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Should you marry your best friend?

I met a really wonderful woman on my business trip this week. She had been married for 20 years and said that her husband was just diagnosed with cancer. It was obviously a great source of pain for her but when she talked about possibly losing her best friend, I nearly started to cry!

She said that the best part of their marriage was the fact that they are so close. They have been best friends and she believes the dynamics of their marriage was strengthened by this. Well, it made me think that marrying your best friend makes a lot of sense.

My best friend is a woman and is already married with kids. I already asked if she wanted to marry me but she won’t budge. However, I can picture falling in love with a man and we become best friends, though. I’m curious about how this all works in a marriage. For instance, if I want to vent to my best friend how my man is driving me nuts and I want to plot his demise. It could get awkward!

Seriously, though what happens when your significant other is your best friend? Would it work out better for the relationship? Can the friend dynamic of a dating relationship ever backfire in some way?

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blue®

November 10th, 2010
2:48 pm

just thinking that would be interesting if the form did ask your number….have the doc come in later “so ms.x how you doing today, i see your a new patient, 2 kids, no surgeries, and your number is 247 8O ….” see doc trying to stay professional after that…..

Kym

November 10th, 2010
2:50 pm

For Real ..you are right crazy!

AmazonRed™

November 10th, 2010
2:50 pm

blue – Right. :lol:

She was the one who told me I was doing things the “old fashioned way” because I wasn’t gonna have kids without a ring. :lol:

For Real

November 10th, 2010
2:50 pm

“see doc trying to stay professional after that” – Naw Blue see doc calling guinness.

kimmie

November 10th, 2010
2:52 pm

4Real – We need some silly up in here sometimes! :lol:

I’m ready for Archer and the crew to come back!LOL!

Dan - simply...Superior

November 10th, 2010
2:52 pm

I can’t see my Doc asking me “the number”, where they do that at?

I am whatever you say I am

November 10th, 2010
2:52 pm

Personally: I’ve only dated (if you want to call it that) maybe 2 or 3 guys that have kids.
Since I’ve become a parent, I haven’t dated anyone that has kids.
But I do know that it does not take rocket science to know that the older you get, the more people you will find that have kids.
Personally if I had a choice of a guy that is in his mid 30’s with 1 kid versus the guy in his mid 30’s with no kids, I would take the 1 kid guy. Keep in mind that this example only applies to guys that take care of their kids and are active in their life.
I just find men that are fathers to be more caring versus guys that are not caring.
But that’s just me.

AmazonRed™

November 10th, 2010
2:55 pm

Personally if I had a choice of a guy that is in his mid 30’s with 1 kid versus the guy in his mid 30’s with no kids, I would take the 1 kid guy

Right…folks with kids usually say this…

Easier to stick with your “own kind” …. so that’s why folks in their 30s without kids are still abundant.

kimmie

November 10th, 2010
2:56 pm

so you saw that on Discovery the other night too huh?

Delight/4Real – It’s not far from the realm of possibility from something you would see on Discover or TLC. TLC had this special called I Am My Own Twin. It was about people who are born with 2 DNA’s. It’s very rare of course, but really becomes an issue in paternity test and forensic DNA tests tying people to crimes. It was facinating!

I am whatever you say I am

November 10th, 2010
2:56 pm

I also know that the more limits you put on yourself in terms of who you don’t want to date- you limit your options.
I know a chick that won’t date anyone that doesn’t have a college degree. A degree does not actually equate to sucess, smarts, etc…
I know tons of people that make way more money than me without a degree.
I dated a trust fund baby that didn’t have a degree

SexyCool

November 10th, 2010
2:56 pm

Yes, MZulu. That’s it.

DreamsMaterialize

November 10th, 2010
2:56 pm

I feel you Delight. I’m not dating women with kids, nor am I dating chicks who make less than me. She should also have a post graduate degree.

AmazonRed™

November 10th, 2010
2:57 pm

I also know that the more limits you put on yourself in terms of who you don’t want to date- you limit your options.

Who doesn’t know that tho? :lol:

Simple Man!!!!!

