When a man loves a woman
There are scores of women who are completely clueless when it comes to recognizing how a man shows his love. Of course every man has their own unique way of expressing their affection and love. I think part of a woman’s job in a relationship is learning who her man is and how he expresses himself.
Granted, some men are hard to figure out, but aren’t there ways to tell when a man is in love?
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SexyCool
November 9th, 2010
10:00 am
I know he loves me because he is gentler with me, but stronger at the same time than he is with anyone else.
Mrs. Aufton Izzabich
November 9th, 2010
10:00 am
Kym, that’s funny and so true. Just like my hub loves his FruitLoops he loves his money 100 times more so to stay home from making money to play hide the willie
inwith me has to be love.I am whatever you say I am
November 9th, 2010
10:00 am
Simple man: you can lie all you want but when you leave pictures of yourself on the copier- the truth come out
http://www.flickr.com/photos/robh/477141864/
Mrs. Aufton Izzabich
November 9th, 2010
10:00 am
2CPTG, I kinda agree with you. I think the biggest challenge is the woman recognizing what’s love and what is not.
Mrs. Aufton Izzabich
November 9th, 2010
10:01 am
LOL 2CPTG, maybe so. WiseDiva what is word count limit on here?
blue®
November 9th, 2010
10:02 am
@Simple Man – trying to wake up here, already getting phone calls that make me wanna curse like a sailor….
as far as love and all, one of the most surpirsing signs, for anyway – maybe was inexperience idk, was when mr.blue and i were younger b4 getting hitched. i was hanging out with a mutual male friend of ours waiting for him to show, and while we’re talking he comes walking from the end of hte hall. the friend looks up, sees the way he looks at me, turns to me and says “see how his face lights up when he sees you, you know he loves you right?” . seemed such a strange convo to be having with a guy about another guy, but it sure was true.
Simple Man!!!!
November 9th, 2010
10:03 am
I am…why you gotta treat me like that????
2CPTG© - "that dude from da innanet"
November 9th, 2010
10:04 am
“the biggest challenge is the woman recognizing what’s love and what is not.”
yep….having the ability to differentiate between love, lust, and like….love is enduring, while the others are temporary….
kimmie
November 9th, 2010
10:05 am
Morning People!
A woman becomes a priority in the life of the man that loves her.
That statement pretty much sums it up for me. You are a priority, not an option.
As for actions versus words, it really must be both, with me anyway. I have in the past mistaken a man’s kind actions toward me as love, when they really were not. He was just being his kind self. So yes, he must show it, but he’s needs to say it too. I learned to take nothing for granted and pretend I can read a man’s mind. And yes, I am receptive of a man’s unique style of showing his love, too. There is no one right or wrong way.
Yes, I have seen the “look” of a man in love, whether it was with me or a man looking at someone else he loves. I can “feel” the presence of love between two people. They don’t have to be all touchy-feely either. You know how in some situations you can feel tension among people? It’s the same with love.
AmazonRed™
November 9th, 2010
10:09 am
Of course every man has their own unique way of expressing their affection and love. I think part of a woman’s job in a relationship is learning who her man is and how he expresses himself.
I guess I can’t play today, because I am single.
But it’s nice to see how my Dad, Grandad and men married to my girlfriends express their love to their wives.
Morning all.
Mrs. Aufton Izzabich
November 9th, 2010
10:12 am
Yeah 2CPTG. One thing is for sure a man does not have to love a woman to blow her back out. Love would be him rubbing that back to comfort her. It does not count as love to put in the time needed to get in the panties. But love will make him stick around and be just as happy when that panty door is closed. Heck it doesn’t even take a man’s love to loan a woman money, but when he forgives that loan just because…well something very similar to love is starting to brew. LOL
I am whatever you say I am
November 9th, 2010
10:12 am
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DreamsMaterialize
November 9th, 2010
10:14 am
but when he forgives that loan just because…
Raqi or how about when it’s not a loan to begin with…just gives it without ever thinking twice about getting it back.
Purple Rain
November 9th, 2010
10:15 am
I do not think that there are set things that defines when a man loves a woman, but she will know if she pays attention. Here are a few things but not all, in regards to my love for my wife.
I tell her stuff that I would usually keep to myself, just to be on the level and honest all of the time
If she is upset, no matter how trivial I think the matter is…deep down Im upset because my lady is not at peace.
I am always kind with her even though I am a “turd” with everyone else
I always think of her first.
If I see her exerting herself I always try and help…unless basketball is on. LOL
I value her opinion and will actually try things her way sometimes
I smile whenever I think about her.
I always want to show her some of my manliness…fixing this..fixing that…you don’t need to call anyone to come fix it. I can do it myself
I will endure watching girlie shows/movies(even though my mind is way somewhere else..I will sit there for her and hug her) I don’t like paying attention to them because for some reason my eyes get leaky…lol
I am just all around concerned about her happiness and well being all of the time and I just am a silly guy when I am with her.
