dude in his place. That being said I’m still a woman and the feeling won’t go away.
2CPTG© - "that dude from da innanet"
December 9th, 2010
4:12 pm
Slim…..nope.
SlimNumeroUno - Independently Dependent ;-)
December 9th, 2010
4:13 pm
For Real – looks like blog monster didn’t like my post.
Purple Rain
December 9th, 2010
4:14 pm
For Real, after I get some everything is rosey and I want more and I tend to be easier going and letting stuff slide because I just dont care at that moment. LOL, I have to stay backed up to be on top of my game. LOL, and you know women start asking for stuff afterwards knowing that you will say yes
Purple Rain
December 9th, 2010
4:15 pm
Sometimes you just have to get some!
SlimNumeroUno - Independently Dependent ;-)
December 9th, 2010
4:15 pm
A month looks like nothing compared to a month…lol When I went on a hiatus, it was after a break-up, then I wasn’t dating anyone so after a while it wasn’t an issue…then I was sort of like surprised at how long it had been one day and wanted to keep it going.
2CPTG© - "that dude from da innanet"
December 9th, 2010
4:16 pm
so Slim what you sayin….ye’en hunchin?
SlimNumeroUno - Independently Dependent ;-)
December 9th, 2010
4:18 pm
meant to say a month is nothing compared to a YEAR…my bad.
2C – I didn’t say dat exactly
Melo!!
December 9th, 2010
4:19 pm
@2Can?
a year bro….that’s some discipline! And bad chick was in house but jnr
SlimNumeroUno - Independently Dependent ;-)
December 9th, 2010
4:21 pm
2C – So tell me how the first time was after your year sabbatical? Did you pop ole girl’s head off?
Melo!!
December 9th, 2010
4:23 pm
Jnr wasn’t saluting!
@Slim? why u asking all that,is your appetite making u feel guilty?!
When ur pipes are backed up?
hmmm,uall confusing me’!
2CPTG© - "that dude from da innanet"
December 9th, 2010
4:25 pm
Melo, it was tough!!!! and I wanted to see if I actually could…some’n like an experiment with myself….
Slim, like riding a bike babygirl…and naw, no head poppin…..but you tombout quick……I think I nutted soon as I unzipped the sombytch…
Rell - 23 months to retirement
December 9th, 2010
4:25 pm
@slim…i sometimes loose focus and not thinking about other stuff..not like other chicks but life stuff…money, status, vision, feature…so i have to re-focus myself…i usually loose focus when its all work and no play…but dont worry p90x keeps me with plenty of energy..that and chicken wangs :-0
@sassy…lol@nu nu…now touch yourself
Leggs - Loving 52!
December 9th, 2010
4:25 pm
@SassyMe ~ I know why your hiatus. Just because your hot and horny doesn’t me you have to give in to it just because you’re human. We humans have the ability of self-control in just about all situations. Just because your human isn’t the right outlook nor the right answer. You’re fooling yourself if that’s your only answer! But, I get what your saying I just don’t subscribed to that train of thought.
Ok, never mind. I’m going to get off my soapbox
SlimNumeroUno - Independently Dependent ;-)
December 9th, 2010
4:26 pm
Appetite making me guilty—-> huh??
Melo – i’m not hungry, I just not too long ago had a sub from Publix so i’m pretty full right now. Oh, and sorry to confuse you…the words NOT and SEX in the same sentence would confuse you.
Melo!!
December 9th, 2010
4:27 pm
Slim?!
if I dont get it on the regular,and I mean regular,I pout.
I really need my thang oiled constantly
So Slim,is self indulgence that much relaxing?
I font get it I can’t even do masturbation.that’s a misdemeanor I can’t afford as long as we have women in abundance.
Purple Rain
December 9th, 2010
4:30 pm
I do not play well with others when I am not getting any, but I get work done like crazy
Rell - 23 months to retirement
December 9th, 2010
4:30 pm
lawd why are we so uptight about sex thats the problem…..smh…but i guess something for women to hold on to when they feel out of control
Leggs - Loving 52!
December 9th, 2010
4:31 pm
@Rell ~ doesn’t sound like anyone here is uptight about it. Everyone has there reasons for not indulging all willy nilly with just any dingaling.
BlackMagicWoman
December 9th, 2010
4:32 pm
Ok…I am showing up on CPT but what’s up peoples?
Happy Birthday to Leggs. So this is your Annual 40th birthay?
And what is this I read about the birthday sex? Girl who is he? You know I have to be nosey! I need to live vicariously through you!
Oh yeah and on topic….I am very handy so I fix my own stuff! So a handy man is appreciated (especially if he sweats and looks sexy while he fixes things)..but not required!
Rell - 23 months to retirement
December 9th, 2010
4:33 pm
@leggs – guess what i am getting you and @sassy for christmas….lol…
Melo!!
December 9th, 2010
4:34 pm
The only time I lose focus is when I’m in,but I want to prevent a quick nutt.
Uall know about that guys?
U just immesh your thoughts in some distant even as she is squirming and hollering under u and enjoying your hardness.just let her arch u while u think about the war I. Agghanstan and them folks dying.
That abates the flow of blood to jnr.
Then after a lil while,u back on it,hard.
That’s longevity for u!
Sassy Me :-)
December 9th, 2010
4:34 pm
then I was sort of like surprised at how long it had been one day and wanted to keep it going.
I guess I’m vacillating between those two places…sometimes I feel the need for a serious session and then there are the times when I count how long it’s been and feel glad about it. I’m sure it’ll get easier….
Melo!!
December 9th, 2010
4:35 pm
war in afghanistan
Purple Rain
December 9th, 2010
4:36 pm
LOL, Melo I will think about hunting or something…but once she starts reaching her point and moaning…well that just does something to me..LOL
Purple Rain
December 9th, 2010
4:36 pm
Wikileaks
2CPTG© - "that dude from da innanet"
December 9th, 2010
4:36 pm
“U just immesh your thoughts in some distant even as she is squirming and hollering under u and enjoying your hardness.just let her arch u while u think about the war I. Agghanstan and them folks dying.”
all that sounds good, but soon as you hear, “oooooooooh shhhhhhhhhiiiit”……it’s a wrap!