Learn your lesson, then run away
Kanye West has a pretty interesting music video for his song Runaway. If you haven’t seen it yet, you may want to listen to the song first and then watch it. I believe there is a lot of symbolism in it but the song relates to a lot of what single people go through in dating.
One part of the song: “I always find something wrong” kind of hits home because this is classic commitment phobic thinking. You know how things can go really great and you get spooked by it and start to search for random things to justify you running away? That won’t stop happening until you catch yourself doing it. Hindsight is 20/20 but if you can find out that you are ruining a potentially great romance, you probably won’t regret taking a chance.
Of course, the song also refers to those jerks and scumbags that we should run away from (or stop acting like!) and this made me think about all my exes. Some of my worst relationships taught me the most. That’s kind of invaluable when you think about it!
What did you learn from your worst dating experience?
Do you have a problem of “always finding something wrong” in the people that you date? Do you recognize it before or after?
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Leggs ™
October 28th, 2010
3:39 pm
@Celisea ~ of course you learned something. If you hadn’t, your gut wouldn’t have spoken to you so you can get most of the questions correct.
Sassy Me...feeling like new!! :-)
October 28th, 2010
3:40 pm
anybody caught Fred?
Po Fred is somewhere on a serious sugar high….ever since that girl accused him of tryna Bishop Long her.
Celisea
October 28th, 2010
3:40 pm
2Can – I can attest, “it” talks all the time. When you wanna let that old man creep up and out, it speaks before you can think twice. When you wanna slap the fie out of a crazed co-worker, it speaks to you to pull back and let the devil be the devil and leave it to God. Yep….you must know, huh?
Simple man!!!!
October 28th, 2010
3:41 pm
2Can…When I am alone, I think about doing alot of things with “it”, but talking ain’t one of them….
Celisea
October 28th, 2010
3:41 pm
I have fred…he’s eating M&Ms
SexyCool
October 28th, 2010
3:43 pm
What!?!? Fred was standing in the mirror taking pictures with a toupee on?!?
blue®
October 28th, 2010
3:43 pm
random rant: dear atlantians, atlians, whatever your called: 1) please stop trying to use your best “New York” accent when talking to me. i know the real thing when i hear it, and that aint it. its just annoying and leaves me wanting to slap you. 2)”Jersey Shore” on MTV is not a documentary. it is not representative of all folks from Jersey or all folks from the North. no i dont have a spray an orange spray tan, no im not always chewing gum, and no we dont all fall out drunk in public….
end of rant….
Celisea
October 28th, 2010
3:44 pm
LOL
2CPTG© - "that dude from da innanet"
October 28th, 2010
3:45 pm
“you must know, huh?”
yep…
Celisea
October 28th, 2010
3:46 pm
2Can – Booooy if it wasn’t for….mmmm, that’s all Imma say
2CPTG© - "that dude from da innanet"
October 28th, 2010
3:49 pm
it’s ok, Celisea…..think I get your drift….
blue®
October 28th, 2010
3:49 pm
@Celisea – glad to see someone found him…was getting worried..clever using the m&ms to get him to come to you…
SlimNumeroUno
October 28th, 2010
3:49 pm
2C – on Holy spirit topic…i’m not sure what necessarily constitutes whether one has had it or not, as I would think it’s up to that individual experience…However, I’ve been known to sing in the shower and there are a few gospel songs I will sing…One day I was just a showering and singing really getting into the message of the song (Luther Barnes – I’m still holding on) and I felt a tingling all over my body. I didn’t fight it because I was alone. I got goosebumps all over and for whatever reason I just began to cry and kept on singing. I’ve never told anyone about it until today now. Is that the “Holy Spirit or Ghost”????
Sassy Me...feeling like new!! :-)
October 28th, 2010
3:50 pm
Fred was standing in the mirror taking pictures with a toupee on?!?
He claimed he wanted to get to know her better…
PrincessNik
October 28th, 2010
3:50 pm
blue that was funny!
when i was in college, I always hated those “upstate” kids who were overly “upstate” if you know what i mean. Or the ones who would try to say Shawty just sounds diff with a northern accent LOL. and the ones who would try to be funny and be like you from “jaw-juh” i’d be like i have no idea where that is cause i’m from Georgia.
