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Are we spending too much on dating?

Forget what you’ve seen on those crazy reality shows. Hot air balloon rides, horse-drawn carriages, and weekend excursions are not needed to create romance or keep someone interested. I’ve been wondering about the attitude a lot of single people have when it comes to money and dating.

Fact: You don’t need money to date. You need a personality. If at any time you feel compelled to spend cash to keep someone interested, it’s a problem.

Of course women like to feel special. I won’t argue that, but most women I know feel special when a guy gives them eye contact and listens to her. That’s totally free!

Why does it seem as if we throw money at dating in hopes that it will get us better results? I’m not just referring to men, either. There are some ladies that are doing way too much for men that they aren’t in a relationship with because they have something to prove.

Do you ever think that you spend too much money on dating? If you had to guess, how much money do you think your dates have cost for this year?

What is the appropriate time for large purchases such as trips, jewelry, new pair of breasts (ha!), or cash should be gifted? When more money is spent on dating, does it create more expectations? Does more money mean more problems? Discuss.

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2CPTG©

October 26th, 2010
4:18 pm

any blog gal wanna go on a date, then come back and blog about it?

Chevygal

October 26th, 2010
4:18 pm

@ARed..No that is not a true statement. I said I would have enjoyed myself as much at the free concert but wouldn’t have felt it was being extravagant at SOMEONE ELSE’s expense. I still had the same amount of enjoyment. No different standard there.

AmazonRed™ - Cowboys lose. ha ha ha

October 26th, 2010
4:19 pm

ARed – Your statement about Applebees sort of refutes what we (women) said earlier and clarifies what the men said.

Why do I care? I am NOT talking about money.

Simple Man 2.5...Now dressed in NASCAR style Helment to Avoid any Further damage...

October 26th, 2010
4:19 pm

Ared, we are >>>>>>>>> here <<<<<<<<<<<<<<

kimmie

October 26th, 2010
4:20 pm

Uall just regular

You are too, Melo!!! :lol:

AmazonRed™ - Cowboys lose. ha ha ha

October 26th, 2010
4:20 pm

Chevygal – You wrote it in black and white. Cinderella vs everyday. It was much different and it was based on money. It’s a GIVEN you’d enjoy yourself (we’d hope).

SexyCool

October 26th, 2010
4:21 pm

Keep in mind that I’m debating just for the sake of debate…..

So, what if you meet a guy and he is tall, nice looking, no baby momma’s, all his teeth, no stank breath, good kisser, doing well at his job about to be promoted, looking to be in a serious relationship, really seems to be feeling you, great sense of humor, just a perfect match but……eating out at chain restaurants and going to the movies is what consitutes a date to him – all the time?

Would you deem him undateable because of his lack of creativity or would you work with him to expose him to other experiences?

Leggs ™

October 26th, 2010
4:21 pm

@SimpleMan ~ ok…I got your drift!

kimmie

October 26th, 2010
4:22 pm

Uall just regular

You too, Melo!!!! LOL!!

Sassy Me...feeling like new!! :-)

October 26th, 2010
4:22 pm

Who is bold enough to admit they wore stir-up pants?

:oops:

AmazonRed™ - Cowboys lose. ha ha ha

October 26th, 2010
4:22 pm

Yeah, SCool. Miss me with the debate cuz I’ve been on here long enough to show I’m not shallow like that. Again, like I’ve said on PAGE 1. I’ve gone to the Ritz, and i’ve gone to a cafe. Y’all are just arguing for nothing. Try it with a newbie.

Simple Man 2.5...Now dressed in NASCAR style Helment to Avoid any Further damage...

October 26th, 2010
4:22 pm

olem…

“Nobody on this blog is spending $200.00 on a first date!”

Yeah….I do…. You can get to $200.00 pretty easily…..

Celisea

October 26th, 2010
4:22 pm

Ared – Why do I care? I am NOT talking about money.

Ambience can be set anywhere. I mean dimly lit, candles, soft music wine (hey Dreams)….good. But really, dude is cool as ever and ya’ll wanna grab a bit…Applebees it is…set your own scene. We do nice places but as one of men (I think Swiss) said earlier, everyday going out is typically done on a much cheaper scales…home cooking, next to free (Applebees), etc.

I am whatever you say I am

October 26th, 2010
4:22 pm

What is the most expensive gift you ever got from someone you dated?

I am whatever you say I am

October 26th, 2010
4:23 pm

engagment rings or wedding bands don’t count

Raqi

October 26th, 2010
4:23 pm

Okay, Amazon, if it’s not the money then what is it? What is so bad about the place that you feel it is low standard? I am just asking?

Celisea

October 26th, 2010
4:23 pm

Raqi – Nice gifts are nice gifts and they have their place and time. But this every day living that we are doing is not about the price tag on a date.

Precisely.

Sassy Me...feeling like new!! :-)

October 26th, 2010
4:23 pm

any blog gal wanna go on a date, then come back and blog about it?

I thought that already had happened?…

Leggs ™

October 26th, 2010
4:24 pm

@SexyC ~ I would work with him and we can experience exposure together.

DreamsMaterialize

October 26th, 2010
4:24 pm

Olem
one of your fellow zulu is a finalist for the international Rhodes Scholarship. I believe her name is Nazele (sp?).

kimmie waffle house is good with me…meet at the one on chamblee dunwoody. you can go all out! lol

Mason is that you?

DreamsMat, that reads just like him.
Raqi sounds like he knows how to eat good.

I am whatever you say I am

October 26th, 2010
4:25 pm

“…any blog gal wanna go on a date, then come back and blog about it?>…”

No and
no

AmazonRed™ - Cowboys lose. ha ha ha

October 26th, 2010
4:25 pm

Ambience can be set anywhere.

