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Dating: Are you a good judge of character?

I believe the most effective way to improve your dating results is to be mindful of a person’s character. We can all be drawn to the outside but it’s the inside that makes us want to stick around.

I know we all put our best foot forward when we are meeting and exchanging phone numbers. Once it goes past the superficial things, it’s good practice to observe how a person handles situations, what their outlook on life is, and how compatible these things are to you.

Do you think that you are a good judge of character? How smart are you when it comes to figuring out whether or not the person is a good match to your personality and character?

I admit that I haven’t always trusted my judgment in the past. It’s partly why I get so cautious because I want to be clear on who the person is, as opposed to who I want them to be.

I think a lot of the dating misadventures we go through stem from the problems single people have figuring out who is a good match based on character.

How do you know when you are seeing a person’s real character?

Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Blog

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I am whatever you say I am

November 22nd, 2010
8:29 am

I think that I am a good judge of character but sometimes it’s my heart that clouds what I already know.
Lately, I have decided to go with my instinct instead of my heart.
Human beings are the only species that second guess their instincts and go against the grain.
I went on a date on Friday, though the gentlemen seemed very nice, I have to go on my instinct with this one and not pursue opportunities.
He seemed a little off and red flags are now screaming sirens.

I am whatever you say I am

November 22nd, 2010
8:30 am

Ha Ha!!!! I was first Beo-tches!

2CPTG© - "that dude from da innanet"

November 22nd, 2010
8:30 am

g’morning….

“How do you know when you are seeing a person’s real character?”

Initially, you won’t…..only time will tell you this.

YesSheIsCute

November 22nd, 2010
8:47 am

Good morning everyone!

I used to think that but at this point I just don’t know anymore……….

Simle Man!!!!

November 22nd, 2010
8:56 am

On vacation….Now what’s going on in here??????

Kym

November 22nd, 2010
9:02 am

Good Morning All,

I like to think I am a good judge of character..I know what and who I like once I get to know the person or spend enough time with them. I also know what behavior attracts me and what gets on my last nerve. Now there have been some characters who I have come across that got passed my bs detector..and some guys who I misjudged unfairly..but for the most part I know a joker when I see them.

blue®

November 22nd, 2010
9:08 am

Morning Peoples,

how do you know when you are seeing a persons real character? im with 2C, its a matter of time. imo, no way of knowing until you have some time wiht that person under your belt. you have to learn them, not just men/women in general. the first step for me tho is just that, first impressions. if i meet you and we can have a good convo and my inner voice isnt screaming at me, then we may get to know each other. if we meet, and that inner voice just keeps going “danger will robinson”, we’re done. i tend to trust gut instinct….

@i am – so i hear Fred was here Friday??

Simle Man!!!!

November 22nd, 2010
9:21 am

Whadda ya say blue????

Kym

November 22nd, 2010
9:22 am

Who is Simle Man?

SlimNumeroUno

November 22nd, 2010
9:24 am

Goooood morning all!!! (Two snaps and a twist for a short work week)

I’m with my honey bunny on this topic…only time will tell. When you first meet someone, they are putting their best foot forward and you really won’t know who they truly are until they get tired of playing the mask game. Plus I think once that initial excitement and newness wears off, all those things you thought were cute or endearing can become a bit annoying.

I am whatever you say I am

November 22nd, 2010
9:32 am

(Two snaps and a twist for a short work week)

Reminds me of in Living Color :lol:

I am whatever you say I am

November 22nd, 2010
9:33 am

Blue: good morning…Yep Fred snuck in here Friday looking for candy.
I told him he could have the non sugar non caffeine Candy

Sup Simple: I hope you are enjoying your week.

Simle Man!!!!

November 22nd, 2010
9:34 am

Kym…I am but a Simple Dude…Looing for love in all the wrong places….

Simle Man!!!!

November 22nd, 2010
9:36 am

Whats good I Am….Glad to be resting and relaxing!!!

Sassy Me..Onward and Upward :-)

November 22nd, 2010
9:36 am

Kim maybe since Simple is on vacay he sent Simle as a replacement….

