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Cyber Monday: Date shopping

Welcome back everyone! I hope that you all had a wonderful holiday weekend. I cooked my first Thanksgiving meal and there are no reports of ER visits, so I think I can call it a success! How was your holiday?

Today has been deemed Cyber Monday for online shoppers to get great deals. There are also some people who chose this weekend to jump into online dating!

There is something about this time of year that make conditions optimal for setting up a profile, posting a picture, and sifting through the many websites for potential romance.

Will you give it a shot? I believe some websites are even offering free features that normally cost money, so is it a good time to see what’s out there?

I haven’t tried online dating in years and I am a little gun shy about it, admittedly. Do you think people who are online dating have true intentions for a meaningful relationships for the most part?

How do you spot the players? For those of you who have tried online dating and found success, what do you think helped?

Happy Monday!

Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Blog

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i'm swiss™ (but you can call me Mr. Goodnight)

November 29th, 2010
12:46 pm

Slim — I used to contract in the IT department for the GA Dept of Corrections… You’d be amazed how many relationships develop between the prison staff and the inmates. :shock:

I have to say, though… I had to go to both of the big women’s prisons in the state & all I can say is real female prisoners look nothing like the ones from the p0rn movies, to my bitter disappointment… :lol: I’m pretty sure any one of those heifers could & would have f@#%ed me to death — and it would NOT have been a good way to go… :lol:

Raqi V

November 29th, 2010
12:50 pm

Yes kimmie, not your usual turkey day in the south feast.
I liked some of the dishes however if I were to make them it would not be for turkey day or Christmas dinners.

We had German potato salad which was good. Made very different from what I am used to but good. I didn’t care for the green beans nor the stuffing. The butternut squash casserole was good though. Also a dish I wouldn’t mind trying to make myself.

On the way the home my hub did ask me to cook a turkey day kind of dinner for this Sunday. He ate but he still wants what he is used to. LOL

AmazonRed™

November 29th, 2010
12:51 pm

hell, I could be talking to boo foo the rapist!!

You could be talking to Usher Raymond too. And either way they could be a rapist. Unless you saw him on America’s Most Wanted, how would you know?

SlimNumeroUno

November 29th, 2010
12:51 pm

swiss – i can see a staff member having relations with the inmates but to want to haul off and get married is something totally different. BUT different strokes for different folks i suppose. I’m glad you made it out unscathed. :lol:

Delight23

November 29th, 2010
12:52 pm

:lol: Swiss and ewwww.

AmazonRed™

November 29th, 2010
12:53 pm

I’m pretty sure any one of those heifers could & would have f@#%ed me to death — and it would NOT have been a good way to go…

:lol: :lol: :lol: Hate you.

Delight23

November 29th, 2010
12:54 pm

boo foo? relation to um foo foo? :?

SlimNumeroUno

November 29th, 2010
12:57 pm

Delight23 – that was me who was talking about the slang written messages online and Hellz to da naw did I give any of them my number or a response for that matter. Delete, delete, delete ;-)

Raqi V

November 29th, 2010
12:58 pm

LOL czBrat I won’t tell anyone.

With all the shopping I did Friday and have done this morning I haven’t bought myself anything. I am have pretty much concentrating on getting my list done. Only a couple of more things and I will be done.

Most of the stuff I bought today is for people on my husband’s list. I had been asking him to give me his list but he took his time. Had I had it last week I could have bought some of it Friday.

It’s mostly gifts for his elderly relatives and we will be delivering those the week before Christmas. We are going to drive to VA, take a week and visit with his family. I want to have all the gifts here and wrapped by the 11th.

czBrat

November 29th, 2010
12:59 pm

Leggs, i love it when they say there’s no pic on the profile because they don’t want you to respond based on looks … but they assure you they’re drop-dead gorgeous. well, that may very well be but so what? put up (the pic) or shut up.

Raqi V

November 29th, 2010
1:01 pm

Sorry it’s impolite to not comment on the topic.

I have never tried online dating. I have a friend that signed with several sites but never came across a keeper. I think she said she stopped when she met up with a guy that just so happened to be an ex of hers. He was going my his middle name and didn’t post a picture.

Delight23

November 29th, 2010
1:02 pm

SlimNumeroUno :lol: I swear I can see his grill glistening while he was typing that.

