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Is technology ruining your dating game?

Our discussion about online dating had me wondering about all the work we put in to writing those profiles to show off your personality. I have heard a lot of misadventures in dating where the person’s personality doesn’t quite click in person. It’s easy to be charming and witty online but what do you do when you rely on that too much?

Have you ever met someone and began texting or emailing them pretty regularly? Did you notice how their use of technology was some sort of social crutch?

Do you think that all this technology is making our game, well lame?

We definitely get lazy with our efforts in communicating with technology. Maybe it stands to reason that some people lose their ability to truly engage someone they are interested in. Making that connection with someone face to face. You know, that intense mental seduction that can not be faked?

What’s been your experience? Are you meeting people who seem awesome but only because of some kind of gadget? (I’m talking pdas and ipads, get your mind out of the gutter, people)

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SlimNumeroUno

November 30th, 2010
8:51 am

Mawnin’ folks

I am whatever you say I am

November 30th, 2010
8:52 am

Looks arounds….turns on lights……
Somebody didn’t lock up! SMH

I see blue has been ruffling thru the personel files. She must not know about the dye pack that did manage to take her fingerprints.
So it is true! Simple’s previous employment was skrimping!

I am whatever you say I am

November 30th, 2010
8:55 am

I think technology has made things liss personable and it not just with dating either. It’s the same way with friends.
We send happy B day texts and posts on the face book, but how many of us actually follow that up with a phone call or if you live close to your friend, you drop by their house.
When it comes to dating (even the online dating) it goes like this, you meet someone you think they are cool so the next time you want to talk to them, you communicate by text. Do I agree with it? Not neccesarily
But that’s what happens, when you introduce technology to the ME, I generation.

Purple Rain

November 30th, 2010
9:00 am

Technology takes the effort out of dating. So you have to trust that you are getting real emotions when using it.

blue©

November 30th, 2010
9:02 am

Morning Peoples,

itchy fingers today, musta been something on those files last night hmmmm …
It’s easy to be charming and witty online but what do you do when you rely on that too much – along those lines, i think a lot of people hide behind the technology, its easy to build a “new and improved” personality online, an alter ego you dont feel comfortable portraying in person. seems that would be a primary reason that a lot of the tech-heavy relationships may not work out so well. you can hold a whole conversation via text, but in person you cant make eye contact and the convo lags….its like linus’ security blanket, lol

Sweet Pea

November 30th, 2010
9:03 am

Good Morning, I don’t feel that it’s ruining dating as it is another form of communication that can become extreme if one uses it as their sole purpose of communicating. As stated yesterday, it can become impersonal if it turns in a a lengthy convo that can simply be handled over the phone or in person. I’d rather hear a person’s voice or see them in person than getting multiple messages unless it’s long distance or you are conveying a message to your spouse or s/o that leads to something later. :)

Example: I got a message from a guy asking what do I like to do in my spare time? My response was I’d rather talk on the phone about it than message back.

IMO….At a certain age you shouldn’t depend on allowing your fingers to do the texting…Allow your mouth to do the talking

SlimNumeroUno

November 30th, 2010
9:04 am

We are becoming less personable due to the technology world. I believe Mtv had a show about folks who exist mainly in the virtual world but when they had to interact with folks in person, they were totally lost. My sister’s ex bf was the kind of dude who would text her while he was sitting on the other couch in the same room as her.

LL411

November 30th, 2010
9:06 am

Just call me… I’m old fashioned like that!

Sweet Pea

November 30th, 2010
9:11 am

@Blue~ I think a lot of people hide behind the technology, its easy to build a “new and improved” personality online.

I totally agree with this!

Rell is going Red

November 30th, 2010
9:13 am

I would rather meet out – than talk or text…but hey i take advantage of facebook and twitter like the next person. But to answer your question…yes it is making us lazy and poor communicators…its just another barrier that seperates us. Some people even use there facebook and twitter to flatter the ego on a daily basis

DreamsMaterialize

November 30th, 2010
9:17 am

Morning
I don’t think technology is ruinging anything. People 1000 years ago weren’t any better at communicating than we are. I see the technology as just an additional means of communication. Introverts have always existed. Maybe the new technology allows them to communicate in ways that they couldn’t before. I’m all for options…the more the better.

blue©

November 30th, 2010
9:35 am

@Dreams – i’d agree, technology is not ruining anything. its the abuse of that technology that is. i personally am a big texter, i like the addition of the techno side to my relationships, but if i were to completely abandon actual direct contact in favor of facebook, then there the problem would be. and imo a lot of people are taking it that far, to the detriment of their most important relationships. and i think it goes both ways. A and B talk to each other only via text and in person have nothing to say, or A and B are right next to each other, and A would rather play on the smartphone texting or im-ing with friends than talk to B right next to them.

Simple Man....

November 30th, 2010
9:41 am

Whats good Peeps!!! Blue…You got mail!!!
On topic….Technology has not ruined the game, in fact, It has in some ways just leveled the playing field. It allows shy folks to functiion in a space that they are comfortable in….It forces teh players to raise their game because teh competition is greater. It forces ladies to be more deligent cause their is more ish to sort thru.

Purple Rain

November 30th, 2010
9:48 am

Well you can’t hide behind technology forever, what happens when you step out and have to meet face to face. Whether you or shy or a player..at some point the rubber has to meet the road

DreamsMaterialize

November 30th, 2010
9:57 am

A and B talk to each other only via text and in person have nothing to say, or A and B are right next to each other, and A would rather play on the smartphone texting or im-ing with friends than talk to B right next to them.
blue If it works for them, then I’m all for it. Now, if it’s causing problems in the relationship, then A and B need to work that out, whether that means get rid of the technology or get rid of the relationship.

Simple Man....

November 30th, 2010
9:58 am

Purp….Understand that completely, But technology allows people to deal in a situation that increases the likelyhood of finding a situation that they can be successful in. You can find a narrow group of people that fit perfectly with who and what you are…….

For Real

November 30th, 2010
10:01 am

I sound better via text and emails cause I sttttttudda!