I’m with 2can on this….only time will tell. You know you get that “representative” at first and then slowly but surely the real person shows up.

blue®

November 22nd, 2010
9:37 am

@Simle – going for a name change? i survived my weekend, got a short week so trying to be mature and pay attention at work :lol:
@ i am – you know, there was an In Living Color marathon, i think it was last weekend! i forgot how crazy Jamie Fox looked dressed up as that crazy chick! sugar free caffeine free: is that real candy? and you heard you (gasp) called him a donkey!!??

Simle Man!!!!

November 22nd, 2010
9:45 am

Oh Damn…. “Simle Man!!!!” Thats what happens when you asre blogging from the bed!!! :)

AmazonRed™

November 22nd, 2010
9:47 am

Morning all –

Yes, I think I’m a good judge of character. Even though I haven’t found “the one” I still pick guys who are good people. I hear so much drama from some of my girlfriends from the guys they deal with and it’s just sad to hear.

But one other benefit I give myself is that I give myself TIME to let a persons character show. So many women want companionship so badly, they’ll jump in feet first…quickly. It’s no wonder they pick such losers, you never got a chance to know them in the first place.

SlimNumeroUno

November 22nd, 2010
9:49 am

‘Reminds me of in Living Color’

I am – you caught me…they were playing some old shows this past weekend. ;-)

Simle Man!!!!

November 22nd, 2010
9:49 am

u have found him, you just won’t admit it yet!!!

Melo!!

November 22nd, 2010
9:49 am

How do you know when you seeing a person’s real character?

The more you hold out on the cootie,the more he plays a flash and dash game.

Give up the goods early and if he stays,u know he wants to stay. More than likely,what u see is real coz he knows u inside,out and spread eagled! So do u.

So it’s better to give up the goods early if u want to see if he’s an azzhole(female lingo) or if he wad just flossing just so he can hit.

It’s the holidays,so many visitors in town,get in where u fit in!

blue®

November 22nd, 2010
9:51 am

@Simple Man – mail call.

random: Kim Zolciak is pregnant 8O …whoooaa…my brain hurts now….

AmazonRed™

November 22nd, 2010
9:52 am

u have found him, you just won’t admit it yet!!!

:oops:

Sassy Me..Onward and Upward :-)

November 22nd, 2010
9:53 am

Kim Zolciak is pregnant

:???:

I wonder if it’s by her married boyfriend?…

Kym

November 22nd, 2010
9:59 am

Just messing with you Simple Man…I will be on vac come Wednesday..well not really cause the family is coming for Turkey Day….

blue®

November 22nd, 2010
10:00 am

@Sassy – i missed who the daddy was. I dont really keep up with the show, she’s just out there enought to know she’s a mess without watching it lol

DMX is back in jail….did anyone not see that happening??

SlimNumeroUno

November 22nd, 2010
10:03 am

I thought Kim was dating that athlete that she said had a cute butt when she went to an event on the last show. I forgot who the guy was, but last night she said they are still together and that she’s very happy

kimmie

November 22nd, 2010
10:08 am

Morning lovely people!

I think I’m a good judge of character. Like Amred, stuff just hasn’t worked out with some, they had human flaws just like I do. And I also give it time for the true colors to show and try to not get caught up in the chemistry. I am in awe of just what a good person my SO is though, he puts all others I’ve dealt with to shame on that front.

This weekend we went to a welcome home from Afghanistan party that the wife of one of my SO’s nephews gave. It was wonderful. She put together a slideshow of his tour, to the tune of Maria Carey’s Hero. It was so touching and a blessing that he is home safe. That really is the highlight to the start of the holiday season for us.

AmazonRed™

November 22nd, 2010
10:10 am

I thought Kim was dating that athlete that she said had a cute butt when she went to an event on the last show. I forgot who the guy was, but last night she said they are still together and that she’s very happy

She is. His name is Kroy Biermann and he plays for the Falcons

She did a live show last night, she could be preggers but it’s still early and you couldn’t quite tell. Her stomach had a couple of rolls.

But she dodged the pregnancy question and said “no” that she wasn’t but muttered it under her breath

blue®

November 22nd, 2010
10:13 am

ok, i must be missing something….i thought the show was called Real HOUSEWIVES of Atlanta…why are there all thes women on there who arent even married, never mind housewives, their out and about doing careers and what not?

