Are we spending too much on dating?
Forget what you’ve seen on those crazy reality shows. Hot air balloon rides, horse-drawn carriages, and weekend excursions are not needed to create romance or keep someone interested. I’ve been wondering about the attitude a lot of single people have when it comes to money and dating.
Fact: You don’t need money to date. You need a personality. If at any time you feel compelled to spend cash to keep someone interested, it’s a problem.
Of course women like to feel special. I won’t argue that, but most women I know feel special when a guy gives them eye contact and listens to her. That’s totally free!
Why does it seem as if we throw money at dating in hopes that it will get us better results? I’m not just referring to men, either. There are some ladies that are doing way too much for men that they aren’t in a relationship with because they have something to prove.
Do you ever think that you spend too much money on dating? If you had to guess, how much money do you think your dates have cost for this year?
What is the appropriate time for large purchases such as trips, jewelry, new pair of breasts (ha!), or cash should be gifted? When more money is spent on dating, does it create more expectations? Does more money mean more problems? Discuss.
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kimmie
October 26th, 2010
3:20 pm
Dreams – Will you take me to the park? I’ll pack the picnic and you bring the telescope & the wine. You seem to know your wines!
AmazonRed™ - Cowboys lose. ha ha ha
October 26th, 2010
3:20 pm
Chevysgirl – Yes, I understand Applebee’s was your “everyday” experience choice and I find that kinda sad at 40+
blue®
October 26th, 2010
3:20 pm
oh wow, havent heard about those in forever, yeah, did the banana clip, always made you look like you had a fin at the back of our head lmao…
then (dont know if this was just us northerners or not) there was the bun with the bandana wrap…saw a lady with that doo the other day and im loke wowww, aint seen that in forever…..
Raqi
October 26th, 2010
3:21 pm
kimmie, I loved the preppy look and that was one fashion era that my parents totally found no fault in for us. LOL
kimmie
October 26th, 2010
3:22 pm
Ruby Tuesday was the place for me & SO’s first date. We just got drinks and shut the place down, talking.
DreamsMaterialize
October 26th, 2010
3:22 pm
I can ride my own bike sir and we can walk the chattahoochee trail then dinner in the Vinnings area and wine honey!
Now you know I was out there for homecoming! the weather was perfect, the food was good, the drinks were flowing…was a good time.
Lady I run that trail, so I’m familiar. And I’m always game for a good wine. A german white or a chilean red are my preferrences.
kimmie
October 26th, 2010
3:23 pm
Raqi – Yeah, my mom had no problem with the polo’s & such either!
Kym
October 26th, 2010
3:23 pm
stirup pants with the wham shirt..and green or pink neon socks.
SexyCool
October 26th, 2010
3:25 pm
kimmie – as usual, >>>here<<<.
Willie Dynamite
October 26th, 2010
3:26 pm
I had a Banana clip, 2 to be exact. Oh u were talking to the ladies.
Raqi
October 26th, 2010
3:26 pm
Leg warmers?
20 rubber braclets on each arm?
High-top Converse in bright colors?
Sebagos in different colors?
czBrat
October 26th, 2010
3:27 pm
banana clip —-> check (still got one)
stirrup pants —-> check
boots with built-in leg warmers —-> check
whats with you and the walkingon rocks?
panama, gurl. roads were either dirt or rocks but seldom paved. and the rocky roads are actually considered to be the ‘good’ roads cuz your shoes don’t get all muddy. LOL!
SexyCool
October 26th, 2010
3:27 pm
Stirrup pants.
Members Only Jacket.
Eastlands.
Brown loafers with the penny.
Black loafers with the nickel.
Dope man Nikes.
Ripped up jeans.
Big hair.
Those twisted two color bead necklaces.
Simple Man 2.5...Now dressed in NASCAR style Helment to Avoid any Further damage...
October 26th, 2010
3:27 pm
Raqi, Are you from here???
Raqi
October 26th, 2010
3:28 pm
First official date with the marido was to his cousin’s wedding.
Raqi
October 26th, 2010
3:29 pm
Yes I am from here.
Celisea
October 26th, 2010
3:30 pm
Raqi – Banana clip in all colors..check
stirrups with oversized shirt/sweater….check
preppy look (esp penny loafers), pleated plaid skirts, knee socks…check
I remember when Nine West first opened in Cumberland…buying pastel colored flats (all colors)…I thought I doing the dang thing…you couldn’t pay me to wear outlandish colored shoes now. Earth and basic tones….LOL
blue – yep, peeling those things off. Felt like they thinned by the time you got home…LOL
Raqi
October 26th, 2010
3:31 pm
Jordache jeans?
SexyCool
October 26th, 2010
3:31 pm
ARed – is there an age when you get too old to go eat at Applebee’s?
Celisea
October 26th, 2010
3:32 pm
Who said big hair? My brothers use to call me Pebbles. I would upsweep all my hair on top of my head with a bang….and spray it up there so it would hold…a HUGE ball.
Leggs ™
October 26th, 2010
3:33 pm
@Raqi ~ I wore stir-up pants! I sure did.
Raqi
October 26th, 2010
3:33 pm
Long Horns to this day is an at least twice a month spot for us.
Waffle House, Chili’s, Cheesecake Factory….
SlimUno
October 26th, 2010
3:34 pm
Well, well, well….Howdy derr pahtnas…boys n girl…ladies and gents. (tipping my brimmed hat to all with my thumb tucked away in my belt loop)
It’s be a minutes since I’ve been in ole blogsville…what da hellz going on up in herrr?
Raqi
October 26th, 2010
3:34 pm
Riding boots?
Leggs ™
October 26th, 2010
3:34 pm
We wore Fred Brauns back in the day.
