Learn your lesson, then run away
Kanye West has a pretty interesting music video for his song Runaway. If you haven’t seen it yet, you may want to listen to the song first and then watch it. I believe there is a lot of symbolism in it but the song relates to a lot of what single people go through in dating.
One part of the song: “I always find something wrong” kind of hits home because this is classic commitment phobic thinking. You know how things can go really great and you get spooked by it and start to search for random things to justify you running away? That won’t stop happening until you catch yourself doing it. Hindsight is 20/20 but if you can find out that you are ruining a potentially great romance, you probably won’t regret taking a chance.
Of course, the song also refers to those jerks and scumbags that we should run away from (or stop acting like!) and this made me think about all my exes. Some of my worst relationships taught me the most. That’s kind of invaluable when you think about it!
What did you learn from your worst dating experience?
Do you have a problem of “always finding something wrong” in the people that you date? Do you recognize it before or after?
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i'm swiss™ (but you can call me Mr. Goodnight)
October 28th, 2010
4:18 pm
Here’s more info on the proposed amendment from the state legislature site…
legal ease
October 28th, 2010
4:19 pm
Sorry for the mis-spelled words….but you get the gist!
Kym
October 28th, 2010
4:20 pm
@Swiss…GA is an employer-friendly state and has been for many decades.
i'm swiss™ (but you can call me Mr. Goodnight)
October 28th, 2010
4:20 pm
“if you leave a company….how would they know whether or not you’re working for the competitor?”
If your new company checks references, they could find out pretty easily…
i'm swiss™ (but you can call me Mr. Goodnight)
October 28th, 2010
4:21 pm
Kym — Agreed. But no sense in making it even more so…
legal ease
October 28th, 2010
4:24 pm
2 Can…word gets around fast. You would be amazed at how they can find out if you work for a competitor. Plus, if you are in a top position and lure your customers over with you, they are sure to find out they lost their customers to you. Usually, they have non-competes with a time limit-6 mths to 2 yrs.
2CPTG© - "that dude from da innanet"
October 28th, 2010
4:25 pm
Swiss, I get that, cause the new company [usually] don’t care……talkin bout the old one…
DreamsMaterialize
October 28th, 2010
4:25 pm
If you leave a company and stay in the same line of work, then any company you go to can be considered a company. So, does this mean that you can never leave a company, or that you have to completely change the line of work you’re in in order to leave? It seems as though this would be giving companies the power to decide your future. Sharecropping!
SexyCool
October 28th, 2010
4:26 pm
I just did an audit on styrofoam cups. We have spent over $600 on styrofoam cups since Jan. 1. Whatdahell?!?!?
Raqi
October 28th, 2010
4:27 pm
SexyCool I just sent you an email. Before you start scratching your head wondering “WTF is she talking about?”, it was just a statement in reference to something you read at my spot once and then asked me a question about. That’s all. LOL
DreamsMaterialize
October 28th, 2010
4:27 pm
any company you go to can be considered a “competitor”
Leggs ™
October 28th, 2010
4:28 pm
@Raqi ~ that’s one bet I will lose…you got it! Enjoy!
i'm swiss™ (but you can call me Mr. Goodnight)
October 28th, 2010
4:28 pm
“talkin bout the old one…”
2can — When the new company calls up to check your reference, you don’t think they’re going to mention their (the new company’s) name?
SexyCool
October 28th, 2010
4:29 pm
Got it. Gotcha. >>>here<<<….and wow…..
2CPTG© - "that dude from da innanet"
October 28th, 2010
4:29 pm
makes sense, Legal…..however, I know in I.T. I’ve refuse to sign non-competes, cause for one, I’d be relegated to staying put, but for the most part, it’s hard to tell a computer guy not to go work on someone else’s system…..cause when you get down to the nitty gritty of computing, it’s all pretty much the same….’cept for proprietary software, of course…
Raqi
October 28th, 2010
4:30 pm
Those sdratsab don’t want the competion or your personally to benefit off the knowledge and expertise you picked up from the exiting corporation. How you gone tell somebody what they can do with the knowledge and experience they obtained?
Leggs ™
October 28th, 2010
4:31 pm
Depending on the type of company you work for, you have to sign non-comp waivers preventing you from working in that particular field until a certain amount of time has elapsed.
2CPTG© - "that dude from da innanet"
October 28th, 2010
4:31 pm
yeah, we’re on the same page, Dreams…
DreamsMaterialize
October 28th, 2010
4:31 pm
How you gone tell somebody what they can do with the knowledge and experience they obtained?
Especially if you made enormous profits from them putting that knowledge to use for your company.
Celisea
October 28th, 2010
4:35 pm
I’m going where I wanna. Call me simple but if something opens up for me at a competitor’s company and it fell in my lap…I’m considering it a blessing and jumping at it. Once I’m gone, I owe nobody an explanation for the next move.
Heck, once a year here I have to complete stuff about with whom I’m investing yada yada yada, if I want a 2nd gig, gotta report it.
I’m calling BS.
Celisea
October 28th, 2010
4:36 pm
any science buffs on here?
DreamsMaterialize
October 28th, 2010
4:37 pm
any science buffs on here?
I might know a lil somthin’…
2CPTG© - "that dude from da innanet"
October 28th, 2010
4:38 pm
I know this was a big thing back in ‘99….cause many folks were trippin over “Y2K”….and COBOL programmers were hot commodities…so word got out, not to sign any non competes….that was the year for contracting….big loot was made!