For Real

November 30th, 2010
10:03 am

“what happens when you step out and have to meet face to face.” – Hold up place cards like Wile Coyote.

blue©

November 30th, 2010
10:07 am

@Simple Man – whatever it was, i didnt do it….(must maintain plausible deniability at all times)…
@Dreams – i would say the same, if it works great, if not work it out. but have personally had a friend on the phone texting me, misc. chit-chat combined with whats wrong with me wife etc…, and one of the things i asked him when he went down the wife path is where is she now? his response: in the same room with him, also playing on her phone. im like DUUHHH, you wanna know whats wrong with her, get off the phone with me and go talk to her and it was like i was speaking greek, he’s all full of excuses: she’s busy, he’s busy, he doesnt know what to say. the whole principle confused me, cause im thinking like you, drop the gadget and work it out, but not all are working on that same common sense page. they like their security blanket, dont know what to do without it.

For Real

November 30th, 2010
10:14 am

Blue: That’s a classic case of each of them not wanting to be the first to bring up the issues in the relationship. Both of them want to maintain plausible dependability while blaming the other for the problems in their relationship. But if you want ole boy to stop asking you dumb ish forward his text to her and that should stop it.

SexyCool

November 30th, 2010
10:16 am

czBrat

November 30th, 2010
10:22 am

morning all!

i’m not particularly impressed nor put off by folks who are tech savvy. all i ask is that you not be so over-the-top about having the latest and greatest so as to become annoying.

i luv the way s/o has learned to read my tone in texts and emails.

i'm swiss™ (but you can call me Mr. Goodnight)

November 30th, 2010
10:22 am

On topic: Technology is changing all social interaction, not just dating. I feel somewhat fortunate to be in the age range that I am, as I think most of my peers have simply added new media to their existing repertoire of communicative avenues, but I think younger folk are never learning to really communicate on a more personal level, and more annoyingly, they are never learning to communicate in a context appropriate manner, as exemplified by the increasing number of emails — business emails — that I see containing text-speak.

OMG! WTF is up w/ that?

:lol:

For Real

November 30th, 2010
10:25 am

Swiss: Amen brother, I can’t stand that ish. It makes my head hurt trying to decipher what they are saying. Then when they ask me if I got their email, text or IM I tell them I deleted due to an error code.

Leggs

November 30th, 2010
10:31 am

Good morning.

@ForReal ~ that was funny.

Whether blogging or an online profile, I keep it real and won’t hide behind words on a computer. I just might meet those I’m conversing with online. What I say online has to represent who I am if we should ever meet in person. I see no reason to pump myself up via a computer. Naw, I cain’t do that! :wink:

i'm swiss™ (but you can call me Mr. Goodnight)

November 30th, 2010
10:36 am

For Real — Same here.

Although, I must say… One thing technology has definitely improved: my work day. :-D

“Working” from home — check.

Attending meeting via conference call, wearing only my lucky socks with the hole in the left big toe — check.

Hot keys to quickly toggle from espn.com to that spreadsheet I’ve been pretending to look at for 6 months — check.

Using the IM “ding” as an alarm clock — check.

:-) Viva technology! :lol:

Celisea

November 30th, 2010
10:41 am

Frankly I’m not a huge fan but I’m adapting. I’d say the most texting I’ve done has been over the last couple of years….even so as touching base when you can’t talk. I’m just keenly aware that it in no way replaces in person interaction. Hey I say too, if texting is your sole means of communicating then you should only be entitled to getting what you give…..sexting only.

blue©

November 30th, 2010
10:42 am

@For Real – neither of them wanting to be the first to bring up the issues, yeah that was my read too. as far as forwarding his text, that sounds like id be stepping on a landmine lol. fortunately, i can easily avoid that landmine since i dont know her, so dont have her number! lol
@swiss – as far as the younger generations not learning to communicate, i soo agree. seems younger and younger their pulling phones out of their pockets to text their friends down the street when used to be we’d just go see whoever it was. when they do see each other in person its still “LOL, OMG”…kinda sad…

Raqi V

November 30th, 2010
10:48 am

Did I tell you all about the “Dating Around the World” challenge already?

Sweet Pea

November 30th, 2010
10:49 am

@Swiss/For Real~ It makes my head hurt trying to decipher what they are saying.

It makes mine hurt as well, and unfortunately it’s not allowing them to think beyond whatever they are communicating because it looks cool. In another blog, we discussed the same thing.

Instead of spelling the word “like” correctly it is spelled “lyke”.

My 19yo college student had her signature(mixed emotions) at the end of her text mispelled. After finding out what it was, I told her it would be better to spell the word correctly as I don’t see it as internet shorthand such as SMH, LOL, etc. I have to look up some lingo on http://www.urbandictionary.com to keep abreast as it’s not only annoying but confusing when you are trying to decode it!

Lady

November 30th, 2010
10:50 am

morning folks!

dreamsM I agree with your posts….

kimmie

November 30th, 2010
10:54 am

Hey Gang!

I’m kinda with Swiss on this. The thing is, as my mom used to say, there are really no shortcuts in life. You can hide behind whatever gadget you want, but at some point there has to be some formal communication. You will have to communicate with that loved one face-to-face at some point. You will have to speak or write in a business setting. So you must first learn how to do these things in the proper way. The new technology should just be the icing on the cake – bringing you closer to the world instead of isolating you.

When you fill out that job application and it requires that you have communication skills, it’s not talking about texting or blogging. Can you articulate your thoughts and ideas verbally and in written form?

You can’t text your way thru an entire relationship, nor can you talk on the phone all the time. You have to be able to talk to each other, eye-to-eye. Shy, introverted, it does not matter. Maybe the texting or online dating got you an introduction, but you need to take it from there, in person.

For Real

November 30th, 2010
11:00 am

Kimmie, Kimmie, Kimmie, Kimmie, Kimmie, Kimmie, Kimmie, Kimmie, Kimmie, Kimmie, Kimmie, Kimmie, Kimmie, Kimmie, Kimmie, Kimmie, Kimmie, Kimmie, Kimmie, Kimmie, Kimmie, Kimmie,

Purple Rain

November 30th, 2010
11:01 am

For Real , I bet you have a place card of a zipper on standby. LOL

kimmie

November 30th, 2010
11:02 am

4 Real – That reminds me of that episode of Cheers, when Woody wrote that song for his girlfriend Kelly.

Kelly, Kelly, Kelly, Kelly…….

LOL!!