I didn’t bring up ambiance. You’re out in left field.

kimmie

October 26th, 2010
4:26 pm

Dreams – It’s a date!!! :)

SexyCool

October 26th, 2010
4:26 pm

I was just trying to understand your viewpoint as relates to Applebee’s, that is all.

But I gotchu – Applebee’s lacks creativity. Lack of creativity is a turn off.

2CPTG©

October 26th, 2010
4:27 pm

I am……so!

Sassy….I mean in a true sense, not some scandalous type mess…..and then do a “good, bad, and ugly” type thing…..

Raqi

October 26th, 2010
4:27 pm

And don’t get me wrong, I love nice gifts. I love expensive gifts and nice restaurants. But hell we ain’t balling like that. We have to live every day.

In fact I am frying chicken for dinner tonight alongside some broccoli and corn. Cheap. LOL

Olem!

October 26th, 2010
4:27 pm

Sexxycool?

how are u debating if he’s dateable or not and yet u have kissed already?

U kiss him first be4 making decisions about him?

That trend of thought is disturbing…okay might as well just go head and lick the fedex and just be in the conundrum!

Simple Man 2.5...Now dressed in NASCAR style Helment to Avoid any Further damage...

October 26th, 2010
4:28 pm

“What is the most expensive gift you ever got from someone you dated?”

Is that directed to the men or the ladies???

AmazonRed™ - Cowboys lose. ha ha ha

October 26th, 2010
4:29 pm

Okay, Amazon, if it’s not the money then what is it? What is so bad about the place that you feel it is low standard? I am just asking?

I think out of all the places you can chose, you can chose better than Applebee’s. I’m talking in the dating rhelm and especially with a first date. It has nothing to do with money and it’s my opinion.

I’ve hung out with a guy at Applebee’s before upon a first meeting. Did he get rejected, no. Did he win points. No. It is what it is. His choice, he chose, he paid. I was appreciative.

Doesn’t mean he got any props for it tho. Again, it was a “safe” choice.

Purple Rain

October 26th, 2010
4:29 pm

T.I. is talking to all Cowboy fans so that they don’t commit suicide.

Luvbug

October 26th, 2010
4:29 pm

I mean in a true sense, not some scandalous type mess…..and then do a “good, bad, and ugly” type thing…..

I’m surprised that hasn’t happened yet…especially with the meet and greets yall have.

But then again, how would it not in up scandalous on this blogs??

Raqi

October 26th, 2010
4:30 pm

Amazon, do you feel that way about all chain restaurants?

i'm swiss™ (but you can call me Mr. Goodnight)

October 26th, 2010
4:31 pm

“Nobody on this blog is spending $200.00 on a first date!”

I’m with Simple… been there, done that. You could spend more than that on a bottle of wine at dinner, if so inclined…

For Real

October 26th, 2010
4:31 pm

So if you date Ared you need money, personality and creativity that she approves of.

AmazonRed™ - Cowboys lose. ha ha ha

October 26th, 2010
4:31 pm

What is the most expensive gift you ever got from someone you dated?

I don’t accept gifts. I’d rather have an experience like going out some place nice or traveling together.

Olem!

October 26th, 2010
4:32 pm

Simple?
at your prolific dating pace seems u date to impress then slide the nikkers?

Coz looking at your MO if u were doing it to marry u wod be by now?

Am I wrong?
Not many on this blog(men) spend that much on a first date,I can guarantee u that.

AmazonRed™ - Cowboys lose. ha ha ha

October 26th, 2010
4:32 pm

Yes, Raqi. I feel most chain restaurants are a “safe” choice.

Chevygal

October 26th, 2010
4:32 pm

Well, I’m not gonna stir this pot any more. I’ve been here since 7:00 am so I’m outta here. Think I’ll got by Applebees for some dinner.

Sassy Me...feeling like new!! :-)

October 26th, 2010
4:33 pm

I mean in a true sense, not some scandalous type mess…..and then do a “good, bad, and ugly” type thing…..

Why do that? I think the date should be kept amongst those who went….maybe it’s the bad n ugly part that kinda got to me….jus sayin’. But if you get a date from this blog then cool.

Purple Rain

October 26th, 2010
4:33 pm

I think the most expensive gift some can get from dating is AIDS or a baby. LOL

AmazonRed™ - Cowboys lose. ha ha ha

October 26th, 2010
4:34 pm

Damn, talk about a sobering response! :shock: :lol:

Kym

October 26th, 2010
4:34 pm

We are still on the money I see..

@Blue you can go ahead and put me down for the 2nd blog meet up..until further notice.

kimmie

October 26th, 2010
4:34 pm

For some $200 is “regular”, for other’s it’s special.

Do you.

SexyCool

October 26th, 2010
4:34 pm

Whatever, Melo. (Third try.)

You can make decisions about being with or not being with a person at any point in a relationship before or after anything has happened or not happened.

Please don’t you disturbed about sht I do.

For Real

October 26th, 2010
4:34 pm

The Cowboys tanked their season to prevent T.I from going to jail.

SexyCool

October 26th, 2010
4:35 pm

I guess I got kicked into moderation for some reason. LOL!

Kym

October 26th, 2010
4:35 pm

@For Real..What are you drinking over there?

Celisea

October 26th, 2010
4:36 pm

Ared – I didn’t bring up ambiance. You’re out in left field.

I did…you said –> Why do I care? I am NOT talking about money. What else is there then? Good company, good vibes, good atmosphere…all reasons to eat somewhere cheap and not mind. I’d say that’s ambience.

Purple Rain

October 26th, 2010
4:37 pm

For Real, lol

For Real

October 26th, 2010
4:37 pm

I’m with Simple on the $200 thang but you can slow them down if carry $200 in nickles and dimes.