Learn your lesson, then run away
Kanye West has a pretty interesting music video for his song Runaway. If you haven’t seen it yet, you may want to listen to the song first and then watch it. I believe there is a lot of symbolism in it but the song relates to a lot of what single people go through in dating.
One part of the song: “I always find something wrong” kind of hits home because this is classic commitment phobic thinking. You know how things can go really great and you get spooked by it and start to search for random things to justify you running away? That won’t stop happening until you catch yourself doing it. Hindsight is 20/20 but if you can find out that you are ruining a potentially great romance, you probably won’t regret taking a chance.
Of course, the song also refers to those jerks and scumbags that we should run away from (or stop acting like!) and this made me think about all my exes. Some of my worst relationships taught me the most. That’s kind of invaluable when you think about it!
What did you learn from your worst dating experience?
Do you have a problem of “always finding something wrong” in the people that you date? Do you recognize it before or after?
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I am whatever you say I am
October 28th, 2010
11:32 am
Swiss: I’m not a DD so keeping it cold is counter-productive.
Leggs ™
October 28th, 2010
11:32 am
@i am ~ don’t get suckered into those advertisements on Craig’s List and next thing we know we see you in the lobby with some stranger. You two go in a room together, but only he emerges and the cameras catch him walking out of the hotel by himself! Nothing on Craig’s List is really free.
fRed
October 28th, 2010
11:32 am
m&m lady…..
Celisea
October 28th, 2010
11:33 am
I Am – My comp is already running on a breaker since one outlet is blown
Are you serious? Twice I’ve caused the power to blow. When I worked on a different floor in cubicles, only one heater could be used per set of fours (cubes) and then only with the gauge set to “low.” Well, I urned the dang thing on high…a few minutes afterwards bam, power out. I locked it up before the maintenance man came up. I was looking like, I dunno what happened.
Slim – If you’re caught here, the heater is confiscated.
I am whatever you say I am
October 28th, 2010
11:33 am
….looking up prices for heaters
i'm swiss™ (but you can call me Mr. Goodnight)
October 28th, 2010
11:34 am
i am… — You don’t have to have tig ol’ bitties to have some nig ol’ bipples. (I had to be very careful how I typed that…)
Celisea
October 28th, 2010
11:36 am
fRed – 2 mini packs already today
I am whatever you say I am
October 28th, 2010
11:37 am
Leggs: I’ve used Craigslist twice before:
1) got p90x brand new still wrapped in the box for $60
2) Found a painter that painted my hallway (10ft ceilings) and the trim in my son’s room over the weekend. The painter was cool but his wife was annonying: I gave them and their kids lemonade but then she’s asking me if I’m going to cook?
I am whatever you say I am
October 28th, 2010
11:38 am
Swiss: ha ha hell at your 11:34
blue¹
October 28th, 2010
11:38 am
Fred!!!
@Celisea – i sent him to the break room cause he was knocking stuff over in my cubicle….d@mn it, where did he go……
I am whatever you say I am
October 28th, 2010
11:41 am
<—–smiling like a Chesire Cat as I use my co-workers heater
I am whatever you say I am
October 28th, 2010
11:42 am
Toasty!
Simple man!!!!
October 28th, 2010
11:42 am
Random…..I need new pictures in my office…..
I am whatever you say I am
October 28th, 2010
11:42 am
Blue: I’m on Fred.
We headed to Target
I am whatever you say I am
October 28th, 2010
11:42 am
You didn’t hear me when I yelled Yaaaaa!
Celisea
October 28th, 2010
11:43 am
blue – Is that you? Where’s the trademark?
Celisea
October 28th, 2010
11:44 am
Just wondering what fRed did with our true blue…the trademark is missing and he’s blogging from her keyboard
2CPTG© - "that dude from da innanet"
October 28th, 2010
11:47 am
“pour some sugar on me…..”
jammin to some Def Leopard….
