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Dating: Are you a good judge of character?

I believe the most effective way to improve your dating results is to be mindful of a person’s character. We can all be drawn to the outside but it’s the inside that makes us want to stick around.

I know we all put our best foot forward when we are meeting and exchanging phone numbers. Once it goes past the superficial things, it’s good practice to observe how a person handles situations, what their outlook on life is, and how compatible these things are to you.

Do you think that you are a good judge of character? How smart are you when it comes to figuring out whether or not the person is a good match to your personality and character?

I admit that I haven’t always trusted my judgment in the past. It’s partly why I get so cautious because I want to be clear on who the person is, as opposed to who I want them to be.

I think a lot of the dating misadventures we go through stem from the problems single people have figuring out who is a good match based on character.

How do you know when you are seeing a person’s real character?

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SlimNumeroUno

November 22nd, 2010
2:05 pm

I’m still here with bells on…bad thing about it is they are giving me a dayum headache. :shock:

Kym

November 22nd, 2010
2:05 pm

@blue..I am here..I am reading the Sandwich Monday entry…Do you know there is a burger for $777 sold in Vegas at the Paris hotel?

SexyCool

November 22nd, 2010
2:09 pm

“i suggest you meet folks in the flow of your life”…

Agreed.

blue®

November 22nd, 2010
2:10 pm

@Slim – um, maybe time to go with something a little quieter, like ribbons, their nice and quiet…
@Kym – what is this Sandwich thing? and what has got to be wrong with you to pay that much for a d@mn burger???

Simle Man!!!!

November 22nd, 2010
2:11 pm

Slim, your 1:32 was funny as hell!!!Fanga poppin CT and Long toenails always make me smile!!!

SlimNumeroUno

November 22nd, 2010
2:11 pm

Kym – does that burger make you poop out gold bars? That’s CRAZY to spend that much for a burger or any other food item for that matter, whether I was a kaboooyillionaire or not.

SexyCool

November 22nd, 2010
2:12 pm

S/N – just because I haven’t bmc’d about it lately doesn’t mean I don’t still hate receiving voice mail….especially msgs that only say “Call me back.”

Kym

November 22nd, 2010
2:13 pm

@blue..here is a link ..apparently it is what the high rollers order after they hit the jackpot.

http://www.npr.org/blogs/waitwait/2010/11/22/131512386/sandwich-monday-in-las-vegas-the-777-burger

Kym

November 22nd, 2010
2:15 pm

Well for 777..you get a burger made with Kobe Beef..Maine Lobster..imported brie cheese, 100 year age balsamic, carmalized onions..and a bottle of Dom..

AmazonRed™

November 22nd, 2010
2:16 pm

Kym – My behind is still hurting from that azz spaking your Steelers gave my Raiders yesterday. :cry:

blue®

November 22nd, 2010
2:16 pm

@Kym – lmao, there is lobster on that burger! wow, ok, what some people will pay for…oh and it does come with champagne, so i guess part of that $777 is the wine price….but still, im just too simple for that…just give me a good burger with some bacon on it and a coke and we can be friends, lol

Kym

November 22nd, 2010
2:20 pm

@Amazon…they compared the game yesterday to the 70’s games..everyone was hitting, the penalty flags were flying..(we had 100 plus penalty yards) and one of the Raider’s players got ejected from the game.

Kym

November 22nd, 2010
2:21 pm

@blue…now you know if you hit the jackpot in Vegas you have to go big..the house wants you to go big….actually the house wants you to stay and lose all your cheddar…that’s why if I win 30 bucks I leave..I’m done..thank you..

AmazonRed™

November 22nd, 2010
2:22 pm

Kym – Yeah, ya’ll didn’t have to do us like that. :lol: But yeah, tired of these pansy games…let em play!

SexyCool

November 22nd, 2010
2:27 pm

Speaking of football…Kym…I’m praying that my dude has another one of those 20pt nights and that your three can’t combine for the nearly 60 points that you are currently behind….

Yep…this is a bootyclincher. LOL!

SlimNumeroUno

November 22nd, 2010
2:42 pm

Hey what’s a good spot to take a dude to celebrate a birthday? I thought about 2 Urban as a decent spot since you can get the music and electic type atmosphere…any other suggestions.

i'm swiss™ (but you can call me Mr. Goodnight)

November 22nd, 2010
2:44 pm

Afternoon, blog denizens…

Sorry for the fashionably late entrance, but I’ve gotta pay the bills… sometimes.

On topic: I’m sure this has been touched on but one can really only know another’s character with time and trials. For that matter, this is the only way to know one’s own character.

Off topic: Blue / Slim / For Real — You know how badly I want to comment on the catholic thread, but why bother? My post will just get deleted within 5 minutes. ;-) :lol:

SexyC — Don’t clinch the booty. Just relax, boo, and it will start to feel good… ;-) :lol:

kimmie

November 22nd, 2010
2:45 pm

Back from lunch

On second thought you might be right but after the po-po came and checked the place not much else to be done.

