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Is it fair to judge their ex?

A bunch of friends of mine had an interesting discussion the other day about people we totally regret dating. Heaven knows I have a squad of some pretty interesting characters in my dating history. One of the guys mentioned that he thought that a long history of bad dating choices was a red flag for him. It made him wonder about the choices that were made.

Now we all have people that we probably should never ever, ever have dated. At the same time, isn’t it all a part of the whole “finding the one” process? You try on a couple of great shirts until the right one fit? You may rock a butt ugly shirt that does not compliment you for far too long, but does that mean you are doomed to be in ugly shirts forever?

Awful analogy aside, what do you think about a person’s past mate selections? Have you ever met an ex of someone that you were dating and were slightly horrified at their association?

Is it a good idea to introduce your current significant other to an ex? Should the two ever need to speak to each other? I vote no, but what do you think?

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Simple Man 2.0...New and Improved!!!!

October 25th, 2010
8:26 am

Good morning Peeps….Pretty heady topic for a Monday!!!! Since I try really hard to make sure I part from exes on fairly decent terms, I would not have problem introduceing a current to an ex if they should ever come face to face. That being said, Why would anyone go out of their way to met the ex of a S/O????

Kym

October 25th, 2010
8:27 am

Good Morning All,

Is it a good idea to introduce your current significant other to an ex?
NO! Don’t Do it!

Should the two ever need to speak to each other? Never..ever..ever..if there are kids involved it has to happen but all that sitting chatting comparing notes..NO!

YesSheIsCute

October 25th, 2010
8:27 am

2CPTG©

October 25th, 2010
8:30 am

g’morning….

“Is it a good idea to introduce your current significant other to an ex?” —No…why?

“Should the two ever need to speak to each other?” —No, why?

sure M. didn’t come up this??? sure sounds like that mess he came up with….references and all that….

YesSheIsCute

October 25th, 2010
8:32 am

I don’t think so. There is absolutely no need for exes to meet or even know what the ex looks like. Unless they remain amicable and it is obvious that no chemistry further exists but situations like those are actually anomalies and not the norm.

I think knowing what the ex looks like or knowing the ex will only bring on neurotic thinking on behalf of the current s/o constantly comparing one self to this “ex” in search of…. reasons to believe we are superior or even confrontation of our insecurities b/c they looked like models and the s/o doesn’t……

I wouldn’t judge their ex but like you mentioned a string of consecutive heartbreaks does flag an error on the side of caution too many times. When all their exes are crazy btches or trifling men…it goes without saying that if it doesn’t work out you will probably be next on the list.

Simple Man 2.0...New and Improved!!!!

October 25th, 2010
8:39 am

Morning Kym / Cuteness!! Hope you ladie shade great weekends!!!

2Can…’sup bruh??? How bout those Giants and Rangers!!!

YesSheIsCute

October 25th, 2010
8:41 am

Good morning everyone! Weekend was too short. Looking forward to this weekend coming up! :) How was your weekend Simple Man?

2CPTG©

October 25th, 2010
8:44 am

’sup Simple Man….yeah man, those Giants and Rangers both deserve it…they played awsomoe games…’specially the Giants….in Philly at that!

Hey Cutie….how are you today? come gimme a hug!

Simple Man 2.0...New and Improved!!!!

October 25th, 2010
8:45 am

Cuteness , I had a great weekend, Thanks!!! My college roomie came to vist and we set it off!!! He left me with some Shyt to think onm But we had a great time non-the-less……

YesSheIsCute

October 25th, 2010
8:46 am

@ 2CPTG I’m doing ok so far so good…it was raining so heavy this morning! How are you? :grin:

2CPTG©

October 25th, 2010
8:47 am

I’m good, cuteness (I think that’s gon’ be my pet name for you…I like that)…

Kym

October 25th, 2010
8:52 am

Good Morning Simple..I did have a good weekend..The Nation chalked up another win and I am now switching into politics mode.

Voter

October 25th, 2010
8:53 am

OFF TOPIC: Did you hear Frank Ski go in on Nathan Deal this morning regaring the “Ghetto Grandmother” comment? I usually don’t agree with Frank, but on this one he is 100% right. Nathan deal (and I know this is not a political blog) is a racist. The problem, the people offended by his comments are not in the majority, but we should still make our voices heard … VOTE …

On Topic – We have all made some bad choices in our dating decisions, it happens … Ya live and ya learn …

Simple Man 2.0...New and Improved!!!!

October 25th, 2010
8:56 am

Should have stayed home today!!! Between trying to recover from the weekend and this blah weather, This is gonna be a looooong day!!!

2CPTG©

October 25th, 2010
9:01 am

yeah, Kym, those Steelers look ghud!!!!

didya see them Bucs come from behind in the last minute to beat the Rams!!!! life is good….

2CPTG©

October 25th, 2010
9:17 am

is this thing broke? or folks just ain’t at work yet…..

Simple Man 2.0...New and Improved!!!!

October 25th, 2010
9:22 am

I think the rain has er’body stuck in traffic on the connector….Maybe we should see if Kym and Cuteness want to go for breakfast……

Blackfoote

October 25th, 2010
9:22 am

Good Morning Everyone:

Can’t imagine anyone wanting to meet an ex, but you could cross paths with them while out with your new love interest. If that occurred I wouldn’t be inclined to introduce them just be cordial and keep going.

Blackfoote

October 25th, 2010
9:29 am

2C:

Both Bucs and Steelers eeked out wins, what can you say a win is a win. Bucs better be ready for the Birds afetr this bye week this will determine the south division.

blue®

October 25th, 2010
9:32 am

Morning all,
i sure enough almost turned around and went back home…i was just saying yesterday “some rain would be nice, on a day i dont have to go anywhere, so i can sit around and relax” seems that when i dont have to go anywhere part got micommunicated….
should our currents meet our exs? um, why? i say no.
should they be talking and what not? again, why? i say if there are children involved, do what you have to do, but dont expect current and ex to be besties….

Kym

October 25th, 2010
9:34 am

Let me go ahead and get this out of the way..cause I am pretty sure these fans are floating on some kind of Black and Sliver cloud right about now..

HOW ABOUT THEM RAIDERS!!..Amazon and PoppaG are going to be absolutely impossible to deal with this week. Denver Broncos..you are the Bamas of the Week!

@2C…yeah the Bucs got one..and so did the Ravens..Ray Lewis..still got it.

2CPTG©

October 25th, 2010
9:34 am

Blackfoote…..and I’ll be right there in the Dome when the Bucs spank that ass!!!

2CPTG©

October 25th, 2010
9:39 am

“Denver Broncos..you are the Bamas of the Week!”

yeah, that was pathetic…..and what’s up with them 49′ers….they can’t catch a break for shyt….and if Dallas loses tonight, Wade Phillips oughta be fired in the locker room!

Blackfoote

October 25th, 2010
9:40 am

2C:

LOL…..we let one get away Kym’s (Steelers) but the Bucs too crucial for the division to let them think they are that good.

kimmie

October 25th, 2010
9:43 am

Hey Gang! Happy rainy Monday!

On topic – Unless you’ve got kids, don’t see why exes need to meet. If you all are out and run into each other, be civil and keep it moving. Real simple.

Now, a dude that seems to have a “type” that includes crazy would definitely be a red flag for me. Especially if it’s to the extent that this is a widely known issue for him. It’s been my experience, and it’s something I learned early, that dude will expect ME to be the same crazy. As in, “this is what I like and am used to, so if you want to retain my interest, excite me, this is what I’ll expect of you.” No deal. Or, it could be a sign that dude likes drama, and we all know some people thrive on it. I can’t help him with that.

Kym

October 25th, 2010
9:45 am

@Blackfoote..y’all are some lucky jokers..cause if the Bungals had been on it in the first half like they were in the 2nd..they might have stewed y’all..oh and the Steelers have not lost a home season opener in seven years…SEVEN I like that number.. Dallas we coming for number seven….!!!

czBrat

October 25th, 2010
9:45 am

HiYas!

Have you ever met an ex of someone that you were dating and were slightly horrified at their association?
does it count that i mistook s/o’s ex for a 12-year-old boy? i’m not even exaggerating. she is small, skinny, short hair and was wearing baggy khakis and a baseball cap. :shock:

anywho, looks like i’m in the minority again. big surprise :lol: i have no prob with s/o meeting exes. i’m still cool with them and no dating regrets. i welcome any opportunity to meet and get to know his exes too.

decided to make it a late morning at work. weather is easing up so i guess i better get going.

Mo (aka Moeisha - I so hate Mondays)

October 25th, 2010
9:48 am

Morning All!

Should ex’s meet – nope, however it can/does happen. The man I dated before my ex hubby, he and I went to the same high school and church. So it was inevitable that the ex-hubby would meet him. And of course whoever I have a relationship with will meet ex-hubby because of Lil Mo. It is what it is….

Okay I need to down this cappucino, I’ll lurk for a while since I was late to work. Freakin ATL traffic…..

Simple Man 2.0...New and Improved!!!!

October 25th, 2010
9:49 am

CZ >>>>>>>>>> here <<<<<<<<<<<<< Simple Man 2.0!!!

(BTW morning)

Blackfoote

October 25th, 2010
9:49 am

Kym:

7 we’re speaking of number of wins this year are we?……..LOL

blue®

October 25th, 2010
9:50 am

One of the guys mentioned that he thought that a long history of bad dating choices was a red flag for him – i dont understand how conversations on the exs come up so often. i mean, what need do we have to discuss myex history. i can understand 1 or 2 may stand out in your mind and questions arise, but 1 or 2 does not make a pattern/history. to have developed that idea we have talked about way more than, say – my last ex, the father of my son, the one you know broke myheart, whatever…why are we talking so much about them in the first place?

Voter

October 25th, 2010
9:51 am

Oh, and since the topic has turned to football, Go COWBOYZ … But don’t forget about 11/2 …

Wise Diva

October 25th, 2010
9:53 am

Good morning! I hope everyone gets through this monsoon weather safely.

and yes what a great weekend for sports! Falcons and crimson tide won, I’m happy.

on topic: would it bother you if the ex was a stripper?