Leggs ™
October 28th, 2010
11:47 am
I’m somewhat a meance around the office. I’ve blown a circuit on more than one occasion. I’ve melted a side of my file cabinet, my hair caught on fire while at a Thanksgiving celebration in the mailroom (for the life of me I don’t know why they lit candles amongst all that paper), and as I walked through a hallway door I almost knocked the guy on the ladder on the other end off. Instead he pushed the door back my way and I received 4 stitches above my eye. Am I clumsy….hmmmmmm!
blue®
October 28th, 2010
11:48 am
@I am – oohh, be careful in Target, Fred is known there…check his saddle b4 you walk past the little buzzer thing at the door….btw, does he have your blackberry by any chance?
@Celisea – im here, trying something new, but the exponent wasnt really working….
Celisea
October 28th, 2010
11:49 am
blue – im here, trying something new, but the exponent wasnt really working….
Just making sure fred ain’t bucking and getting out of hand
I am whatever you say I am
October 28th, 2010
11:49 am
“…..my hair caught on fire while at a Thanksgiving celebration in the mailroom”
I am whatever you say I am
October 28th, 2010
11:50 am
Fred: Will you concentrate on where you are going.
stop texting on my blackberry!!!!!!
Yaaaaaa!!!!!!!
Leggs ™
October 28th, 2010
11:51 am
Oh yeah, I almost caught my chair on fire. It was made of fabric and when I left my desk, I pushed it up against the heater.
If the heaters are taken away from us, it will be my fault! I hope the Heater God remains tucked in my back pocket.
Simple man!!!!
October 28th, 2010
11:51 am
pssss..Did anyone see I am trying to ride a minature pony???? Thats was some funny ish!!!
Luvbug
October 28th, 2010
11:51 am
I’ve melted a side of my file cabinet…
Leggs – How’d that happen??
blue®
October 28th, 2010
11:51 am
I’ve melted a side of my file cabinet
whoa
@Celisea – we’re having some issues, what with Halloween and all, he knows all that candy is flowing freely…may need some help here…..
2CPTG© - "that dude from da innanet"
October 28th, 2010
11:52 am
“take me down to the paradise city, where the grass is green and the girls are pretty….”
“whoa, whoa, whoa, sweet child of mine….”
Simple man!!!!
October 28th, 2010
11:54 am
blue…Did you settle on a costume yet??
fRed
October 28th, 2010
11:55 am
sweettarts….
i'm swiss™ (but you can call me Mr. Goodnight)
October 28th, 2010
11:56 am
2can — Did you steal my iPod?
i'm swiss™ (but you can call me Mr. Goodnight)
October 28th, 2010
11:56 am
Again?
i'm swiss™ (but you can call me Mr. Goodnight)
October 28th, 2010
11:57 am
i'm swiss™ (but you can call me Mr. Goodnight)
October 28th, 2010
11:58 am
2can — Did you steal my iPod, dude?
fRed
October 28th, 2010
12:01 pm
@Simple Man – your feet musta been dragging the floor, did the saddle feel…lumpy? he hides stuff in there…..
Costume: not decided, thinking of going with my punk rock girl: mini skirt and fishnets. still working on Santa Pub Crawl, gf of mine wants to be candy cane girls, hmmm….
Kym
October 28th, 2010
12:01 pm
Good Morning Afternoon All,
**yawn** from drug induced coma..I think I qualify as the sabotage type….as I posted the other day I will give room for a person to hang themselves but I have been known to build the gallows and fashion the noose in advance for the occasion. As for worse, dating experience..I learned to proceed with caution..don’t get so caught up in the fantasy and romance because while there are rainbows and puppies..there are also moments of storms, and snakes.
blue®
October 28th, 2010
12:02 pm
d@mn it, so he has been on my pc…and my phone is gone….
blue®
October 28th, 2010
12:04 pm
changing monikers on me….why did he take my stapler…and my rubix cube?
I am whatever you say I am
October 28th, 2010
12:04 pm
My son looked too cook in his spiderman costume…until his teacher said he couldn’t wear the mask
Bas-tards!