4Real – The po-po just walked around the house, in broad daylight, while I was at work. By the time I got home it was dark. All I wanted ole boy to do was walk around INSIDE the house with me to check it out. Instead, he plopped down on the couch while I went over the house. Checking the house out with me was the least he could do – so exit stage! Showed me he didn’t care about my wellbeing.

Didn’t work for me and that’s all that mattered.

SexyCool

November 22nd, 2010
2:48 pm

Cheese…I’ve heard that before. Liar.

DreamsMaterialize

November 22nd, 2010
2:49 pm

Hey Everyone.

Im not sure how I good I am at judging character, but I know what my tolerance is for cetain things.

SexyCool

November 22nd, 2010
2:51 pm

Off topic – I have not seen any melanin blessed folks complaining about the TSA patdowns. Not saying that there aren’t being any interviewed, but the ones that are…aren’t having an issue with it.

SlimNumeroUno

November 22nd, 2010
2:53 pm

Dreams – That is a good point…TOLERANCE…hmmm, something to ponder on.

kimmie

November 22nd, 2010
2:54 pm

Have you guys heard this story:

A lady at her bachelorette party was horsing around with her friends. One playfully pushed her in the pool. She went in head first in only 3 feet of water and is now paralyzed – doctors say she will never walk again. This happened a month before her wedding in May. The plans were put on hold while she goes thru therapy and learns to deal with life in a wheelchair. Her fiance’ is standing by her and caring for her and said he never once thought of leaving her. The wedding will be next summer. They were on the Today show.

SlimNumeroUno

November 22nd, 2010
2:54 pm

SexyCool – I think the ajc had an article about the airports thinking about getting rid of TSA and going w/other private security companines. That would be SOOOOOO many folks out of a job again. I remember almost like it was yesterday all the hysteria that went on when the TSA were doing all that hiring.

blue®

November 22nd, 2010
2:58 pm

ok, wait a minute wait a minute…

the girl caught with Charlie Sheen claims that even tho she is an adult film star, she was not paid for “favors” and that “When it became really uncomfortable was when he put his hands around my neck,”. first of all i gotta plead that whole Mike Tyson case here, he’s Charlie Sheen, you’re an adult film star whos been paid, who he brings back to his room. what did you think it was? and secondly, who picks the word “uncomfortbale” to describe being randomly choked!! LMAO

SlimNumeroUno

November 22nd, 2010
3:00 pm

kimmie – my cousin was telling me about that story yesterday, even though I hadn’t heard of it until then. I couldn’t imagine being the one who playfully pushed her in the pool, having to carry that guilt around…then for her fiance to have to deal with a totally different life than he expected with his soon-to-be wife, just goes to show, you never know what each day will bring. However, I hope he remains strong enough to be there for her.

SexyCool

November 22nd, 2010
3:00 pm

kimmie – read that on the ajc last week. Supposedly the reason that the wedding was put on hold was due to insurance coverage. That their combined salaries would make them ineligible for some of the gov’t benefits that she is receiving now.

SlimGoody – that was the same battle cry that the private security companies used when TSA was created. All that happened was that most of the folks that worked from the private contractors got jobs at TSA. IF…big IF…TSA goes away, I suspect the trend will just reverse itself.

The unfortunate thing about the patdowns is that what it will take to make the complainers simmer down is an actual terrorist attack.

And…in my distrust of the media as a whole, I have to wonder if they aren’t focusing on the “verbal minority.”

SexyCool

November 22nd, 2010
3:02 pm

The last time the Falcons had a two loss season they went to the Superbowl.

The Charlie Sheen porn.chick should go somewhere and sit down. She sounded straight money-driven in her G.MA interview this morning. The fact that they even gave her air time increased the rate of my rather rapid decline in respect for GMA as a source of real news as opposed to entertainment fluff.

kimmie

November 22nd, 2010
3:06 pm

Slim – The article said that she forgave her friend, but the friend is having a very hard time dealing with it.

SCool – They did say something about the insurance issues.

blue®

November 22nd, 2010
3:06 pm

@SC – im with you on the money. shes saying now he locked her in the bathroom after snortig some “white powdery stuff”. i see you doing that, im out the door…not sticking around for you to lock me up! gotta ask, what was she snorting….

i'm swiss™ (but you can call me Mr. Goodnight)

November 22nd, 2010
3:06 pm

“Not saying that there aren’t being any interviewed, but the ones that are…aren’t having an issue with it.”