Sweet Pea

November 29th, 2010
1:05 pm

it makes absolutely no sense to go to an online dating site and not post your pic

Exactly!! I was thinking the same thing with the winking, poking, etc. However, it was enough already when you receive them from 40+ year old guys….we are grown adults so grow up! It may be cute to some, however it is so not cool to me.

AmazonRed™

November 29th, 2010
1:10 pm

it makes absolutely no sense to go to an online dating site and not post your pic

It makes sense when you are a little higher in the food chain and don’t want someone like your employees find out about your online dating profile. You just have to accept that online dating wont’ be very effective for you. But there are people who are willing to “date in the dark.”

SexyCool

November 29th, 2010
1:13 pm

Rock/kimmie – I had a friend post on his FB status on Thursday that he was invited to a dinner expecting soul food and not international Whole Foods.

His post later in the day, “It says something about your cooking abilities when NObody takes a to go plate.”

Raqi V

November 29th, 2010
1:14 pm

I tell ya with all these free shipping deals if these were not elderly relatives that we actually want to go visit I would have this stuff shipped directly to them. LOL

Raqi V

November 29th, 2010
1:17 pm

“It says something about your cooking abilities when NObody takes a to go plate.”

YEP!! LMBO

Some of the dishes we had were pretty good but just not ‘holidayish’ as we know it to be. But come to think of it I don’t think my brother nor sister took anything back home with them. LOL I know we didn’t bring anything back. And we did not eat leftovers on Friday nor Saturday.

Leggs

November 29th, 2010
1:26 pm

@RaqiV ~ I sho hope all that shopping will yield me a nice present. Carry on….

@SlimNU ~ I watched that Oprah episode with her being all giddy about marrying that “lifer” and concealing her tight purple top with her son teenage son standing beside her. To each his own, but it puts a new twist on “lack of sex once you get married!”

Raqi V

November 29th, 2010
1:29 pm

There were 21 people there for breakfast and dinner. Since I did not help with dinner I cooked breakfast that morning. My dad’s wife granddaughter helped me.

We were up at 6am cooking eggs, grits, bacon, beef sausage links, pan sausage, hash brown, biscuits and waffles for 21 people. Breakfast was so big only the smaller kids and my dad really ate something for lunch that day.

SexyCool

November 29th, 2010
1:32 pm

My payroll is submitted to corporate via the internet. Cyber Monday is killing me softly with the connectivity issues. AAARRRGGGHHH!!!

Leggs

November 29th, 2010
1:35 pm

@ARed ~ for those willing to “date in the dark” will probably get their just desserts.

czBrat

November 29th, 2010
1:38 pm

Cyber Monday is killing me softly with the connectivity issues.
that’s why i’m kinda :oops: for shopping at work. i know somewhere in this vast org some responsible employee is cursing me for slowing things down. i so sowwy.

Dan - simply...Superior

November 29th, 2010
1:40 pm

@Slim (re:12:40)

She can legitimately claim “head of household” on her taxes.

And commissary might be a write off too….

Leggs

November 29th, 2010
1:40 pm

It’s horrible when no one asks for a plate to go on THANKSGIVING! I’d have to fight people out of my kitchen just so I’ll have some leftovers for myself…I’m kidding, I’m kidding…

Raqi V

November 29th, 2010
1:40 pm

Leggs, I think your name was on that list Mase and I decided to table this year. LOL

Seriously though we scaled back on gifts this year. Instead of gifts for each and every niece and nephew I looked for family gifts. One gift per household where I could.

Just one of many cutbacks that I am doing.

SlimNumeroUno

November 29th, 2010
1:41 pm

‘I swear I can see his grill glistening while he was typing that.’

Delight – 8 times out of 10, they did have grills standing in the I’m So Hood pose on their profile pic. lol

Leggs – ole boy said he expected her to remain faithful to him too. smh! I can be single and not get any sexing…why get married to STILL not get no sexing. Beats da hellz outta me why anyone would want that for themselves.

Raqi V

November 29th, 2010
1:41 pm

SexyCool, are you having dial-up flashbacks? LOL

Mo (aka Moeisha)

November 29th, 2010
1:42 pm

Ok Im so glad to know Im not the only one cyber shopping.

off Banana Republic and on to Toys R Us, first up super hero squad/marvel figures…

Rell – I know Im late but Im happy for you man! :smile:

Leggs

November 29th, 2010
1:45 pm

LOL @ Raqi…kicking rocks with lip stuck out walking down the street…PHOOEY!!!