SexyCool

November 30th, 2010
11:03 am

Communication via technology has its plusses and minuses, much like anything else.

If we learn to properly use it as a tool to enhance our communication rather than replace one on one interaction, it is quite helpful.

One thing that I can say is that I have come to prefer text messages over voice mail. And please…for the sake on my one good nerve…do not leave me a voice mail that says “Call me back.”

Melo!!

November 30th, 2010
11:06 am

Technology can only make ur game lake if u old school and mismatched,unequally with a new school techie person.

Tech is the way of the future and u snooze on it, u loose.

The young kids ain’t complaining.
Only u dinosaurs are! :lol:

Morning tho,I luv u too,young and old alike!

Melo!!

November 30th, 2010
11:09 am

Lame not like

For Real

November 30th, 2010
11:09 am

Kimmie: You are suppose to say WHAT!

Purple Rain

November 30th, 2010
11:10 am

Sexy Cool, I have an App on my Iphone that converts voicemails into text and I have visual voicemail. LOL

For Real

November 30th, 2010
11:10 am

“I bet you have a place card of a zipper on standby.” – Am I that transparent?

Scool: Hey For Real

For Real: Holding a place card. ZIPPPPPPP!!!

Raqi V

November 30th, 2010
11:10 am

Sorry. Where are my manners? I have to comment on the topic first.
Technology is good in some areas but suck in others whether dating, married or whatever.

I got a new BB and my son was playing around with it while we were going up the highway. Some kind of he changed my settings to when I call my number shows “restricted” and/or “private”. I called two of my friends from my cell and they didn’t answer. I called my husband yesterday evening while I was at the store and he didn’t answer. When I got back home and asked him why he didn’t answer he swore my down that I didn’t call until he checked his message. He said the number was said restricted so he didn’t answer. I later called my two that said the same thing.

Technology sucks sometimes. LOL

Purple Rain

November 30th, 2010
11:15 am

What if when you meet, the person has a lisp or they have really buckteeth that they hid with their mouth closed in the picture they sent you. LOL

Also technology will mask bad breath..and bad breath is a deal breaker I dont care who you are.

(holding up a place card with a picture of a bottle of “Scope” on it)

For Real

November 30th, 2010
11:15 am

Raqi: What does my number show ZIPPPPPPPPPPPPPP!!!!

joe

November 30th, 2010
11:16 am

I have dabbled in internet “dating” on and off for a few years and here is what I can say. The “relationships” from online were very much more superficial than meeting someone live and in person, say through friends. Only once that i can remember, did an internet connection evolve into something of substance…so the other 99% of the time, it was a complete waste of time. I’ve shut down all my internet profiles and am sticking to the real thing from now on.

For Real

November 30th, 2010
11:17 am

(holding up a place card with a picture of a bottle of “Scope” on it) – Flip it around and it reads
(I got to pee!)

Newly UnSingle

November 30th, 2010
11:17 am

I think it really depends on the person as to whether technology is ruining it. For example, my new boyfriend (greatest man on the planet! :D ) is very techy, very geeky, and he can send full length texts very quickly. (no “u” or “ur” here) So we text all day, and have been for months now. He tends to feel slightly more comfortable saying sweet, loving things via text than he does in person. (He’s still very affectionate in person though, and I’m perfectly okay with some of the poetic things being said over a text instead of in person.) Now, past guys I’d dated were total numbskulls with texts and yes, it ruined the game! So I think it just depends on the relationship and the people in question.

i'm swiss™ (but you can call me Mr. Goodnight)

November 30th, 2010
11:21 am

Purp — Not Scope… give ‘em Listerine. And I mean the old-school stuff, not that new, pansy, “no-burn” stuff. It’s just not clean unless the top 2 layers of flesh have been burned off of your cheeks/gums/tongue… :lol:

Delight23

November 30th, 2010
11:22 am

Bom dia peoples!!

“itchy fingers today, musta been something on those files last night hmmmm …” <— reason Echinacea is my bestie right now.

Purple Rain

November 30th, 2010
11:25 am

For Real, LOL

I’m Swiss, LOL I bought some of the new Listerine and thought something was wrong with, because I did not feel the burn. Mouthwash only works if it burns….Well I stand corrected…ladies I have mouthwash that doesnt burn and it brightens your teeth. LOL

Purple Rain

November 30th, 2010
11:27 am

I don’t know if it burns or not.

Melo!!

November 30th, 2010
11:27 am

New un?!

come tell us later how it feels when the fuzzies have all gone and u too have slept a couple times.

Raqi V

November 30th, 2010
11:28 am

“Object on screen is smaller than it appears”

Dang who is this trying to call me?

Raqi V

November 30th, 2010
11:31 am

Both of my sons have tried me by using text to ask me something they don’t have the guts to in person. Or they don’t want to get a face-to-face “No”. All those texts have gone unanswered. LOL

I told both of them it is disrespectful to send me text messages. I am their mother not one of their friends.

Purple Rain

November 30th, 2010
11:32 am

For Real

November 30th, 2010
11:32 am

““Object on screen is smaller than it appears. Dang who is this trying to call me?” MEEEE!!

For Real

November 30th, 2010
11:34 am

For Real now re-reading Raqi’s post with a funny feeling.

kimmie

November 30th, 2010
11:38 am

Raqi – I’ve known 2 parents whose daughters texted them to tell them they were pregnant.

One mother this weekend found out she is going to be a grandmother in January. Guess how she found out her “adult” son is going to be a daddy? Her 14 year old discovered it on Facebook & told her. Sure enough, girlfriend shows up at the family dinner very preggers!

Delight23

November 30th, 2010
11:38 am

At topic I’m digging SimpleMan’s 3 point analogy

It allows shy folks to functiion in a space that they are comfortable in.
It forces teh players to raise their game because teh competition is greater.
It forces ladies to be more deligent cause their is more ish to sort thru.

As for moi…I don’t last long with the techies. I’m a touchy-feely kinda gal. I’m all about sparks and chemistry. So the constant texting, emailing type of brother wouldn’t work for me. Probably why I have yet to on-line date.

Raqi V

November 30th, 2010
11:39 am

ForReal, that’s you calling? Sorry. The ID on the screen is much smaller than what I see every day so I knew it was not my honey calling.

