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When a man loves a woman

There are scores of women who are completely clueless when it comes to recognizing how a man shows his love. Of course every man has their own unique way of expressing their affection and love. I think part of a woman’s job in a relationship is learning who her man is and how he expresses himself.

Granted, some men are hard to figure out, but aren’t there ways to tell when a man is in love?

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Da_Man!

November 9th, 2010
11:29 am

@Kimmie –
Not true … plenty of guys don’t “let” women do anything they can already do for themselves. Dudes that let women cook, clean, wash are either whipped or living with their mama.

How many women on this board would “slave” for a man and know that he’s not in love with you??? Even if you doubted, you wouldn’t let it go down. You all have come too far.

Celisea

November 9th, 2010
11:29 am

Some of the ladies have asked, “how can I be sure’? “How can I know when a man is in love with me”?

Not me.

Simple Man!!!!

November 9th, 2010
11:31 am

^^^ 5 ^^^^^ to Swiss on his 11:26….. Never been that big a deal to me….

Mrs. Aufton Izzabich

November 9th, 2010
11:32 am

2CPTG, why are you being so sharp with me? Are you retaliating?

I had my reasons for being short with you and I told you those reasons. What have I done to deserve your tone?

2CPTG© - "that dude from da innanet"

November 9th, 2010
11:35 am

Mrs. A…..simmer down, sweetie….wasn’t trynna get you riled up…

and retaliation….nah, never that…

Mrs. Aufton Izzabich

November 9th, 2010
11:35 am

Sometimes I feel like we may have really been married in another life. LOL

Imma have to ask you like I ask the marido sometimes, “who put nails in your grits this morning?”

2CPTG© - "that dude from da innanet"

November 9th, 2010
11:38 am

“Sometimes I feel like we may have really been married in another life.”

you know I believe in that kinda “stuff” so don’t make me go into transcendental meditation, and go see….

DreamsMaterialize

November 9th, 2010
11:38 am

2CPTG, why are you being so sharp with me? Are you retaliating?
Raqi that’s his way of showing how much he loves you. you mean it’s not on your list?!? lol

Zulu!

November 9th, 2010
11:38 am

Ladies!

u know he’s in love if he cuts u the spare key to his home,u go to his home unannounced,do chores in there or take his dirty clothes do u can wash them at ur crib and it’s no big deal with him.

Zulu!

November 9th, 2010
11:39 am

blue®

November 9th, 2010
11:40 am

ok, have no idea what you guys are talking abotu now, not going back to read it all…just wanna know if the bar is open yet? its 5pm somewhere….

SlimNumeroUno

November 9th, 2010
11:41 am

What does it mean if an SO invites you to a work event (picnic/bbq/gathering)???

2CPTG© - "that dude from da innanet"

November 9th, 2010
11:41 am

and is it because of the petty arguing we do, or the “connection” we share? be honest….

DreamsMaterialize

November 9th, 2010
11:42 am

just wanna know if the bar is open yet?
blue what’ll it be today?

kimmie

November 9th, 2010
11:42 am

Da Man – That’s a way to look at it, but still plenty lazy dudes let women do all that and are not in love with her. And there are gullible women out there that will do it thinking that will bring him closer to her. 9 times out of 10 it won’t. In fact, I’ve seen men go to the ends of the earth and back for women that did not lift a finger.

I can only speak for myself, but it takes more than me being in love to do all those things for a guy, it takes being a wife. Most on here know cooking is my passion, so I’ll do that for anyone. Some blog friends have had my cooking. But laundry and major house-cleaning are husband benefits.

Mo (aka Moeisha)

November 9th, 2010
11:44 am

Hello Eva’body!

okay blue Im with you, I cannot try and catch up on 4 pages!

I just know the topic and mu contribution is this: my ex-hubby said he knew I loved him when I let him read my magazines first. (Cause if you know me then you know I will bout gut ya for reading my magazine before me)

So whats good everybody

Sassy Me :-)

November 9th, 2010
11:44 am

just wanna know if the bar is open yet? its 5pm somewhere….

If so can a girl get a mimosa…I got isht going on over huurrr…

Zulu!

November 9th, 2010
11:44 am

Not necessarily much Slim,in my view.

Work people don’t mean a thing to me,especially when I’m single.

YesSheIsCute

November 9th, 2010
11:46 am

this love thing is crazy

Sassy Me :-)

November 9th, 2010
11:48 am

But laundry and major house-cleaning are husband benefits.