Kym

October 25th, 2010
9:54 am

@Blackfoote..I mean 7 as in Lombardi trophies..of which the Steelers have six..(the most of any other NFL team) how many y’all got?

2CPTG©

October 25th, 2010
9:56 am

g’morning, Mo….you aiiight this morning, sweetness….

Simple Man 2.0...New and Improved!!!!

October 25th, 2010
9:56 am

Come on now Miss Diva….. How many folks on here are going to openly admit to having dated a stripper????

czBrat

October 25th, 2010
9:57 am

imo, understanding past relationships (the good and the bad) helps us make better choices that build stronger relationships. i don’t ask anywhere near as many questions as s/o does, but he’s the ‘communicator’; so he needs info in order to process and understand. i tend to observe and connect the dots.

morning back atcha, simple. :)

Blackfoote

October 25th, 2010
9:57 am

WISE D:

I’m with that other Bama team, you know the one with big qb that’s running over anyone in his way. Plus their ranked no 3 in the nation.

2CPTG©

October 25th, 2010
9:58 am

“would it bother you if the ex was a stripper?”

is this question for the ladies?

And your Crimson Tide gon’ meet their match in the iron bowl this year…Auburn and Cam Newton ain’t playin!!!!

kimmie

October 25th, 2010
9:58 am

i dont understand how conversations on the exs come up so often. i mean, what need do we have to discuss myex history.

blue- This is just what I was thinking. Because ex conversations really never have come up much with me. The situation I mentioned concerned a dude I met in college that had a crazy ex. He talked about her quite a bit and it was obvious he missed some of that crazy.

I just don’t see the point. But a good friend was dating a guy whose ex stalked them and confronted them on a date. It was not pretty.

Kym

October 25th, 2010
10:00 am

@Wisey..if the ex’s girlfriend was a stripper I know I don’t want to met her. I know me..I will spend half the night trying to figure out what she did that I can’t do..plus I am a visual thinker..Nawww…it will only cause me stress.

Mo (aka Moeisha - I so hate Mondays)

October 25th, 2010
10:00 am

2CPTG – after I WOO-SAH I should be fine. Rain and ATL do not mix! How are you?

Blackfoote

October 25th, 2010
10:02 am

Kym:

That is very impressive and we have none but I’m telling this is going to be the year.

Kym

October 25th, 2010
10:02 am

Okay what word in my post is wrong..stripper or stress.

kimmie

October 25th, 2010
10:03 am

Simple – I don’t see what the big deal would be about admitting you dated a stripper. Who is anyone to judge? Folks come on here all the time talking about how they slept with folks on the first date, swing, menage’, you name it. Dating a stripper seems rather mild to me. Why suddenly get all “moral” about dating a stripper?

Kym

October 25th, 2010
10:03 am

@Blackfoote..bless your heart..the idea that the Aint’s got one and y’all don’t the pressure is too much.

Kym

October 25th, 2010
10:05 am

okay stripper post take two..I don’t want to know..again I don’t want to meet her.

Leggs ™

October 25th, 2010
10:06 am

Good morning everyone! 285 is a joke

C tha 1

October 25th, 2010
10:06 am

This is why its not a good idea to remain close friends with an ex. For example, my wife and I went to a party hosted by one of her close friends last night. Long story short, my wife was laughing at how the hostess had three of her exes all casually talking to one another and none of them knew they actually dated the hostess. I found that to be some apalling BS! In my past I’ve raised hell over smaller issues than to be in a situation where I was conversing with my exe’s past, present and probably future boyfriend. Fellas please beware of the FZ because a woman will put you in some of the most compromising positions if you bend to their will.

AmazonRed™ - A happy Raiders fan!

October 25th, 2010
10:08 am

Morning lovelies! I hope everyone had a FANTASTIC weekend!

Yeah…you can judge a person on their mate selection if they keep making the same stupid choices. I have a couple of girlfriends who are stuck on stupid when it comes to men. And keep dating the same TYPES of losers.

Leggs ™

October 25th, 2010
10:08 am

Was’t finished.

On-topic ~ I believe my ex-husband felt the same because when he saw his ex-wife in a mall while we were shopping, he ducked in some random store leaving me bewildered. What a wuss!

Kym

October 25th, 2010
10:09 am

Wait C tha 1…if they don’t know they dated her..what’s the harm..I mean why is that problem again? No harm..no foul.

Blackfoote

October 25th, 2010
10:10 am

I have no problems with strippers, Kym that did hurt bringing up the Aint’s.

Leggs ™

October 25th, 2010
10:10 am

How can I come in here and not greet my hubby! Good morning (muah)!

blue®

October 25th, 2010
10:11 am

dating a stripper – what difference does it make, strippers are people too. now, crazy stripper who lost her job for tricking, was always on antibiotics, and has a tendancy to always “happen” to be wherever you are, thats something i need to know. but just a stripper, makes me no never mind

Simple Man 2.0...New and Improved!!!!

October 25th, 2010
10:11 am

kimmie, Generally speaking, dudes have no problem admitting that we have sleep with stripper, and in alot of cases use it as a position to brag about, but again generally speaking won’t admit to having caught feeling for the same stripper. I guess it feeds the idea that one would have to be a sucker to fall for a person whose source of income is driven from their ability to sell a dream to guys…I won’t speak for the ladies but guys don’t want i know that their girl goes by the stage name of Alize’…

blue®

October 25th, 2010
10:13 am

@kimmie – yeah, stalking exs, that i need to know. other than a few specific situations, i think more often than not too much discussion on exs just causes unnecessary problems

Blackfoote

October 25th, 2010
10:16 am

Leggs:

Good morning my dear, I worried about your safety on the highway today. It wasn’t raining when I left.

2CPTG©

October 25th, 2010
10:17 am

I’m good, Mo, darling……shouldn’t I get a g’morning kiss……Leggs gave her hubby one….

Mo (aka Moeisha - I so hate Mondays)

October 25th, 2010
10:21 am

2CPTG -MMMMMUAH! All for you, you know Im not a morning person and had to pull it together first. :wink:

Leggs ™

October 25th, 2010
10:22 am

:lol: :lol: Gotcha thinking about my safety in inclement weather…how sweet! :lol: :lol:

C tha 1

October 25th, 2010
10:23 am

Kym the problem is that her friend had the nerve to even pull that and think everything is okay. Sure all her exes are her friends and have no claim to her. I just naturally place myself in each dude’s position. There is no way in hell I would allow an ex to place me in a social experiment (parties/get togethers) where everybody gets along and I chat up some dude about the football game when we both scored on the same field. Sorry not happening.

Kym

October 25th, 2010
10:29 am

@C tha 1..okay time out. Maybe I am missing something. She invited three guys she has dated..and possible been intimate with to her gathering. And you are saying that she should have told each of them that other guys she may have been intimate were going to be there..and because she didn’t tell them that was wrong? Okay how was it wrong? I mean what is the worst that could happen if they found out?

blue®

October 25th, 2010
10:33 am

@Kym – I mean what is the worst that could happen if they found out?
ok, channeling mr.blue here – either propositions to the hostess for some kind of orgy type thing, or brawl in the driveway cause somebody hinted that somebody else must not have been able to “handle” her….either way, make for some interesting stories to tell next time she sends out invites for a party at her place…..

Wise Diva

October 25th, 2010
10:34 am

I dated an “exotic dancer” before! Don’t judge me, dude had moves LOL

@ms_jones74

October 25th, 2010
10:37 am

I don’t want to meet his ex. I don’t want him to meet mine. To me, that’s just showing off… “look! I got over you! See! I found someone else!” Unnecessary. I also don’t stay friends with exes, so I think introducing someone to someone I never talk to would seem weird and totally transparent.

C tha 1

October 25th, 2010
10:38 am

Kym there is technically nothing wrong with it. Personally, I wouldn’t be down with it either way. I should mention mention that I’m not a proponent of remaining friends with an ex. That’s just me. I just found it to be odd that three dudes all kicking it Bro Man style with the common denominator (the hostess) and her friends all getting a big kick out of the situation.

needsomeadvice

October 25th, 2010
10:38 am

Ok – here is a dinger – I’m going to the Georgia/Florida game next weekend with my new girl friend of ~4 months. Out of the blue this weekend my Ex. left me a voice mail saying she would love to see me and all our tailgating bulldog friends at the GA/FL game. We split on good terms but it was all her idea – heck – I was devastated for a couple years after the split. Any how – I’d love to see her as it’s been nearly 7 years but I’m willing to bet my new girlfriend would not like this at all. So here is the deal that I need help with – I want to call my ex back and tell her the truth – that my new girlfriend wouldn’t appreciate her being there. I’d like to do this with out hurting her feelings as I’d like to stay on good terms with her. Any suggestions on how to break it to her?

Kym

October 25th, 2010
10:39 am

@blue..Oh good grief..men folk time out? You really think that by going to party like this..a brawl could break out? For what..you not with her..he’s not with her..so what do you care if he made her say owww? Okay to clarify..I am not in anyway interested in meeting someone’s ex..but if it happen and I didn’t know I had met the ex…well then Scooby Doo got away with it…if I did find out I am not going to go loopy and call her out like Bernice the Kid..why..cause he got with this and this is where it’s at.

Blackfoote

October 25th, 2010
10:40 am

Leggs darling it will be my duty to secure your safety at all times at any cost.

2CPTG©

October 25th, 2010
10:42 am

advice seeker…..dude, you’ve moved on! so just tell the ex….who cares if you hurt her feelings; shyt, she hurt yours when she dumped you…..no need to rekindle any subdued emotions…

YesSheIsCute

October 25th, 2010
10:42 am

I don’t know about dating a stripper but I dated one guy who dated a woman who looked like she could be the poster child for l’oreal in the middle east. She was beautiful and I was trying to figure out his purpose in dating me after dating THAT. Needless to say I ended up figuring out why he was dating me and it wasn’t my brilliant clever personality either. Lucky for me he didn’t get any so all’s well that ends well :D

2CPTG©

October 25th, 2010
10:45 am

advice seeker….dude, keep it movin! you say you’ve moved on, and got a new girlfriend….so keep it that way. when she says “she wants to see you,” in what way? You say it took you several years to get over her, then ain’t no need in rekindling old emotions….