..that’s enough, I could go on but I am sure I am not making any sense.
Delight23
November 9th, 2010
10:19 am
…you gotta be in love to see love….
Nothing like the vague leading the blind.
C’mon now you know this leaves the door open to mis-interpreation and just missed signals altogether.
kimmie
November 9th, 2010
10:20 am
Purple Olive – Very sweet!
Mrs. Aufton Izzabich
November 9th, 2010
10:21 am
Yes DreamMat, I agree with that. But I used loan for a reason. An actual event that took place while we were dating.
If I ask you to loan me money I have every intention of paying back and I will pay it back. In my mind it is a loan. Now whether he has no intention of accepting the money back is not my concern because I will hand it out to him until he tells be to keep it.
Of all the things he has done for me while dating and now while married (monetary gifts), when I say I am going to pay it back I make that effort. I have never been of the mind that just because I am your woman it’s an automatic gift. When I borrow I repay. And yes even with my husband.
I am whatever you say I am
November 9th, 2010
10:22 am
and man that loves you will spend his last dime on meal for you and won’t ask you for a bite because he wants you to enjoy it while he sits there hungry. He will even turn down your offer because he wants to make sure you are full
and man that loves you won’t tell you that you need new tires but instead will tell you as he is putting them on your car or driving your car to the tire shop to get them put on.
A man that loves you will put anyone in their place should they disrepect you to your face or behind your back-
A man that loves you will let you put the heat on full blast in the car while he’s in the next seat sweating like a roasted pig.
He may curse a little under his breath but he will still let you make him sweat.
A man that loves you, will throw down in the kitchen for you often regardless of whether or not you cook
And lastly…
A man that loves you will protect you , provide for you, and you won’t even have to question whether or not he loves you. You just know.
Leggs ™
November 9th, 2010
10:22 am
@Raqi/blue ~ I liked when he leaves her a sip of her own dang drink.
Where the heck are the men this beautiful morning?
Blackfoote
November 9th, 2010
10:24 am
There are many expressions a man can show he is in love (words + actions) it’s up to the woman to interpret how it affect and comforts her. It is smiling at the thought of her. It’s about puting her first.
Purple Rain
November 9th, 2010
10:24 am
I Am, I want to change one of the things in your list. You said a man that loves you will put anyone in their place.. A MAN, that see’s any woman being disrespected will put anyone in their place. A man would not turn his head.
Celisea
November 9th, 2010
10:25 am
ARed – A man has loved you…prior to being single
Blackfoote
November 9th, 2010
10:25 am
Leggs:
Happy morning to you.
Delight23
November 9th, 2010
10:26 am
..that’s enough, I could go on but I am sure I am not making any sense.
Clearer than Strass Crystal.
AmazonRed™
November 9th, 2010
10:26 am
ARed – A man has loved you…prior to being single
Clearly he didn’t love me enough, or I wouldn’t be single.
So I don’t think I should harp on how I THINK it should be.
i'm swiss™ (but you can call me Mr. Goodnight)
November 9th, 2010
10:26 am
Raqi — Not able to post under you’re old moniker? Just use a different fake email addy & you should be good to go.
i'm swiss™ (but you can call me Mr. Goodnight)
November 9th, 2010
10:27 am
Ooops… your — not you’re
i'm swiss™ (but you can call me Mr. Goodnight)
November 9th, 2010
10:28 am
“Where the heck are the men this beautiful morning?”
We’re busy working on our “honey-do” lists so our women know we love them….
Celisea
November 9th, 2010
10:28 am
So I don’t think I should harp on how I THINK it should be.
Okay, you’re right
SexyCool
November 9th, 2010
10:28 am
You would sit and eat a meal in front of a man (or anybody, for that matter) who is hungry but has nothing to eat?
Zulu!
November 9th, 2010
10:29 am
Good morning!
When a man loves a woman:
he’s gon ask,respectfully,’baby,can I come over?’ and not just show up,unannounced,as if taking her for granted!
When he luvs ya, he’s gon go,but holla back or better yet,come back running.
when he luvs it,he gon be coming back for more and more servings.
when he luvs ya,for real for real, he’s gon tell his male buddies,’hey,that’s my chick!
When he luvs ya,he may not tell ya in the face,but he treats u right!
When he luvs ya,he makes sure the bills are paid,there is food on the stove and pantry,has a calming presence about him and makes sure u are well fed,down stairs and upstairs!
When he luvs u,it’s gon stand the test of Time!
That’s the ultimate test if he luv ya,for real for real!
good day anglers and lovers!
Cutie and Celisea,’comeon ladies!