Or we wore Candies…
SexyCool
October 26th, 2010
3:34 pm
Wearing your collar propped up and your jeans rolled up.
DreamsMaterialize
October 26th, 2010
3:34 pm
I almost took a sip and I haven’t had alcohol in a few years.
Celisea no sweat. we can always substitute a sparkling cider/grape/raspberry to do the trick.
Will you take me to the park? I’ll pack the picnic and you bring the telescope & the wine. You seem to know your wines!
kimmie naw, I just know the ones I know. lol There’s sooooo much variety in wines that it’s hard to be a universal expert. I know what I like, and I’m always willing to try something new. Now, I know your picnic basket is going to be the bomb, so I’ll have to dig up a nice fortified wine for you…a porto or a cream sherry maybe.
AmazonRed™ - Cowboys lose. ha ha ha
October 26th, 2010
3:35 pm
ARed – is there an age when you get too old to go eat at Applebee’s?
No. My 60 year old mother LOVES Applebees.
But there should come a point in your life where a first date, or a date in general, requires higher standards than Applebees. That shouldn’t be your benchmark.
In addition, a date is special. Nothing to make the 6 o’clock news, but with ANY type of effort, a differerent place should be chosen.
Simple Man 2.5...Now dressed in NASCAR style Helment to Avoid any Further damage...
October 26th, 2010
3:36 pm
I remember wearing my ridung boots and a leather Duster to Sensations and standing in that longs ass line like I was the MACK!!!
Chevygal
October 26th, 2010
3:36 pm
@ARed…don’t be sad for me…like I said it’s not where you go it’s who you’re with. I don’t need fancy restaurants to have a nice time.
I’m good.
Willie Dynamite
October 26th, 2010
3:37 pm
too funny I was just looking at some pics from HS and my look was so stereotypical;
khakis (Dickies)
Cream Chucks
White T-shirt
Starter Jacket ( White Cowboys)
Starter hat (Blue Cowboys) with the tag still on it of course
For dressup
Khakis (always)
Clarks (brown/black)
Alligator Polo
Same Starter Jacket and Hat.
wowwww
Wise Diva
October 26th, 2010
3:37 pm
LOL @ Raqi you couldn’t TELL me I wasn’t fresh in my stirrup pants back in the day, WHAT!?
Mo (aka Moeisha - I so hate Mondays)
October 26th, 2010
3:37 pm
Afternoon All!
SCool – okay I got 7 out of your 9! LOL!
And yes I did the Banana Clip, never had jellies, had Sebagos and the 20 bracelets and yes I even did leg warmers! LMAO!!
I am whatever you say I am
October 26th, 2010
3:39 pm
strir-up pants, white legwarmser, purple leg warmers, rainbow belt, jellies, banana clip, 1 swatch watch, 1 watch with interchangeable wristbands, and to top it off I rolled my jeans like twice at the bottoms, and paired with the really big slouch socks- the look would not be completed without shoelace-less keds.
What else you got Raqi? Bring it.
I am whatever you say I am
October 26th, 2010
3:40 pm
did not wear the above all at the same time….
Celisea
October 26th, 2010
3:40 pm
I didn’t have Sebagos but Jordache Jeans, Sergio Valente (sp), Members Only, oh not leg warmes…yes leg warmers. Oh please don’t forget HEADBANDS. Olivia Newton John did that for me.
I am whatever you say I am
October 26th, 2010
3:40 pm
who remembers 8-ball jackets?
AmazonRed™ - Cowboys lose. ha ha ha
October 26th, 2010
3:40 pm
I don’t need fancy restaurants to have a nice time.
Completely NOT the point.
DreamsMaterialize
October 26th, 2010
3:41 pm
fresh pair of Adidas Forums
triple fat goose
rope chain
B hat (always slightly curved the brim in those days)
SexyCool
October 26th, 2010
3:41 pm
British Knights.
Raqi
October 26th, 2010
3:41 pm
Any former punk rockers, george michaels, madonnas, cyndi laupers, Miami Vices, Michael Jacksons on here? LOL
I am whatever you say I am
October 26th, 2010
3:42 pm
adidas= all day I dream about sex
Trevor0529
October 26th, 2010
3:43 pm
I found myself watching reruns of Miami Vice on Centric and major flashbacks
SexyCool
October 26th, 2010
3:43 pm
Former Michael Jackson. I had all the outfits – except this one where he had on a pale yellow sweater vest over a white button up and white slacks.
I am whatever you say I am
October 26th, 2010
3:44 pm
anyone remember making friendship bracelts like these
http://sydandgoose.typepad.com/syd_and_goose/images/2007/07/02/img_1275.jpg
Willie Dynamite
October 26th, 2010
3:44 pm
DreamsMat – Shell Toe Adidas with bout 4-5 different color shoe-strings to match ya shirt, or either the classic pair of Stan Smiths
SexyCool
October 26th, 2010
3:47 pm
Trevor – LBJ spoofs Miami Vice in his new commercial.
I am whatever you say I am
October 26th, 2010
3:47 pm
I know for a fact that there must be somebody on the blog that had a pair of these:
http://vintagegent.com/wp-content/uploads/2008/08/picture1.jpg
Z. Cavaricci
Raqi
October 26th, 2010
3:47 pm
requires higher standards than Applebees
Really?
czBrat
October 26th, 2010
3:49 pm
lawd, Leggs. YES on the candies. i had a couple of those after grease hit the big screen. those were he!! on the rocks too. (dang my childhood was painful
)
Jordache Jeans, Sergio Valente
don’t forget about gloria and calvin! LOL
george michael(neon and oversized) —> check
madonna (exposed lingerie & lacey socks) —-> check
mimai vice (south beach pastels as career wear) —> check
michael jackson (thriller pleather) —-> check