Kym

October 25th, 2010
10:45 am

@needs..what you typed here sounds good to me. Hey ex girl..current girl would not be cool with me meeting you at the tailgate..sorry. Sounds good to me.

@Wisey..no one is judging you..if we all opened up our closets of silliness no telling what might fall out..There was this one guy who could have been a stripper…but I digress.

C tha 1

October 25th, 2010
10:45 am

Needsomeadvice just tell your current girlfriend that you found out that your ex is coming to the GA/FL game and will drop by you and your friends’ tailgate. It’s not like you invited her. Just introduce the two when it happens.

Voter

October 25th, 2010
10:46 am

Needsomeadvice – My suggestion, tell the EX that you are going to the game with your lady and that while it would be good to see her, you don’t want to make it an uncomfortable situation. Thanks for checking on a brotha, I appreciate it. Take care.

C tha 1

October 25th, 2010
10:46 am

Or you could keep it simple and do what 2CPTG says.

Kym

October 25th, 2010
10:46 am

Okay apparently I can’t type the s word..

blue®

October 25th, 2010
10:46 am

@Kym – keep in mind that, as its been explained to me, they would say dude who made the sly comment was the childish one, not whoever threw the first punch (cause we’d look at them all as childish)

Melo!

October 25th, 2010
10:46 am

Morning folks!

C tha 1?!

Ur wife’s friend is a weirdoo!
How u gon deliberately put ur exes in one room like that.
Shytt starter she is!

How does a man get devasted over a girlfriend break up? I don’t get that. A girlfriend,not wife!

Some if uall men(?) are just lame!

PrincessNik

October 25th, 2010
10:47 am

Morning all!

off topic: WAR EAGLE!!!!! Great Weekend!

ON topic: As small as the world is the ex and the newbie probably know each other or have been exposed to each other before having “you” in common. Now, i can say you probably won’t catch me trying to introduce them to each other, unless its to my daughters father……

2CPTG©

October 25th, 2010
10:49 am

“Okay apparently I can’t type the s word..”

me either…..got me feeling like them NFL players….gotta refrain from goin in “head first”…..

C tha 1

October 25th, 2010
10:49 am

Okay Kym the big deal is all three dudes are being laughed at behind their backs through passive/agressive manipulation.

Blackfoote

October 25th, 2010
10:51 am

Kym:

I’m riding the train with you, I wouldn’t care one how many dudes she had at the party my reason for being there would be for entertainment not a boxing match.

Leggs ™

October 25th, 2010
10:52 am

@needsomeadvice ~ perhaps it’s me, but that sounds punkish that you’re wondering how to tell your ex of 7 years that your new gf would not like the idea. Heck, call her and thank her for the invite, but you’ll going to the game with your gf and you hope her and her crew have a good time! Why are you even contemplating a good way to break the news unless you want to be able to call her up later with a different type of offer since you say you would “love” to see her”?? Those feelings have been dormant for the past 7 years, but they haven’t died!! Let sleeping dogs lie.

Wise Diva

October 25th, 2010
10:52 am

ok so creatively spelled cuss words will put you in the filter, so um yeah.

Kym

October 25th, 2010
10:53 am

But wisey I didn’t cuss. Not once today even in real life..I said stripper..and stress. I get in the filter for those words?

Kym

October 25th, 2010
10:54 am

Okay I get it Wise. I can’t call you by my nickname for you. That is what all the post have in common.

kimmie

October 25th, 2010
10:55 am

needsomeadvice – Why would you love to see her? Why are you concerned with staying on good terms with her? Sounds like you’re not over her. Because if you were, it should not be a big deal. It’s been 7 whole years, you both should have moved on by now. You have a girlfriend, she should have a boyfriend or at least dated some since the breakup. What’s with the “I don’t want to hurt her feelings” after 7 years? It would hurt her feelings to know you’ve moved on after 7 years?

Should be a non-issue.

Simple Man 2.0...New and Improved!!!!

October 25th, 2010
10:56 am

needsomeadvice …Which one is cuter???? LOL Just joking…
The question you need to ask yourself is where are things headed with the current? If you see a future, tell the old girl to keep it moving…If the current is just transitional, use it as a chance to knock something off the bucket list….

Melo!

October 25th, 2010
10:57 am

Morning!

Needsdvice?

Let ur ex come join you and your new boo and just watch and see who gets offended between the two of them.

U might even get a ménage after the game,who knows?

7 years and u still pining for her!

Either she gotta it like that or u Lame!

I pick Lame!

2CPTG©

October 25th, 2010
10:59 am

Diva….off topic….you still work at that one place (where they do research?) My cousin works there….know of any chic named Selicia? (not sure of her new married last name)

kimmie

October 25th, 2010
10:59 am

Either she gotta it like that or u Lame!

I pick Lame!

Melo – You’re a nut, but I agree!!!

Kym

October 25th, 2010
11:00 am

@Ctha1..oh ok..well then yes I can see why you are offended. If she was just running a game..testing whateva. Sounds like a silly game to me.

Leggs ™

October 25th, 2010
11:01 am

@kimmie ~ I see we are on the same page!

Da_Man!

October 25th, 2010
11:01 am

I don’t see a problem with exes meeting, given the situation. However, randomly meeting each other and an introduction where they are having some type of prolong conversation are completely different.

I think a bigger problem is when folk make it a quest to introduce exes to let the other know how they may have moved on or “check out what I’m dealing with now” type B.S.

SWWC … Just keep it moving!

Leggs ™

October 25th, 2010
11:04 am

It’s amazing how needsomeadvice is pratically salivating and willing to walk into nonsense all for memories of yesteryear. And some of you say, we women keep BS going!

kimmie

October 25th, 2010
11:04 am

Leggs – That situation and today’s topic should be entitled “Creating Problems When There Are None”!

YesSheIsCute

October 25th, 2010
11:07 am

@ Melo why a guy gotta be lame if he is devastated after a breakup?

blue®

October 25th, 2010
11:09 am

@Leggs/kimmie – lmao, good call…
@needsadvice – wth dude? you have a new gf, that should be the end of it. unless, as has been mentioned, you’re not over the old one. if thats the case, let newbie go, and do what you do. orrrr tell old girl you have new girl, if you happen to see her, be civil and make sure new girl knows she comes first. but this sounds, imo, like trying to play em both…make a decsion already…

2CPTG©

October 25th, 2010
11:09 am

cuteness…..it ain’t the devastation thats making him lame……but 7 years later??? like Melo said, ‘ol girl musta had that “snapper”!

Simple Man 2.0...New and Improved!!!!

October 25th, 2010
11:10 am

Cuteness…. IT’S BEEN 7 YEARS!!!!!!Thats not devastated,,thats pathetic!!!

2CPTG©

October 25th, 2010
11:13 am

Simple Man…..she musta been one of those that y’all say, “had his nose wide open!” one of them, let’s do it with the lights on, type……dude prolly got “bricked up” just hearing her voice….yeah, he’s still smitten..

Melo!

October 25th, 2010
11:15 am

Cutie?!

u hear how Trey songs says he discovered sex?
All young guys have been on that situation. If a high school dude gets confused by a high school break up,I can sympathize. An adult dude? Not so much,in fact I would put them in the lame category!
Saddened yes,and for a couple of days after it’s over.I can give u that.

Devasted??? Get the FOHere!

For Real

October 25th, 2010
11:15 am

What up blog fam…….

Yes you can judge a person on their dating choices. The choices that one make concerning the opposite sex speaks volumes about that person. If the last 10 dudes you have dated all have 6 babies by 7 different mothers then how far off target would I be when I assume you like drama and reckless men?

needsomeadvice: Dude, really…. 7 years and you somehow believe you have an issue???? Okay, Imma hit you in mouth with what you are really asking, After 7yrs you still hurt over being dumped and now you want a chance to sex your ex and dump her cause you think you the ish now. Look leave new girl home and get your closure. Just be ready for the aftermath.

SexyCool

October 25th, 2010
11:21 am

kimmie

October 25th, 2010
11:24 am

Question – What is the singer & the name of this song that’s out that says “No way in he— we can be friends. No, we can’t be friends.” It’s a slow song. It sounded a little like R Kelly, but it’s not him. I think it may be Trey Songz but I don’t know.

Leggs ™

October 25th, 2010
11:24 am

@kimmie ~ EXACTLY…That would be an excellent topic.

***PSA*** For those playing the kitty, thought I give you heads up, $5,303 is too low, but $6,103 is too high.

Carry on!

SexyCool

October 25th, 2010
11:25 am

needsomeadvice….

Why even bother returning the call? When you see her, speak. Be cordial. And keep it moving.
(It’s so not that deep.)

I'mnotcrazy

October 25th, 2010
11:25 am

Howdy everyone! I am currently dating a guy.. well for this hour atleast…. I ended up meeting his ex wife a couple of months ago and we became friends. We are now friends on Facebook. She is a good person and he is actually still in touch with her as well. People may think it’s strange but I don’t care. I got a new friend out of the deal.

SexyCool

October 25th, 2010
11:26 am

needsome – sounds like you are Taye Diggs caught in the remake of The Best Man.

Blackfoote

October 25th, 2010
11:26 am

I hope dude is getting the message to go on with life showing the new girl his affection.

i'm swiss™ (but you can call me Mr. Goodnight)

October 25th, 2010
11:26 am

Morning, folks.

On topic: Like it or not, every choice you make in life reflects on you, good or bad. Of course, we’ve all made bad decisions, but hopefully when you look at our full body of work, you will see a trend of better decision-making over time. So, is it fair to judge someone on their past decisions? Absolutely, because that is the best available indicator of the quality of future decisions.

Now, as far as introducing your current to an ex… WHY? Ex’s are ex’s for a reason. Move on. Unless there are children involved, I’ve never seen a good reason to keep an ex in the picture.

needsadvice — Dude… Let’s cut to the chase: What’s your real motivation for wanting to bring the ex back into the picture after 7 years? Because, honestly, I can think of only 2 possibilities:

1) You’re still pining for this chick.

2) The [intercourse] was so good, you’re willing to risk your current relationship for an outside shot at [copulating with] the ex again.