Delight23
November 9th, 2010
10:29 am
I am whatever you say I am:
“A man that loves you will let you put the heat on full blast in the car while he’s in the next seat sweating like a roasted pig.”
blue®
November 9th, 2010
10:30 am
@Leggs/Raqi – oh i understand that one perfectly. mr.blue will ask for a bite of my sandwich (which i cut in halves) and eat damn near a whole half in one bite, but he leaves me just enough to be able to say he didnt eat tit all, lmao
Mrs. Aufton Izzabich
November 9th, 2010
10:31 am
Is it love…
When he lets me use his razor to shave my pits and legs?
When he lets me stand under the shower head first and it’s chilly in the bathroom?
When he sleeps in the wet spot?
When he becomes adamant about me “getting mine” one those days it just ain’t gonna happen?
When he boldly stands on “that” aisle to find the right blue box of rods that he knows I like?
When he is eating
myice cream and reach over to offer me a spoonful?When he cuts coupons with me one Sunday afternoon?
When he straddles me and rub that knot out of my back?
When he will miss the last play of the game so I can see if my show recorded?
When he insists on talking to me while he sits on the toilet?
Celisea
November 9th, 2010
10:31 am
Cutie and Celisea,’comeon ladies!
Hey Melo – Whatchu want?
Delight23
November 9th, 2010
10:33 am
Swiss 10:28AM: Good answer!!
Purple Rain
November 9th, 2010
10:33 am
I am just realizing that you can not put a clear cut definition on how love is shown.
I just saw on HLN about the young man who got beaten to death down there. That is sad, and uncalled for. What happened to one on one fights and the guy did not want to hit a girl so he hit the next guy that walked by? Sad Sad Sad.
2CPTG© - "that dude from da innanet"
November 9th, 2010
10:35 am
Delight, what’s vague about what I said? should I have said,….you’ll know it when you see it…
i'm swiss™ (but you can call me Mr. Goodnight)
November 9th, 2010
10:35 am
Raqi — To answer your questions:
1) Yes.
Yes.
2) Yes.
3) Yes.
4) Yes.
5) Yes.
6) Yes.
7) Yes.
9) Yes.
10) No. That’s just nasty.
Mrs. Aufton Izzabich
November 9th, 2010
10:36 am
You would sit and eat a meal in front of a man (or anybody, for that matter) who is hungry but has nothing to eat?
I mean really? LOL Heck a 12″ at Publix costs $8. You get half and he gets half. If a man can’t afford an $8 sandwich to be shared he shouldn’t be dating nor in a relationship.
I am whatever you say I am
November 9th, 2010
10:37 am
Purple: that may be true but a man that loves you won’t even let his family talk bad about you
Mrs. Aufton Izzabich
November 9th, 2010
10:38 am
A man that loves you will let you put the heat on full blast in the car while he’s in the next seat sweating like a roasted pig.
Not mine. He is going to get the spare jacket that he keeps in his trunk and tell me to put it on. LOL
Purple Rain
November 9th, 2010
10:40 am
I Am, a man wont let anyone including family do anything to disrespect his woman. LOL, where is the guy whose wife slept with his cousin?
Kym
November 9th, 2010
10:40 am
Good Morning Leggs..waving from the corner behind the screen so you can’t hit me with your shoe.
SexyCool
November 9th, 2010
10:40 am
And I am…I’m just messing…I know what you meant.
M.elo – “when he luvs ya,for real for real, he’s gon tell his male buddies,’hey,that’s my chick!”
This is true. A few weeks ago, TheDude and I were headed to a Thrashers game. We ran into some of his buddies and he struck up a conversation with one of them, while he was talking, the other two introduced themselves to me. After he and his buddy finished greeting the first guy, he turns to the others and says, “Did y’all meet my girl? Let me introduce you.”
(Warm Fuzzies…..)
Purple Rain
November 9th, 2010
10:42 am
If I am hot and she is cold, she better get a coat and if she eats a whole meal without offering me any and I am hungry I would question if she loved me. Being in love does not mean that the man has lost his spine. LOL
Mrs. Aufton Izzabich
November 9th, 2010
10:43 am
LOL I’m Swiss. Thanks for answering my rhetorical questions.
Delight23
November 9th, 2010
10:43 am
2CPTG©: Delight, what’s vague about what I said? should I have said,….you’ll know it when you see it…
Well, if I have to tell you then nevermind. (((huff)))
See…like that ^^^^.
Too much room for assuming you’re both on the same page.
Mrs. Aufton Izzabich
November 9th, 2010
10:44 am
Did y’all meet my girl?
What, SexyCool, he gave you a label? Now you know that is not allowed on this blog. LOL
Zulu!
November 9th, 2010
10:45 am
Single ladies:
u know a dude loves u and is serious about you once u start (accompaning him to) or getting inside his inner family circles.
I knew I loved her when I showed my mom a portrait pic of her that was in my wallet.
I knew she was a real strong heifer when we banged the whole nite long in the hotel room and we forgo breakfast in the restaurant downstairs for room service instead,coz we didn’t wanna waste time!