Are we spending too much on dating?
Forget what you’ve seen on those crazy reality shows. Hot air balloon rides, horse-drawn carriages, and weekend excursions are not needed to create romance or keep someone interested. I’ve been wondering about the attitude a lot of single people have when it comes to money and dating.
Fact: You don’t need money to date. You need a personality. If at any time you feel compelled to spend cash to keep someone interested, it’s a problem.
Of course women like to feel special. I won’t argue that, but most women I know feel special when a guy gives them eye contact and listens to her. That’s totally free!
Why does it seem as if we throw money at dating in hopes that it will get us better results? I’m not just referring to men, either. There are some ladies that are doing way too much for men that they aren’t in a relationship with because they have something to prove.
Do you ever think that you spend too much money on dating? If you had to guess, how much money do you think your dates have cost for this year?
What is the appropriate time for large purchases such as trips, jewelry, new pair of breasts (ha!), or cash should be gifted? When more money is spent on dating, does it create more expectations? Does more money mean more problems? Discuss.
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I am whatever you say I am
October 26th, 2010
3:51 pm
I remember I was in the 4th grade and this kid said his favorite movie was purple rain.
We were all like
Dammit, I just told my age.
AmazonRed™ - Cowboys lose. ha ha ha
October 26th, 2010
3:51 pm
Yes Raqi – Really. If you and Mason were going on a date, even a first date and he asked for a suggestion, you’re gonna throw out Applebee’s?
czBrat
October 26th, 2010
3:52 pm
anyone brave enough to admit you wore suspenders? and you know you were wearin em right (cool) if you just let them hang. HA!
DreamsMaterialize
October 26th, 2010
3:52 pm
Shell Toe Adidas with bout 4-5 different color shoe-strings to match ya shirt, or either the classic pair of Stan Smiths
LOL I still have shell toes and stan smiths in my wardrobe. Don’t wear the name buckle or the gazelles anymore though. haha
Trevor0529
October 26th, 2010
3:52 pm
Z. Cavaricci
I owned a pair of Z. Cavaricci jeans along with a pair of Cross Colours jeans.
What bruh on the blog did not shop at either Oak Tree or Chess King at least once?
Chevygal
October 26th, 2010
3:52 pm
That was MY point. You make it sound like it’s a bad thing to go to Applebees. Not like I go there every week, but still think it’s a fun place to go. I go lots of different places and as I said, with the right person they are all fun. I’m sure when I’m 60 I’ll still be going there. Nothing wrong with that.
For Real
October 26th, 2010
3:53 pm
“You don’t need money to date. You need a personality.” – Hell you say, said Ared.
AmazonRed™ - Cowboys lose. ha ha ha
October 26th, 2010
3:54 pm
Chevygal – I didn’t say anything is wrong eating at Applebee’s. Just makes me think your standards are kinda low for dates, especially at your age. Just my opinion.
Leggs ™
October 26th, 2010
3:55 pm
You da shyt if you had Gloria Vanderbilt on and a Members Only jacket!
Sergio Valente fit me so so good back then.
Mo (aka Moeisha - I so hate Mondays)
October 26th, 2010
3:55 pm
Dreams – I never STOPPED curving the brim of my hats, lol!
Oooooh Cross Colours……so very 90’s! I loved Cross Colours….
AmazonRed™ - Cowboys lose. ha ha ha
October 26th, 2010
3:56 pm
For Real – You need both.
But like I said before, most guys go “safe” instead of creative.
DreamsMaterialize
October 26th, 2010
3:56 pm
What bruh on the blog did not shop at either Oak Tree or Chess King at least once?
Trevor awwwww man, I did. I’ll even admit to buying the 2 for $99 suits in there, one green, the other gold. (bowing head in shame) lol
SexyCool
October 26th, 2010
3:56 pm
I go to almost TGI Friday’s every week. But that’s mostly because Carlton makes my Friday after work apple martini JUST like I like it…and he knows my name. LOL!
czBrat
October 26th, 2010
3:56 pm
too funny!!
thanx for the laughs. meeting time
Leggs ™
October 26th, 2010
3:56 pm
Oops, I cussed. Sorry, WD!
You da bomb if you wore Gloria Vanderbilts and a Members Only jacket.
Sergio Valente’s fit me so so good back then!
Simple Man 2.5...Now dressed in NASCAR style Helment to Avoid any Further damage...
October 26th, 2010
3:57 pm
Oak Tree @ South Dekalb Mall was my Spot!!! My brother worked there one summer and I’ll bet he spent every dime he made buying their clothes!!
DreamsMaterialize
October 26th, 2010
3:58 pm
Dreams – I never STOPPED curving the brim of my hats, lol!
Mo I don’t wear hats anymore, but if I did I’d still bend the brim. couldn’t do that straight brim look like they do now.
Leggs ™
October 26th, 2010
3:58 pm
@Simple Man ~ why the heck are you wearing a helment????
Raqi
October 26th, 2010
3:59 pm
Amazon, do you feel the same about all the other chain restaurants? Low standard?
SexyCool
October 26th, 2010
3:59 pm
But – ARed, if he’s up and coming, which you said you don’t mind, wouldn’t an Applebee’s be about all that he could afford? And isn’t a meal at Applebee’s at about the same price point as one at Intermezzo?
Simple Man 2.5...Now dressed in NASCAR style Helment to Avoid any Further damage...
October 26th, 2010
4:00 pm
Leggs..it was rough earlier…. I needed the protection to keep from catching blog level whiplash!!!
AmazonRed™ - Cowboys lose. ha ha ha
October 26th, 2010
4:01 pm
You gotta answer my question first Raqi.
Raqi
October 26th, 2010
4:01 pm
SexyCool, exactly. The last time we ate at Applebee’s we spent over $40. Two entrees, drinks and a dessert. What’s wrong with that?