My ex expected those things from me as well but wasn’t giving me what I needed so I dind’t do it/them. I tried to hang in there but dude wanted me to mommy him and his chirren and I didn’t want that.

YesSheIsCute

November 9th, 2010
11:48 am

@ Slim absolutely nothing unless you know your man. A man can do all those things and still not feel a thing for you. My friend thought she was being taken on a whirlwind romance until one day she called dude and he was like look i dont have feelings for you i was just using you to make my ex jealous and take me back and now that she has you’ve served your purpose *deuces*. very cold but people can be that way (men).

blue®

November 9th, 2010
11:48 am

@Dreams – today im going with a shot of 151, coke back…that’ll work….

blue®

November 9th, 2010
11:49 am

are we still on topic? lol

YesSheIsCute

November 9th, 2010
11:49 am

@Zulu/Melo what about if you know where the spare key is but you don’t have one per se? loollllllll

kimmie

November 9th, 2010
11:50 am

SCool/Aufton – I get your earlier post about cooking for your man and wanting it to be right. As experienced as I am, I get a little insecure about my cooking as well. And yes, I have my off days.

With a guy I dated in the past, it was not about whether I prepared a certain dish “right” or if it tasted good. It was about the way his mother prepared a certain dish and how he was used to the way something tasted. He hurt my feelings many a times and he explained that it was not that my dish wasn’t good, it just wasn’t the way his mama made it. I told him to go on back home to mama then!LOL!!

DreamsMaterialize

November 9th, 2010
11:50 am

Sup Mo. How’s your week going?

If so can a girl get a mimosa…I got isht going on over huurrr…
Sassy what you got going on over thrrrrrr? Let me make you this mimosa first.

Zulu!

November 9th, 2010
11:52 am

Kiimie!

u abdolutel right. A dude will want to get comforts of laundry and food from an easy chic but go(wine and dine with) for the sophisticates who won’t cook or insist on not messing up their hair(weave) or make up in bed coz they present a challenge…a
hunting challenge.

Men like to chase

kimmie

November 9th, 2010
11:56 am

Sassy – I just have to draw the line somewhere! That’s just me. That’s my version of “why buy the cow”!

YES – To your 11:48, I’ve never had a guy be THAT cold, but yes, with some none of that means a thing! Sometimes a guy is just being nice or doing something to benefit himself in the short term, but it doesn’t mean he’s in love with you.

Zulu!

November 9th, 2010
11:56 am

Yes!

what if he just tells u that in pretense but will put it elsewhere?

Don’t u want the comfort and luxury of knowing u are the One!?

Try ur luck and ask to keep it(spare key) if u want to test ur exclusivity!

:lol:

I hope that won’t break u two up!

DreamsMaterialize

November 9th, 2010
11:57 am

Dreams – today im going with a shot of 151, coke back…that’ll work…
blue feeling courageous today huh. wouldn’t expect anything less from a .45 totin’, knee high boots wearing chick though. 151 it is……………………………..oh dang almost forgot the coke. ;-)

I told him to go on back home to mama then!LOL!!
kimmie gotta avoid those oedipus dudes.

Mo (aka Moeisha)

November 9th, 2010
11:57 am

Dreams – hey there, how are you? My week is going okay aside from the fact that I may have to put a 5yr old on Ebay (Lil Mo is working my last good nerve as da old folk say). Work is Work!

I’ll take a SoCo-Lime please….for now.

kimmie – “He hurt my feelings many a times and he explained that it was not that my dish wasn’t good, it just wasn’t the way his mama made it. I told him to go on back home to mama then!LOL!!” I did that as well! Hell you can eat out err’day or at her house but I dont want to hear it anymore

SlimNumeroUno

November 9th, 2010
11:57 am

YSIC – dayum that was COLD…ice Cold!

Mrs. Aufton Izzabich

November 9th, 2010
11:59 am

This what I am going to do. I am going to love my husband. Within myself support him. Have his back when faced with that time.

But what I will no longer do is clean his area of the house (his office, his side of the closet and the tv room), wash and fold his clothing, cook anything with him in mind, pay the bills for his company, sort thru the week’s worth of mail he brings home from the office every Friday. I will no longer put my friends on the back burner to go out with him or sit home and do nothing with him. I will no longer give him sexual favors, no longer give him sex when I don’t feel up to it, no longer fry pork chops in the morning to make him paper bag lunches to take to work. I will no longer be a sounding board for him when he wants to talk a 3am in the morning.