Don’t give me the “just want to be friends” crap, because no dude needs or wants a chick friend & anybody who’s been out of the picture for 7 years is clearly someone you don’t really need in your life.

i'm swiss™ (but you can call me Mr. Goodnight)

October 25th, 2010
11:28 am

Simple Man 2.0...New and Improved!!!!

October 25th, 2010
11:29 am

I’mnotcrazy ….Oh, yes you are!!!

Mo (aka Moeisha - I so hate Mondays)

October 25th, 2010
11:29 am

Kimmie – that is Trey Songz

kimmie

October 25th, 2010
11:30 am

Mo – Thanks! I thought so.

i'm swiss

October 25th, 2010
11:30 am

Morning, folks.

On topic: Like it or not, every choice you make in life reflects on you, good or bad. Of course, we’ve all made bad decisions, but hopefully when you look at our full body of work, you will see a trend of better decision-making over time. So, is it fair to judge someone on their past decisions? Absolutely, because that is the best available indicator of the quality of future decisions.

Now, as far as introducing your current to an ex… WHY? Ex’s are ex’s for a reason. Move on. Unless there are children involved, I’ve never seen a good reason to keep an ex in the picture.

needsadvice — Dude… Let’s cut to the chase: What’s your real motivation for wanting to bring the ex back into the picture after 7 years? Because, honestly, I can think of only 2 possibilities:

1) You’re still pining for this chick.

2) The [intercourse] was so good, you’re willing to risk your current relationship for an outside shot at [copulating with] the ex again.

Don’t give me the “just want to be friends” crap, because no dude needs or wants a chick friend & anybody who’s been out of the picture for 7 years is clearly someone you don’t really need in your life.

I'mnotcrazy

October 25th, 2010
11:31 am

How am I crazy Simple Man?

DreamsMaterialize

October 25th, 2010
11:32 am

Morning

C I’ve seen that scenario a few times. I’ve never seen it end well for the chick playing that game though. In the end she usually ends up being given the garden tool award for the night.

needsome what happens if ol’ girl shows up with HER new side piece? I don’t think you ready for that…

kimmie

October 25th, 2010
11:32 am

SCool – I thought the same as your 11:25. So not a big deal unless you make it one!

kimmie

October 25th, 2010
11:35 am

what happens if ol’ girl shows up with HER new side piece?

Dreams – You’re reading my mind again! Cause I thought about that too – in fact, that’s very likely to happen.

Kym

October 25th, 2010
11:35 am

Off-Topic..Prince is going to have the following folks on his tour..

Janelle Monae, jazz singer Cassandra Wilson, R&B group Mint Condition, Lelah Hathaway, Sheila E, Esperanza Spalding and James Brown’s legendary saxophonist Maceo Parker.

I can’t wait for this slice of music heaven..I am taking my son..it will be his first real life concert outside of festivals..might as well make it great. Sorry had to get that Out.

kimmie

October 25th, 2010
11:37 am

Kym – I MUST check that out! Music heaven, yes!

Simple Man 2.0...New and Improved!!!!

October 25th, 2010
11:38 am

Crazy….Folks don’t get divorced for nothing…What ever the reason is, you would have to be a little off to invite a person that was that close into the circle of people that you now deal with….

czBrat

October 25th, 2010
11:40 am

Crazy, very glad to hear it. always good to know more good people in my book. doesn’t mean you’re going to sit around comparing stories of sexual exploits with the guy you have in common. doesn’t mean you’ll be lifelong BFFs. no harm in knowing an ex as long as everyone can be grown up about it. but like i said before, that’s just how I see it.

Voter

October 25th, 2010
11:41 am

Bloggers, really, name calling? The dude asked for some advice, and your response is to think the dude is lame?

Sexycool, you said it like I said it, keep it moving … Maybe dude is not as skilled as some of the other cats and is a bit confused.

Didn’t yo mamma teach you that if you don’t have nothing nice to say, then don’t say anything at all ..

SexyCool

October 25th, 2010
11:42 am

DreamsMat – On that Gabby’s Garden deal, if you mention the code Gabby10, you will receive a 10% discount off the price.

Simple Man 2.0...New and Improved!!!!

October 25th, 2010
11:43 am

OK Crazy…Who initated the contact, you or her????

Voter

October 25th, 2010
11:44 am

correction, don’t have anything nice to say, then don’t say anything at all …

2CPTG©

October 25th, 2010
11:44 am

Voter, that’s how we get down ’round these parts……straight, no chaser….

Mo (aka Moeisha - I so hate Mondays)

October 25th, 2010
11:44 am

Kym – I SO have to got to be there for that concert!! OMG! Music at its finest!

:-)

October 25th, 2010
11:45 am

kimmie

October 25th, 2010
11:46 am

Voter – Folks have been called much worse on this blog. Lame is actually quite mild. People don’t tip-toe on here. Not making excuses, just saying.

i'm swiss™

October 25th, 2010
11:47 am

Morning, folks.

On topic: Like it or not, every choice you make in life reflects on you, good or bad. Of course, we’ve all made bad decisions, but hopefully when you look at our full body of work, you will see a trend of better decision-making over time. So, is it fair to judge someone on their past decisions? Absolutely, because that is the best available indicator of the quality of future decisions.

Now, as far as introducing your current to an ex… WHY? Ex’s are ex’s for a reason. Move on. Unless there are children involved, I’ve never seen a good reason to keep an ex in the picture.

needsadvice — Dude… Let’s cut to the chase: What’s your real motivation for wanting to bring the ex back into the picture after 7 years? Because, honestly, I can think of only 2 possibilities:

1) You’re still pining for this chick.

2) The [intercourse] was so good, you’re willing to risk your current relationship for an outside shot at [copulating with] the ex again.

Don’t give me the “just want to be friends” crap, because no dude needs or wants a chick friend & anybody who’s been out of the picture for 7 years is clearly someone you don’t really need in your life.

Voter

October 25th, 2010
11:48 am

2C … Then I guess I need to go in on some folks cause some of the stuff I’ve been reading is … I’ll leave it alone …

Kym

October 25th, 2010
11:48 am

@Kimmie and Mo..he hasn’t announce tour dates yet..but when he does..if Atlanta is not on there..I am going to where his Purple badness will be…this is not a sit down type of concert so I can’t have lame folks around me.

blue®

October 25th, 2010
11:49 am

ok, has the needsadvice guy just disappeared or something? lol

YesSheIsCute

October 25th, 2010
11:49 am

@ melo 2cptg and simple man….I get the point. I went back and re-read it…

Voter

October 25th, 2010
11:51 am

Swiss … Obviously, he definitely still has feeing’s for the chicka, but he did say they ended on friendly terms.. So what’s wrong with just wanting to be friends? Friends can be cut buddies … friends with benefits, plenty of diff types of friends..

Leggs ™

October 25th, 2010
11:51 am

@im swiss ~ see my 10:52. Her fragrance is still under his nose!

2CPTG©

October 25th, 2010
11:52 am

Voter…..get in where you fit in, bruh….is this your first time stumbling onto this blog?

SexyCool

October 25th, 2010
11:52 am

Oh…and needsome, as to o’girl, in today’s social network influenced society, everybody that you’ve always known somehow shows back up in your life. And she really could be just looking forward to seeing you because she appears to not have any bad memories associated with you.

Or…it could have been kind of a *heads-up* for you since you were “devastated for a couple of years.” (Why am I thinking Will Smith and Hitch now?)

Luvbug

October 25th, 2010
11:52 am

Is it fair to judge their ex?

No, but I will judge his decision making.

I don’t want to be the first person you’ve dated who aint mistreated you. For all I know, that could be your type, so it would make me more cautious about our longevity…especially if you start exhibiting male abuse syndrome…checking up on me…assuming I’m a liar off the bat and being openly mistrustful…accusing me of stuff out of no where…quizzing me…telling me ‘every woman is this or that way’.

Nope, not gone be able to do it.

I'mnotcrazy

October 25th, 2010
11:52 am

@Simpleman I got in contact with the ex wife because she had something of his that he wanted back but he was too proud to ask her. So I asked her and got the item back. We started talking and found out we had some things in common. The boyfriend didn’t like it at first but it’s not like we talk on a daily basis. They have been divorced for 3 years and she already remarried and had a baby so she is not trying to win him back.

DJ Sniper

October 25th, 2010
11:53 am

I’m like czbrat; I don’t have an issue with meeting ex’s. Hell, my wife was roommates with one of her ex’s when we first met (he had another gf at the time that was pretty much living with him and they are now married) and my wife has met a couple of my ex’s. In all situations, all parties were cool, so there was no drama.

2CPTG©

October 25th, 2010
11:56 am

crazy…..only females do stuff like that…..dudes ain’t bout to be friends with our SO’s ex…..don’t care how much we have in common…just doesn’t happen…

SexyCool

October 25th, 2010
11:56 am

I don’t think calling someone lame is name calling. I think of it more as a descriptive term. LOL!

Mo (aka Moeisha - I so hate Mondays)

October 25th, 2010
11:56 am

Kym – I feel the same way, I will have to go to where he is…I cannot miss that! Thats a helluva line up!

Kym

October 25th, 2010
11:59 am

Okay..I have to ask..why in the world would a guy send his girlfriend to ask his ex-wife to get something back for him. That just doesn’t sound right at all. I mean how valuable was this something? Nevermind that is not important but that situation just sounds off.

Melo!

October 25th, 2010
12:00 pm

Voter?

So u proposing that Needsadvice cuts it with his 7 year departed ex girlfriend?

and meanwhile I was thinking u are the good, pure girl that wants to clean the blog of all lane and foul mouthed talk? hmmmmmmmm!

Here :arrow: go that way to get your blog vest from that smiling young lady, Ms Leggs.

SexyCool

October 25th, 2010
12:01 pm

Sidebar – Cracker Barrel Beating – the more testimony I hear in this case, the more it seems like o’girl instigated that a$$ whoopin’ she got. And not saying that she deserved to get worked over like she did, but er um…the defense is painting her as having a reputation for being a betsy bad a$$.

http://www.ajc.com/news/clayton/victim-of-beating-at-690284.html

I’m just sayin’….