Next time send me text so I will know it’s you.

LOL Just Kidding. I don’t answer text either.

One day that thing is going to get caught in that zipper.

Purple Rain

November 30th, 2010
11:40 am

Texting should always be the second option.

i'm swiss™ (but you can call me Mr. Goodnight)

November 30th, 2010
11:40 am

Off topic: Well, alright then… SMACK THAT AZZ, Regis, you old horn-dog, you! :lol:

Raqi V

November 30th, 2010
11:40 am

kimmie, Just Wow!!

I have heard people being dumped via text and email but telling your mother you are pregnant via text. So wrong on so many levels.

Purple Rain

November 30th, 2010
11:41 am

For Real, I think Raqi just asked you to text her a pic of your schlong. LOL

For Real

November 30th, 2010
11:42 am

OMG Moms IMZ preggo lol smiley face

Purple Rain

November 30th, 2010
11:42 am

Swiss, I would have palmed it then squeezed it. Regis wants her. LOL

Purple Rain

November 30th, 2010
11:45 am

child:OMG IMZ preggo lol
Mother: WTF
daughters step dad: itz n0t M1N3z, LMAO

For Real

November 30th, 2010
11:46 am

“Next time send me text so I will know it’s you.” (For Real laughing like James Evens when a got a raise up from $2.07 to $2.08555 while sucking his teeth) So, um you want see a pic of what I and some many other chicks like to call the “Game Changer” huh? Weellll allow me to introduce myself ZIPPPPPPPPPPPPPP!!!!

i'm swiss™ (but you can call me Mr. Goodnight)

November 30th, 2010
11:47 am

Purp — Can’t say that I blame him. That is some Grade A Rump Roast she’s got on her… :lol:

Purple Rain

November 30th, 2010
11:48 am

Swiss, and it is Thanksgiving and everyone loves roast with a tossed salad around Thanksgiving. I would have smacked it so hard that the microphone would have feedback. SMACK….(then the mircophone would reverb)

SexyCool

November 30th, 2010
11:49 am

Swiss….yesterday, I tivo’d Regis and Kelly just because she was going to be performing. TheDude about fell off the couch last night when he saw that.

Although…in Regis’ defense…it was more of a tap on the top of her thigh right under ass.

For Real

November 30th, 2010
11:49 am

Swiss: I would have hard hunched all that azz. I ain’t mad at Regis.

Raqi V

November 30th, 2010
11:50 am

Purple Rain

November 30th, 2010
11:50 am

Regis said he “wish he could go hard” lol did you hear that part?

SlimNumeroUno

November 30th, 2010
11:51 am

Blog monster doing what it does best….hatin! :-(

I am whatever you say I am

November 30th, 2010
11:51 am

“…..I tell them I deleted due to an error code…….”

For real : I like that. Stealing that now :lol:

Purple Rain

November 30th, 2010
11:52 am

red beans and rice didn’t miss her……my anaconda…don’t…want..none…unless you got bunz hun!

SexyCool

November 30th, 2010
11:52 am

Yep. That too. We were laughing our asses off!

I am whatever you say I am

November 30th, 2010
11:53 am

Swiss: at your 10:36, now exactly why are those socks lucky?
Hmmmmmn…….

kimmie

November 30th, 2010
11:55 am

Raqi – That’s why I said, at some point you gotta face the music. You can’t get preggers via text and have a text baby. So you shouldn’t tell ya mama via text either.

I am whatever you say I am

November 30th, 2010
11:57 am

I think it’s funny how quickly the little ones pick up on technology.

My cousin’s 1 year old niece reset the facebook password to my other cousin’s facebook using his iphone.
Funny!

i'm swiss™ (but you can call me Mr. Goodnight)

November 30th, 2010
11:58 am

“Swiss: at your 10:36, now exactly why are those socks lucky?”

i am… — How do you think that hole got there? ;-) :lol:

blue©

November 30th, 2010
11:59 am

blog monster ate my post…..grrr…

Chode McBlob

November 30th, 2010
12:01 pm

I prefer reality over on line. I’m not against meeting someone that you made contact with on-line. But you have to actually go out together on dates. Otherwise there is no point. I mean I have personals on line too but I always state I am not intersted in long distance because I’m not looking for a pen-pal or chat buddy.

blue©

November 30th, 2010
12:02 pm

as far as texting, can someone please explain why all the posts are all jacked in spelling? PR’s “itz n0t M1N3z, LMAO” is mild compared to half the mess i see lately. my grandmother, who is on FB (lol), sent me a friend recommendation, some 3rd cousin or some such, whos in her late teens. all her posts are like that, need a translater to read it, just makes my head hurt. leave me feeling like Lt. Murtaugh (sp) “im too old for this ish…”

blue©

November 30th, 2010
12:03 pm

@kimmie – You can’t get preggers via text and have a text baby. – LMAO

Melo!!

November 30th, 2010
12:04 pm

Iam?

my 5 year old son helped me with the delete button on my tv remote one time when I was searching for a show on the
telly.

And I’m grateful that my kids can set the tv remote.

That stuff gives me so much angst. :evil:

i'm swiss™ (but you can call me Mr. Goodnight)

November 30th, 2010
12:05 pm

“can someone please explain why all the posts are all jacked in spelling? … all her posts are like that, need a translater to read it”

blue — I think you just answered your own question. They do it so because they think we old farts can’t figure out what they’re saying… ;-) :lol:

For Real

November 30th, 2010
12:05 pm

Off topic sports rant:

1. I want to slap Stevie Johnson in the eye with Kym’s bra strap!

2. Why don’t the NFL just build a qb cage and call it a day!

3. Vince Young is a big ole soft wet piece of tissua paper!

4. UGG’s come Tom now you got the girlie boots to go with the girlie hair!

5. If anyone goes to Cam’s dad’s church I suggest a second look at the books!

6. Stop it with the Pau Gasol MVP ish!

7. RIP Leslie Nelson!

8. Johnson fight was wayyyyyy better than Deion vs Risen!

9. How bout dem Cowboys!!!

10. Falcons vs Jets in Dallas!

Rell is going Red

November 30th, 2010
12:05 pm

niki…is thicker than a kindergarden pencil without the eraser!!!!…I like the way she looks…not the skills

i'm swiss™ (but you can call me Mr. Goodnight)

November 30th, 2010
12:07 pm

Anybody else hear about this $2 million bra? Now, I like sexy lingerie as much as the next guy, but D@MN! You can keep your bra & let me hold the $2 million and them t!tt!es! :lol:

Melo!!