2CPTG© - "that dude from da innanet"
October 28th, 2010
4:38 pm
“any science buffs on here?”
somewhat….
Celisea
October 28th, 2010
4:40 pm
Dreams – Can I shoot you an email? My kid did a pp presentation on waves, reflection, refraction, interference and diffraction. She’s done a good bit and it looks good to me. She sent to me for finishing touches but science ain’t my thing.
Celisea
October 28th, 2010
4:41 pm
2Can – I actually asked Dreams before I saw your answer….guess I’m just needing another set of eyes on what she’s already done. Heck it looks okay to me.
Kym
October 28th, 2010
4:42 pm
We also have to report any 2nd employment.
2CPTG© - "that dude from da innanet"
October 28th, 2010
4:43 pm
it’s cool, Celisea…..Dreams won’t steer you wrong.
SexyCool
October 28th, 2010
4:44 pm
My little cousin scored a 1360 on her SATs and is about to jump out a window. Not really, but…is really upset.
2CPTG© - "that dude from da innanet"
October 28th, 2010
4:46 pm
Damn, Sexy….where she trynna get into M.I.T?
Leggs ™
October 28th, 2010
4:47 pm
She has a chance to take it again.
Kym
October 28th, 2010
4:49 pm
The SAT rankings have changed. The high point is 2500 now I believe. Sexy she does know she can retake it right? Along with the ACT as well.
Celisea
October 28th, 2010
4:50 pm
Okay 2Can, Dreams is heading out and I emailed to him. He’s gonna look over and let me know his thoughts…While I have you, you know bout electromagnetic and mechanical waves and explaining the phenomena of reflection, refraction, interference and diffraction?
Celisea
October 28th, 2010
4:52 pm
They getting crazy on what they’re requiring for kids now. My niece scored pretty high as well on the SAT but Ga State wouldn’t accept her and she actually received a monetary award at school earlier this year during their honors program having the highest math grade/average…something like that. Oglethorpe accepted her and was cool with her grades but wanted to know if retaking the SAT was possible.
Simple man!!!!
October 28th, 2010
4:53 pm
“While I have you, you know bout electromagnetic and mechanical waves and explaining the phenomena of reflection, refraction, interference and diffraction?”
What ever happened to Mud volcanos that explode with vingar and baking soda????
Leggs ™
October 28th, 2010
4:53 pm
Okay, here’s the breakdown = the highest on each section you can make is 800 x 3 = 2400. The average is 500 per section.
In 2009, the average SAT score was 1263 for the reading and math plus a 572 on the writing section = 1835
This info was sent to me by a fellow blogger.
SexyCool
October 28th, 2010
4:54 pm
She wants to go to Florida State for some reason. They require a 1500. I just told her that she would be fine. To not panic and that if she needed me to help her study, to just let me know. (Don’t know how much help I would really be at this point…but hey….I’m game to help as much as I can.)
Willie Dynamite
October 28th, 2010
4:56 pm
dayum for a bunch of clowns somma yall are pretty smart. This blog alrite with me. Where else can i discuss everything from Applebees menu to donkeys to jelly shoes to holy ghost to the phenomena of reflection, refraction,interference and diffraction. Well Dayum!!!!
Celisea
October 28th, 2010
4:56 pm
Simple Man – What ever happened to Mud volcanos that explode with vingar and baking soda????
I know right….I’m actually impressed with what she’s done so far but I ain’t a science buff….Imma have to hit the ‘net to add the finishing touch and make sure all loose ends are tied. That means Imma have to understand and grasp what I’m reading. I ain’t for it today.
Kym
October 28th, 2010
4:56 pm
@Leggs thanks I knew it was in the 2000’s.. There is a story from Black America Web about this young man 16 who passed up Havard and other Ivy league schools to go to FAMU. I posted it on my fridge for inspiration for my son.
@Simple my son did the volcano experiment at home for fun.
Celisea
October 28th, 2010
4:58 pm
WillieD – dayum for a bunch of clowns somma yall are pretty smart. This blog alrite with me. Where else can i discuss everything from Applebees menu to donkeys to jelly shoes to holy ghost to the phenomena of reflection, refraction,interference and diffraction. Well Dayum!!!!
Man, that was funny
Leggs ™
October 28th, 2010
4:58 pm
May all your hard work pay off; believe in yourself and your goals WILL be accomplished ~ (dedicated to SexyC’s cousin)
Kym
October 28th, 2010
4:58 pm
@Sexy what really helps is to do things like vocab builders if she fell short in that area and with math well one of my friends is a teacher and the only way to get it is to just practice..practice practice. If she is in GA there are some links on the GA 411 website.
SexyCool
October 28th, 2010
5:00 pm
Good info, Kym. I will pass that along. Copy/pasting it into an email RIGHT NOW.
Kym
October 28th, 2010
5:02 pm
@Sexy..
https://secure.gacollege411.org/College_Planning/Test_Prep/_default.aspx
Leggs ™
October 28th, 2010
5:06 pm
Good night everyone ~ Hope someone bites you (lovingly that is!!)
2CPTG
October 28th, 2010
5:29 pm
Celisea, if you happen to see this, shoot me an email: tnymcky2000@yahoo.com