DJ Sniper

October 25th, 2010
12:01 pm

Kym, I don’t think the guy asked the gf to get the item back. Sounds like she took it upon herself to ask the ex-wife since she said the guy was too proud to do it.

Voter

October 25th, 2010
12:02 pm

2C – Been in and out … It’s all good …

Kimmie – I get you, just seems like needsadvice is really needing it by that post he sent. Probably scared him away … some can take it, others can’t … I see this is for the grown-ups, leave the kiddie stuff behind.

Simple Man 2.0...New and Improved!!!!

October 25th, 2010
12:02 pm

Crazy…If everything was ok with them, Why could he not get back whatever it was you guys were after???? I guess if it works for you, then cool, but If i were you, I would keep one eye open..at some point whatever caused their problems witll resurface….

I'mnotcrazy

October 25th, 2010
12:02 pm

@Kym He didn’t know I did it. I went behind his back and did it…

Voter

October 25th, 2010
12:03 pm

Melo, careful, you got the sexes mixed up … and all I said was there are diff types of friends, is that not a true fact?

2CPTG©

October 25th, 2010
12:03 pm

“He didn’t know I did it. I went behind his back and did it…”

and you say you’re not crazy…..ok.

I'mnotcrazy

October 25th, 2010
12:04 pm

@Simpleman He is lazy that is why… it was something that ment a lot to him and I thought I would surprise him by getting it for him. She was really cool about it and it works for us now. I guess I am saying when mature adults are involved then it can work!

YesSheIsCute

October 25th, 2010
12:04 pm

@ NEEDSADVICE seems like he’s still pining after the 7 years otherwise he wouldn’t need advice about this situation. It’s a no brainer. $10 dollars says he has been over analyzing this and she shows up with a beau.

Kym

October 25th, 2010
12:05 pm

@I’m crazy..I see.. okay well tell you what I am going to go over here and go to lunch..now when I come back..nevermind..Leggs could you go ahead and unlock my T-plated blog vest the one for emergencies cause I think I’mnotcrazy is gonna need it.

Voter

October 25th, 2010
12:05 pm

and MELO, I am not the one needing the advice or the direction.

For Real

October 25th, 2010
12:05 pm

I’mnotcrazy: but you like being close to it..

Kym: Yeah that’s one great lineup and I will go wherever he is playing. I’m going to see Sadie in Montreal.

kimmie

October 25th, 2010
12:05 pm

People do what works for them and all parties involved. Dealing with exes and past relationships and situations takes a level of maturity and sensitivity that some people don’t have. It depends on how and why the breakups occurred.

I have a play cousin that recently divorced after 10 years of marriage. They have 3 kids together. He has a new girlfriend and his ex-wife has a new man. He took a job in Florida, but comes up here periodically to see the kids and they visit him. They ALL – recently spent 4th July together – the exes & their newbies and the kids. Worked out all well.

A lot of folks could not handle that, and that’s okay too. Usually it’s just best to let sleeping dogs lie and make as clean a break of it as you can. Keep it moving.

i'm swiss™ (but you can call me Mr. Goodnight)

October 25th, 2010
12:06 pm

Voter — Absolutely nothing wrong with FWB’s, or whatever you want to call it… but let’s just be honest about what the actual motivations are… If he’s looking to [have the opportunity to partake in intercourse] again, then more power to him. But just don’t frame it as wanting to be “friends” — because that does sound lame… just sayin’…

czBrat

October 25th, 2010
12:06 pm

2can, s/o is actually baffled because one of his closest friends is very good friends with his wife’s first hubs. s/o says he simply cannot understand being friends with your wife’s ex.

thanx DJ. i’ve always been a big believer that those who have nothing to hide, hide nothing. i’m not talking about going out of our way to arrange ex meetups, but we also don’t go out of our way to avoid crossing paths with our pasts.

SexyCool

October 25th, 2010
12:07 pm

I think I just got sent to moderation. LOL! (will try agai)

Cracker Barrel Beating – the more I hear of the testimony, the more it seems like o’girl instigated that beating that she took. I’m not saying that she deserved to be worked over to the extent that she was. But…the defense painted her as a BestyBadAss. And even badasses get the brakes beat off ‘em sometimes.

I’m just saying…

2CPTG©

October 25th, 2010
12:07 pm

“He is lazy”

sure it ain’t more than that…..cause if it meant “that” much, then he woulda gotten it back himself….gon’ admit it, yo dude soft as hospital cotton!

For Real

October 25th, 2010
12:08 pm

“He didn’t know I did it. I went behind his back and did it…” – See?

Leggs ™

October 25th, 2010
12:08 pm

@Voter ~ he did say they ended on friendly terms, but it was all her idea. Sounds liked he “faked the funk” since he was truly devasted! Now, here’s a second chance for him.

i'm swiss™ (but you can call me Mr. Goodnight)

October 25th, 2010
12:08 pm

kimmie — What is a “play cousin?” Sounds kinda fun… ;-) :lol:

YesSheIsCute

October 25th, 2010
12:09 pm

@ SEXY COOL that’s the defense’s job…to make her seem like she instigated it or somehow antagonized hm. It’s not in their best interest to paint her as a victim she was (they do it all the time)….

DreamsMaterialize

October 25th, 2010
12:10 pm

Dreams – You’re reading my mind again! Cause I thought about that too – in fact, that’s very likely to happen.
kimmie you can probably set your watch to this happening.

SexyC ‘ppreciate that info.

i'm swiss™ (but you can call me Mr. Goodnight)

October 25th, 2010
12:11 pm

“I think I just got sent to moderation”

Oh, yeah…. PSA for anyone who gets “blog blacklisted” — just clear your cookies. Fort Knox, it ain’t… :lol:

Simple Man 2.0...New and Improved!!!!

October 25th, 2010
12:11 pm

Crazy…You almost had me ready to tap out, but now I am again ready to put you on the crazy train….Not the part with the padded cells, but the part where they keep the drama queens…It seems to me that he had no real intrest in whatever YOU wanted from her, but you stired the pot and jumped in anyway…Now tell us, and be honest, How many degrees of hell are you going to raise when you find ot that the two of them have been talking and you were not included??????

Melo!

October 25th, 2010
12:11 pm

Voter?

sorry for the sex mix up..

To try and get your view point,tell me why it would be ok to give space to an ex of seven(7) years when u already have a girlfriend?

Why and how would their feelings be that prominent to u under any circumstance?

Unless u see see a phlucking window? :lol: or ex had u on some exotic Indian/budha sex romp and u missing it?

SexyCool

October 25th, 2010
12:12 pm

YSIC – agreed which is why I worded it that way. However, when you have the following:

“She said two “very credible” witnesses said they saw Hill spit on West. The DA said Hill was, additionally, involved in two cases involving violent and verbal altercations and is currently charged with disorderly conduct from an incident this summer.

Hill is accused of threatening to shoot two boys, claiming they burglarized her home, Lawson said. “She threatened to put hollow-point bullets in their heads,” she said.”

Well….chick seems to have some issues.

kimmie

October 25th, 2010
12:12 pm

Swiss – LOL!!! Get your mind out of the gutter!! His mom & mine were best friends, like sisters. I call his mom “aunt”. We all grew up together. So he & his brother are like cousins. Yes, it was “fun” but in a much different way!! :)

For Real

October 25th, 2010
12:17 pm

“Hill is accused of threatening to shoot two boys, claiming they burglarized her home, Lawson said. “She threatened to put hollow-point bullets in their heads,” she said.” – Hmmmmm what’s Kym’s last name again?

blue®

October 25th, 2010
12:18 pm

@Simple – lmao, ok so im not the only one hearing Ozzy singing Crazy Train in here….How many degrees of hell are you going to raise when you find ot that the two of them have been talking and you were not included? seems kind of like a setup, dont it?

Voter

October 25th, 2010
12:20 pm

Melo – Why he would try to give space, I can’t answer that. But it must of felt good to him for HER to call him with the pitch of hey, how ya doing, would like to see you, etc, etc. Hummm. Maybe it was all that …

Mr. Moe

October 25th, 2010
12:20 pm

Good afternoon blog, I see yall are going in on the advice guy lol…I’m with everyone else, its been 7 yrs so just keep it moving. If yall happen to meet up just be cordial…if you’re not thinking of going anymore holla at me and I’ll take those tix off your hands :D …YSIC how are you doing today?

On topic:I’m not trying to see an s/o’s ex under any circumstance unless a kid is involved. I did have a weird situation once where this girl I wasn’t even in a relationship with talked about me so much her bf wanted to meet me….

Melo!

October 25th, 2010
12:20 pm

Sexxcool?

I don’t know all the facts on the issue nor what prompted the beating but I saw a clip of chic crying in court!
Not credible.
She looked,to me, like she is a drama Queen.

@I’mnotcrazy?!

ur guy is very tender soft or u are drama and shytt starter to the power 5!

That’s his ex wife and your are a girlfriend!
Stay in your lane….seems that lesson is lost on most people.

2CPTG©

October 25th, 2010
12:21 pm

“Oh, yeah…. PSA for anyone who gets “blog blacklisted” — just clear your cookies. Fort Knox, it ain’t…”

pssst….there’s another way too….but I gotta keep that one under wraps in case I get booted…

I'mnotcrazy

October 25th, 2010
12:21 pm

@Simpleman Whenever they talk he tells me. Which is not often because she is married with a child and the new hubsand doesn’t want her hanging around the ex. They were ground rules setup about this friendship that everyone respects. He truly is lazy though… He got a lot in the divorce settlement but never picked up his stuff… so she kept it….

Voter

October 25th, 2010
12:21 pm

Leggs, right, maybe he wants to have the upper hand this time around, but you risk a lot playing those silly games …

Voter

October 25th, 2010
12:22 pm

Swiss, you are right (frame it around friends), but do you honestly think he is going to come out and say anything else? I mean I know this is a discret blog and all, but still …

YesSheIsCute

October 25th, 2010
12:23 pm

@SEXYCOOL let’s say she did spit on him. The whoop up he gave to her was way beyond the means of simply defending himself. So he’s still legally liable for damages. From my self defense class I’ve learned that there’s a friction point in defending yourself when you get the aggressor off of you and unwilling to engage in further combat is the end. Anything in excess of that you could be liable for legally….