November 30th, 2010
12:08 pm

Jacqueline Purdy!

that’s an ESP (reporter) lady’s real name.

I would change it if it were me

For Real

November 30th, 2010
12:08 pm

“Uh, Nope.” – Too late, the first one is in black & white and the second pic is in technovision. Enjoy!

Sassy Me...Nicety :-)

November 30th, 2010
12:08 pm

you old horn-dog, you!

Regis looked like he wanted to eat Onika up as SOON as he stepped on stage….had that been a lil white chick with all that booty I wonder if he still would’ve done it.

Purple Rain

November 30th, 2010
12:09 pm

The older I get the more I like a fat rump. 36-24-36? Only if she is 5′3…lol

Melo!!

November 30th, 2010
12:10 pm

For Real!

Vince Young is a fool!

whiny,over paid fool

Purple Rain

November 30th, 2010
12:11 pm

Sir-Mix-A-Lot!

Purple Rain

November 30th, 2010
12:11 pm

Vince Young is an idiot. So is Brad Childress..LOL

Leggs

November 30th, 2010
12:12 pm

Random thought: I HATE TEXTING!

Melo!!

November 30th, 2010
12:12 pm

Kimmie?

u watched Oddball on Keith Oberman show last Friday?

kimmie

November 30th, 2010
12:16 pm

Melo – No. I have kinda taken a break from the news & politics lately to enjoy the holidays. What happened?

SlimNumeroUno

November 30th, 2010
12:20 pm

I would think that alotta booty would just be in the way….(coming from a Non-bigbooty person)

Melo!!

November 30th, 2010
12:23 pm

some lady was doing her early black Friday shopping,I guess.

nice well dressed lady somewhere up north then stuffed extra stuff in her oversized granny panties,in full view of them extra discrete eyes!

the act was hilarious!

:lol:

Dan - simply...Superior

November 30th, 2010
12:24 pm

@Slim

In the way of what?

kimmie

November 30th, 2010
12:26 pm

Melo – Now that’s the kind of news I can get with! Funny!

SlimNumeroUno

November 30th, 2010
12:31 pm

Dan – um….how should I say…um…pumping action???

i'm swiss™ (but you can call me Mr. Goodnight)

November 30th, 2010
12:34 pm

Slim — In the way??? Nah, boo… It might make the journey to the promised land longer, but it’s the scenic route:lol: :lol:

i'm swiss™ (but you can call me Mr. Goodnight)

November 30th, 2010
12:37 pm

Off topic: Hate to say it… but this world will be a better place as more old, white people die off…

Sigh.

Dan - simply...Superior

November 30th, 2010
12:39 pm

@Slim

Oh no,

There’s nothing like “riding the wave”….

SlimNumeroUno

November 30th, 2010
12:43 pm

swiss/Dan – well, I guess you fellas would know. So with that said, I’ll take your word for it.

i'm swiss™ (but you can call me Mr. Goodnight)

November 30th, 2010
12:46 pm

Slim — Now that’s not to say that you can’t have fun with you slim chicks — twisting you around like Gumby & tossing all around the bed with one hand… ;-) :lol: :lol:

Raqi V

November 30th, 2010
12:47 pm

Possession is nine tenths of the law…so this $32.00 I found in the washer in mine I guess.

Melo!!

November 30th, 2010
12:47 pm

Swiss?

nut cases are everywhere.
there are some on the other side, who still believe 9/11 was a Bush inside job in tandem with Jews.

some people just won’t quit. That’s why Sarah can command 5 million viewers on her reality show.

If she runs and becomes prez, I’m committing suicide.

i'm swiss™ (but you can call me Mr. Goodnight)

November 30th, 2010
12:48 pm

Slim — The moral of the story is… when it comes to s3x — we dudes can work with all shapes & sizes. Give us lemons & we’ll make lemonade. And then f@#$ it. :lol:

i'm swiss™ (but you can call me Mr. Goodnight)

November 30th, 2010
1:02 pm

Melo — If that happens, we’ll officially be the undisputed Dumbest Country On Earth. Although, I actually hope she gets the GOP nomination. I think that would be a guaranteed reelection for Obama.

I am whatever you say I am

November 30th, 2010
1:14 pm

Swiss: at your 11:58 : Ewwwwwwww!

i'm swiss™ (but you can call me Mr. Goodnight)

November 30th, 2010
1:20 pm

[crickets]

Um… hellooooooo? Where’d everybody go?

Raqi V

November 30th, 2010
1:24 pm

I am listening to Whitney Houston Christmas cd.

My Grown Up Christmas List for this year is…

1. Continuing love from my family and friends

2. Some new jammies

3. A “Rosie” to do my laundry

4. Peace on earth, good will to men

Raqi V

November 30th, 2010
1:31 pm

I am getting my marido socks for Christmas. JosABanks has socks one pair for $15 and so does Macy’s. Johnston Murphy has 6 pair for $49. While I am out tomorrow I am going to the Maxx and see what they have.

Raqi V

November 30th, 2010
1:31 pm

Where’d everybody go?

Gouda, they are over there sipping on that spiked eggnog.

Melo!!

November 30th, 2010
1:34 pm

The black man:The greatest problem in america

South Africa:Mandela’s destruction.’Ms Ann’

you tube that

Pastor manning

Preach!

Leggs

November 30th, 2010
1:34 pm

That chick is crazy! “Never retreat, just reload!”

SexyCool

November 30th, 2010
1:36 pm

Coupon Code for Papa Johns:

Two medium 2 topping pizzas for $5.99 each now through Sunday – Order online – Coupon Code – 2MED2TOP

Melo!!

November 30th, 2010
1:38 pm

What every white person should know

Pastor manning
You tube that!

Preach!

Melo!!

November 30th, 2010
1:46 pm

Why black people make good slaves

Preach pastor

Laaaaasasswd haleluah!

(melo jumping up and down the middle row of Manning’s church) like that dude does on MLK day on fox 5 tv broadcast.