November 10th, 2010
2:57 pm

I don;t thing boy docs ask that kind od stuff…My Doctor always ask If I am able to stand when its time to salute…LOL :D :D

AmazonRed™

November 10th, 2010
2:58 pm

I feel you Delight. I’m not dating women with kids, nor am I dating chicks who make less than me. She should also have a post graduate degree.

Dreams – You’re joking around right? :lol:

kimmie

November 10th, 2010
2:59 pm

I’m not dating women with kids, nor am I dating chicks who make less than me. She should also have a post graduate degree.

Dreams – Why didn’t you tell me all this? I never had a chance.

I’m so hurt!!! :lol:

For Real

November 10th, 2010
3:00 pm

Kym: I ain’t crazy I just crush a lot.

Kimmie: I can’t wait either, that show is funny as hell.

DreamsMaterialize

November 10th, 2010
3:00 pm

Dreams – You’re joking around right?
post graduat degree is slightly negotiable…phase I’m in.

AmazonRed™

November 10th, 2010
3:01 pm

I don;t thing boy docs ask that kind od stuff…My Doctor always ask If I am able to stand when its time to salute…LOL

My doctor did not ask. The form did. I’m sure many people just skip that question. :lol:

And again, I’ve been getting my lady parts check for a long time, it’s was a first such a thing happened for me too.

Zulu!

November 10th, 2010
3:01 pm

People will generalize like ‘I am ‘is to justify(feel good about) their own perceived ‘inadequacies’.

do u

AmazonRed™

November 10th, 2010
3:01 pm

Dreams — you really wouldn’t date a woman with kids? I’m confused. :lol:

Leggs ™

November 10th, 2010
3:02 pm

“But I do know that it does not take rocket science to know that the older you get, the more people you will find that have kids.”

And lets hope the older you get, these kids are GROWN themselves!

For Real

November 10th, 2010
3:04 pm

“I know tons of people that make way more money than me without a degree.” – Welcome to McDonald’s can I take your order.

blue®

November 10th, 2010
3:05 pm

@For Real – calling guiness, lol
@i am – also know that the more limits you put on yourself in terms of who you don’t want to date- you limit your options – agreed, thats how you end up with a house full of cats as Stanley would say, lol

Simple Man!!!!!

November 10th, 2010
3:05 pm

AmazonRed™

November 10th, 2010
3:01 pm
Dreams — you really wouldn’t date a woman with kids? I’m confused.

Whats confusing…its no different that the dladies that don’t dates guys with kids….

kimmie

November 10th, 2010
3:05 pm

4Real – Supersize me!

For Real

November 10th, 2010
3:06 pm

“And again, I’ve been getting my lady parts check for a long time, it’s was a first such a thing happened for me too.” – Shiiddd sound like you got a BOSTON!!!!!

For Real

November 10th, 2010
3:08 pm

“4Real – Supersize me!” – ZIPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Dan - simply...Superior

November 10th, 2010
3:08 pm

@Dreams

You know what they say about the women with the doctorates and their skill set….

I am whatever you say I am

November 10th, 2010
3:08 pm

Actually….it is more of my childless friends and associates that have states that they meet more and more guys with kids versus childless guys.

Now I said that I would prefer the 1 kid dude but my experience has been that I meet and date more guys without kids than guys with kids

I am whatever you say I am

November 10th, 2010
3:09 pm

Yes ma’am blue!

I think opening a pet shop might be a profitable business :lol:

AmazonRed™

November 10th, 2010
3:09 pm

Whats confusing…its no different that the dladies that don’t dates guys with kids….

Well, the difference is that those ladies don’t often have kids themselves. I just thought you thought differently.

Trust me, I was thinking of trying online dating, because I would like to find a guy who doesn’t even WANT kids. There are plenty from what I can tell, but that’s because they come with kids of their own. There are like 10 guys out there that don’t want kids, but don’t have any either! :lol:

AmazonRed™

November 10th, 2010
3:11 pm

but my experience has been that I meet and date more guys without kids than guys with kids

Go figure! I guess there are an abundance! ;)

kimmie

November 10th, 2010
3:11 pm

People trip me out, warning folks about putting “limits” on who they want to date!

