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Dating warning signs: Wake up to the break-up

Have you ever dated someone and thought things were going great and then out of nowhere they dump you? It’s probably not so much “out of nowhere” but because you weren’t paying attention, it felt that way. I have been there before and that whole “hindsight is 20/20″ thing came into play. There were signs and I didn’t see them.

If you aren’t the type to fight, break up, make up ..rinse/repeat, then you may end up in these situations when you couldn’t see the expiration date on your relationship. When think about a break-up you went through, did you see the beginning of the end? What were your warning signs that it was OVER?

If you figure out things are headed to splitsville, would you try to put things back on track before it all comes undone? When do you know that it’s not worth fixing? How do you figure out if it’s worth fighting for?

Wise Diva, Misadventures in Atlanta Blog

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I am whatever you say I am

November 16th, 2010
2:24 pm

random: my cooworker tries so hard to be like Nikki Minaj….
SMH :roll:

blue®

November 16th, 2010
2:26 pm

bad enough the STD’s, but the idea that he will leave her if she steps out even once?? got to be a special kind of he!! for folks like that…..

Raqi V

November 16th, 2010
2:30 pm

AmazonR, I don’t know about all that. I’ll just say I am happy with what he gave me.

Celisea

November 16th, 2010
2:30 pm

blue – But it’s far from a happy ending. Bennett at the end of the interview inexplicably said he’d leave his wife if she cheated on him once. 8O …..ok, some people are just meant to be used for target practice, cause that sure enough would be theonly way we stayed together, improving my aim with the weapon of my choice….

Just wow…just plain ole wow…I don’t see it nor get it. It’s gotta be the money or something because in spite of what she’s labeled as a forgiving spirit (right), at this point it’s just outright nasty and disrespectful to give or receive that kind of treatment. Contracting STDs? Yeah I’d forgive his azz from across the way but Idda done it when it would have been effective…leaving after he’s done all he can do will do what? Nothing. Not saying she should continue but she showed no grit in that she kept dealing. Not keeping true to his marriage, his body and hers as well is something he’s obviously convinced not only himself but her as well that he cannot master. Lie. It ain’t that hard…mind over matter. Well, there are folks out there like that, that’s convinced themselves they can’t behave any better. Again, lie. I don’t know if she’s got a prenup (obviously not for dealing with that crap) but my favorite line is “you’re a woman scorned without a prenup, that’s a recipe for good living.”

Kym

November 16th, 2010
2:30 pm

@Kimmie I just tagged back in and saw your info on Prince William. I am so proud of him. Kate is not royalty so I am so glad its not a business or family arrangement but because he really loves and likes her. They make a cute couple. He looks so much like his mother.

I am whatever you say I am

November 16th, 2010
2:31 pm

This is what she should have done:
Followed thru with the divorce attorney.
Prior to filing papers, move undisclosed amount of money in Swiss bank account.
Find herself a playboy, have sex with him in the marital bed and climax just as hubby is walking thru the door.

evy

November 16th, 2010
2:32 pm

@ blue 1:53/2:05: ROFLMFAO!!

SlimNumeroUno

November 16th, 2010
2:32 pm

I am – I think i’ll go for a lemon drop martini…and as strange as it sounds, give me a sidecar of green olives too please. ;-)

Celisea

November 16th, 2010
2:32 pm

I am out…yaaaaah

AmazonRed™

November 16th, 2010
2:33 pm

Raqi – I expected you to be modest. ;) But being happy with what he gave you is always good. One of my sisters has a lil bitty ring, but she loves it to pieces and I’m glad she appreicates it!

I am whatever you say I am

November 16th, 2010
2:34 pm

I do believe that people can and do suffer from sex addictions but when you find that out about a person, do you really want to deal with it?
It’s an addiction just like alcohol, drugs, etc….but it is only the symptom of bigger issues.
Again, do you really want to go thru that with someone after their actions have put you in harms way?

Now that I think of it, what if she caught HIV from him and that is the reason why she is still with him? I mean, once you catch that, isn’t your dating life for the most part shot? :shock:

blue®

November 16th, 2010
2:36 pm

random: roundtrip nonstop flight to Newark, NJ the week of the hearing is $998!!!! oh he!! no…..

AmazonRed™

November 16th, 2010
2:36 pm

AJC is such a crap paper. “Fulton” is spelled wrong on the homepage right now.

I am whatever you say I am

November 16th, 2010
2:37 pm

Lemon Drop: All grain vodka, sorry I’m out of lemon juice :lol:

Oh, and here’s your sidecar.

Bottom’s up! Alcoholic superhero! :mrgreen:

I am whatever you say I am

November 16th, 2010
2:38 pm

“… roundtrip nonstop flight to Newark, NJ the week of the hearing is $998!!!! …”

The hell!?!?! The city cesspool is going all big willy style for airline rates? Er? :shock:

Raqi V

November 16th, 2010
2:41 pm

Kym, how would you feel if your son and his admired father figure was keeping a secret from you?

Raqi V

November 16th, 2010
2:42 pm

AmazonR, you know I do drive a 1976 Pinto and all….LOL

DaddyDapper

November 16th, 2010
2:42 pm

Pimpin!

I love women! Dat’s my s_ _ _!

Keep it Pimpin!

SlimNumeroUno

November 16th, 2010
2:43 pm

I am – daaaaaang, what sort of establishment is this. I feel like I walked into a jukejoint of some sort. lol

blue®

November 16th, 2010
2:45 pm

@Celisea – Just wow…just plain ole wow…I don’t see it nor get it. It’s gotta be the money or something because in spite of what she’s labeled as a forgiving spirit (right), at this point it’s just outright nasty and disrespectful to give or receive that kind of treatment – i say she’s doing her own thing already and just hasnt gotten caught like him. cause really, if she wasnt, how do you keep from smothering him in his sleep?