Also, I’m willing to give her the benefit of the doubt…i liken it to a person with wild sexual history…They still didn’t earn a rape just by being wild in that way or because they were dressed provocatively when it happened….

2CPTG©

October 25th, 2010
12:23 pm

“Whenever they talk he tells me. Which is not often because she is married with a child and the new hubsand doesn’t want her hanging around the ex. They were ground rules setup about this friendship that everyone respects.”

aha!!! I get it now…..all y’all asses crazy!

Melo!

October 25th, 2010
12:23 pm

Voter?
and it’s on HIM to say,’Thanx,but no Thanx, I am in a good place tight now’

But then again, I’m not denying him good ol pudy if that’s what he wants!

Simple Man 2.0...New and Improved!!!!

October 25th, 2010
12:26 pm

Ok….If you really believe that he and her are telling you and him every time they talk, you are blind as you are crazy……

YesSheIsCute

October 25th, 2010
12:27 pm

@ Mr Moe I’m ok how are you? Weekend was too short…. :cry:

2CPTG©

October 25th, 2010
12:27 pm

“They were ground rules setup about this friendship that everyone respects.”

when swinging goes wrong!

Voter

October 25th, 2010
12:29 pm

Melo, we on the same page … lol … I can’t believe I spent all morning discussing that …uggg … Go forth and Rock the Vote ..

Melo!

October 25th, 2010
12:29 pm

Cute 12.23!?

Stop that!

U spit on me when we having an argument, u getting a generous best down!

I make the rules and the courts will decide my punishment.

Like that councilman that called the other black guy’ cotton’ something…if it were me ge would have regretted that.
Talking about a Bach hand swift punch in the mouf.

Sometimes a man gotta show he’s a man!

kimmie

October 25th, 2010
12:30 pm

Dreams – Think about it. It’s been 7 years. That’s almost like being upset because your college sweetheart that you haven’t seen since graduation shows up to the 10 yr class reunion married with kids! What do you expect has been going on all these years? Or what’s been going on with YOU?!!!

Voter

October 25th, 2010
12:30 pm

Check my 8:53 … Power to the People …

Simple Man 2.0...New and Improved!!!!

October 25th, 2010
12:32 pm

psssst Leggs….I think Blackfoote has stepped out…You wanna go somewhere and do lunch????

SexyCool

October 25th, 2010
12:38 pm

Again, YSIC, I stated that she did not deserve to be worked over to extent that she was. And I agree that he should perhaps be made to pay her for that butt whoopin’ he dished out. However, she appears to be culpable in this matter as well.

You can’t just run up on folks, threatenin’ them and spittin’ on ‘em and expect them to do nothing. EVERYbody ain’t scared of her crazy behind. Seems like with just what she has been involved in THIS YEAR ALONE that she was spoiling for a fight, either promoting her @s$-whooping abilities or campaigning for the one she got. And based on that alone, I say…..”Be careful what you ask for.”

Mr. Moe

October 25th, 2010
12:39 pm

YSIC I’m good. This weekend was definitely too short

Leggs ™

October 25th, 2010
12:39 pm

“@Kym He didn’t know I did it. I went behind his back and did it…”

Sorry, but you’re making a case for your moniker. Do you see this as a form of “control?” I’m asking because if really wanted it back he would have asked for it. To let it remain with her, he resolved it with himself that’s its an item he’s willing to do without so as to not speak with her.

Must admit you took a chance. Glad it worked out for you and he didn’t blast you into next week. Some men are very moody when it comes to contacting their ex’s. He got his item back, you got a new friend and you still have your BF. Kudos!

SexyCool

October 25th, 2010
12:42 pm

I would hate to think what I would have to deal with if TheDude had someone like her as an ex.

I grew up with something them “Hit-my-hand-I’m-the-baddest-man” chicks, running around bullying people. The only thing that would humble them kinda people was somebody taking them on in a schoolyard fight and beating the brakes off of them.

blue®

October 25th, 2010
12:42 pm

@Crazy – ok, i gotta ask, what exactly was it that you got from the ex that he was too lazy (aka didnt really want it in the first place, but liked complaining about how she didnt give it back) to get?

For Real

October 25th, 2010
12:43 pm

YSIC: That’s why ole boy only got 6 months but ole girl still ain’t learned her lesson. She remind me of those anti-PC people that want to say what they want but don’t want the consequences of what they say.

I'mnotcrazy

October 25th, 2010
12:43 pm

Thanks Leggs! Boyfriend and I are on the verge of breaking up though. Nothing related to his ex wife though. He is just plain lazy. I just took charge of the situtation. I am glad it worked out as well. He was not too happy at first when he found out how I got the item but he called her and they talked and some unresolved feelings were let out and then resolved. Everything worked out great, Except that I am will probably keep her as a friend and kick him to the curb…

I'mnotcrazy

October 25th, 2010
12:44 pm

@Blue it was a picture of a beloved family member who passed away.

For Real

October 25th, 2010
12:47 pm

“Except that I am will probably keep her as a friend and kick him to the curb…” – That’s some Freaky Jason ish right there!

Sweet Pea

October 25th, 2010
12:49 pm

I feel there is no need to meet the ex unless there are minor children involved as one would want to know what kind of s/o you have around their kids if there is something that could lead to something more serious then it’s no problem with me.

@Kimmie 12:05pm….tried this(your post reminded me of Will and Jada) and unfortunately, it did not work for me as the kids were grown and gone and supposedly their communication was about the grandkids who lived out of state. I tried to maintain my cool, however it was too much as I’ve never kept an ex as a friend and thought maybe I will see if I can handle it now…NOT too much communicating and my thinking was you two should have remained married which I told him and HE IS STILL IN DENIAL just like NEED ADVICE! I’m not insecure just cautious as Madear says…WATCH the actions spoke and you can’t move forward until you get old girl out of your system NEED ADVICE

Simple Man 2.0...New and Improved!!!!

October 25th, 2010
12:50 pm

“Except that I am will probably keep her as a friend and kick him to the curb”

Ummmmmm..Hmmmmmmm…..How were you able to contact her??? Did he just happen to have her number lying around??

kimmie

October 25th, 2010
12:52 pm

SweetPea – I feel ya. Very special circumstances and situations. But most couldn’t deal with it. Especially when you know there are some underlying unresolved feelings still there.

Melo!

October 25th, 2010
12:55 pm

When I started living with my daughter,I was very civil to my ex and her relatives etc. They had lived with my daughte for ten good years so I had to be grateful for that.

However they turned out to be freaking jealousy bad foul mouthed people,treating my Queen as if she was the thief here.

So I had to put them in their place.
It’s always better to keep folks separate coz some people never let go!

i'm swiss™ (but you can call me Mr. Goodnight)

October 25th, 2010
12:57 pm

“Except that I am will probably keep her as a friend and kick him to the curb…”

:neutral:

Leggs ™

October 25th, 2010
1:00 pm

@im swiss ~ psssttt, there’s lots of play cousins in African American families. It’s those people you grew up with me and are closer to you than your own family or are an equal part of your family but no blood ties…

@Voter ~ yes you do. And, to come and ask advice on what he should do cuz he doesn’t want to hurt her feelings is a BIG SIGN that he’s contemplating taking that risk. His Id, Ego and Superego is going to have him twiddling his fingers all alone watching the next football game!

@SimpleMan ~ you got me right in the nick of time. Would love to have lunch esp. since I’m in your area. How about that place in between Checkers and IHop? Cool? See you in 15.

Blackfoote

October 25th, 2010
1:02 pm

psssst Leggs….I think Blackfoote has stepped out…You wanna go somewhere and do lunch????

“@Kym He didn’t know I did it. I went behind his back and did it…

Blog family do anybody else know about this? ARed where are sweatheart. I’m going back to train tracks and kick some more rocks. Damn

blue®

October 25th, 2010
1:02 pm

@Crazy – ok, i could see that one, trying to do something nice for him. however “Except that I am will probably keep her as a friend and kick him to the curb…” reminds me of Friends, and how Ross’s wife made a female friend who turned out in the end to be the one she left Ross for….hmmm….

k, dropping Fred for a haircut, and lunch!

Simple Man 2.0...New and Improved!!!!

October 25th, 2010
1:02 pm

Blackfoote….When did you get back???

I'mnotcrazy

October 25th, 2010
1:05 pm

@Simpleman They are friends on Facebook…

Simple Man 2.0...New and Improved!!!!

October 25th, 2010
1:07 pm

Crazy…What are the chances that he and the ex have been rabbit dancing all along????

Kym

October 25th, 2010
1:07 pm

Hmmmmm what’s Kym’s last name again?@For Real..don’t start joker..I am not going around popping caps like that.. unless you hurt my kid..then it’s on.

@Leggs..looks like you just got caught. Dang..@Blackfoote..if you like I can draw those papers up for you get you a package out today..for a small fee of course. No checks..

i'm swiss™ (but you can call me Mr. Goodnight)

October 25th, 2010
1:07 pm

Oh, and I’ve got to call BS on the whole “he’s just to lazy to go & get ____”… If the thing was that important to him, he would have got to get it. Apparently having it, to him, wasn’t worth the trouble of dealing with the ex. It’s good that you’re letting him out of Shawshank kicking him to the curb, though… Sounds like he’ll be better off, even if he doesn’t know it yet…

I'mnotcrazy

October 25th, 2010
1:10 pm

@I’m Swiss you don’t know me from a two dollar bill. How do you know he is living in Shawshank?? It could be me living in Shawshank!!! Don’t judge unless you know the situation homie….

SexyCool

October 25th, 2010
1:10 pm

NotCrazy. What makes you say he is lazy?

Kym

October 25th, 2010
1:10 pm

ex. It’s good that you’re letting him out of Shawshank kicking him to the curb, though… Sounds like he’ll be better off, even if he doesn’t know it yet…<<<This is the hardest I have ever seen Mr.G come out the box..You must have had extra Wheaties today!

Blackfoote

October 25th, 2010
1:12 pm

@SimpleMan ~ you got me right in the nick of time. Would love to have lunch esp. since I’m in your area. How about that place in between Checkers and IHop? Cool? See you in 15.