AmazonRed™ - Cowboys lose. ha ha ha
October 26th, 2010
4:01 pm
SCool – If he’s up and coming, I’d rather he be creative. Applebee’s ain’t it.
I am whatever you say I am
October 26th, 2010
4:03 pm
Oooh! Ooooh! I just found a kit-kat
Chevygal
October 26th, 2010
4:04 pm
@ARed…I din’t know standards were age related. I have the same standards today as I had in my 20’s. I was down to earth then and am still today. If that is considered low standard in your opinion. oh well. Not to me. I don’t base my standards on money. Enjoy the local retaurants, O’Charleys, Longhorn, etc. not like I’m dining at the local landfill or anything….
Raqi
October 26th, 2010
4:04 pm
Yes, Amazon if that is where I wanted to go on our first date.
And as for now, girl please. He has already asked me where I want to go Friday for our anniversary and I said…what for it…..WAFFLE HOUSE.
He said no way, but heck I lovez me some waffles.
Raqi
October 26th, 2010
4:05 pm
But Amazon what is wrong with Applebee’s in comparison to all the other chains?
Leggs ™
October 26th, 2010
4:05 pm
Dang, blog whiplash…what did you get yourself into?
I am whatever you say I am
October 26th, 2010
4:05 pm
Who tried, at least once….to wear their pants backwords…:?:
blue®
October 26th, 2010
4:06 pm
adios people, gonna go see if i can talk mr.blue into an impromptu drive down to the lake, stare at the water with no little people chatter….nite!
Olem!
October 26th, 2010
4:06 pm
Applebees food really sucks!
So does TGIF
For Real?
I agree with everything u said.
More money, more options
Less money if you are a dude: more up and down scrutiny as they look at your shoe game and
and a 
face!
Women?
Raqi
October 26th, 2010
4:06 pm
not like I’m dining at the local landfill
Chevygal, if you were and you and the guy are enjoying yourselves that’s all that matters.
Simple Man 2.5...Now dressed in NASCAR style Helment to Avoid any Further damage...
October 26th, 2010
4:07 pm
Same thing Ared is caught in now!!!
DreamsMaterialize
October 26th, 2010
4:09 pm
Friday for our anniversary and I said…what for it…..WAFFLE HOUSE.
cheesesteak omlette with hashbrowns, scattered, smothered, covered, topped. lol
Celisea
October 26th, 2010
4:11 pm
ARed – Your statement about Applebees sort of refutes what we (women) said earlier and clarifies what the men said. Honestly somebody I’m really feeling, we can do Applebees. I sort clump along with Chilis (love them), OCharleys, TGIFs…I like ‘em all. Especially this 2 for what thingy. I got $30 in gift cerficates right now for Chilis…
SexyCool
October 26th, 2010
4:11 pm
TheDude and I celebrated our first year sitting on the same two bar stools we sat on when we met.
Olem!
October 26th, 2010
4:12 pm
Amazon,I agree with you about Apebees.
That food ain’t even palatable
Celisea
October 26th, 2010
4:12 pm
It’s REALLY not about how much a man spends…although if he can and without watching the meter, show a good time, I likey like but good company and a nice conversation flow beats spending a lot of loot anyday.
Raqi
October 26th, 2010
4:12 pm
Amazon if you need a certain ambiance and a certain price tag to make an evening nice you can’t be to into the man you are with.
If you really like a guy you are going to like him sharing a bowl of popcorn at the neighborhood fair.
Celisea
October 26th, 2010
4:13 pm
If you want steak then you do a steakhouse but burger and fries or wings, you ain’t gotta spend all out to get a good one.
kimmie
October 26th, 2010
4:13 pm
Raqi, I LOVE me some Waffle House! Those waffles & hash browns are no joke!!!
Dreams – Okay, scratch the wine & park thing. Let’s go to Waffle House instead!!
AmazonRed™ - Cowboys lose. ha ha ha
October 26th, 2010
4:13 pm
I don’t base my standards on money.
Chevygirl – Actually you did.
If the concert was free…you had no problem. If it cost money…it was a “cinderella” experience for you.
The ONLY difference was money.
Raqi
October 26th, 2010
4:13 pm
cheesesteak omlette with hashbrowns, scattered, smothered, covered, topped
Mason is that you?
DreamsMat, that reads just like him. LOL
Chevygal
October 26th, 2010
4:15 pm
@Raqi….Right you are, my dear. I think we’re on the same page here.
Olem!
October 26th, 2010
4:15 pm
Celisea?
How much is a good loot by your standards
Loot is relative.
Nobody on this blog is spending $200.00 on a first date!
Uall just regular
Luvbug
October 26th, 2010
4:15 pm
Who is bold enough to admit they wore stir-up pants?
What are stir-up pants??
AmazonRed™ - Cowboys lose. ha ha ha
October 26th, 2010
4:16 pm
Simple Man – I’m not caught in anything. Women have said you don’t have to have money, just be creative. How is Applebee’s creative out of all the other choices in the world.
I didn’t bring up spending loot. I did say that a guy WANTED to spend loot on you and he had the means, what’s the problem? Don’t settle for less if you don’t have to.
Raqi
October 26th, 2010
4:17 pm
It’s REALLY not about how much a man spends
Celisea, that’s what I am wondering. Nice gifts are nice gifts and they have their place and time. But this every day living that we are doing is not about the price tag on a date.
AmazonRed™ - Cowboys lose. ha ha ha
October 26th, 2010
4:17 pm
Amazon if you need a certain ambiance and a certain price tag to make an evening nice you can’t be to into the man you are with.
If you really like a guy you are going to like him sharing a bowl of popcorn at the neighborhood fair.
No sh.yt! Again, that’s not my point.