I am whatever you say I am

November 16th, 2010
2:46 pm

Yeah,,,, while dreams was away, I was able to upgrade and get a dj strippers and poles
don’t forget to tip your DJ make it rain

blue®

November 16th, 2010
2:46 pm

@i am – im wondering on that one too. problem is they scheduled the hearing for Christmas week, now flying in or out is crazy expensive, unless your willing to do a layover…

Kym

November 16th, 2010
2:46 pm

Oh I am nosy Raqi I would about beat it out my son..because I would wonder what kind of secret. I mean if it involved my son’s health or something I most def need to know what is going on. But if it is something like they are planning a surprise for me..I might not be as stressed. But I still would like to know.

Why your hubby and your son keeping you out of the loop on something?

I am whatever you say I am

November 16th, 2010
2:46 pm

Raqi: did the marido ever get you floor boards, seatbelts, and brakes yet>

Raqi V

November 16th, 2010
2:46 pm

how do you keep from smothering him in his sleep

Easy. You set the whole bed with him in it on fire.

I am whatever you say I am

November 16th, 2010
2:47 pm

Blue: see if you can fly into Philly and make the drive the rest of the way

I am whatever you say I am

November 16th, 2010
2:50 pm

random: lovin’ how next year’s holidays mainly fall on a Monday

AmazonRed™

November 16th, 2010
2:51 pm

Raqi – Maybe you’re gonna be a grandma again. :lol:

Just kidding. :lol:

You know your hubby will tell you what’s up eventually!

czBrat

November 16th, 2010
2:53 pm

in case any of you have an opportunity to step outside for a moment; the temp is perfect, the breeze is amazing and the fall leaves swirling about are absolutely beautiful. it’s a breathtaking autumn day out there. enjoy it!

Raqi V

November 16th, 2010
2:54 pm

Kym, yeah. When the boy came home yesterday I sensed there is something going on with him. I got him to finally admit that it was something but I cannot get out of him what it is. I asked my marido to talk to him, which he did, but neither will tell me what’s going on. I have asked the marido 3 times and he tells me it’s none of my business.

I did carry the boy for 9 months and gave birth to him so yeah it is my business. However I do know that my husband would never lead the boy wrong so I do trust that he has a handle on it.

But still I want to know what it is. Part of me feels like it should not be kept from me since I am the mother.

After I asked him the 3rd time to tell me he asked me if I am going to tell him everything Elizabeth tells me in confidence. I told him yeah if I feel like it’s something he needs to know. He said ‘okay that’s why I am not telling you because you don’t need to know’.

Raqi V

November 16th, 2010
2:55 pm

Raqi – Maybe you’re gonna be a grandma again.

x_x

i'm swiss™ (but you can call me Mr. Goodnight)

November 16th, 2010
2:56 pm

Kym

November 16th, 2010
2:57 pm

@Raqi..maybe it involves the girlfriend..and he felt better talking to a male about what is going on than you do. Now if it involves sex..I think you should know. There is no need to know when it comes to sex..and teenagers.

blue®

November 16th, 2010
2:57 pm

@Raqi – 246:that’l work too :)
@i am – i suppose thats a possibility…may just call in and say have fun without me, lol. not interested in seeing him anyway, lmao

AmazonRed™

November 16th, 2010
2:58 pm

:lol: If the hubby keeps saying it’s not your business, it’s probably some testiscular related issue. :lol:

Kym

November 16th, 2010
3:02 pm

Enter your comments here

Raqi V

November 16th, 2010
3:03 pm

Kym, I asked him if the boy is having sex now and he just says, ‘it’s none of your business’.

He was fine when he left for school yesterday morning. (shrug)

i'm swiss™ (but you can call me Mr. Goodnight)

November 16th, 2010
3:03 pm

Raqi — How old is your boy, out of curiosity?

Raqi V

November 16th, 2010
3:04 pm

it’s probably some testiscular related issue

AmazonR, yeah, like blueballs. I hope that it is blueballs. LOL

Raqi V

November 16th, 2010
3:04 pm

i'm swiss™ (but you can call me Mr. Goodnight)

November 16th, 2010
3:05 pm

Yeah, it’s probably a “guy thing” that he’s embarrassed about.

Kym

November 16th, 2010
3:09 pm

@Raqi..hmmm well if he is having sex..is he having it at school cause if he gets caught it becomes a displine issue. I would think your hubby would tell you if he was having sex given that you are already a g-mama.

I am whatever you say I am

November 16th, 2010
3:11 pm

I concur with Swiss. He may have a crush on a girl, problems with getting a woody an impromptu moments, yeah that sort of thing. :lol:

I am whatever you say I am

November 16th, 2010
3:13 pm

If I have to hear the word cougar one more time …. :evil:

i'm swiss™ (but you can call me Mr. Goodnight)

November 16th, 2010
3:13 pm

Guys never like talking to their moms about anything involving their dude parts, no matter how old they are. I got embarrassed telling my mom I had testicular cancer & I was 25 at the time… :lol:

i'm swiss™ (but you can call me Mr. Goodnight)

November 16th, 2010
3:14 pm

i'm swiss™ (but you can call me Mr. Goodnight)

November 16th, 2010
3:14 pm

Kym

November 16th, 2010
3:15 pm

I told my son you can try sex if you wanna but I am no ones grandma..ole girl and her parents are in for a treat coming at me with that. You getting a job and possible a new place to live..me I’m going to Disney World.

I am whatever you say I am

November 16th, 2010
3:15 pm

If women are cougars, then men should be dingoes

blue®

November 16th, 2010
3:17 pm

a dingo ate my baby (said in my best australian accent)