Do you need a dating do over?
Have you ever been in the heat of the moment and mistakenly said something you wish you could take back? Perhaps you said the wrong name in bed, or blurted out I love you when you weren’t really ready to say it. You have this feeling of dread and you suddenly wish your life was operated by TiVo.
I can tell you that do overs are like Keebler elves, they don’t exist. I believe you can recover and smooth things over, though. Just ignoring it won’t help, it will become like this weird awkward elephant in the room that you can’t really get around. Facing it as soon as possible is going to let you move on quicker and forget about it.
One of my friend sent someone a racy picture and he really regrets it now! I don’t know what he was thinking but I told him to just apologize to her since she was offended. He may have to up his game and show his gentlemanly side even more to recover but I think she may give him a pass if she really likes him.
When have you ever wished for a do over? Is there a situation that you handled really badly and regret how it turned out?
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2CPTG© - "that dude from da innanet"
December 3rd, 2010
8:40 am
G’morning….
“When have you ever wished for a do over?” when I was younger.
“Is there a situation that you handled really badly and regret how it turned out?” yep.
Leggs
December 3rd, 2010
8:44 am
Good morning.
You may or may not remember my blunder when I called out another man’s name in the heat of the moment. Not once, but twice! Suffice it to say, the evening was ruined. He went home, and I was left with BOB!
Rell
December 3rd, 2010
8:48 am
A do over..yep…..I wished that i would have slowed down and waited on CS rather then run into HH at my friends party…if i had went on the date instead of standing her up..my life would be different now
DreamsMaterialize
December 3rd, 2010
9:00 am
Morning
No do overs for me. I believe everything happens exactly the way it’s supposed to, my pluck ups notwithstanding.
Diva your friend did what guys do all the time…push the envelope. If you go too far, you can almost always recover, but if you never ask, then you never know.
Delight23
December 3rd, 2010
9:12 am
Leggs
December 3rd, 2010
9:13 am
Although I’m not a huge sports fan, I am so glad King James SHUT IT DOWN last night. He stopped negative front page news, constant jabs, and threw mud in their faces! That’s one way to silence your naysayers!
PrincessNik
December 3rd, 2010
9:14 am
Good Morning
I’m with DreamsM, I can’t really say I’d want a do-over, some of the lessons learned were priceless and have helped me to become (at least I like to think) a better woman. When you know better you do better……….
Delight23
December 3rd, 2010
9:15 am
Bom dia peoples!! Tis Friday. Four more weeks and 2010 is gone.
At topic, yes there is a blunder from my younger years that I wish I could take back. Being a heartbreaker can be as painful as receiving one. He was a sweet man, just
blue©
December 3rd, 2010
9:19 am
Morning peoples,
do overs huh? wish i hadnt played ghost when i did. i’d be in a different place now. bummer dude
DreamsMaterialize
December 3rd, 2010
9:20 am
Dreams…always easier to apologize after than to get permission up front.
Delight you got it. I feel the force is strong in you, young padawan.
PrincessNik
December 3rd, 2010
9:23 am
Four more weeks and 2010 is gone
D23, i was just sitting here thinking this year has flown by……
Delight23
December 3rd, 2010
9:32 am
PrincessNik: Yep! I guess i’m getting old…er.
Every year seems to feel shorter and shorter. But I’m early 30’s so I remind myself that all things considered, I’ve got a another 30-40 in me on this beautiful ball of water.
I am whatever you say I am
December 3rd, 2010
9:37 am
“….Perhaps you said the wrong name in bed…..”
Okay that right there has never happened to me. I remember though, I was sort of talking to two guys whose names were very similar
It was only off by one letter, I called on dude on the phone by the other dudes name. He was like huh?
I played it off . I don’t remember what I said but it really went over his head
Thank GOD the mess up only occurred thru phone conversations and not thru face to face contact.
I am whatever you say I am
December 3rd, 2010
9:38 am
sorry for my typo
Leggs
December 3rd, 2010
9:38 am
I was reflecting on how fast the year has gone by and wondered if lil leggs thought the same. Meaning, when we were teenagers the days felt long to us. Now that we’re adults, the day is gone in a blink of an eye!
SlimNumeroUno
December 3rd, 2010
9:43 am
Happy Fix Yo Faults Friday!
We can shoulda woulda coulda all day long but the reality is you can’t turn back the hands of time unless you can find Doc and hope in the DeLorean. lol
2CPTG© - "that dude from da innanet"
December 3rd, 2010
9:43 am
Leggs??????
naw, I’on remember that one…so you called out another dude’s name….twice?? current dude must not have been doin’ it right…..wow…
I am whatever you say I am
December 3rd, 2010
9:44 am
I don’t have any regrets for anything I have done.