But I will love him and support him.

Delight23

November 9th, 2010
12:00 pm

Well 2G I said I need to know from YOU. Your “list” could be short or 15 pages long, but you have certain things that you outwardly use to display “love” versus “like” or simple infactuation. Those are the things that should be explicit such that both parties are aware of the signals being sent and received.

I appreciated my fixer-upper because when we first started dating he let it be known flowers die and candy makes you fat. He’ll break a sweat fixing things around the house or purchase practical things like appliances.

Same with Mr. flowers and jewelry. If money can get he’ll spend it. Flowers make the house smell nice when he comes over and he likes the way the jewelry looks on me when we went out OR stayed home. ;)

I recognized the depths of their feelings by the extent that each went in their own ways to make me happy. I stand by my assertion that I don’t do vague airy statements like “you’ll know it when you see it”.

Mrs. Aufton Izzabich

November 9th, 2010
12:00 pm

2CPTG, mainly because we have our short words but neva really fall out of like. You grate my nerves just like he does some days but not enough to make me not want to keep talking to you.

Delight23

November 9th, 2010
12:01 pm

Sorry all late 2G….working.

blue®

November 9th, 2010
12:05 pm

@Dreams – courageous is my middle name! ;)
@Mo – the fact that I may have to put a 5yr old on Ebay – LMAO…i remember driving back to NC from NY, stopped in MD with little boy blue, he was like 5 or 6, called my mom said “i’m leaving your grandson in the ladies room, stall number 2, at the Maryland welcome center. you better come get him cause he has worked my LAST nerve and we aint even half way finished driving yet”

Zulu!

November 9th, 2010
12:07 pm

Cutie!

I wanted to tell Slim same thing..11.48!

He may deliberately be trying to rile up in angst, another heifer he
really likes.
Men are evil!
Women are sensitive!

Leggs ™

November 9th, 2010
12:07 pm

@Blackfoote ~ good afternoon to you matey!

@Kym ~ don’t worry, this shoe will hit you!!!

@2C ~ perhaps that’s why I was banned, you know I’m corny as heck!

My eyes are clearing, my eyes are clearing. Doc says it’s time to wane myself of the steroids! Yippee!!!!

SlimNumeroUno

November 9th, 2010
12:08 pm

Dayum Aufton…you okay over there? Tell me you were just being sarcastic about your 12:00

I am whatever you say I am

November 9th, 2010
12:09 pm

Swiss: I’ve always been told that just because it’s raining doesn’t mean you have to cancel the football game :lol:

AmazonRed™

November 9th, 2010
12:10 pm

Slim absolutely nothing unless you know your man.

:idea: :idea: :idea: :!: :!: :!:

I am whatever you say I am

November 9th, 2010
12:11 pm

Dreams
Since 5′o’clock came early today….Let me get a gibson martini straight up!

i'm swiss™ (but you can call me Mr. Goodnight)

November 9th, 2010
12:11 pm

i am… — That’s how I feel about it as well… Mrs. Swiss feels differently, though… so it takes a lot — and I mean a lot — of convincing to get her to play in the rain… :lol:

i'm swiss™ (but you can call me Mr. Goodnight)

November 9th, 2010
12:12 pm

I mean, I keep red towels handy for a reason…

:lol:

Kym

November 9th, 2010
12:13 pm

@Leggs..well I tried..I really really did try.

i'm swiss™ (but you can call me Mr. Goodnight)

November 9th, 2010
12:14 pm

Leggs — You ‘roiding up over there?

Purple Rain

November 9th, 2010
12:14 pm

It’s not that complicated. LOL

DreamsMaterialize

November 9th, 2010
12:15 pm

I’ll take a SoCo-Lime please….for now.
Mo you got it. maybe I need to start a business where I buy kids off ebay and sell them back to their parents at a higher price. lol

Dreams – courageous is my middle name!
blue I see that. Now if you’re really courageous, I got some Don Julio in the back. lol

Mrs. Aufton Izzabich

November 9th, 2010
12:15 pm

LOL kimmie. I dumped a whole pot of mac-n-cheese in the sink once with my first husband because it was not the way his mother made it. Not only was my pregnancy hormones in action but that was all we had to eat for dinner that evening.

Considering the one you that will share the meal with you counts for something. I don’t care what folks say. Heck most days I can eat a bowl of salad and be satisfied so me cooking everyday and making sure it tasty is for those I love. Husband and mis bebes.