In my opinion, everyone has a right to their preference. As long as it’s working for them, and even if it’s not, what do you care? The only questions you need to ask is if you want to date that person, do they want to date you and do you fall under their preferences? If the answer is no to any of those questions, it’s a wrap!

So what if it limits the choices available if someone won’t date people with kids? They only need one!

Kym

November 10th, 2010
3:13 pm

@For Real these days you will find folks with degrees working behind the counter at Mickie D’s and at Wally World.

AmazonRed™

November 10th, 2010
3:14 pm

People trip me out, warning folks about putting “limits” on who they want to date!

In my opinion, everyone has a right to their preference. As long as it’s working for them, and even if it’s not, what do you care?

kimmie – Girl yes. If it takes me longer (or forever) to find what I want. So be it. Being single is not a death sentence. :lol:

But I also know that most people are open minded enough to take a chance for a good person, even if he doesnt fit 100% of the criteria you set anyway.

For Real

November 10th, 2010
3:15 pm

Dan: “I can’t see my Doc asking me “the number”,” – Especially if your Doc is a proctologist.

Doc: Okay Mr. Superior now this is going to be cold but just relax.

Dan: Wait, wait I change my mind… Oh my dayum!!!

Doc: There we go. Okay two more minutes and I’m done. By the way what’s your number?

Dan passes the f/k out.

Delight23

November 10th, 2010
3:15 pm

Projections, boy…projections” – Nope observations, observations…. had to talk a good friend down once.

When you generalize, you project your experiences(observations) on EVERYBODY. All I’m saying ForReal. ;)

SexyCool

November 10th, 2010
3:15 pm

Kym – your 313p reminded me of something that Toucan was talking about the other day – folks with their degrees posted on their cubicle wall.

Could you imagine the cashier at Walmart having their degree taped to their register? LOL! Silly me!

blue®

November 10th, 2010
3:18 pm

@i am – i could have a pet shop…tho i prefer dogs over cats…why is it alwys a house full of cats, why not a house full of dogs……end up one of those old ladies, ive met you and i like my dog better….

2CPTG© - "that dude from da innanet"

November 10th, 2010
3:18 pm

Sexy…..i was thinking the same thing…..

For Real

November 10th, 2010
3:20 pm

“So what if it limits the choices available if someone won’t date people with kids? They only need one!” – For Real now applying that theory to eating versus not eating.

Kym: You can find people with degrees in a soup line too.

Dan - simply...Superior

November 10th, 2010
3:21 pm

@For Real

I ain’t 35 yet, I hear a plastic glove snap and I’m ready to fight.

Delight23

November 10th, 2010
3:22 pm

“So what if it limits the choices available if someone won’t date people with kids? They only need one.”

Bingo. Prior to my current sweetie, I’d meet guys that are shocked I don’t have at least one child. Stop watching so much tv and believing all the proported statistics. Big ocean, not just your pond (circle).

Zulu!

November 10th, 2010
3:22 pm

Sexxycool?

I think they will hang it by the register,assuming they are happy with their situation!

If I was going to apply for a jobs at the local mickydee,my degree won’t even come up on the app.

I might buy some fake gold teef tho to sport whilst on the job!

For Real

November 10th, 2010
3:22 pm

D2tree: Exactly how many times does it have to happen before it stops being a generalization?

kimmie

November 10th, 2010
3:24 pm

Amred – It just irks me that a lot of people, including other women, think that a woman does not have a right to a preference. She should just accept the first thing that comes along, whether she’s repulsed by it or not!

Heck, I’ve been told not to limit myself by not wanting to date a man that smokes! Smokes! I would be hard pressed to find someone that DID smoke in the circles I run in!

2CPTG© - "that dude from da innanet"

November 10th, 2010
3:24 pm

“I might buy some fake gold teef tho to sport whilst on the job!”

…..LOLOLOLOL!

Leggs ™

November 10th, 2010
3:25 pm

“…tho i prefer dogs over cats…why is it alwys a house full of cats, why not a house full of dogs……”

Cats can find their litter boxes, dogs need to be walked or they will relieve themselves in the house! :lol: :lol:

For Real

November 10th, 2010
3:25 pm

Dan: “I hear a plastic glove snap and I’m ready to fight.” – Dayum that you better look for if he is taking notes while he perform the exam.