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Are we spending too much on dating?

Forget what you’ve seen on those crazy reality shows. Hot air balloon rides, horse-drawn carriages, and weekend excursions are not needed to create romance or keep someone interested. I’ve been wondering about the attitude a lot of single people have when it comes to money and dating.

Fact: You don’t need money to date. You need a personality. If at any time you feel compelled to spend cash to keep someone interested, it’s a problem.

Of course women like to feel special. I won’t argue that, but most women I know feel special when a guy gives them eye contact and listens to her. That’s totally free!

Why does it seem as if we throw money at dating in hopes that it will get us better results? I’m not just referring to men, either. There are some ladies that are doing way too much for men that they aren’t in a relationship with because they have something to prove.

Do you ever think that you spend too much money on dating? If you had to guess, how much money do you think your dates have cost for this year?

What is the appropriate time for large purchases such as trips, jewelry, new pair of breasts (ha!), or cash should be gifted? When more money is spent on dating, does it create more expectations? Does more money mean more problems? Discuss.

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Olem!

October 26th, 2010
4:37 pm

Swiss?

Did u do that often?

spending 200 on a first date on he regular?

AmazonRed™ - Cowboys lose. ha ha ha

October 26th, 2010
4:37 pm

Celisea – I was saying “why do I care” if my views feed more into the men’s point? I don’t.

And yes, there is more than ambiance, so I again, I wasn’t talking about that nor did I care about that either.

For Real

October 26th, 2010
4:38 pm

“For Real..What are you drinking over there?” – Preparing some snappy comebacks for all of the Cowboys fans out there in blog land.

For Real

October 26th, 2010
4:39 pm

Kimmie: Can I “Do You”?

Raqi

October 26th, 2010
4:39 pm

You could spend more than that on a bottle of wine at dinner

And then you can’t and still have a good.

The price tags are usually only about the name. Seriously all brand or well known names.

My husband can cook a steak at home that is just as good as anything found on Ruth Chris’s menu, however that doesn’t have as much clout as if I said he took me to somewhere expensive to a lot of folks.

I can tell a woman I don’t know that my husband cooked me a steak at home and it was delicious and the most she will say is “oh really”. But I can tell that same woman that my husband took me to Ruth’s spent and food was just okay. She would say “Really Girl! You better hang on to him!”

Kym

October 26th, 2010
4:41 pm

@For Real..ohhh yeah..what a horrible horrible game..its like their defense just walked away.

Random Thought..Why is it 83 degrees in late October? Not that I am complaining..but still.

kimmie

October 26th, 2010
4:42 pm

4Real – Only if you take me to Waffle House first!

Purple Rain

October 26th, 2010
4:43 pm

kimmie, that easy for you to cheat on me?

Olem!

October 26th, 2010
4:44 pm

Raqi?

U are domesticated already so ur 4.39 don’t apply.
Married women will do what girlfriends pretense prevents them from din g when single.

Besides,if u can cook,home food tastes better anytime and always!

SexyCool

October 26th, 2010
4:44 pm

Exactly, Rock.

And the food at Applebee’s and places like it – is just food. A plain, old All American menu. It is food that is designed to get you full, not offer you a culinary orgasm. (If it were, it’d be a pricier place.)

They sell the same food at The Brake Pad, but because you’re sitting in a trendy spot that is a converted garage with patio space, all of a sudden it seems more of an experience.

Mo (aka Moeisha - I so hate Mondays)

October 26th, 2010
4:44 pm

Simple Man – I totally forgot there was an Oak Tree in S. Dekalb! OMG! I knew a couple of people that worked in there!

“What is the most expensive gift you ever got from someone you dated?” A plane ticket to Cali from VA I think

For Real

October 26th, 2010
4:45 pm

Kimmie: Oh and I got $200 too. For Real now putting on 13 change dispensers on his belt.

kimmie

October 26th, 2010
4:45 pm

Purple – I was just doing it to make you jealous!

Is our divorce final already or did you call it off?

Kym

October 26th, 2010
4:46 pm

@Sexy I use to live right down the road from the The Brake Pad..cool spot..

Leggs ™

October 26th, 2010
4:47 pm

@Raqi ~ I seriously had to laugh at that one, because I would have said you better hang on to him cuz he cooked you a delicious steak at home!

@PR ~ calling on T.I. was funny.

Most admit, even I am looking forward to the game tonight.

kimmie

October 26th, 2010
4:47 pm

4Real – Stop by the change exchange thing at Kroger before our date. I don’t want you embarrassing me up in Waffle House!!LOL!!

AmazonRed™ - Cowboys lose. ha ha ha

October 26th, 2010
4:47 pm

Right…so if it’s just food, why not pick a place that can get you full and give you more of an experience. Or go for coffee so you can have more time for “experiences?” *shrugs*

SexyCool

October 26th, 2010
4:48 pm

Isn’t though, K to tha? And you can’t get almost the exact same food that they sell at AB’s.

I also like the little spot “Our Place” a few doors down. Great for sandwiches and dessert.

Olem!

October 26th, 2010
4:48 pm

Comeon Sexxy,BreakPad ain’t trendy!

It’s convenient for work folk!

Applebees food sucks,no taste.

Kym

October 26th, 2010
4:49 pm

@kimmie can you get For Real to spring for a Double Patty Melt Plate for me? scattered smothered and covered please?

For Real

October 26th, 2010
4:49 pm

Kimmie: For Real that was the best Waffle House I ever had.

