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The waiting game

If you ask a guy how long he waited to “seal the deal” with his girlfriend and you are likely to get a very precise answer. Apparently, the waiting game is one of the few games that men look forward to losing.

Anticipating when someone is ready to take the next step can require a lot of patience. I would argue that it can become distracting to some people to the point that it’s all they ever focus on. A lot of times it can take away from the “exploration phase” of getting to know someone.

I think women may be able to contend with the waiting game a little better then men, although it’s tough on us too! How do you handle the waiting game? Do you bring it up at all or pretend the sexual tension isn’t there?

Do you think the longer the wait is, the better your chances are to have a stronger connection? Does that make a difference when you want something really meaningful?

What’s the longest you have waited to seal the deal?
(Question Disclaimer: I personally didn’t want to ask this question but my friend Eric was curious about the responses since he gave me the topic idea. You’re welcome)

473 comments Add your comment

AmazonRed

November 11th, 2010
11:59 am

Thank you LURKER-1. Congrats to you and your wife.

Mo (aka Moeisha)

November 11th, 2010
12:00 pm

SexyCool – loving ya three words today. Goes with a quote I have on my desk:

Being happy doesnt mean that everything is perfect, it just means you have decided to see beyond the imperfections

Sweet Pea

November 11th, 2010
12:03 pm

@Dreams~All the leading ladies were good looks soooooooo with that being said Leggs, We need a triple threat up in here ….Any takers for Christy Love??????????? They were the original bad chicks!

Kym

November 11th, 2010
12:04 pm

@Blackfoote..It is a dilemma for me..my loathing of Fakecons vs the need for my boys to be in first place in the AFC North……I will take the beat down of the Fakecons. I like physical defensive teams like the Ravens.

Mr. Moe

November 11th, 2010
12:09 pm

It’s gonna be a good game Kym….those Baltimore birds are going down though

Leggs

November 11th, 2010
12:10 pm

@Sweet Pea ~ yes they were the original bad a$$ chicks!

Kym

November 11th, 2010
12:10 pm

Naw Mr Moe…the Fakecons luck is due to run out tonight.

I am whatever you say I am

November 11th, 2010
12:12 pm

It will be a good game indeed. Go Ravens!

Blackfoote

November 11th, 2010
12:12 pm

Ok take the beat down but it wont help if ya’ll lose on Sunday.

AmazonRed

November 11th, 2010
12:13 pm

Deion’s wife claims she is 28 years old. :lol: :arrow:

Kym

November 11th, 2010
12:14 pm

You kidding right New England? Tom Brady is off his feed…I think we can take the Patty Cakes. Plus they are coming to our house..

DreamsMaterialize

November 11th, 2010
12:15 pm

Ok heard a funny story. This chick I know had a UPS package delivered to her house. The UPS guy comes, has her sign, is cordial, but doesn’t say too much else. A few minutes after he leaves she gets a text saying “UPS dude. save this”. lol Do ya’ll deal with this lameness on a regular?

Leggs

November 11th, 2010
12:16 pm

@ARed ~ I never watch that show, but had it on this past weekend. I laughed when I heard that!

Kym

November 11th, 2010
12:16 pm

@Dreams yes..yes we do.

AmazonRed

November 11th, 2010
12:19 pm

I’d probably report his ass. :lol:

The Real Lurker

November 11th, 2010
12:22 pm

I have been a lurker for quite some time and I am whatever you say I am: I have had the most respect for you as a blogger and you are a great person. Let the haters hate.
It’s obvious they see the light in you and don’t want you to succeed which is why they tear you down. Don’t feed into this. don’t stoop to their level.

SexyCool

November 11th, 2010
12:23 pm

Mo – head nod….(lol)

Kym

November 11th, 2010
12:25 pm

Is it possible we could just ban the name lurker so that folks could at least become more original in their foolishness?

Leggs

November 11th, 2010
12:26 pm

@DreamsM ~ if he’s that shy and couldn’t say anything while standing in my presence, I probably wouldn’t save the #. Wait, I would be curious enough to ask why he wasted a missed opportunity to speak!

2CPTG© - "that dude from da innanet"

November 11th, 2010
12:27 pm

somewhat to the left:

Do y’all think sex is a right, or a priviledge? Reason I ask, just had a discussion with a co-worker, and inmates came up…..do y’all think they (male and female, alike) should be allowed conjugal visits? Just curious….

DaddyDapper

November 11th, 2010
12:27 pm

YEEEAAAH!

What it do Pimps and Pimpettes!?!?

Its been my experience that women who are “holding out” have already done it with you, multiple times and often (use your imagination…all my real playa’s know what I’m talkin). The game is simple, if I’m at your house or vice versa, whether we do somethin or not that night, I know I got it! So technically baby, I ain’t trippin either way! Yeah, we can chill and go out, etc..I’d love it, prolly more than you, just don’t flex about your thoughts and feelings baby! You know I know! At the same time pimps, women are crafty and can use there sense of longevity to capture the uncapturable…been there! So, b/4 the sack be sure you advise her of your intentions b/c they typically think “tomorrow morning” we typically think tonight!

AmazonRed

November 11th, 2010
12:27 pm

LOL @ Kym. Just don’t touch LURKER-1 though. He’s obviously brilliant! :)

DreamsMaterialize

November 11th, 2010
12:28 pm

Dreams yes..yes we do.
Kym no wonder you always referring to cats as “jokers”…cuz a dude like that must SURELY be joking or is a joke himself. lol

I am whatever you say I am

November 11th, 2010
12:30 pm

Dreams:…another double please.
I’m here till 630 :-(

2CPTG© - "that dude from da innanet"

November 11th, 2010
12:31 pm

“It’s obvious they see the light in you and don’t want you to succeed which is why they tear you down.”

and how is that, exactly?

AmazonRed

November 11th, 2010
12:33 pm

DreamsMaterialize

November 11th, 2010
12:34 pm

Do y’all think sex is a right, or a priviledge?
2C man they already got cable and a bunch of other ish that’s considered a privilege, so why not conjugal visits? I could argue the other side too.

SexyCool

November 11th, 2010
12:36 pm

What looks like crazy on an ordinary day. Just wow….

kimmie

November 11th, 2010
12:37 pm

Dreams – Yeah, that’s regular stupidity we deal with. Alot of ya boys try to act all cool & confident and like they are hard players in front of the guys, but one-on-one interaction with a woman, they are stumbling idiots!

It usually trips me out when one will barely say anything, yet later I find out he “likes” me!LOL!!! If you can’t open your mouth and speak and say hello, what am I suppose to think????? And I’m not the unapproachable type either!

2CPTG© - "that dude from da innanet"

November 11th, 2010
12:38 pm

Dreams, I was thinking the same….why not conjugal visits….

Baffled

November 11th, 2010
12:39 pm

as someone said on the first page: thought the topic was about waiting to commit, its funny how its about waiting/or not on sex..

Anyho..this question is sort of on topic. Question for the ladies (men can answer too, so i can understand ya’ll)…if a guy admits he has trust issues with women because of past relationships and you have been dating being understanding to his issues how long would you wait for the commitment?

SexyCool

November 11th, 2010
12:39 pm

Speaking of Pearl Cleage, her play “The Nacirema Society….” is on at the Alliance Theater through Sunday. One of the stars, Trezana Beverley won a Tony Award for her performance in “For Colored Girls” in 1977.

Here is a review…
http://www.accessatlanta.com/AccessAtlanta-sharing_/pearl-cleages-nacirema-puts-701039.html

I am whatever you say I am

November 11th, 2010
12:40 pm

Personally: I don’t think conjugal visits should be warranted.
you did the crime but as I tax payer -my taxes go towards your “luxuries”
I could care less as to what someone locked up is entitled to.

SexyCool

November 11th, 2010
12:41 pm

*Trust issues* = cop-out/lame excuse for wanting to get the cookie without making a commitment.

I would withhold relations until his trust built up.

Kym

November 11th, 2010
12:42 pm

Prozac is a helluva drug.

I am whatever you say I am

November 11th, 2010
12:42 pm

Dreams: Son you are late with my drink!

Baffled

November 11th, 2010
12:44 pm

@sexycool thanks for your input

Sweet Pea

November 11th, 2010
12:50 pm

@Baffled…..if a guy admits he has trust issues with women because of past relationships and you have been dating being understanding to his issues how long would you wait for the commitment?

Hmmmmmmmm I am not sure about the waiting to commit as he’s telling me he has issues with trusting to me means that he doesn’t need to be dating until he knows that he can leave the baggage behind and start anew…I may start off being understanding but if you keep doubting and comparing me to someone else because of your past, I am not too sure I could deal with it.

AmazonRed

November 11th, 2010
12:51 pm

Baffled – I agree with SCool.

And I am over people letting their “issues” get in the way of their relationships. Everything in life is a risk. Don’t date if you are just going to be gun shy about everything.

czBrat

November 11th, 2010
12:51 pm

Baffled, we must be on the same page cuz that was my thought on today’s topic. to answer your question … wait until he fully recognizes you are NOT that last chick(s). in my case, that took about a year. seriously.

Kym

November 11th, 2010
12:53 pm

Hi Czbrat!! QVC is at it again!

AmazonRed™

November 11th, 2010
12:53 pm

SexyCool

November 11th, 2010
12:54 pm

Wasn’t there just a discussion earlier this week about how folks with issues should not be dating?

AmazonRed™

November 11th, 2010
12:54 pm

Baffled – I agree with SCool and Sweet Pea.

I’m also tired of folks letting their “issues” get in the way of having a relationship. Everything in life is a risk. Don’t date if you’re going to be gun shy about everything.

czBrat

November 11th, 2010
12:56 pm

hm? huh? QV-who???
:lol:
this is the time of year i have to ban that channel from my cable box or i’ll be in $$$$$ debt come january.

how are ya, sweetness?

Kym

November 11th, 2010
12:59 pm

@Czbrat I am off work today so It is either QVC or cartoons..I watched Scooby Doo earlier and TVLand. I feel a nap coming on.

czBrat

November 11th, 2010
1:01 pm

i do admit i toured the site briefly last night; very tempted to order some junior’s cheesecake, mrs. prindables apples and chesapeake bay crabcakes. :)

Kym

November 11th, 2010
1:02 pm

@czBrat they are doing an hour of Sweet Treats right now..Godiva Chocolates..and the apples, and y’all NYC Cheesecake

Kym

November 11th, 2010
1:02 pm

And remember its only an addiction if the boxes show up everyday.

czBrat

November 11th, 2010
1:06 pm

um. it’s also an addiction if the boxes pile up, unopened, because you’re buying stuff you don’t need. :(