Cyber Monday: Date shopping
Welcome back everyone! I hope that you all had a wonderful holiday weekend. I cooked my first Thanksgiving meal and there are no reports of ER visits, so I think I can call it a success! How was your holiday?
Today has been deemed Cyber Monday for online shoppers to get great deals. There are also some people who chose this weekend to jump into online dating!
There is something about this time of year that make conditions optimal for setting up a profile, posting a picture, and sifting through the many websites for potential romance.
Will you give it a shot? I believe some websites are even offering free features that normally cost money, so is it a good time to see what’s out there?
I haven’t tried online dating in years and I am a little gun shy about it, admittedly. Do you think people who are online dating have true intentions for a meaningful relationships for the most part?
How do you spot the players? For those of you who have tried online dating and found success, what do you think helped?
Happy Monday!
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Raqi V
November 29th, 2010
4:26 pm
kimmie, Brandi hasn’t really showed any strength. She is a good tv personality but hasn’t really contributed anything to the winning of the challenges.
AmazonRed™
November 29th, 2010
4:26 pm
Although I lost a bet to my husband I am glad Stuart got fired
I *hollered* when Stuart was mimicing Clint and talking about him puting his big bear paw in that little purse!!!
I got hooked because I know one of the contestants. I haven’t watched The Apprentice since like the 2nd season.
kimmie
November 29th, 2010
4:27 pm
Raqi – Yeah Stuart had that “priviledged brat” thing going. I was so ready for him to go. Don’t sleep on Clint just because of the accent!
I heard the eBay comment, but didn’t really think about it. You’re right, Clint has won.
It’s okay, he’s done well.
Raqi V
November 29th, 2010
4:27 pm
Trump like money makers. While a pretty face can make money, smarts like Clint will make more.
AmazonRed™
November 29th, 2010
4:28 pm
The comment that Trump made to Clint about his wife not having to sell her purses on eBay much longer is a hint that Clint has already won
I caught it. The could have edited it out but they didn’t. So I didn’t think anything of it other than you get a whole lot of opportunities after watching reality TV.
I can’t believe Stephanie is a spokesperson for the Trump organization now! She won’t have to sell purses on ebay either now and she didn’t win.
Dan - simply...Superior
November 29th, 2010
4:28 pm
“men in particular believe the words single mother comes with desperate and limited options and more often than not”
And what was that about defensiveness?
Pot/kettle
AmazonRed™
November 29th, 2010
4:29 pm
Clint has to win because I don’t think he likes Liza or Brandy.
AmazonRed™
November 29th, 2010
4:30 pm
And what was that about defensiveness?
Pot/kettle
Dan, I hope you directed that at Fiona, who made that statement.
Raqi V
November 29th, 2010
4:30 pm
Stuart was mimicing Clint and “priviledged brat”
The very reasons I am glad he is gone. Clint pays attention to details while Stuart thinks just because he fits in well in NewYork he has what it takes.
Like Trump stated NewYork is not the only place he does business.
Fiona
November 29th, 2010
4:30 pm
Not defensiveness, truth.
Rell
November 29th, 2010
4:31 pm
@I am…cool, I understand – I dont understand dudes that BMC when they have to tend to there child – so i understand that frustration. The over talking syndrome is unattractive , that speaks to a deep rooted shelfishness..so going forward just know there is no winning with folks that have not mastered the art of the inner voice or wonder what the other person is about. Well amoungst the wolves out here – single parent female usually signal..desperation..easy lay…or they knock you down a couple of pegs due to potential drama..example – you looking for a daddy type…you need help with bills…you on the rebound once again..etc etc..so they come at you on the FWB tip from jump sometimes..not all the time…it just depends on who you are dealing with…I personally dont think that way..but i know some folks that do. Yes no one is perfect in this life…but at least your in the game and you trying to get it right…and your honest about who you are…I say keep doing you..even if my current relationship fails..i have learned so much more about myself that i can get up and try again without feeling all down or crazy like before..so i say your future is bright..keep smiling and winning
kimmie
November 29th, 2010
4:31 pm
I agree Brandi has not shown strength. My bad instincts came to mind about her earlier in the season when she told Trump she liked older men. She seems like the type that might be caught having an affair with Trump later.
I know, I’m bad.
AmazonRed™
November 29th, 2010
4:32 pm
Fiona – I think Dan got his posters confused. Don’t mind him. You said nothing about defensiveness, but look who was quick to put on his cape.
Melo!!
November 29th, 2010
4:32 pm
Fiona is right!
Most Men assume ’single mother’ means:
Dick Weakness!
u gotta prove,it ain’t so.
I am whatever you say I am
November 29th, 2010
4:33 pm
Ok Fiona: but I haven’t had the experience of feeling like someone I met online was trying to take advantage.
Most of them time, they have too many red flags glaring at me to continue.
