Fact or fiction: Men don’t mind being single
I can attest to the fact that “the art of being single” isn’t perfected by everyone. Some people are the type that has to have someone in their life at all times. You know, the serial monogamists who go from one relationship to the next with little to no break between. I don’t think it’s a good thing or bad thing, personally. It’s a matter of personal preference and really great timing, but it’s rare that I meet a man who admits to needing a woman in his life.
I have, however, met and dated newly single divorcees who have that whole “nestling” thing going. This is when they immediately want someone to feel the void of their ex-wife. Almost anyone one will do, really. It’s like being the ultimate rebound girl, except with home-cooked meal requests.
Do you believe men dislike being single? Is it a myth that having all that freedom is the reason why men delay marriage?
Ladies, has a man ever told you that he doesn’t mind being single? Do you meet men who actively seek a relationship and don’t mind admitting it?
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I am whatever you say I am
November 23rd, 2010
10:02 am
Big Dawg: he cares. On her website he emailed her from his company cussing her out. She forwarded that email to his boss.
I can’t believe she did that. Now she’s messsing with the man’s career.
Rell
November 23rd, 2010
10:02 am
Fear is a place that has not yet discovered love. (Sanaya Roman)
I am whatever you say I am
November 23rd, 2010
10:03 am
I mean she posted the email on her website
SlimNumeroUno
November 23rd, 2010
10:04 am
Soon to be ex ??
I am whatever you say I am
November 23rd, 2010
10:04 am
Fear: Fugg everything and run
I am whatever you say I am
November 23rd, 2010
10:05 am
“thats why…lying to females does not make you a player..it just makes you a fraud…true players..play the game fair…there is honesty in it. So ladies proceed with cautions when dudes are “dating”…that means his management skills are lackluster and your relationship and life will reflect it if you chose to go with that dude
…”
Game recognize Game
Simple Man!!! Checkin In While On Vacation!!!!
November 23rd, 2010
10:07 am
Morning Folks!!!!
Being Single is agift from the gods provided that one is accepting of it and makes no pretense about being so…….
I am whatever you say I am
November 23rd, 2010
10:08 am
“…..Blue: I prefer to date women with children. They understand when “something” comes up…..”
As a single mom, I have become a lot more patient, kinder, and understanding compared to how I was before my son.
I am whatever you say I am
November 23rd, 2010
10:08 am
“…..Being Single is agift from the gods provided that one is accepting of it and makes no pretense about being so……….”
See, my example as why men like being single.
Sassy Me..Onward and Upward :-)
November 23rd, 2010
10:08 am
dontdatehimgirl.com whoa…ok. amazes me how vindictvie some people will be
blue you’d be surprised. Whomever coined the phrase “Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned”, knew the full weight of an angry womans wrath and the lengths one would go to assuage their anger/hurt/p.issedivity… One of our bloggers hipped us to that site some time ago….ahh the memories
Trevor0529
November 23rd, 2010
10:12 am
@Slim, soon to be ex-wife..
blue®
November 23rd, 2010
10:19 am
random: please explain tome why my payroll just made me set a sitekey, 6, count em 6 security questions and a passcode…..
ok, probably was a good thing considering identity theft and all that, but d@mn…i just wanted to print see my paystub….
I am whatever you say I am
November 23rd, 2010
10:23 am
Sassy: LOL I was the blogger that hipped you all to the site!
kimmie
November 23rd, 2010
10:23 am
Happy & safe trails, Raqita & family!
blue®
November 23rd, 2010
10:23 am
@bigdawg – Blue: I prefer to date women with children. They understand when “something” comes up. – yeah, moms, by default, must learn more patience. and its needed when the “i shouldnt have to deal with him (the daddy)” cr@p comes up. its a package deal people, and for us who’s baby daddys are still hanging around, thats part of the package…
@Simple Man – Norm!!!! (figured should just stick with a classic, screaming “Simple!!!” just didnt have a ring to it)
@Sassy – oh yeah that statement is ooh so true, have had some women scare with me how elaborate and detailed their plans were for payback on some dude…me, i like to keep things simple, and figuring out how to stalk you and gaslight you without getting arrested just complicates things for me lol
i'm swiss™ (but you can call me Mr. Goodnight)
November 23rd, 2010
10:26 am
“but I understand why guys don’t jump at the idea when they can get
1) dinner or any meal cooked from any women
2) sex from many women
3) clothes bought by women
4) vacation trips paid by women
5) sometimes cars bought by women
6) a place to live with a woman…
all of this done without marriage.”
Um… to borrow a phrase from… well, I don’t remember, actually…
“Where they do that at???”
D@mn… Apparently I was going about dating all wrong…
Sassy Me..I Feel like bustin' loose :-)
November 23rd, 2010
10:32 am
figuring out how to stalk you and gaslight you without getting arrested just complicates things for me
I mean to me I’m like why put so much energy into gettin some get back? It may make you feel better but it also makes you look like a fool and at some point one would have to think/wonder…”Is all of this REALLY worth it”…is it?