Rell

November 29th, 2010
1:46 pm

Pic or no pic…it does not matter really…i have pulled all manner of women with a pic or no pic…you just have to know your audience…different folks look for different things..whats funny is that some people men and women go spend a lil money and take good photos..but when you meet them in natural light..you are like who are you…i thought you were lighter..lol..Also it was a minute before i figured out the bbw hustle..where they take certain shots to hide from the neck down…the list goes on and on…I still find it funny when the profile starts to unravel and you find out the real motivation behind online dating…i just chuckle on the inside..

Leggs

November 29th, 2010
1:51 pm

@SlimNU ~ couldn’t this fall under the category of some form of “brainwashing.” He’s hijacked the honeypot while behind bars and she’s going along with it. Sumtheeng ain’t right, Lucy!

Rell

November 29th, 2010
1:53 pm

@Mo….thanks…and dont me send the folks for you ;-)

Leggs

November 29th, 2010
1:53 pm

@Rell ~ “you just have to know your audience”

I have to agree with you there.

Leggs

November 29th, 2010
1:54 pm

@Rell ~ btw, it was funny reading you earlier talking about the “freaky” language onliners post and knowing how to decode it. Again, you make a good point!

Carry on…..

SexyCool

November 29th, 2010
1:55 pm

If you’re going to *date in the dark*, you may as well date on a phone chat line.

blue©

November 29th, 2010
1:57 pm

It says something about your cooking abilities when NObody takes a to go plate – OUCH ROFL….

what are we on now peoples?

SlimNumeroUno

November 29th, 2010
2:06 pm

Leggs – Well he has done some helluva brainwashing job since he himself hasn’t dipped in the honeypot either.

SexyCool

November 29th, 2010
2:07 pm

My plan to cook just enough worked out beautifully. TheDude even voluntarily came into the kitchen and helped by peeling, cutting and chopping. (Apparently, I BMC’d enough last year that he decided to head me off at the past this year.)

I love that dude!

SexyCool

November 29th, 2010
2:08 pm

correction…”pass”

blue©

November 29th, 2010
2:09 pm

@SC – lol, come yell at mine for me? he flipped the bird this year (roast my turkey upside down till about a half hour b4 it comes out, then turn it right side up) and then got on the phone with the fam talking about how he helped cook this year, and what we were cooking….almost smacked him with my big wooden spoon….

Leggs

November 29th, 2010
2:10 pm

BMC + bytch, moaned and cried! :lol: :lol:

Rell

November 29th, 2010
2:11 pm

@leggs….i know folks think i am out there when i post stuff…but i can go story for story on my online adventures…it was so bad at one point i lost my eye of the tiger out here on the real field..it was easier to sit in front of my computer for a couple hours book an after work date …followed by another dinner date….it was so eazy…One picture or no picture…i spoke the language they wanted to hear..both online and offline….

Leggs

November 29th, 2010
2:13 pm

@SlimNU ~ why get married if you can’t have conjugal visits???? I know of know love that strong! More power to those that find it (LOL).

Leggs

November 29th, 2010
2:15 pm

“…it was easier to sit in front of my computer for a couple hours”

&uaar; If only I can do this when I get home…

Leggs

November 29th, 2010
2:16 pm

Leggs

November 29th, 2010
2:17 pm

hmmmmmm…..

SlimNumeroUno

November 29th, 2010
2:21 pm

Leggs —-> :lol: I call that a case of your brain thinking faster than your fingertips. Just file all that away in the “Case of the Monday’s File” ;-)

SexyCool

November 29th, 2010
2:21 pm

Leggs – I always say the C is “complained.”…but yeah…that’s the spirit.

blue…yeah…they are funny like that. TheDude took credit for almost the whole meal. Kept cracking jokes about calling to ask my sister’s husband what he was doing.

“Oh? Yeah? You’re just sitting in front of the t.v., kicked back with a cold one? How did you manage that? Oh. You put a ring on it. Touché, mphcka. Touché.”

I was LMAO!

SexyCool

November 29th, 2010
2:24 pm

BTW…the touché line is from a Katt Williams comedy concert.

I am whatever you say I am

November 29th, 2010
2:25 pm

Rell at your 12:03 :shock: