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Fact or fiction: Men don’t mind being single

I can attest to the fact that “the art of being single” isn’t perfected by everyone. Some people are the type that has to have someone in their life at all times. You know, the serial monogamists who go from one relationship to the next with little to no break between. I don’t think it’s a good thing or bad thing, personally. It’s a matter of personal preference and really great timing, but it’s rare that I meet a man who admits to needing a woman in his life.

I have, however, met and dated newly single divorcees who have that whole “nestling” thing going. This is when they immediately want someone to feel the void of their ex-wife. Almost anyone one will do, really. It’s like being the ultimate rebound girl, except with home-cooked meal requests.

Do you believe men dislike being single? Is it a myth that having all that freedom is the reason why men delay marriage?

Ladies, has a man ever told you that he doesn’t mind being single? Do you meet men who actively seek a relationship and don’t mind admitting it?

Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Blog

282 comments Add your comment

tellitlikeitis

November 23rd, 2010
2:41 pm

Rell, do you have a brother?

Melo!!

November 23rd, 2010
2:43 pm

Sexxycool?

not the first time u said that about me. If I were to make my own conclusions,it appears it’s u who carries a bruised self worth,courtesy of ur prior failed relationships.

Everybody hear makes generalizations,u included.
I laced mine with lol coz I was merely trying to initiate debate.

When I spot what seems like personal injury, I smell nursed wounds. Not my problem!

@blue!

a woman that is doing good by you is appreciated. I think that is the gist of what the author qouted by Rell is saying!

Is that what u asking?

Sassy Me..I Feel like bustin' loose :-)

November 23rd, 2010
2:44 pm

Trevor I won’t tell….

Da_Man!

November 23rd, 2010
2:44 pm

I guess the fact or fiction ran it’s course???

Ok

November 23rd, 2010
2:45 pm

@Rell..you dropin it like its hot with the knowledge of course.

Da_Man!

November 23rd, 2010
2:46 pm

@Melo … @SexyCool …

Can’t we all just get along??? Geez it’s about to be Thanksgiving.

I am whatever you say I am

November 23rd, 2010
2:46 pm

dammit ADHD kicked in… Let me go back to the first line of REll’s novel and start again.

I am whatever you say I am

November 23rd, 2010
2:47 pm

<————still trying to read Rell's novel
been trying to read it for the past 15 mins.

I am whatever you say I am

November 23rd, 2010
2:48 pm

anyone care to tell me why blog ate like two of my posts :shock:

Melo!!

November 23rd, 2010
2:48 pm

Da-man?

no problem as long as noone here feels like a victim.

I am whatever you say I am

November 23rd, 2010
2:48 pm

Fugg it! I’m going back to work :evil:

Rell

November 23rd, 2010
2:48 pm

@tellitlikitis…yes i have a younger brother…he is married at this time….he tried to warn me of my behavior prior to my failed marriage…but big brother thought he knew better…i was wrong

Rell

November 23rd, 2010
2:50 pm

@ok…thanks, just sharing….

blue®

November 23rd, 2010
2:52 pm

@melo – add a couple of simple word to that and i think you’d have it right – show a woman that is doing good by you that she is appreciated. but you started talking about how he’s perpetuating the idea that women should be placed on a pedestal at all times…how do the two equate? seems to me he’s saying treat her the way she deserves to be treated, with her effort noticed and rewarded; show her what she means to you, instead of expecting your mere presence to be enough of a sign – whats so foul about that idea?

Da_Man!

November 23rd, 2010
2:52 pm

@tellitlikeitis … I’m Rell’s newly adopted brother!

SexyCool

November 23rd, 2010
2:53 pm

Correction, sweetie. Reinforced self worth, strengthened by lessons learned from experience. I have no shame in admitting to past failures. Each failure is an opportunity, a step that moves me closer to success.

Also, I make it a point to refrain from generalizations as much as possible. And I am quite often the first to admit that stereotypes, although most naturally subscribe to them, often do more harm than good.

And all you smell….is Escape, by Calvin Klein.

SexyCool

November 23rd, 2010
2:54 pm

Trevor…I’m not arguing, upset or even the least bit ruffled. I am simply meeting Melo on his level.

Da_Man!

November 23rd, 2010
2:56 pm

Not to sound corny … but a woman should be placed on a pedestal at all times … despite their character. Takes a man to have a daughter to really understand that.

Melo!!

November 23rd, 2010
2:56 pm

Blue?

that’s why I perambulated in my analysis to’ u know who’ that I was merely trying to bring up some medula in the convo.

Just trying to have a mental fest.

Did I rebutt to ur satisfaction?

Da_Man!

November 23rd, 2010
2:59 pm

@SexyCool – You told them … with yo sexy smell’n self!

Rell

November 23rd, 2010
3:00 pm

Takes a man to have a daughter to really understand that.