I chalk it up as learning experiences.
But let’s just say that they are giving out free do-overs, then yes I would be first in line.
The do-over moment that I would humbly ask for would be the time when I was 19 and I dated this guy that was the sweetest and treated me like a queen. I was so immature, I treated him like crap. I was in that I want a ruff-neck stage of my life and he was anything but that. This was the only guy that could actually get away with falling asleep
fake falling asleepon the couch at my parents house so they would let him spend the night. He was a good dude. My parents really liked him. Heck, they knew him since he was 5.Dude is married now with kids. I ask the Lord for forgiveness and thru the experiences I have been thru, I treat people with the kindness and respect they deserve.
I am whatever you say I am
December 3rd, 2010
9:47 am
“….my blunder when I called out another man’s name in the heat of the moment. Not once, but twice……”
WOW!!!
how does one recover from that!??! 
stuff happens
LMAO!!!Reminds me of the time, I was sort of in the heat of the moment and dude ticked me off so I got up and called another dude while he was still there in the room looking at me like
Yes, I know, I was wrong. Don’t judge
I’ve already repented for my sins. Believe me!
I am whatever you say I am
December 3rd, 2010
9:48 am
*disclaimer* oh, at my 9:47: that is not the dude I dated from when I was 19
I am whatever you say I am
December 3rd, 2010
9:49 am
Leggs: at your 9:13. You left out BooooYaaahhhh!!!!!
I am whatever you say I am
December 3rd, 2010
9:50 am
“…..Four more weeks and 2010 is gone…..”
Singing like Keyshia Cole: I just want it to be over……
Leggs
December 3rd, 2010
9:51 am
@2C ~ yes, I discussed it here when we this topic came up. They really looked a lot alike. I have a small pension for calling people other peoples names in everyday talk. I was in the throes when I called out another dude’s name. He slapped me (lightly, but still a slap) and said “that’s not my name.” I apologized and a few seconds later, I said it again. That time I knew it was the end of the evening. I have never called out another man’s name since then!
Kym
December 3rd, 2010
9:52 am
Good Morning All,
Hmmm does wishing you like never..ever..ever..ever..spoke to a person count as a dating do over? Cause if so I have a few jokers I would like to hit the reset button on. Rewind..reverse..but from our ups and downs we learn so much.
SlimNumeroUno
December 3rd, 2010
9:54 am
hop not hope
SlimNumeroUno
December 3rd, 2010
9:58 am
I woulda cut my 10yr off and on r’ship shawt a long time ago after the first few infractions instead of believing my love could fix it all.
2CPTG© - "that dude from da innanet"
December 3rd, 2010
9:59 am
“I have never called out another man’s name since then!”
what??………hush 2,……don’t even say nothin…….just hush……(but thinkin’…cause yo ass ain’t had it put on you!)
Rell
December 3rd, 2010
10:02 am
I would do over when i pushed the envelope in my marriage…gravity by joi comes to mind when i think of that time period..it was not smart or cute…but hey you live an learn right
Delight23
December 3rd, 2010
10:03 am
“Although I’m not a huge sports fan, I am so glad King James SHUT IT DOWN last night.”
Dipping in and out of the blog…was over at espn.com and just cheesing up a storm. I’m not even a fan much less a follower of his, but that town can suck it.
Nobody told you to build an entire economy around one man. And how dare that man do what’s best for him. Heck, I guess he didn’t get the memo that he belonged to Cleveland, that whole free slave this was just a farce.
Celisea
December 3rd, 2010
10:17 am
A tryst with a coworker that went on waaaay too long
Celisea
December 3rd, 2010
10:18 am
A guess I can’t say “tryst” then huh?
Sassy Me..Disco Lady :-)
December 3rd, 2010
10:24 am
You may or may not remember my blunder when I called out another man’s name in the heat of the moment. Not once, but twice!
Now that’s how you mess with a man’s self esteem…I’ve done that during convo but not during the grown up.
On topic: There have been some situations where I handled things with tact but later on I wanted to go back and wreck some sh!t up but that would’ve been out of anger and not really help.
I am whatever you say I am
December 3rd, 2010
10:31 am
“……He slapped me (lightly, but still a slap) and said “that’s not my name.”
ROTFLMAO!!!!!!!!