Kym

November 22nd, 2010
10:17 am

Cause a show about soccer moms wouldn’t work..Hollyweird is all about the drama.

fRed

November 22nd, 2010
10:21 am

@IAm: cheK wuzn fake – BAnk is fake. $#$!! banc

oooo amRetTO

kimmie

November 22nd, 2010
10:22 am

Kym – Most definitly it’s about the drama. If you want to see real housewives, watch Leave it to Beaver reruns. The Housewives franchise was suppose to be sort of a take on Desperate Housewives and not all the DH were actual housewives or married either.

It’s just all about the drama. That’s what gets ratings.

SlimNumeroUno

November 22nd, 2010
10:23 am

blue – maybe it should be Chicks With No Real Jobs of Atlanta but I live off somebody elses $$ of Atlanta. lol

Any of yall watch the Housewives of Beverly Hills? Kelsey Grammers then wife, now ex, seems a bit airheadedish…plus her relationship with her guy friend seemed a bit suspect to me. Playing a game of tennis and betting that if he loses he has to galavant around naked wearing only a jock strap?…how is that appropriate for a married woman. THEN after his performance on broadway, she goes back to his dressing room. Was it just me or did he seem like he couldn’t wait to get her azz outta his dressing room? lol

blue®

November 22nd, 2010
10:27 am

@Kym – lol, you know went to a tattoo artist worked out of a shop called Hollyweird lol…but that sounds about acurate, drama, like sex, sells….
@Fred – watch your language mister!!
@Slim – yeah, that sounds like a better title, lol…famous for being famous, gotta love it

fRed

November 22nd, 2010
10:29 am

blue is NOt the boS of me!

M. (pronouced M dot)

November 22nd, 2010
10:32 am

Good day all.

“How do you know when you are seeing a person’s real character?”
I think you see a real persons character in dating whenever the consistency (good or bad) shows up. If someone is always flakey, late, or cancelling on you, that is a character flaw to me because you arent respecting their time.

However they start thats how they end.

Kym

November 22nd, 2010
10:33 am

Okay I know I don’t keep up with pop culture the way I should..but why was Usher crying at the AMA’s?

SlimNumeroUno

November 22nd, 2010
10:39 am

Maybe he was crying since he knows he is sort of on the way out…lol Don’t get me wrong, I love Usher but it seems the older he has gotten the less stellar his performances are. His dance moves could use a little reviving.

kimmie

November 22nd, 2010
10:40 am

Kym – He was proud of his protege’, Justin Bieber.

SlimNumeroUno

November 22nd, 2010
10:41 am

Oh and Diddy I believe has reached the age limit on wearing a grill…someone posted on fb that his outfit looked as if it got switched with something intended for Will I.Am. lol

C tha 1

November 22nd, 2010
10:43 am

I’m going to make a broad general statement here at my own peril…I believe women aren’t as good judge of character as some claim to be.

My reasons for believing this is because if a woman has been lied to, ran amuck on, lead astray, and cheated on by three or more men then they can’t claim to be a good judge of character. Granted there has to be some type of consistency in one’s personality in order to be a sane individual. But that doesn’t reveal true character.

True character reveals itself during a moment of crisis and/or when a person believes no one is watching. Sad to say be some people mistake style for character.

blue®

November 22nd, 2010
10:44 am

@Kym – he claims they were tears of pride for his pretege, and rememebering what it felt like to be at that stage of his career…but considering Usher himself was nominated in the same categories, and lost to Beiber, seems too much of a coincidence to see tears later lmao

blue®

November 22nd, 2010
10:46 am

Fred – have you been in the Amaretto again?

Wondering ?

November 22nd, 2010
10:48 am

Is this blog still reserved for the unemployed losers that live in their parent’s basement?

SexyCool

November 22nd, 2010
10:49 am

fRed

November 22nd, 2010
10:49 am

fRed

November 22nd, 2010
10:50 am

aMretto is in ME!

fRed

November 22nd, 2010
10:51 am

canny maCHin duzN’t take lint

Kym

November 22nd, 2010
10:53 am

Uh huh..so Usher was having a soft moment…cause I never seen Quincy Jones..crying but then Justin B..is no MJ..but still..he is soft.