- you know my thoughts have changed since my interaction with my girlfriends daughter..i have discovered a whole new patients i never knew existed in me…and i can see how we as men shape our daughters from a young age

SlimNumeroUno

November 23rd, 2010
3:03 pm

What Rell posted is really no different of the concept that Oprah talked about as far as keeping a Gratitude journal…or any more different than praying daily for all the little-to-big blessings we get on a daily basis. How easy it is to complain so much that you are missing what is actually good in your life, whether that be in the form of a wife with the imperfections unique to her, or a friend or a job or someone at the register behind you willing to give you 3 cents out of their pocket just to keep you from breaking that other dollar, or that side piece willing to come over at the break of dawn to make you holla… ;-)

blue®

November 23rd, 2010
3:05 pm

@melo – perambulate/mental fest/acceptable rebuttal – hmmm, i would have to say, no not feeling it lol. alot of your rebuttals have an air to me of “women are privileged to be in my/mens presence”, this comment included. mental fest to me means throwing out intelligent items to discuss, not argument sparks….my opinion tho!

Melo!!

November 23rd, 2010
3:06 pm

That side piece willing…..break of dawn.

Slim!

there u go again,dissing women.

:lol:

Da_Man!

November 23rd, 2010
3:08 pm

@Slim – You’re right No difference between Rell’s & Oprah’s concept but I’m sure if Rell gave away a free Kia to everyone on this blog board, he’d be on point!!!

Melo!!

November 23rd, 2010
3:08 pm

Blue?

I don’t have a problem with u agreeing with Sexxycool

Trevor0529

November 23rd, 2010
3:09 pm

that side piece willing to come over at the break of dawn to make you holla

Nice thought. Hmmmmm!

:)

I am whatever you say I am

November 23rd, 2010
3:11 pm

anyone else working like a government mule or is it just me :shock:

Sassy Me..I Feel like bustin' loose :-)

November 23rd, 2010
3:12 pm

u stoopid…..

Delight23

November 23rd, 2010
3:12 pm

anyone else working like a government mule or is it just me

Federal or State? Just saying…

Delight23

November 23rd, 2010
3:14 pm

late as all get out… but YEAH!!! Glad the menses show’d up.

Delight23

November 23rd, 2010
3:16 pm

er, ok. I think menses was the wrong choice. 8O

Sassy Me..I Feel like bustin' loose :-)

November 23rd, 2010
3:16 pm

Glad the menses show’d up.

Good for youuu :lol:

Celisea

November 23rd, 2010
3:17 pm

You tube has been blocked…say it ain’t so…

blue®

November 23rd, 2010
3:18 pm

@Slim – never been much of an Oprah watcher but sounds like a decent principle all around. to me is a way to take some responsibility for your own happiness and not leaving it all up to other people, blaming your lack of it on other people.
@melo – LMAO. i like the come back, tho do find it noteworthy that the “women are privileged to be in my/mens presence” attitude was not denied, interesting…..
@i am – im with ya! going cross eyed over her with these worksheets.

Celisea

November 23rd, 2010
3:19 pm

Soon it will be just work…gheesh

Melo!!

November 23rd, 2010
3:25 pm

Blue?

that line was a deduction from some archive,much like her conclusion on the diss of women.

from our two part communications today,there is none that I see to arrive at that.
I didn’t wanna waste my time and yes rebutting!

That’s why I took the low road or default road(per u and sexxy)

I pop my collar,regardless

:lol:

I am whatever you say I am

November 23rd, 2010
3:25 pm

I have a plethora of things to do that all have to been done by COB
it’s times like these, I just mentally check out

I am whatever you say I am

November 23rd, 2010
3:26 pm

When an okay looking guy says he has not been on a date, he Lyin!

I’m just saying.
Sorry for the random thought.

Melo!!

November 23rd, 2010
3:27 pm

Two part( u blue and I)

Sassy Me..I Feel like bustin' loose :-)

November 23rd, 2010
3:27 pm

Soon it will be just work…gheesh

At least you hadaccess…over here at the gubment facility that was never an option….they’ve got a slew of isht blocked over here…

Sassy Me..I Feel like bustin' loose :-)

November 23rd, 2010
3:28 pm

u stoopid…

Celisea

November 23rd, 2010
3:30 pm

Sassy – At least you hadaccess…over here at the gubment facility that was never an option….they’ve got a slew of isht blocked over here…

Girl, 2 more sites remaining, after that we’re out all the way. At least my phone can do anything…I’ll just plug and listen there.

I am whatever you say I am

November 23rd, 2010
3:31 pm

RASTAFARI!!!!!

I just felt like saying that :lol:

Melo!!

November 23rd, 2010
3:33 pm

:lol:

@I am!

RASTAFARI

SexyCool

November 23rd, 2010
3:36 pm

Da_Man…lol…

i'm swiss™ (but you can call me Mr. Goodnight)

November 23rd, 2010
3:36 pm

Melo — Yes, I have seen that commercial (the Aretha one)… sorry for the slow reply…

Slim — I have a very active imagination, so I can manage to play all sorts of games by myself, if necessary… :lol: Self sufficiency! ;-) :lol:

Da_Man!

November 23rd, 2010
3:37 pm

@I am … @Melo

BOOYAKA … BOOYAKA!!!

blue®

November 23rd, 2010
3:39 pm

@melo – too funny, pop away my friend …. :lol:

@i am – developing some form of Tourettes over there with the random outbursts? lmao

Melo!!

November 23rd, 2010
3:41 pm

Swiss?

u gon stay coz I have a 2nd part?