SexyC — You’re right… And we all know why, so I’ll go ahead & say it: My people are losing their d@mn minds ‘cos we’re accustomed to being presumed innocent. ;-) :lol:

Now I don’t like the hassle any more than anyone else, but I just try to have fun with it. I have no shame, so someone grabbing my junk isn’t going to make me uncomfortable. But if I start making moaning noises & say something like “ooooh yeah, that’s the spot…. don’t stop! DON’T STOP!” when reach my nether regions, I’m pretty sure it will make them a little uncomfortable… ;-) :lol:

kimmie

November 22nd, 2010
3:09 pm

Swiss/SCool – On Q100 this morning they played the spoof SNL did about the TSA patdowns. It was hillarious!!

Rell

November 22nd, 2010
3:10 pm

This is why you dont cupcake with these chicks…charlie should have order lil ceez and mike hard lemonade…and just smashed and then kicked her out without payment…who she going to tell…lol

SexyCool

November 22nd, 2010
3:11 pm

She also tried to make it sound like the $3500 that she did NOT get paid was for an “appearance fee” to the dinner. And that a guy friend of Charlie’s asked her to go with Charlie to his room to make sure he “got there okay.”

However, she did admit to doing the “romantic stuff that happened” and to taking off her dress willingly.

blue®

November 22nd, 2010
3:13 pm

GMA – havent watched that show i years. i remember my dad watching ti religiously every morning while i got ready for school. Charles Gibson and Joan Lunden, you’d think he knew them or something, lol

SlimNumeroUno

November 22nd, 2010
3:14 pm

I just know that if I fly anywhere, I’ll need to be sure to throw on my Victoria Secretions…wouldn’t want to be caught flying the friendly skies in granny panties….plus depending on the size of em, they may get mistaken for a hidden parachute, leading to a personal more In-depth search. :lol:

Rell – I had some Mikes Hard Lemonade Saturday night…whatchu trynna say? lol

AmazonRed™

November 22nd, 2010
3:16 pm

SCool – They did say something about the insurance issues.

With a combined income, she’ll be ineligible for Medicade

I’d feel guilty as the friend too, but the paralyzed bride said they both had a history of pushing each other in to pools, so the shoe easily could have been on the other foot.

kimmie

November 22nd, 2010
3:17 pm

SCool – Does everyone that flies have to submit to the body scans or patdowns or is it just a select few?

kimmie

November 22nd, 2010
3:18 pm

Amred – You know, I have always HATED pranks like that and this just furthers my hate for such.

i'm swiss™ (but you can call me Mr. Goodnight)

November 22nd, 2010
3:18 pm

“….plus depending on the size of em, they may get mistaken for a hidden parachute”

Slim — Disclaimer: I have no idea if this is true or not, but it’s such a good story that I really hope it is… This guy at the office was saying the he read that a lady somewhere got flagged by one of the body scanners for what they though was a stick of dynamite she was attempting to smuggle past security in a particular body orifice. Turns out, she was just traveling with her Aunt Flo. :lol: :lol: :lol:

i'm swiss™ (but you can call me Mr. Goodnight)

November 22nd, 2010
3:19 pm

kimmie — People are “randomly” selected & you can choose either the body scan or pat down.

SexyCool

November 22nd, 2010
3:19 pm

Not sure. But my understanding is that the patdown is only if you refuse the scanner…and that’s IN airports that have them. Not every airport has them yet.

kimmie

November 22nd, 2010
3:28 pm

Swiss – Okay, random is the word I was looking for.

SCool – I know the ATL airport has them, the busiest airport and all.

As for the patdown, I guess the “wand” thing won’t detect everything. Crazy world we live in now!

SlimNumeroUno

November 22nd, 2010
3:29 pm

swiss – that’s funny because I was discussing that here at work earlier. That is a bit much for someone outside of your doctor knowing you have that going on down there. Now I’m going to have to schedule any trips around my Aunt Flo to combat any potential embarassment…booooooo!

Kym

November 22nd, 2010
3:32 pm

@Sexy…naw Phillp coming thru for me just watch..

i'm swiss™ (but you can call me Mr. Goodnight)

November 22nd, 2010
3:33 pm

Slim — See… I was just thinking that I should start traveling with a c0ck ring from now on, just so I could have an excuse to wave The Matterhorn in their faces… :lol:

Rell

November 22nd, 2010
3:43 pm

@slim…the mike hards are cool..i like em..i am just saying..he was doing the most 3500 dollars for a cess pool…then he all in the room with racial tourettes…lol

For Real

November 22nd, 2010
3:45 pm

TSA: Excuse me sir you have been selected for additional screening.

Twan: Oh, what did I wins?

TSA: No sir you did not win anything, we need for you to step over here for a pat down.

Twan: (Standing before the TSA agents with a Ron Burgundy) My, my which one of uses officers gon pat down Twan?

SexyCool

November 22nd, 2010
3:49 pm

ForReal…I am NOT laughing at you…I’m not. I’m not. I’m not.
(okay…I’m lying…laughing my @ss off……)

kimmie

November 22nd, 2010
3:50 pm