Raqi V

November 30th, 2010
1:52 pm

SexyCool, my son will love getting that coupon code.

In exchange I am giving you this…http://coupons.someonespoilme.com/

i'm swiss™ (but you can call me Mr. Goodnight)

November 30th, 2010
1:53 pm

Melo — Wow. Hadn’t ever heard of that dude. It’s fascinating… just trying to understand how some folks can get so crazy? I mean, I think most of these wack-jobs actually believe their own BS…

Raqi V

November 30th, 2010
1:57 pm

Gouda, here is a saying from the wisest man to walk this earth.

“Every way of a man is right in his own eyes, but the LORD pondereth the hearts.” Proverbs 21:2

blue©

November 30th, 2010
1:59 pm

@melo/swiss – did y’all find another wacka-a-doo preist out there?

Melo!!

November 30th, 2010
2:02 pm

Pastor manning

Fuuuuuuuuuuny!

Blacks are not inferior just crazy. Tube that

Hilarious.

i'm swiss™ (but you can call me Mr. Goodnight)

November 30th, 2010
2:04 pm

Raqi — I agree with everything before the “but.” ;-)

Raqi V

November 30th, 2010
2:07 pm

Well Swiss if nothing else, living in US of A has given you one thing and that is the right to believe as you wish. Carry on.

Leggs

November 30th, 2010
2:09 pm

I need to restart this day…what you guys talking about now?

Raqi V

November 30th, 2010
2:10 pm

Annnnnnd on a friendlier lighter note…

I am the only one that think those Salvation Army bell ringers and money collectors that stand outside of WalMart, Target, Kroger and everywhere else are some of the shiftiest looking people you have ever seen. Most of look as if they are in need of assistance. Maybe that Salvation Army is paying them to stand out there. Maybe it’s a means of temporary employment.

I am not going to even lie, I have refrained from putting money in some buckets because the person stand there looks like at the end of the day they may run off with the bucket and SA never sees them again.

SexyCool

November 30th, 2010
2:12 pm

It also gives you the right to leave when you so desire.

“Delta is ready when you are.”

SlimNumeroUno

November 30th, 2010
2:13 pm

‘Now that’s not to say that you can’t have fun with you slim chicks — twisting you around like Gumby & tossing all around the bed with one hand…’

Swiss – why do I immediately picture someone making a pizza and twirling around the dough in the air when I read this? lol

‘Give us lemons & we’ll make lemonade. And then f@#$ it.’
YOU ARE A SKRAIT FOOL :lol: :lol:

Melo!!

November 30th, 2010
2:14 pm

Leggs!?

Talking about:’ Obama’s Bra 54 double ‘D’

Pastor Manning

you tube that

SexyCool

November 30th, 2010
2:16 pm

Speaking of texting, my mom is learning to text. She sent me the first text message EVER on Saturday. I thought it was cute.

She *just* sent me another text message telling me that she saw on the news that a tornado is heading MY way and to please be careful.

Oh lawwddd…we’ve created a monster!!!

Raqi V

November 30th, 2010
2:19 pm

Are you asking/telling me to leave???

Raqi V

November 30th, 2010
2:22 pm

And there is a Softer Side of Sears.

SexyCool

November 30th, 2010
2:22 pm

LMAO!
You are so NOT who I had in mind.

Raqi V

November 30th, 2010
2:22 pm

And you can have it your way at Burger King.

Raqi V

November 30th, 2010
2:25 pm

You’re in good hands with AllState.

Beautiful

November 30th, 2010
2:26 pm

happy holidays! :) i only date off the internet. i love to learn about him from the inside out. looks dont matter to me but chemistry does. my bf now… met him on fb. we hav a mutual friend that i used to hang out with when i was n my ealry 20s.

i miss y`all!

Leggs

November 30th, 2010
2:29 pm

@SexyC ~ I too flipped out when I got a text from my mother. I didn’t even know she knew how to text. Now, I get random msgs all the time. I had to call her and ask her to stop. She thinks it’s cute to text me during Amazing Race as if she’s sitting beside me watching the show.

Raqi V

November 30th, 2010
2:31 pm

If I get a text from my mother then I am as good as dead. Literally.

Oh wait she did send me a message in a dream once but don’t think that counts. LOL

SexyCool

November 30th, 2010
2:34 pm

AND….

“Fifteen minutes could save you fifteen percent or more on car insurance with Geico.”

You started it….

Raqi V

November 30th, 2010
2:34 pm

as if she’s sitting beside me watching the show

Leggs, Mase and I before marrying a lot of times would be on the phone together while watching the same show. And some times now we do it on the few occasions when one of us is out of town.

Teenage love affairs. LOL

Leggs

November 30th, 2010
2:35 pm

@Beautiful ~ how you doing? I’m never on FB once I get home, but got on it this past Sunday. Lo and behold who do I find asking to be my friend. An old boyfriend. Girl…..I actually sat there staring at his name, all the while clapping. We had something special (well, as special as it can be when you’re a tenderoni at the ripe age of 18). It was absolutely ridiculous the images that ran though my mind! :lol: :lol:

Raqi V

November 30th, 2010
2:36 pm

Macys…we’re a part of your life.

SexyCool

November 30th, 2010
2:36 pm

Oh….lawd geezus….

She just sent me a text message asking me if I was getting ring for Christmas.

i'm swiss™ (but you can call me Mr. Goodnight)

November 30th, 2010
2:39 pm

Raqi V

November 30th, 2010
2:40 pm

Your world. Close at hand.

Raqi V

November 30th, 2010
2:41 pm

LOL SexyCool. You got to love the mothers.

Rell is going Red

November 30th, 2010
2:41 pm

@sexycool…she cant help it…that is the question of the day..life is more fun with two…

Raqi V

November 30th, 2010
2:42 pm

Because I’m worth it.

Raqi V

November 30th, 2010
2:44 pm

“Life is more fun with two.”© ~ Rell

Raqi V

November 30th, 2010
2:46 pm

Just Do it…Like Nike.

Okay that’s all I can think of for now. LOL

SexyCool

November 30th, 2010
2:49 pm

For the BigBootyJudy’s in the building – PZI Jeans still have 25% off online today.

SexyCool

November 30th, 2010
3:06 pm

I really wish companies would stop using words in their phone numbers.

Now that we are getting away from phones with the traditional keypads, I have to take time to actually *figure* out what the frickin’ phone number is.

Raqi V

November 30th, 2010
3:09 pm

Raqi V

November 30th, 2010
3:11 pm

I think I am having a hot flash right about now. LOL

Simple Man....

November 30th, 2010
3:12 pm

Raqi V

November 30th, 2010
3:20 pm

I just went to check the thermostat and it is still on 68. The temp in here is 70 so yep I am having one.

Raqi V

November 30th, 2010
3:24 pm

My reading is 203mg/dl…the reason for my flash. Dem darn taters.

I think I need a job.

Who wants to come over here and mess up the house so I can clean it again?

blue©

November 30th, 2010
3:24 pm

so im in the process of job searching, and in posting my resume the little guru thing on Monster that gives you all the resume tips, advises not to put your SS# on your resume…..there are people who actually do that??? why in the world would you do something that stupid???

Raqi V

November 30th, 2010
3:28 pm

211 Pine Street, Mayfield, USA….

blue©

November 30th, 2010
3:29 pm

thing is eating all my posts today…playing the game of “which word didnt it like today?”….

blue©

November 30th, 2010
3:31 pm

anyway, im on Monster, and in the resume tips it actually advises you not to put your SS# on your resume….people actually do that??? why in the world would you do something so crazy???

Melo!!

November 30th, 2010
3:35 pm

Blue?

monster gives that advice coz dummies look for jobs too

and get hired!

Trevor0529

November 30th, 2010
3:38 pm

Good Afternoon,

I have a question for the blog ladies (single or not). What would you think of a guy if he used a groupon on a first date? I do have some groupons and I wonder if it is a bad move or not.

:)

Raqi V

November 30th, 2010
3:40 pm

Did you know that elephants are the only animals that can’t jump?

Raqi V

November 30th, 2010
3:41 pm

IMO it’s fine if you let her know upfront.

Raqi V

November 30th, 2010
3:44 pm

The very first cd burned in the USofA was Bruce Springsteen’s Born in the USA.

Rell is going Red

November 30th, 2010
3:44 pm

trevor..player…who cares…here are some tips…..first ask the waiter or waitress do they mind if you tip them in advance for the service they are going to provide you today…slip them a 10 or more upfront…after that ask them if they are honoring the groupon special you paid for in advance…get it..you do things in advance…if she cant respect that…then you dont need her player

i'm swiss™ (but you can call me Mr. Goodnight)

November 30th, 2010
3:45 pm

“Did you know that elephants are the only animals that can’t jump?”

Raqi — You’ve never seen Larry Bird play basketball? ;-)

Melo!!

November 30th, 2010
3:45 pm

Trevor?

why would it be a bad move if it’s good for u financially?

???

November 30th, 2010
3:47 pm

Simple Man back urly I C. Dat name git ghost afta 9 til 5 oclock follies. B careful switching namez. U slipped lass week.

Leggs

November 30th, 2010
3:48 pm

@Beautiful, I sent a post to you to blog monster ate it.

@Raqi ~ I would watch a program while talking on the phone with a friend watching the same program…that use to be fun…however, doing it via text is time consuming. By the time I start composing one msg. I’ve already received 2-3 from her.

Rell is going Red

November 30th, 2010
3:49 pm

Trevor?

why would it be a bad move if it’s good for u financially?

^^^preach, chuuuch, tabanacle…..

blue©

November 30th, 2010
3:49 pm

for some reason now have Jackson 5 songs rattling around my head, have no idea where they came from…..

Leggs

November 30th, 2010
3:49 pm

@Trevor0529 ~ that very question has been possed on this blog. I see nothing wrong with using a groupon on first, 3rd or 100th date!

SexyCool

November 30th, 2010
3:50 pm

Trevor…I would have no problem with it. It really depends on the chick. (Unfortunately…)

Simple Man....

November 30th, 2010
3:50 pm

????…. What gives??? I am always here and I neva switch names….

Leggs

November 30th, 2010
3:50 pm

Leggs

November 30th, 2010
3:50 pm

Ok, it likes that word…hmmmmmm!

Simple Man....

November 30th, 2010
3:52 pm

ABC..Its easy as 123…123 baby you and me girl…..

Raqi V

November 30th, 2010
3:52 pm

Every baby starts out with blue eyes. Exposure to ultraviolet light and melanin change them to their predetermined color right after birth.

Trevor0529

November 30th, 2010
3:54 pm

@Melo, some women (not all) can be fickle when it comes to that stuff. I thought I would ask first.

@Rell, thank you playa.

SlimNumeroUno

November 30th, 2010
3:54 pm

Folks now put their pictures on their resumes too. I’ve had the opp to see a few of them and answer me this…why in the hellz would you use a picture you took with your camera phone of you AND your bf hugged up? Goes to show that stupid people are not extinct or endangered. They are alive and well.

As far as a groupon, I say rolls with it. If someone is going to trip about saving a few dollas then they can kick rocks. I have a coupon now that expires today for Target. Spend $50, get $5 off. But no one seems to have any plans today to either go to Target, or blow $50 to get 5. Guess it’ll go to waste. Oh well

Raqi V

November 30th, 2010
3:54 pm

You can’t tickle yourself. Nor lick your elbow.

blue©

November 30th, 2010
3:56 pm

Could it be I stayed away too long?
Did I leave your mind when I was gone?
It’s not my thing trying get back
But this time let me tell you where I’m at

Chorus:
I wanna, wanna be where you are, oh oh
Anywhere you are, oh oh
I wanna wanna be where you are, oh oh
Everywhere you are, oh oh

Melo!!

November 30th, 2010
3:57 pm

Trevor?

actually,(coz u more experienced now) do the groupon thing when the chic is right there.

if she fronts and tries to say shyyyyyy-t u know that’s not the one for u.

U would want a woman in the house,longterm,that’s makes little money go far,thru penny pinching!

bench the fake rich heifers!

Raqi V

November 30th, 2010
3:57 pm

The core body temp is 37 C.

Raqi V

November 30th, 2010
3:58 pm

Trevor if she has a problem with your groupon tell her you two are going dutch.