2CPTG© - "that dude from da innanet"
October 28th, 2010
3:52 pm
Slim….yep, it’s like “fire shut up in ya bones”!
Leggs ™
October 28th, 2010
3:52 pm
@blue ~ Hanzel & Gretal was our first GPS system!
Sassy Me...feeling like new!! :-)
October 28th, 2010
3:53 pm
Speaking of Jersey Shore I saw a parody of them on South Park and it was hi-lari-ous!!….theny had Snookie down pat for sho…too funny.
i'm swiss™ (but you can call me Mr. Goodnight)
October 28th, 2010
3:53 pm
Off topic:
PSA for anyone who hasn’t yet voted: Please research the full text of the “Amendment 1″ ballot initiative in GA before voting (if you haven’t already). While the wording of most ballot initiatives tend to be extremely slanted, this one takes the cake.
Here’s a link to an article containing the full text of the proposed amendment.
And here is how the ballot question is posed:
“Shall the Constitution of Georgia be amended so as to make Georgia more economically competitively authorizing legislation to uphold reasonable competitive agreements?”
I swear, politics makes me sad…
Celisea
October 28th, 2010
3:55 pm
Slim – It’s a “consummation” for lack of a better term, between you and God, one that’s felt and real…not all the “showy” stuff you see on T.V. When you have and you have it FOR REAL, you’ll know it. Nothing anybody can EVER take and from the moment you accept and have it, it’s there with you…everyday. It’s what talks, teaches, leads and guides. It’s like the stuff you do or normally do or have done or like to induldge…when you have it, the urge to do those things aren’t gone as you’re human but that thing that whispers or worries or you can’t get away from when you stepped back into something you know is not pleasing to God…you can’t shake it. Got a concious? We all do. Just like it kicks in and sort of nudge you when you shouldn’t do or shouldn’t have done something, this works the same way but stronger.
blue®
October 28th, 2010
3:56 pm
@Sassy – have to investigate these pictures….
@Princess – exactly. now if i walked around trying to talk “southern” there’d be someone waiting to smack me….
@Leggs – LOL
@Celisea – so how much has he had?
Celisea
October 28th, 2010
3:56 pm
blue – M&M was the only way I could get him to take off the toupee and get out the mirror
Celisea
October 28th, 2010
3:58 pm
blue – @Celisea – so how much has he had?
I’m almost shame to say. I had 4 bags of minis…he’s on bag #10. I might be wrong and I might need to dial 911 but I think he’s going into a sugar coma
blue®
October 28th, 2010
4:00 pm
@Celisea – 10!!! whoa, they werent peanut were they? he’s allergic to peanuts….
Celisea
October 28th, 2010
4:00 pm
Glad fred wasn’t here yesterday, I think I ate about 12 bags…for real. Spaghetti last night and a honey bun. I should be fat.
Celisea
October 28th, 2010
4:01 pm
blue – plain
Raqi
October 28th, 2010
4:02 pm
My marido just called to ask if I want him to take tomorrow off. Do I have something planned for us?
Uhhhh nope I don’t have anything planned other than us going out tomorrow night. But I won’t mind if he stayed home from work to help me iron and fold sheets. LOL
blue®
October 28th, 2010
4:03 pm
@Celisea – plain – cool beans. well ive seen him eat upwards of 20 of those mini bags so we should be good, has he started dancing yet?
Sassy Me...feeling like new!! :-)
October 28th, 2010
4:03 pm
Shall the Constitution of Georgia be amended so as to make Georgia more economically competitively authorizing legislation to uphold reasonable competitive agreements?”
Ummm could someone put that in layman’s terms?
M&M was the only way I could get him to take off the toupee and get out the mirror
Y’all gone make Fred start pimpin himself for candy….remember the last time he went to Target and started stealing?….had candies n stuff falling outta his saddle.
Raqi
October 28th, 2010
4:04 pm
Is Fred the fiery money pooping pony?
Oh, no. I think that’s Kevin and I think he is a goat.
Leggs ™
October 28th, 2010
4:05 pm
@Raqi ~ because it’s your annivesary, he might be willing to fold and iron sheets with you. Bet you mess up at least one of those sheets you’re trying to fold!!
Sassy Me...feeling like new!! :-)
October 28th, 2010
4:05 pm
have to investigate these pictures….