PrincessNik
December 3rd, 2010
10:35 am
But I’m early 30’s so I remind myself that all things considered, I’ve got a another 30-40 in me on this beautiful ball of water.
@ D23 AMEN sistah
Sassy Me..Disco Lady :-)
December 3rd, 2010
10:35 am
..it was not smart or cute…but hey you live an learn right
Yeah I think we all have been in a situation like that…learning is the most important thing cause there for sure wouldn’t be a repeat of that again…refuse to let it happen.
does wishing you like never..ever..ever..ever..spoke to a person count as a dating do over? Cause if so I have a few jokers I would like to hit the reset button on.
I sure as heyal wish there was a button or an app for that…
LovelessinAtl
December 3rd, 2010
10:38 am
I haven’t had any regrets with anything I’ve done or said…until this year. I would like a do over with WM. I think you are an great guy and hoped we could have been more than just friends.
Celisea
December 3rd, 2010
10:40 am
I think I’ve been pretty level headed in my years of living and learning. Some blunders and hiccups along the way. Only something where I walked in eyes wide open do I “slightly” regret. Even so, I wouldn’t change a thing. I wouldn’t do it again but I dang so wouldn’t change it.
Sassy Me..Disco Lady :-)
December 3rd, 2010
10:41 am
Although I’m not a huge sports fan, I am so glad King James SHUT IT DOWN last night.”
He sure did…the Cavs went hard in the muh fugggin paint in the begining of the first quarter but after Bron’s first dunk errbody was like
like they’d forgotten he could even do that since he wasn’t playing for them anymore…their owner sounds like a jilted lover obsessing over Bron like he is…let it go.
SexyCool
December 3rd, 2010
10:44 am
Three Words Daily – I love you.
blue©
December 3rd, 2010
10:46 am
in and out today….
.. whoaa… LMAO…He slapped me (lightly, but still a slap) and said “that’s not my name.”…even funnier but love the way he rolled with it….
@Leggs – calling another mans name…
For Real
December 3rd, 2010
10:51 am
What up Blog Fam!
On topic: Can’t change the past, learn from it, apologize for it, accept responsibility for it, and move on
Current Song: I said baby don’t waste your time; I know what’s on your mind; I might be qualified for a one night stand; But I could never take the place of your man
Kimmie: Jan is almost here and you will be in the Danger Zone!!!
abc
December 3rd, 2010
10:55 am
I’ve been called other men’s names by mistake, never during sex, though. What it represented to me was that the girl was projecting someone from her past upon me. I REALLY didn’t like it, and voiced my displeasure on the spot, the couple of times it happened. Ain’t no do over, and the issue never really goes away entirely, either. As many times as a man can say “I’m not that guy”, a chick will always project like that. Who knows, maybe men are the same way.
kimmie
December 3rd, 2010
10:57 am
Morning – TGIF!!!
Agreeing with Dreams – everything happens as it should, even the mistakes.
4 Real – My birthday is in January! What do you mean about Danger Zone??
Leggs
December 3rd, 2010
10:59 am
@2C ~
Hope you realize I meant I have not called out another man’s name during the moment.
@I am ~ yes, it’s funny now. I couldn’t ever recover since their names were nothing alike. Talking about an ego letdown. Oh wait, Raqi, prime example of Mason’s “turtling”
For Real
December 3rd, 2010
11:02 am
Kimmie: Archer
You know you’re good, girl
I think you like to go down
You wouldn’t have stopped
But I, I came on your wedding gown
And you said, “I must confess,
I wanna get undressed and go to bed.”
You fool, you married me instead
Now morning, noon, and night
I give you Head
SexyCool
December 3rd, 2010
11:02 am
My ThreeWords from yesterday would have been perfect for today…
Yesterday’s ThreeWords…
Rell
December 3rd, 2010
11:03 am
mike!!!!
http://mikevick.com/#/home
blue©
December 3rd, 2010
11:04 am
@Celisea – if you’re still around, thought i still had your addy but cant seem to find it, would you email me please blue73079@yahoo.com…
kimmie
December 3rd, 2010
11:04 am
4 Real – I thought you might have been talking about Archer!! Can’t wait!
Now how did you know that was one of my favorite Prince songs!!LOL!!!
SexyCool
December 3rd, 2010
11:06 am
My racy text regret…Sending on of my gfs a text meant for TheDude.
See….um, er…what had happened was….Her name was the first name that came up with that letter, his name was the second. So…when I hit the first letter, I didn’t tab down to his name.
Needless to say, I fixed that….ASAP. His name is now the first name that pops up when I hit that letter.