Raqi V

November 30th, 2010
3:59 pm

Women blink nearly twice as much as men.

kimmie

November 30th, 2010
4:02 pm

Trevor – I see nothing wrong with it, especially if done in a smooth manner.

Speaking for myself, I like a man that handles business, especially financial matters. When a man takes me out, I like to know that he’s “got this”. If he has to take a deep breath after counting every penny, that does not make me feel secure. I like to know that he could handle the bill even if he didn’t have the groupon. But I have no problem with him being practical and financially responsible, in fact, that’s a must for me.

Simple Man....

November 30th, 2010
4:02 pm

You can’t tickle yourself. Nor lick your elbow.

Hmmmmmm….I guess the folks who said that have never seen my tongue….

evy

November 30th, 2010
4:02 pm

hello, all – happy (very, i know – so sowwy) thanksgiving!

@ raqi: lovin your form today, darlin! lol

Raqi V

November 30th, 2010
4:02 pm

With men sex sometimes leads intimacy but with women intimacy sometimes leads to sex.

Okay that’s all the random facts I can think of for today.

blue©

November 30th, 2010
4:02 pm

@Slim – wow, no words for that one. do they not get that the whole point is to get them a job, not provide comic relief for the hiring staff?

Melo!!

November 30th, 2010
4:04 pm

Raqi?!

they(females) blink even more frequently when there is a man of interest nearby.

:lol:

Raqi V

November 30th, 2010
4:04 pm

evy, what? Crazy?

I called my husband and told him I am about to go crazy sitting in this house. He said “too late you already gone”. LOL

I am going to work tomorrow.

SexyCool

November 30th, 2010
4:04 pm

SlimGoody…I got that same coupon last week. I turned around and gave it to the lady behind me with three kids who had a cart full of stuff.
(Yeah….I know I wasn’t supposed to, but the cashier didn’t mind.)

blue©

November 30th, 2010
4:06 pm

wanting a snack and this white cheddar popcorn isnt going to cut it….there should be someone working in these popcorn factories who’s job it is simply to remove all the d@mn kernel shells!!

Raqi V

November 30th, 2010
4:06 pm

SexyCool, dang girl. Now that’s showing great holiday spirit.

kimmie

November 30th, 2010
4:08 pm

SCool – That was nice of you.

Melo!!

November 30th, 2010
4:09 pm

and bats will take few seconds in coitus but will hug for about a day after the nutt

source:discovery channel

Raqi V

November 30th, 2010
4:10 pm

The secret to making the perfect pot of thick creamy grits is to not pre-boil your water. Start the grit in cold tap water (4:1) and stir often. Voila…perfect grits.

Okay, now I’m done.

blue©

November 30th, 2010
4:11 pm

here Raqi:

vultures can fly for six hours without flapping their wings

the goldfish attention span is only 3 seconds

animals that lay eggs dont have belly buttons

Raqi V

November 30th, 2010
4:13 pm

My son justed asked me why am I sitting in the house with not lights or tv on. I told him because I have been waiting all day for him to come home and turn them on for me. He looked at me like I have 3 heads. LOL

evy

November 30th, 2010
4:14 pm

@ raqi: with men sex sometimes leads to intimacy, with women intimacy sometimes leads to sex…

that’s cause women need a reason to have sex – men just need a place :D

Raqi V

November 30th, 2010
4:15 pm

Thanks blue I will add those to my memory bank.

When my brother and I were young we would read books, newspaper and magazine or whatever and gather all this “useless” knowledge just to tell it to each other. My youngest son is just like that now.

SlimNumeroUno

November 30th, 2010
4:16 pm

‘I guess the folks who said that have never seen my tongue….’

Simple Man – super duper long tongues creep me out. Ewwwww!

Raqi V

November 30th, 2010
4:16 pm

Maybe I will tryout for Jeopardy one day since I never made it to Deal or No Deal.

SexyCool

November 30th, 2010
4:17 pm

Well…it was actually my *frugal* side showing.

I knew that even if I did get back to Target before it expired, I wasn’t going to spend $50. (I didn’t have anything that I *needed* that I was going to spend $50 on.)

If I had let it expire, it was going to feel like I was throwing away $5.

SlimNumeroUno

November 30th, 2010
4:17 pm

Raqi – that’s how i make my grits…Mmm mmm good ;-)

blue©

November 30th, 2010
4:18 pm

yeah, did that growing up too, gotta find something interesting to do when its hust you!lol. those particular ones i have to attribute to Snapple Facts….their pretty funny actually…

blue©

November 30th, 2010
4:18 pm

cats have over 100 vocal chords….

emus and kangaroos cant walk backwards….

SlimNumeroUno

November 30th, 2010
4:19 pm

Sexycool – that’s how I feel about wasting the coupon but i’ve been asking everyone at work. Can’t say i didn’t try.

SexyCool

November 30th, 2010
4:19 pm

Feel ya’, girl….

Raqi V

November 30th, 2010
4:20 pm

I didn’t have anything that I *needed*

Blasphemy!!! Target always has something that we all want need.

SexyCool

November 30th, 2010
4:22 pm

LOL, Rock. Please believe that I have a whole list, broken down BY ROOM of things that I *want* to buy from Target and the likes. But…none of them are needs and they are not in the budget this month.

Melo!!

November 30th, 2010
4:22 pm

Evy,don’t forget the hard!

Raqi V

November 30th, 2010
4:25 pm

Budget? Yeah I understand that.

SexyCool

November 30th, 2010
4:27 pm

We just learned that after 18months of no company match for our 401K that our company is going to reinstate in January!!!

PRAISE GOD FOR FREE MONEY!!!!!

blue©

November 30th, 2010
4:37 pm

in Athens, Greece, a driver’s license can be taken away if the driver is deemed either “unbathed” ir “poorly dressed”

SlimNumeroUno

November 30th, 2010
4:37 pm

Can’t explain this burning in my chest
Beating against my breast
Spreading through all my extremities
Got me searching for a remedy
Weightless…with no parachute
If I hit the ground, hoping to recoup
Just as fas as I’ve fallen for you

(Just came across this on my desk written on the back of a notepad)

oooook den

blue©

November 30th, 2010
5:08 pm

papercut…owwwww :(

blue©

November 30th, 2010
5:30 pm

turning off the lights…setting the alarm….