For Real: Well you know ain’t nothing too good for my Kimmie.

Waitress: Here yo bill issss!

For Real: Okay, lets see that $22.79 plus $2 tip that equals $24.79. For Real now leaving 99 quarters and four pennies on the table.

LovelessinAtl

October 26th, 2010
4:50 pm

are you talking about Celtics vs Heat game. I’m looking forward to the game tonight too. Hope Celtics can take it to the finals again, but I’m feeling the Heat too

Kym

October 26th, 2010
4:50 pm

@Sexy I had a bad experience with Our place..one of their cakes was wayyyy too dry.

SexyCool

October 26th, 2010
4:50 pm

Because it’s not about where I am, it’s about who I’m with.

But I’m versatile, I can eat at AB’s, the same way I can eat at The Commerce Club or at Atlanta Grill.

Purple Rain

October 26th, 2010
4:51 pm

I don’t think I would eat anywhere called The Brake Pad.

kimmie, after your free meal with For Real remember you still have to cook for me.

Leggs :)

Simple Man 2.5...Now dressed in NASCAR style Helment to Avoid any Further damage...

October 26th, 2010
4:52 pm

Olem…Is $200.00 really that much out of line for you??? Yesterday the ladies were talking about going to see Prince in concert…Any idea what those tickets are gonna cost??? In fact I am going to see Cirque De Solei at Atlantic station and those tickets were more than a hundred dollars each….

Purple Rain

October 26th, 2010
4:53 pm

I would rather eat at home than out any night. A lot of love goes into cooking.

SexyCool

October 26th, 2010
4:53 pm

That’s because you only go during work hours, Melo.

But you keep to your definitions of and opinions about what’s trendy and I will keep to mine….as it seems we are going to do anyway.

Leggs ™

October 26th, 2010
4:53 pm

@Love ~ YES, I AM!!!

SexyCool

October 26th, 2010
4:53 pm

Every time I type m e l o ’s name, I get sent to moderation.

kimmie

October 26th, 2010
4:53 pm

Kym – Sure thing girl! If I play my cards right with Dreams, I’ll get him to get you one too. That’s dinner for two nights, girl!

4Real – Add my buddy Kym’s Patty Melt onto that. I told a hungry sister you would hook her up.

Purple Rain

October 26th, 2010
4:54 pm

Did Prince release where the tour was going yet?

For Real

October 26th, 2010
4:54 pm

Walking back into Waffle House holding Kimmie’s hand.

For Real: Cuse me Mit Lady, Cuse me Mit Lady,

Waitress: (after 10 mins) Hey hon is anyone helping you?

For Real: No, can I get a Double Patty Melt Plate to go.

Waitress: Sure hon, that will be $12.77.

For Real while holding Kimmie’s hand clickout 51 quarters, one nickle and three pennies.

Olem!

October 26th, 2010
4:54 pm

Simple? 4.52?
but they are spending on themselves not on somebody from the street

Kym

October 26th, 2010
4:54 pm

@Simple I am taking me to the Prince concert…and that is a treat for me. I would not expect some guy I just met to fork over the duckies for that concert anyway.

Leggs ™

October 26th, 2010
4:54 pm

Me too, PR, me too!!!!

Purple Rain

October 26th, 2010
4:55 pm

kimmie

October 26th, 2010
4:55 pm

SCool – Same here with zulu’s name! Oh well!!

I am whatever you say I am

October 26th, 2010
4:55 pm

2C: well fugg you then! Saying it like Aunt Esther
Simple: towards anyone

Luvbug

October 26th, 2010
4:56 pm

lol@ somebody from the street

SexyCool

October 26th, 2010
4:57 pm

kimmie – THAT is just hilarious TO ME!!!! LMAO!!!

AmazonRed™ - Cowboys lose. ha ha ha

October 26th, 2010
4:57 pm

I guess that’s why he changed his name to Olem. :lol: He probably couldn’t get on all day! :lol:

2CPTG

October 26th, 2010
4:58 pm

I am….I love you too, boo….matta fact, let’s me and you take this off line….just convo……what’s up?????

so my man, M E L O is banned?

I am whatever you say I am

October 26th, 2010
4:58 pm

ALOL @ REAL!!!

I LOVE YOUR SKITS!!!!

kimmie

October 26th, 2010
4:58 pm

4Real – Long as you payin, Big Spender!

And with that, I’m out!

Be easy, everyone!

evy

October 26th, 2010
4:59 pm

wow! i just knew y’all’d be onto sumthin else by now…applebee’s!? omg – let it go… :D

@simple: cirque du soleil, huh? cool – don’t know too many people who dig that, usually makes ‘em think i’m odd, lol…ok, there may be other things at work there, too…

I am whatever you say I am

October 26th, 2010
4:59 pm

To avoid getting locked in the bathroom for 35-45 minutes or longer,
I am gone for the day.

you all be good!

Leggs ™

October 26th, 2010
4:59 pm

How come fugg got through and other cleverly devised cuss words cannot?

I am whippped…good night…bag of quotes can be found on the shelf to your left!

SexyCool

October 26th, 2010
5:00 pm

Simple – TheDude and I were just talking about that two days ago. We just may check it out. (Not that it’s special or anything. LOL!)

Olem!

October 26th, 2010
5:01 pm

What’s ur nan girl?
Me? Luvbug

Simple: here 200$ have lunch on me!

Good nite! :lol: