accessAtlanta

City & State or ZIP Tonight, this weekend, May 5th...
City & State or ZIP
City & State or ZIP Tonight, this weekend, May 5th...
City & State or ZIP

Are we spending too much on dating?

Forget what you’ve seen on those crazy reality shows. Hot air balloon rides, horse-drawn carriages, and weekend excursions are not needed to create romance or keep someone interested. I’ve been wondering about the attitude a lot of single people have when it comes to money and dating.

Fact: You don’t need money to date. You need a personality. If at any time you feel compelled to spend cash to keep someone interested, it’s a problem.

Of course women like to feel special. I won’t argue that, but most women I know feel special when a guy gives them eye contact and listens to her. That’s totally free!

Why does it seem as if we throw money at dating in hopes that it will get us better results? I’m not just referring to men, either. There are some ladies that are doing way too much for men that they aren’t in a relationship with because they have something to prove.

Do you ever think that you spend too much money on dating? If you had to guess, how much money do you think your dates have cost for this year?

What is the appropriate time for large purchases such as trips, jewelry, new pair of breasts (ha!), or cash should be gifted? When more money is spent on dating, does it create more expectations? Does more money mean more problems? Discuss.

608 comments Add your comment

AmazonRed™ - Cowboys lose. ha ha ha

October 26th, 2010
2:39 pm

@ARed…to answer your question I think a concert of that expense (including dinner and drinks) would definitely be a special date.

Chevygirl – So had the concert been free at Centennial Park and dinner was grabbed after, would it then be “normal?”

Why did it only become “special” once you heard the cost of it? Especially if someone is treating you and it’s not hurting his pockets?

blue®

October 26th, 2010
2:39 pm

@Kym – i loved my jellies…tho that sweaty plastic smell was never cool…and if you step in a puddle you slip and slide, but still…why do they only make em in midget sizes…..

czBrat

October 26th, 2010
2:40 pm

awww, Kym, you just reminded me of my neon green WHAM! sweatshirt. :lol:

Luvbug

October 26th, 2010
2:41 pm

Women seek security from men. – Translation Money!

Men seek the comfort of a woman. – Translation Azz!

So what you saying Real? We (men/women) negotiating the price? A fair price?

Lady

October 26th, 2010
2:41 pm

yes sir dreamsM we can! Yes we can! lol

Raqi

October 26th, 2010
2:41 pm

That sounds very familiar.

Kym

October 26th, 2010
2:43 pm

@Blue will I had to wait until they finally made them in my size..then I got them in clear and I think I had black..and maybe purple..pretty sure purple. But anything neon I was on it. Oh and I had one of those George Michael shirts from the video..but I digress.

czBrat

October 26th, 2010
2:43 pm

LMAO @ For Real. good to see you dude.

blue/Kym … i had jellies but they were uncomfortable as all getout when you walk on rocks all day. :(

and remember when biking shorts were casual wear? ugh!

Kym

October 26th, 2010
2:43 pm

THATS IT CZBRAT!!! WHAM!!

For Real

October 26th, 2010
2:44 pm

Women that say they look for the simple things in life. – Translations: Learned the value of the dollar the hard way.

Men dating in the champagne life. – Translation: It’s the only way I can get some azz.

czBrat

October 26th, 2010
2:46 pm

blue, surely you remember the lil black chinese slippers in NYC??? (kinda looked like flat mary janes). come to think of it, those were hard to walk on rocks in too. LOL

blue®

October 26th, 2010
2:48 pm

@Kym – i had clear ones, and in my teens had a pair of clear ones with a little stack heel, loved ‘em!
@cz – oh, the little embroidered ones? they were always so pretty, but not good for walkign to much, the soles were too thin…whats with you and the walkingon rocks? lol

DreamsMaterialize

October 26th, 2010
2:49 pm

yes sir dreamsM we can! Yes we can! lol
Lady that’s perfect then, especially since Nancy Creek is right down the street from my house. lol

For Real

October 26th, 2010
2:50 pm

Luvbug: That grain of ism was brought you courtesy of Truth and yes we do but ain’t nothing fair in this life. All we can hope for is an equatable exchange.

Lady

October 26th, 2010
2:52 pm

those catch 22 are a mofo lol……a start has to start though but i digress…..lol funny DreamsM

SexyCool

October 26th, 2010
2:54 pm

Everybody was kung fu fighting! Huh!

Chevygal

October 26th, 2010
2:54 pm

@ For Real…I agree. we look for the simple things in life when we learn the value of money the hard way. That’s surely true in my case.

@ARed…had the concert been free in Centenial Park…yes that would have been different. I would still have had just as much fun but wouldn’t feel it was extravagant at someone else’s expensse. Even if they can afford it, it’s still extravagant. Sure we all like to feel special and have that Cinderella experience but that’s not everyday life. at least not for me. I can only speak for myself. I love life and enjoy every minute and love meeting people from all walks of life but I’m just down to earth me regardless.

Willie Dynamite

October 26th, 2010
2:58 pm

Off Topic – Dayum my Cowboys sux

Celisea

October 26th, 2010
3:00 pm

ARed – My sisters married broke dudes. But they are good solid guys

Sometimes you gotta chance it to get the prize. I don’t know if I can do it but I won’t say it’s not possible to have a happy ending.

Kimmie – your 2:16…I agree

I had jellies….lots of them

Blackfoote

October 26th, 2010
3:00 pm

WD:

You have plenty of time to get off that band wagon……..LOL

Celisea

October 26th, 2010
3:02 pm

Oh and jellies at Disney World on asphalt ain’t a good wear…plastic and heat and skin.

Raqi

October 26th, 2010
3:03 pm

Those cats were fast as lightning! Huh!