They weren’t too bad…well one was kinda like
blue®
October 28th, 2010
4:08 pm
@Celisea – you probably have a plant on your desk, or somewhere near by in your office, just let him eat the plant and it should start evening him out…i’ll be there to pick him up in a minute….
@Sassy – oh boy…where’d he get the toupe?
SexyCool
October 28th, 2010
4:09 pm
Rock – I’m calling b.s. on dude getting mad about Kevin dropping hot steamy hundred dollars bills on the carpet. How can a goat that can flirt with chicks and blow smoke hearts be unable to stop pooping fiery money? Don’t add up….
Celisea
October 28th, 2010
4:10 pm
blue – He’s real close to getting booted. That sugar has him climbing walls. We can’t tolerate this type of distraction in the work place. Think I’ll leave him tied to a rail in the parking deck.
Sassy – Fred has been pimping and passed around this blog for sometime now. He’ll do anything….no shame.
i'm swiss™ (but you can call me Mr. Goodnight)
October 28th, 2010
4:10 pm
Sassy — What Amendment 1 would actually do is give the government the ability to enforce all sorts of non-compete agreements, limiting competition (including employee’s rights to leave their current company and go to work for a competitor).
Raqi
October 28th, 2010
4:11 pm
LOL Leggs. I bet you at least two. The baby is going to the grand godmother’s tonight and will be there the entire weekend. The boy will be going to his father’s from school tomorrow for the entire weekend.
After he leaves for school in the morning it will be kid-free until Monday. So if the marido wants to hang around the house with me that is all good.
legal ease
October 28th, 2010
4:12 pm
Basically Amend. 1 if asking for state government to make it lawful for businesses to enforce non-compete agreements on employees if/when they leave the company, preventing them from getting another job with a competitor or in the same line of work by starting their own company- VOTE NO!! As high as the unemployment rate is, why would you want to stop someone from getting a job. Wake Up Georgians—-Be prepared and read up on these proposed amendments.
Raqi
October 28th, 2010
4:13 pm
LMCBO SexyCool.
blue®
October 28th, 2010
4:14 pm
alright, had enough of this pop stand for one day, nite all!
@Celisea – just dont let him fall asleep, that sugar burns off real quick and then he’s down like a dead…well, horse….on my way…
Kym
October 28th, 2010
4:14 pm
Mr.G..I thought that most company’s make employee signed agreements when hired that if they leave they will not go to work for a competitor? Like if you are working for Coca-Cola you agree not to go work for Pepsi.(Horrible drink..just horrible)
Sassy Me...feeling like new!! :-)
October 28th, 2010
4:14 pm
Thanks for breaking it down Swissie…with the way that’s worded I’m sure alot of folks will get confrused…
Fred has been pimping and passed around this blog for sometime now.
Yeah I’m starting to think he likes the attention.
SexyCool
October 28th, 2010
4:14 pm
This is good information. Can you link the remaining amendments?
Thanks.
2CPTG© - "that dude from da innanet"
October 28th, 2010
4:15 pm
I love those lurkers that contribute – you can tell they’re following along….
nice, timely input….
Sassy Me...feeling like new!! :-)
October 28th, 2010
4:16 pm
where’d he get the toupe?
I don’t know but it was horrible and soo the wrong color…worst part is he didn’t even much care.
Raqi
October 28th, 2010
4:16 pm
businesses to enforce non-compete agreements
Sighing but not saying a word.
i'm swiss™ (but you can call me Mr. Goodnight)
October 28th, 2010
4:17 pm
Kym — They do. But for the moment, such agreements are limited in their enforcement in GA. That is, until this shadily worded ballot question passes.
2CPTG© - "that dude from da innanet"
October 28th, 2010
4:17 pm
if you leave a company….how would they know whether or not you’re working for the competitor?
DreamsMaterialize
October 28th, 2010
4:17 pm
Hey everyone…what’s good. Just popping in real quick to see what’s going on in here.
legal ease
October 28th, 2010
4:17 pm
It could also extend to businesses where a division of a company is sold to another company and they sign non-compete agreements to not start up another similar division that targets the same market with similar materials or product. Either way, the Amendment is trying to limit free-enterprise and also limit employees from going to work for a competitor, that could take customers away from their former company…i.e. sales companies, manufacturing plants, -highly competitive businesses.