I am ohh okay I didn’t know it was you that mentioned the site…could’ve sworn it was another blogger using one of her many aliases….I digress.
abc
November 23rd, 2010
10:33 am
As far as ROI goes, most chicks don’t bring much to the table — not speaking financially here, as I think that any man that concerns himself with a woman’s finances is either a wimp or can’t afford a woman — I’m talking about what she can bring that improves the way of life.
Chicks bring a lot of unnecessary drama. Mendacity is a way of life for them. They can easily get quite bossy, wanting everything their own way, not allowing a man to lead. It’s a hassle, and I’d gotten to where I was quite happy to do without all that.
That is, except for my girl. There are exceptions to everything. She’s still a female, for sure, but she brings intangible value that enhances the quality of our lives, and it makes it worth it.
Sassy Me..I Feel like bustin' loose :-)
November 23rd, 2010
10:37 am
All that needed was a violin concerto playing in the background…
Kym
November 23rd, 2010
10:38 am
So has the woman bashing began or did we keep it light and happy? I raided the fridge for holiday lunch leftovers.
SlimNumeroUno
November 23rd, 2010
10:38 am
‘Fact or fiction: Men don’t mind being single’
Men, where are yall??? It’s sort of like double dutching…you just have to sort of jump right on in and goooooooo.
Off-topic: i think the plague is hitting me. I have a sick co-worker to my right AND to my left. Now I’m sneezing like crazy, my head is beginning to feel tight and I seriously need a roll of tissue at my desk because now here comes the sniffles!!! Why, why, why, why. I do not want to spend my Thanksgiving eating great food only to NOT be able to actually taste it.
Kym
November 23rd, 2010
10:39 am
So am I the only one cooking (well not everything) for Turkey Day? I must say I am a bit stressed about making my first ham.
kimmie
November 23rd, 2010
10:39 am
Morning All!
I’ve observed that quite a few widowed men will be quick to marry again because they are used to that companionship. A lot of the times they will remarry quicker than a divorced guy.
It’s nothing worse than a bitter divorced man though.
That’s all I have today on the subject. Can’t speak for men, just what I’ve observed over the years.
kimmie
November 23rd, 2010
10:43 am
Kym – I am making a few sides. Others are bringing dishes.
Looks like the royals are not wasting any time with that wedding. They have set a date, April 29 at Westminster Abbey. A spokesperson said they are over the moon. That’s a wonderful love story.
I am whatever you say I am
November 23rd, 2010
10:44 am
My alias:
I am whatever you say I am
I am
Whatever
Kym
November 23rd, 2010
10:45 am
@kimmie..I saw that!! I am so proud of Prince William and Kate..okay what will be her title after they marry?
I am whatever you say I am
November 23rd, 2010
10:46 am
“…I’ve observed that quite a few widowed men will be quick to marry again because they are used to that companionship. A lot of the times they will remarry quicker than a divorced guy…..”
Mental note to self: Self, look for funerals and wakes to scope out newly single dudes
blue®
November 23rd, 2010
10:46 am
@Sassy – yeah i like to avoid the whole looking like a fool thing. besides when you start acting crazy and all he!! bent on revenge, then he can walk around telling everyone how crazy you are and he’d be right!! cant let him have the satisfaction lol.
@Kym – i have gotten to teh point with holidays where ive told them i’ll cook Thanksgiving or Christmas, not both lol!! they’d gotten too spoiled!!! lmao
Sassy Me..I Feel like bustin' loose :-)
November 23rd, 2010
10:47 am
So has the woman bashing began or did we keep it light and happy?
Not really…I’m sure we’ve got a dejected Bitter Bobby lurking/moping around somewhere…
Slim if you start treating it now you may be alright…if you’re into Thera-flu that’ll knock the sniffles right outta ya…and you’ll get some good rest for sure b/c it also help with that,too. Hope you feel better.
I’ve observed that quite a few widowed men will be quick to marry again because they are used to that companionship. A lot of the times they will remarry quicker than a divorced guy.
I wonder how long those relationships last?
I am whatever you say I am
November 23rd, 2010
10:48 am
“…@kimmie..I saw that!! I am so proud of Prince William and Kate..okay what will be her title after they marry?….”
Her title: I’m rich Beotch I’m real big time!
Kym
November 23rd, 2010
10:49 am
@kimmie I have sweet potato pies, ham, and dressing and gravy duties…but I will have assistance from my elders on the dressing.
Rell
November 23rd, 2010
10:51 am
Chicks bring a lot of unnecessary drama. Mendacity is a way of life for them. They can easily get quite bossy, wanting everything their own way, not allowing a man to lead. It’s a hassle, and I’d gotten to where I was quite happy to do without all that.
^^^perfect example of having poor chick management skills….
What you WANT is irrelevant, what you’ve CHOSEN is at hand. (Spock, Star Trek)
kimmie
November 23rd, 2010
10:51 am
Kym – I have seen a few articles talking about that. I’ve seen HRH Katherine Princess of Wales thrown around.
Raqi V
November 23rd, 2010
10:52 am
Kym and kimmie, I am not cooking for Turkey Day but sister has warned me that my dad’s wife is a modern turkey day cooker. They had turkey day with them one year and she says it’s very ‘fancy’. Not your usual eat-til-you-are-stuffed fest. LOL No mashed potatoes, no dressing, no turnip green, etc. She warned me to cook here at home so my family will have what they know thanksgiving to be when we get back but I told her we will just go to her house Friday for a remix of this year’s turkey day.
kimmie
November 23rd, 2010
10:53 am
Kym – You’ll see, baked ham is easy, in fact, much easier than turkey.
Chuck Sheen
November 23rd, 2010
10:54 am
Being single is incredible. If you’re a man and that isn’t the case you’re a wuss. Grow a pair
kimmie
November 23rd, 2010
10:55 am
Raqi – It might be nice to have a change in menu. I know with T-day and Christmas and all these office parties and other get-togethers in between, I get sick of the usual fare. As long as it’s good, I don’t mind fancy once in awhile.
SlimNumeroUno
November 23rd, 2010
10:55 am
Sassy – been pumping Airborne this morning so I hope that helps combat it before it really gets going.
abc
November 23rd, 2010
10:57 am
‘Chick Management Skills’ is a euphemism for bullsheot, I suppose. If it takes all that, it isn’t worth it. If they bring something that makes it worth it, fine; if not, I’m not one to ‘manage’ them.
Kym
November 23rd, 2010
10:57 am
@kimmie. I have the brown sugar and the customary six pack of coca-cola to pour over it..but this thing is just huge!..
@Raqi..I thought you were on the road…I am not sure I am with the modern day turkey folks..holidays are for family, over eating, taking long naps while watching football, occassional disagreements over cards, kids running(hopefully outside) and then at midnight off to shop for bargains you don’t need but the prices are so cheap how could you just leave them in the store?…LOL
single still
November 23rd, 2010
11:00 am
I’m 45 and have never been married. I’ve had some great long term relationships that never evolved towards marriage. Many of my friends are married and for the most part seem rather miserable. If I could point to a few examples of married couples that seem genuinely good together, I might consider taking the plunge. As it is now, I still enjoy being single.
Dan - simply...Superior
November 23rd, 2010
11:01 am
@abc
“affording a woman” and “not allowing a man to lead” are along the same lines of foolish thinking – I expect better of you.
Affording “a woman” is affording her the lifestyle that you want to share with her (as your noted gifts to your girl have suggested). But it’s also affording the life you plan to build together, and unless you’re – the nebulous you- getting money like that, that is getting harder each day.
Also, “letting a man lead” the single silliest phrase in the ethos.
I lead, she follows, or not. But to ride on this train, I’m the conductor. She can’t let me do nothing..
Raqi V
November 23rd, 2010
11:02 am
kimmie, I look forward to this time of the year because of the traditional turkey day and Christmas menus. Other than the veggies my holiday meals are usually stuff that I don’t make throughout the year.
My sis says my dad’s wife has Cornish hens, stuffing that is more loose and coarse than how we normally make dressing, cranberry green beans…pretty much stuff my guys probably will not eat much of.
Sassy Me..I Feel like bustin' loose :-)
November 23rd, 2010
11:03 am
Slim it should…so long as you start with some kind of defense you should be good. Like granny used to say..don’t let da sickness take holt…can’t wait to see her
kimmie
November 23rd, 2010
11:03 am
Kym – Shake on some ground clove to set that ham off. I sometimes add a can of crushed pineapple too, that’s a nice touch.
Raqi V
November 23rd, 2010
11:04 am
Kym, not yet. He claims to be 30 minutes away. I knew he could not go to the office and come right back. When I called the boy said they were getting gas but they are still in Marietta.
We probably will not get to Cleveland until tomorrow. Leaving this late we will more than likely get a hotel room tonight and start again in the morning.
blue®
November 23rd, 2010
11:05 am
@Rell – What you WANT is irrelevant, what you’ve CHOSEN is at hand. (Spock, Star Trek) – i like this one…so many life lessons to be learned from Star Trek….lol
@Kym – brown sugar and a six pack of coke??? never heard of that lol. we always use pineapple juice and a little brown sugar. works nicely….
kimmie
November 23rd, 2010
11:06 am
Raqi – Okay, I could actually deal with the cornish hens cause my aunt hooked up some of those one Christmas recently, but the “dressing” has gotta be right! And the beans too!
Dan - simply...Superior
November 23rd, 2010
11:06 am
@Raqi
Safe travels….
Raqi V
November 23rd, 2010
11:08 am
Kym, exactly on that statement of what holidays are. LOL
My guys like mashed potatoes, dressing, turkey all covered in gravy. Green beans cooked with hamhocks. Macaroni and cheese. All the stuff that is not good for you but you get a pass for the holidays.
I am looking forward to watching Family Feud with my dad. Every day I talk to him he has either just finished watching it or is getting ready to watch it. I am going to make sure I watch it with him at least once while we are there.