OH DAMN…..Killing me softly!

I'mnotcrazy

October 25th, 2010
1:13 pm

@Sexycool he is lazy because all he does is sit on the couch and scratch and smell his naughty parts. Has a hard time working 8 hours… Thank God he has a good job but he is just lazy!!

czBrat

October 25th, 2010
1:13 pm

However they turned out to be freaking jealousy bad foul mouthed people,treating my Queen as if she was the thief here.

ok, melo. so you tried to do the right thing and those folks did not reciprocate. does that mean that going forward it’s a blanket mistake to meet or allow to meet exes and such in future relationships? just asking.

Leggs ™

October 25th, 2010
1:14 pm

I’m cracking up to see Blackfoote’s post right under mine as I’m walking out the door.

Melo!

October 25th, 2010
1:15 pm

Imnotcrazy??

U sound like those aggressive kinda chics who will literally grab a dude by the nutts just for him to mound you?

Like Swiss said,dude is lucky u moving along?

U dangerously and psychotically aggressive!

I'mnotcrazy

October 25th, 2010
1:17 pm

I am wonderful and any guy would be lucky to have me!!!

SexyCool

October 25th, 2010
1:17 pm

How long have you been in this relationship?

I'mnotcrazy

October 25th, 2010
1:19 pm

Almost 2 years

i'm swiss™ (but you can call me Mr. Goodnight)

October 25th, 2010
1:19 pm

“psssttt, there’s lots of play cousins in African American families. It’s those people you grew up with me and are closer to you than your own family or are an equal part of your family but no blood ties…”

Leggs — Yeah… I think that happens in pretty much ever culture, except for my people… :lol: We tend to grow up either off the grid, like the Unibomber way out in the country, or in the ‘burbs behind gates & generally don’t trust (or like, in many cases) any “outsiders”… Oh, those silly crackers… :lol:

Melo!

October 25th, 2010
1:21 pm

Cz?!

To answer your question,I think I can relate to your own character on this issue. Coz I’m kinda like urself.

However,people and ex especially sometimes have agendas that u may not know of. Do it’s safer to operate from an arms length.

Especially female ex(exes). They can be freaking jealousy h03s!
Queen was guarded from jump but I was not,until I started to see how manipulative yet were on my daughter etc.

So I had to put them on a regimen.

SexyCool

October 25th, 2010
1:21 pm

How long has he been a lazy crotch scratching couch potato that doesn’t like to work?

Kym

October 25th, 2010
1:22 pm

@Im can I have my vest back you gonna need to load up on howler missles and some of those MIB weapons for this lot.

Sweet Pea

October 25th, 2010
1:22 pm

@Kimmie
Especially when you know there are some underlying unresolved feelings still there.

Yes, now moving right along as “x” now marks the spot! LOL

@ Melo It’s always better to keep folks separate coz some people never let go!

I totally agree if your current s/o is worth it and you care not to go back to the place from whence you came from.

I'mnotcrazy

October 25th, 2010
1:23 pm

@Sexycool LOL Since we moved in together a year ago.

Kym

October 25th, 2010
1:24 pm

@Imcrazy..was he lazy and scratching when you met him? At what point did you just get sick and tired of being sick and tired of the scratching? **Seriously I am having a hard time with this whole story..**

Celisea

October 25th, 2010
1:24 pm

Leave exes, past relationships, flings,
whatever where they are. No need in dredging up stuff when it’s been laid to rest and ESPECIALLY when you have a pretty decent thing going. Now if folks just sorta happen to be all in the same place same time….introductions? Why not? No need being rude :)

Blackfoote

October 25th, 2010
1:25 pm

HELLO is there a doctor out there, I need a new heart fast the old I had been squished.

YesSheIsCute

October 25th, 2010
1:25 pm

@ simple man what is rabbit dancing?

Celisea

October 25th, 2010
1:26 pm

Needadvice reads like he’s still interested. 7 years….he should be long past

I'mnotcrazy

October 25th, 2010
1:26 pm

@Kym I got sick and tired of it recently. I work 8+ hours a day, cook and clean and I am a full time student. I get tired of seeing him on the couch doing nothing but a scratch and sniff test. I have been very angry these past few months and have recently started lashing out at him. I feel like Amber on Teen Mom minus the physical abuse.

i'm swiss™ (but you can call me Mr. Goodnight)

October 25th, 2010
1:27 pm

“<<<This is the hardest I have ever seen Mr.G come out the box..You must have had extra Wheaties today!"

Kym — Well, Wise tries to blacklist me anytime I post as my usual naughty, yet jovial self, so I guess now I’ll just have to entertain myself by being an [noun, referring to an argumentative or abrasive individual]. ;-) :lol:

Leggs ™

October 25th, 2010
1:28 pm

@Blackfoote ~ it was just lunch. Didn’t know I had to check with you on who I was going to lunch with, esp last minute lunch plans like this one! I swear to you, I am not dusting those shoes off this time!!!!

i'm swiss™ (but you can call me Mr. Goodnight)

October 25th, 2010
1:28 pm

Simple Man 2.0...New and Improved!!!!

October 25th, 2010
1:30 pm

Cuteness,Rabbit Dancing = relations…

YesSheIsCute

October 25th, 2010
1:31 pm

the whole scratch and sniff visual virtual reality was just too much for me….i think he would have been the goner the first time I saw such behavior. ugh disgusting…. do your thing girl

kimmie

October 25th, 2010
1:34 pm

Leggs – Girl, these blog husbands are very controlling, didn’t you know that? Good thing mine is overseas!! Cause I’m not “checking in” for nobody!!LOL!!!

Hmmm

October 25th, 2010
1:34 pm

Ok, I met a pretty decent guy. We were dating for a few months before he opened up about a past relationship that he shared for three years. He went on about how they were in love, he spent time with her kid, met the family and friends, etc. What got me was when he stated that this chick was married the whole time they were dating! They weren’t in a relationship; she was committing adultery, allowing you to spend time with their child while daddy was at work, and introducing you to family and friends for bragging rights. I had to drop his arse for that madness. WTH, how were you heartbroken over some foul mess like that, and why would you even care two cents about this chick, because I’m sure she’ll do the same to you too! I had to give the side eye and a quick goodbye on that note…

kimmie

October 25th, 2010
1:35 pm

YES – You & me both – yeah not a good look! :shock:

For Real

October 25th, 2010
1:35 pm

“all he does is sit on the couch and scratch and smell his naughty parts.” – How does one know this if they are at work?

“I am wonderful and any guy would be lucky to have me!!!” – That’s what Madusa said too.

Raqi

October 25th, 2010
1:35 pm

Imnotcrazy, just reading page 3 of your comments you read like the former “ThirdWheel” that drops in every 3-4 months talking about her lazy overweight live in boyfriend of two years. It is you isn’t it?

i'm swiss™ (but you can call me Mr. Goodnight)

October 25th, 2010
1:36 pm

“<<<This is the hardest I have ever seen Mr.G come out the box..You must have had extra Wheaties today!"

Kym — The purity-popo are just getting on my nerves today… I get filtered or even banished anytime I try to post as my usual naughty, yet jovial self, so I guess I’ll just have to keep entertained by posting as [a jerk]:lol:

kimmie

October 25th, 2010
1:37 pm

Hmmm – Did he know the whole time she was married? Or did he find out late in the game and as a result, was heartbroken?

i'm swiss™ (but you can call me Mr. Goodnight)

October 25th, 2010
1:37 pm

“This is the hardest I have ever seen Mr.G come out the box..You must have had extra Wheaties today!”

Kym — Well, I get filtered or even banished anytime I try to post as my usual naughty, yet jovial self, so I guess I’ll just have to keep entertained by posting as an [noun: an abrasive or argumentative individual]:lol:

kimmie

October 25th, 2010
1:38 pm

ThirdWheel

Raqi – YEAH!!!! Sounds just like her!!!

Blackfoote

October 25th, 2010
1:38 pm

Kym:

Excuse me for falling apart and I do apologize must pull myself together………Kym you say you have something for me? Well I’m available now.

Melo!

October 25th, 2010
1:39 pm

Imnotcrazy?!

u not only aggressive but u desperate too.

It’s showing?

For Real

October 25th, 2010
1:39 pm

“I had to give the side eye and a quick goodbye on that note…” – Translation: After 3yrs of hounding ole boy about his previous girl he finally told me that she was the only chick he has ever loved.

Hmmm

October 25th, 2010
1:40 pm

Kimmie: He knew she was married, and was a willing participant…smh

Leggs ™

October 25th, 2010
1:43 pm

Your behind ain’t available until you get your dusty shoes from under my bed and Kym has delivered papers to me. In the meantime, this is Berta Butt and don’t let me snatch you a new a-hole!

I am so very sorry. I’m back to being myself…Berta Butt has been sleeping for almost 7 years now. What happened to make her resurface? At I need, this is all your fault…..

Blackfoote

October 25th, 2010
1:44 pm

Kimmie:

He didn’t know I did it. I went behind his back and did it…

And I’m being controlling?……….LOL

I'mnotcrazy

October 25th, 2010
1:45 pm

No, I am new to this blog.

Kym

October 25th, 2010
1:45 pm

@Blackfoote..Got you all set her you go.. wait you do have cash right? Cause I don’t take checks for these blog divorces and annulments..Speaking of which..someone ask me to draw some stuff up and they have yet to bring a payment. Times is hard..I am not working for free..but I digress..

**the key to blog divorces is catch them while they still hurt and mad..**

czBrat

October 25th, 2010
1:46 pm

However,people and ex especially sometimes have agendas that u may not know of. Do it’s safer to operate from an arms length.

Especially female ex(exes). They can be freaking jealousy h03s!

and i don’t disagree, melo. if you know an ex (or their fam)is likely to be a prob then i can see you keeping that distance. but to have a blanket policy against it is something i just don’t get. lots of valid points and examples have been given here; it’s simply not my approach. that is all.

2CPTG©

October 25th, 2010
1:47 pm

ummm….Kym….you said, “I am not going around popping caps like that.. unless you hurt my kid..then it’s on.”

didn’t you get onto me and Purp just last week, cause we said we’d go all out to protect ours….ain’t this kinda the same thing?