It’s amazing how much you can learn on the first (which incidently becomes the last date) date which is so different from what you learned from communicating online.
kimmie
November 29th, 2010
4:33 pm
Amred – I can’t believe that either. I cannot stand Stephanie.
Celisea
November 29th, 2010
4:35 pm
single parent female usually signal..desperation..easy lay…or they knock you down a couple of pegs due to potential drama..example – you looking for a daddy type…you need help with bills…you on the rebound once again..etc etc..so they come at you on the FWB tip from jump
Cosign. Cosign Fiona too……similiar points made.
Leggs
November 29th, 2010
4:36 pm
Well amoungst the wolves out here – single parent female usually signal..desperation..easy lay…or they knock you down a couple of pegs due to potential drama..example – you looking for a daddy type…you need help with bills…you on the rebound once again..etc etc..so they come at you on the FWB tip from jump sometimes..not all the time…it just depends on who you are dealing with…I personally dont think that way..but i know some folks that do.
@Rell ~ would you believe I had someone tell me he doesn’t understand why I haven’t fallen for any of his “heartfelt” lines. You said a mouthful above. Not all single parents walk that walk of desperation. A man in wolf clothing can’t understand this!
AmazonRed™
November 29th, 2010
4:37 pm
One of my friends is a new mom and got insulted by some guy who tried to hit on her.
Now seeing the feedback on single moms and how they are perceived, I can see why.
Dan - simply...Superior
November 29th, 2010
4:38 pm
@Fiona
You’re an adult – do better.
The “men” you speak of are predators and not “every man” (inherent in your initial statement) preys on the weakness of others – some come to give strength.
As the son of a single mother, I never once saw her take less from a man than what she wanted her son’s to be. Thus, we never saw predators because she knew how to root them out.
What you are referring to is your own experience – but yours alone. Please don’t make the mistake of projecting your failures onto an entire sex.
Look in the mirror, see what you attract, and do better.
The men you chose are the specific men you refer to. The common link is you – not “single mothers” and not “men” in general.
AmazonRed™
November 29th, 2010
4:41 pm
Dan – Why are you picking on Fiona when like 5 other people agreed with her assesment?
Leggs
November 29th, 2010
4:42 pm
Melo!!
November 29th, 2010
4:32 pm
Fiona is right!
Most Men assume ’single mother’ means:
Dick Weakness!
u gotta prove,it ain’t so.
Most single parents are doing just that due to the lameness of the brothers that think just because they have a dingaling most women are foaming at the mouth trying to get to it…NOT!!!
Melo!!
November 29th, 2010
4:43 pm
Dan?
We never saw predators?
We as in urself and mom?
she was smart to shield u from them,dontuthink?
Dan - simply...Superior
November 29th, 2010
4:45 pm
@ARed
It goes for everyone that would have that line of thought – period
AmazonRed™
November 29th, 2010
4:45 pm
Amred – I can’t believe that either. I cannot stand Stephanie.
Honestly, I think Trump likes Clint and Stephanie best. That would have been his finalist if he had a choice. There is no way Stephanie should already be working for the Trump organization already.
Rell
November 29th, 2010
4:46 pm
yea not all men DAN..just some…we just spitting player..relax..i was the oldest of two raised by a single mother…and my name was changed twice to avoid my father….feel me…i got a story to tell..but the point is valid..some of these “educated” brothers hide behind things and material items to prey on the weak…example..they pay out like payroll for some love and time…or they will keep th e chick on lay-away status with money, trips, what have you…so now one can break the spell…you know the game player..and with that..i am out
peace and love to all…
AmazonRed™
November 29th, 2010
4:46 pm
We never saw predators?
We as in urself and mom?
she was smart to shield u from them,dontuthink?
Melo!!
November 29th, 2010
4:46 pm
Leggs?
the lame men will broadcast and hope to hit somewhere!
Only one good strike will do,remember?
Dan - simply...Superior
November 29th, 2010
4:46 pm
@Melo
No, I had an older brother.
SexyCool
November 29th, 2010
4:47 pm
The other assumption that I’ve heard made about single mothers is that they *typically* have less time to date….and that makes them easier to manage in a rotation.
(Notice I said, “Typically.”)
Leggs
November 29th, 2010
4:51 pm
“Only one good strike will do,remember?”
No doubt, but how many times are you willing to come up to bat and keep striking out. No doubt you’ll find the skank that will mount you in a heartbeat. We’re not talking about those!!!
I am whatever you say I am
November 29th, 2010
4:51 pm
Fiona’s theory makes sense to some degree but I think that applies manly to women that are desperate.
I am not desperate to be with someone.
I don’t need any to pay my bills ( I have a great job) nor do I need daddy role models (my son has his grandfathers and uncles).
My ex (not my son’s dad) was very legit from the start. It just didn’t work for reasons that we know.