For Real

October 26th, 2010
3:03 pm

“Off Topic – Dayum my Cowboys sux” – For the record that’s subject is never off topic.

Celisea

October 26th, 2010
3:03 pm

I meant “can’t say I would” but I know…we’ve moved on to jellies and wham sweatshirts

Luvbug

October 26th, 2010
3:04 pm

All we can hope for is an equatable exchange.

Real – Well see now that implies a choice. If you suspect the price is too high, you can always walk away…instead of standing there trying to lowball some chick.

Raqi

October 26th, 2010
3:04 pm

Celisea, plastic and heat = melting. LOL One of the worse days I had a SixFlags.

Raqi

October 26th, 2010
3:04 pm

I had five plastic Swatch watches.

AmazonRed™ - Cowboys lose. ha ha ha

October 26th, 2010
3:05 pm

Sure we all like to feel special and have that Cinderella experience but that’s not everyday life.

A concert and dinner is hardly a “Cinderella” experience. It saddens me to see the low expectations of women today. Concerts aren’t meant to be experienced alone. And if you happen to meet someone into such a thing…just be grateful he wants to experience it with you and has the means to make it happen.

AmazonRed™ - Cowboys lose. ha ha ha

October 26th, 2010
3:06 pm

And it especially shouldn’t be a “Cinderella type” experience once you are approaching 40! Applebees?!

kimmie

October 26th, 2010
3:06 pm

I have an Olympic Swatch from working at the Olympics. Only wore it then, now just keep it in the jewelry box as a souvenir.

Simple Man 2.5...Now dressed in NASCAR style Helment to Avoid any Further damage...

October 26th, 2010
3:06 pm

Raqi

October 26th, 2010
3:04 pm
I had five plastic Swatch watches

LOL!!! You could not tell me I was not the man when I got me first Swatch!!! LOL

DreamsMaterialize

October 26th, 2010
3:08 pm

All we can hope for is an equatable exchange.
Real I think people really care if the exchange is equitable. People want the best deal (for them) for the lowest investment…trying to get rich off penny stocks! lol

those catch 22 are a mofo lol……a start has to start though but i digress…..lol funny DreamsM
Lady you all good with me. oh did I mention we’re going there on my bike…you have to ride on the handle bars. ;-)

Leggs ™

October 26th, 2010
3:09 pm

Never understood why someone would wear shoes that made your feet sweat. Jellies were popular but I’ve never owned a pair.

If you have money, you’re free to date. If you do not, stay home and watch tv until you’re able to date.

Willie Dynamite

October 26th, 2010
3:10 pm

Blackfoote – no bandwagon for me. Diehard member since 72.

4Real – true true true

Celisea

October 26th, 2010
3:10 pm

Raqi – Celisea, plastic and heat = melting. LOL One of the worse days I had a SixFlags

Even with all that Disney World could offer, nothing could be worse than platics on top of asphalt at 100 degrees. I had the soft ones so it really felt like those things were melting on my feet. LOL

Celisea

October 26th, 2010
3:11 pm

Leggs – they were cute and “in” and came in an array of colors…LOL I bought the ones where the strap went around the ankle…too sexy…I thought…LOL

Celisea

October 26th, 2010
3:12 pm

Wait…open toe and an ankle strap

Lady

October 26th, 2010
3:12 pm

I can ride my own bike sir and we can walk the chattahoochee trail then dinner in the Vinnings area and wine honey! its nothing but a thang! actions! lol you are cool with me too! did you do Morehouse’s HC?!?

DreamsMaterialize

October 26th, 2010
3:12 pm

I don’t know if I can do it but I won’t say it’s not possible to have a happy ending.
Celisea dang, I thought you was gonna give me a shot. lol

Chevygal

October 26th, 2010
3:13 pm

@ARed. I didn’t mean Applebees was the Cinderella experience. That is the every day experience. But the “special times” such as trips or very expensive evenings are what I consider the Cinderella experience. I guess it all depends on the kind of life style you are used to. And by the way, I’m on the other side of 40. Have had some Cinderella experiences and remember them with great fondness but still enjoy the every day ones as well.

Lady

October 26th, 2010
3:14 pm

meant vinings are ok I am out….
peace!

Celisea

October 26th, 2010
3:14 pm

Dreams – I don’t know if I can do it but I won’t say it’s not possible to have a happy ending.
Celisea dang, I thought you was gonna give me a shot. lol

I almost asked with you talking about wine and snacks and telescopes. I was about to offer the blanket :) I almost took a sip and I haven’t had alcohol in a few years.

Raqi

October 26th, 2010
3:16 pm

Who is bold enough to admit they wore a banana clip?

Raqi

October 26th, 2010
3:17 pm

Loafers and knee socks with pleated skirt and Izod shirt.

Simple Man 2.5...Now dressed in NASCAR style Helment to Avoid any Further damage...

October 26th, 2010
3:18 pm

Whats a banana clip???

kimmie

October 26th, 2010
3:18 pm

Raqita – I did, wore that banana clip all day!!! LOL!!

blue®

October 26th, 2010
3:18 pm

plastic and heat = melting, too true..i remember having to d@mn near peel them off my feet when i got home….

kimmie

October 26th, 2010
3:19 pm

Raqi – I wore all that preppy stuff!

SexyCool

October 26th, 2010
3:19 pm

Saturday afternoon, TheDude and I went to lunch at TGI Fridays. It was special, not because the wings are to die for or they make the best apple martini going, it was special because that’s where we met – so every time we go there will be special for me.

But then too, sitting around in our draws on any given Sunday afternoon, watching football and eating cookies is special because just being around him is really cool.

Raqi

October 26th, 2010
3:19 pm

Who is bold enough to admit they wore stir-up pants?