I am whatever you say I am
October 28th, 2010
12:05 pm
typo: too cool
2CPTG© - "that dude from da innanet"
October 28th, 2010
12:05 pm
naw, Swiss….this is on my playlist…..Def, Guns N Roses….all that good ol 80’s rock…
Leggs ™
October 28th, 2010
12:07 pm
@Luvbug ~ I turned the heater sideways for a moment and forgot to turn it back toward me and melted the side of the bottom drawer of the cabinet.
@i am ~ the hair on fire…whew I had a perm, spritz in my hair and leaned to fix a plate of food and my head met those gorgeous white tall candles they had on the table….my hair went WOOSH. People started throwing lemonade and coca-cola on me. I swear, for those in the office that didn’t like me, got a swat at my head in the guise of helping to put out the fire. I had such a headache when it was all said and done.
I am whatever you say I am
October 28th, 2010
12:07 pm
LOL, folks on the highway are wicked strange
We are all at stand-still traffic and I’m in my car looking for an exit-free flowing lane.
Apparantely, this chick in the lane next to me is thinking the same thing because when she finds a lane she can quickly jump into (while I’m still stuck in traffic) she sticks her tongue out at me.
blue®
October 28th, 2010
12:08 pm
@I am – i know its for safety and all, but their ruining it…no masks now, seen some places that say no hoods or hoodies either…..
dude on the radio was talking about trick or treating when we were kids, back when kids still went on their own, bands of 7 and 8 year olds roaming together….and bag snatchers, lol
SexyCool
October 28th, 2010
12:08 pm
Three Words Daily – Live brave. (Two Words Week)
Purple Rain
October 28th, 2010
12:11 pm
I laugh at your Georgia cold, we are already getting snow and it’s getting down to the 30’s and 20’s
SexyCool
October 28th, 2010
12:11 pm
Toucan – I do know some beautiful people. LOL! Ain’t Leggs gaw-juss?!?!
kimmie – Like you, there are times when I should have moved on sooner.
The lesson that I *finally* learned was that I needed to choose better. See the signs of b.s. clearly from jump and take them for what they were. I’m sure there are others.
Thanks for the FRED explanation. The picture made me laugh out loud. He’s kinda sad looking.
Kym
October 28th, 2010
12:12 pm
@Blue are you taking your kids trick or treating? My kid has out grown the trick or treating but he loves a costume. He missed Dragon-Con this year because of football.
I am whatever you say I am
October 28th, 2010
12:12 pm
Blue: it was so not fair- I saw a 3 year old (or he might have been 4 , dunno) with a mask
Conspiracy I tell you!
See Oh Nnnnn. Spiracy!
Raqi
October 28th, 2010
12:12 pm
Are you all still on topic? I don’t want to cut into the ongoing topic discussion.
Are there any ladies on here with sister-in-laws? Yes?
Okay I may wrong I will admit that. However I still want a “sister-in-law’s” POV. FYI this is my husband’s brother wife. This may get a bit lengthy so forgive me if it does.
I got out early this morning to do my household shopping. While I was out I get a call from my sister-in-law. Up until April of this year she and I had been on really good terms. Something happened back in April that made me look at her differently. And since then other matters have surfaced so she and I are not on the best of terms these days.
I was out with the little lady trying to get things done. It’s hard enough shopping with a toddler I can really do without all the extras.
She calls to say that “A.M and I spoke with your husband…” Okay that right there (‘your husband) is just some malarkey. Anyhoo she went on to say that she and her husband spoke with my husband about this upcoming Christmas’ dinner. (In October?!?!) She had spoken with several of the relatives and has planned a family Christmas dinner. The menu is not decided yet however everyone has agreed to bring a dish once the menu is determined.
Evidently my husband told them it was be okay to have the shindig at our house. She says. I kept trying to tell her I would call her back but she kept pressing the matter so I listened.
After getting the baby and all my stuff loaded in the car out of the parking lot I called “my husband”. He said they did call him however he says he told her he doesn’t really care she would have to clear that plan with me. He was busy and didn’t have time to deal with it. Whatever I decide is okay with him.
(to be cont’d)