Guys are real simple, they will only do what you allow them to do so if they come across as a predator be a hunter a whip out your shotgun if needed.
kimmie
November 29th, 2010
4:52 pm
I can’t really comment on the single mother experience, but all this just goes to show the trouble that is caused when you make ASSUMPTIONS about anybody. And the trouble caused on this blog when you don’t add the disclaimers such as “some”, “IMHO”, “it’s been my experience”, “JMO”, etc.
Melo!!
November 29th, 2010
4:52 pm
Where is I am?
one tip for u baby,when u land a single guy with no kids,never use the warm towel on him.
He’s gon develop negative thoughts pretty quick coz that’s a mature,experienced move.
let him deal with the cold one instead!
AmazonRed™
November 29th, 2010
4:54 pm
It goes for everyone that would have that line of thought – period
Well Dan, I hope you pay better attention in the future, because people where simply acknowledging that there ARE predators our there, and not that they particularly subscribe to such a theory. Even other single moms can attest to that mindset being out there, but that you don’t have to fall for the okey doke. Fiona mentioned being discerning which is good advice.
So chill out.
I am whatever you say I am
November 29th, 2010
4:54 pm
A guy can easily have a chick in rotation with no kids as he could a chick with a kid.
In college, I knew a guy that had a different girl every day from different dorms, different schools,and sometimes on a different floor of the same building. None of the chicks had kids (that I’m aware of)and none of them knew about one another.
This guy lived in my building and I would SMH every time a new chick came (snuck) out his room at a strange hour.
I am whatever you say I am
November 29th, 2010
4:55 pm
“….one tip for u baby,when u land a single guy with no kids,never use the warm towel on him…..”
I’m not so sure I understand what you mean.
Leggs
November 29th, 2010
4:55 pm
Celisea
November 29th, 2010
4:56 pm
Dan – You’re silly to think foolishness hits a woman’s doorstep because of something or somewhere she lacks. I’m a single mother and I’ve been stepped to by lame dudes myself and not a frigid chance in Hades was anything gonna happen. And just like you, my kid will probably testify the same when she’s older…she didn’t see bullcrap during her years of growing. Just because I can sheild her from it doesn’t negate the fact that some folks will try. You are very shallow and narrow minded in your thinking. I guess everything that’s ever breezed your way was all good huh?
Melo!!
November 29th, 2010
4:56 pm
I am?
was just kidding
dang,this spreadsheet was giving me a head ache all day!
I am whatever you say I am
November 29th, 2010
4:57 pm
Thanks Rell :4:31.
I’ll keep pressing on….
I’m taking a date from the dating world. I had a date on Saturday that was horrible. And no, I didn’t meet him online.
I am whatever you say I am
November 29th, 2010
4:58 pm
Melo: whatever I still didn’t get it.
There is only one person that I baby. I believe he lived in my womb for 9 months prior to the C-section.
Dan - simply...Superior
November 29th, 2010
4:58 pm
@Kimmie
But that’s in real life too.
You wouldn’t say all Jews, based on your one experience. Blacks, whites, either.
But people get to poo-poo”ing” males and females based on the same singular experiences.
We’ve done it to “good brother that don’t get no play” too
Leggs
November 29th, 2010
4:58 pm
Ok, perhaps I’m wrong in that she’s fresh off the turnip truck in that area!
Dan - simply...Superior
November 29th, 2010
5:00 pm
@Celsia
I’m not. What approaches and what you accept in your lives are different.
Fiona
November 29th, 2010
5:00 pm
@Dan, I merely mentioned how some men view single mothers and why there’s a pressing need for keeping aligned with priorities. That statement was not specific to my only life experiences but women as I know everywhere.
Leggs
November 29th, 2010
5:00 pm
You Attract Who You Are, Not What You Want!
Be careful out there! Good night.
kimmie
November 29th, 2010
5:01 pm
But that’s in real life too
Dan – I was talking real life too. I get it. I’m intelligent. I don’t expect to have to walk on eggshells on this piece, though.
Celisea
November 29th, 2010
5:03 pm
What approaches and what you accept in your lives are different.
And just cause mama kept you shielded (which is what us mamas do) from things that would adversely affect you doesn’t mean she was and approached. And just because she might have been approached doesn’t mean she lacked somewhere. You got predators all day long everywhere in this world. The only time you should be looking silly is if one gets you. Matter fact, I have kudos for us women that fight bs like a plague.
AmazonRed™
November 29th, 2010
5:03 pm
@Dan, I merely mentioned how some men view single mothers and why there’s a pressing need for keeping aligned with priorities. That statement was not specific to my only life experiences but women as I know everywhere.
Fiona – That’s how I read it. Dude just took it wrong because apparently, you struck a nerve.
We’ve got some “emo” dudes up in here.