AmazonRed™ - A happy Raiders fan!

October 25th, 2010
1:48 pm

Leggs – Were you really just on here pushing up on my man?!

kimmie

October 25th, 2010
1:48 pm

Blackfoote – Just be your true, controlling blog-husband self and don’t worry about other folks behaviors! :lol:

2CPTG©

October 25th, 2010
1:49 pm

wonder why my wife, Raqi, ain’t said nuttin to her hubby…..we ain’t seen each other all weekend, and you cain’t speak?

Kym

October 25th, 2010
1:49 pm

@2C..no it is not..in the case we discuss the kid had hurt someone else’s child and the parent knowingly covered it up. Don’t go there..busting a cap in a sick prev..is not the same as protecting my kid when I know he has committed a crime and harmed others..

Hmmm

October 25th, 2010
1:50 pm

For Real: I’m trying to filter through that BS translation…he was screwing her for three years while we only dated for a few months. And he brought the convo up, not me. He was great up until he mentioned that he fell in love with some chick that was cheating on her husband and allowing him to play step-daddy or uncle while the child’s dad was at work providing for his family…I am a firm believer that some things should remain dormant because people will judge you based on your past experiences.

Leggs ™

October 25th, 2010
1:53 pm

@ARed ~ if you read the blog correctly, I was minding my beeswax when he rolled up on me.

Blackfoote

October 25th, 2010
1:54 pm

Kym :

I wasn’t talking about those papers……I thought you had something else that I could hang on to.

Leggs ™

October 25th, 2010
1:58 pm

OMG ~ I’m cracking up. My hubby’s looking for a ta ta pacifier…

Simple Man 2.0...New and Improved!!!!

October 25th, 2010
2:01 pm

Ared….Whats up sweetness?I missed you this weekend….

Simple Man 2.0...New and Improved!!!!

October 25th, 2010
2:03 pm

Private thought to myself….I wonder if Ared knows I have a signed Bo Jackson # 34 Raiders Jersey hanging in the house???

blue®

October 25th, 2010
2:03 pm

ok, so we’re still wondering if Imnotcrazy is really crazy (hey have you emailed me about the meetngreet? could make for an interesting evening….) and Blackfoote is divorcing Leggs over lunch with SimpleMan, wth?

and yes the barber jacked Freds haircut…wth….

Leggs ™

October 25th, 2010
2:05 pm

@blue ~ stop instigating…he already said he wasn’t looking for those type of papers…he’s working through this small hiccup.

Blackfoote

October 25th, 2010
2:06 pm

Ared:
You’re back…….you got to tell Simple Man 2.0 to leave my blog wife alone. We were buds walking on the train tracks kicking rocks together now I’m over here all alone. I even went with him to the Titantic wrekcage site to help him get you away from Billy Zane now look me. I turn my back then I hear a pssssst sound. Leggs know I love her but I’m trying to swallow a big pill now.

2CPTG©

October 25th, 2010
2:07 pm

y’all be killin me with this “Fred” character……freakin hilarious!!!!

Melo!

October 25th, 2010
2:07 pm

Cz?

so u ain’t even gon look ur boo’s ex up and down when u introduced?

Just ‘oh,nice meeting EX… U 2 can sit here and reminisce while I go watch this lifetime movie in the other room?

:lol:

blue®

October 25th, 2010
2:07 pm

@Leggs – see this is what happens, blog keeps moving while you’re typing, you get all off track, ok so no divorce…but, wait, what is this about ta ta pacifiers?

blue®

October 25th, 2010
2:09 pm

oh, and sticking in a side not here:

Incoming message from the blue lady re:meetngreet – firstly, looking to make final invite list this week, so if you haven’t emailed me yet, what your problem issss (blue73079@yahoo.com). Secondly, for all those in Lurksville, Let me tell someting to jyou (for the parents, yes I stole that from Happy Feet, love that movie, their making a second one…but I digress) please vacate Lurksville and join Blogsville b4 rsvp to a meetngreet. We’d love to meet you and all, but hazing is a lot more fun for all parties anonymously rather than in person, so lets get that on out of the way.
end of transmission…..

YesSheIsCute

October 25th, 2010
2:14 pm

@ Hmmmm am a firm believer that some things should remain dormant because people will judge you based on your past experiences

amenq

Melo!

October 25th, 2010
2:14 pm

Blue?

I’m not in favor of blogmeet unless there is intent on all parties to find ‘common ground’.

(said in the most suggestive but politically correct and non too direct sexual way)

2CPTG©

October 25th, 2010
2:16 pm

so which one of y’all is “Fred’s” primary caretaker….

Leggs ™

October 25th, 2010
2:16 pm

@Melo ~ no need to tell us how you meant it. We all know the avenue your posts slither on! Too funny with you attempting to break it down for us.

Leggs ™

October 25th, 2010
2:17 pm

@2C ~ That would be blue!

czBrat

October 25th, 2010
2:17 pm

so u ain’t even gon look ur boo’s ex up and down when u introduced?
i’m not that insecure. but i think you already knew that. :wink:
and as for reminiscing … if that’s what she came here for, she can give it her best shot. i’ll be in the other room watching Snapped.

2CPTG©

October 25th, 2010
2:18 pm

cuteness, call me, I need to holla at you prior to this meet n greet…..

2CPTG©

October 25th, 2010
2:19 pm

Diva…..can I put my phone number on here?

Leggs ™

October 25th, 2010
2:20 pm

@czB ~ Snapped was good last night. She almost got away with it. Well, not really!

blue®

October 25th, 2010
2:21 pm

@Melo – bummer, and i was gonna suggest we play naked twister, just for you and your “common ground”….oh well….

Trevor0529

October 25th, 2010
2:22 pm

Chillin on my porch in BLogsville resting my sore and tired body after a good weekend in Myrtle Beach.

Interesting happenings on Wisteria Lane in Blogsville. Blog hubbies dippin’ out on their blog wives. Blog divorces. HA!! HA!!

:lol:

I must have been the only dude in Blogsville that did not take a blog wife.

Kym

October 25th, 2010
2:27 pm

@Blackfoote..see you trying to get me caught up..

@blue..I am not emailing until it has been confirmed that there will be no invisble poking going on.

Melo!

October 25th, 2010
2:28 pm

Where is I am!?
@blue?
I was just thinking and imagining:

u think some female might show up pantyless? and all the while the dudes on there don’t even know of it?

I’m donating 10 Motel 6 weekend overnite coupons(bed and hearty breakfast) to the first 10 dudes responding affirmatively to Blues email on the Meet!

YesSheIsCute

October 25th, 2010
2:30 pm

@2CPTG ok but not sure if I can go I have a series of out of towns but will try! :)

Melo!

October 25th, 2010
2:32 pm

2Can?

cute seems like a nice girl. A real keeper. So kind and tender hearted.

Ima help u get her!

Raqi

October 25th, 2010
2:32 pm

Hello 2CPTG. How are you today?

2CPTG©

October 25th, 2010
2:32 pm

call me, lil mama….let’s talk about this….

blue®

October 25th, 2010
2:33 pm

@Trevor – ooohh, Myrtle Beach..did you bring me anything?
@Kym – i’ll bring the crossbow for keeping order….
@melo – u think some female might show up pantyless – pro’ly, we do seem to have a frisky bunch….I’m donating 10 Motel 6 weekend overnite coupons – now thats hilarious….

2CPTG©

October 25th, 2010
2:33 pm

“Hello 2CPTG. How are you today?”

that’s all…..so bland and dry??? no kisses?

Simple Man 2.0...New and Improved!!!!

October 25th, 2010
2:35 pm

Anybody seen Ared??? I know she was here a minute ago…I know i did not fix this damn tie for nothing…..

blue®

October 25th, 2010
2:35 pm

@2C – did you email me? and you called for Freds caretaker? what can i do fur you?

YesSheIsCute

October 25th, 2010
2:37 pm

LOL @ Melo you guys do realize I have a boyfriend right? :lol:

Raqi

October 25th, 2010
2:37 pm

Uh, NO. Not even in playland.

czBrat

October 25th, 2010
2:38 pm

u think some female might show up pantyless? and all the while the dudes on there don’t even know of it?

you’re like a dog with a bone, melo. and please don’t twist that. please.

2CPTG©

October 25th, 2010
2:38 pm

“@2C – did you email me?”

ummmmm, my ‘puter ain’t akkin’ right…..what’s yo phone number, that way you can just gimme the details…

Simple Man 2.0...New and Improved!!!!

October 25th, 2010
2:39 pm

Cuteness…And????

2CPTG©

October 25th, 2010
2:40 pm

damn…..not even in playland…..ouch!

I'mnotcrazy

October 25th, 2010
2:40 pm

@blue I am sane…. I am not crazy.. Just a normal person just like you all.

Trevor0529

October 25th, 2010
2:42 pm

@blue, just a medal I got for running in the Myrtle Beach half marathon

Leggs ™

October 25th, 2010
2:44 pm

“…Just a normal person just like you all.” Everything is relative :lol: :lol: :lol:

2CPTG©

October 25th, 2010
2:44 pm

“Just a normal person just like you all.”

have you not been reading today?

Melo!

October 25th, 2010
2:45 pm

Cute?

we know but what ur boyfriend got to do with it? This is about you not some ??????? somewhere!

2Can is a really nice guy too,I can tell you that!
Let Blue have your email and we take it from there!

Blackfoote

October 25th, 2010
2:45 pm

Leggs:

Honey come and get your man off these tracks I’m tired.

YesSheIsCute

October 25th, 2010
2:46 pm

lol @ simple man really? you guys are a trip!

2CPTG©

October 25th, 2010
2:46 pm

Melo…..I may need your help with Raqi….she’s a tough one…

YesSheIsCute

October 25th, 2010
2:50 pm

@ Melo I need those motel 16 coupons for my out of town travel! Can I get one?

czBrat

October 25th, 2010
2:50 pm

congrats, Trevor! glad you had a great weekend :)

Raqi

October 25th, 2010
2:50 pm

2CPTG, I don’t mean to come off so callous. My mind is in another place right now. I am just reading along now to try to get myself to think about something else.

2CPTG©

October 25th, 2010
2:51 pm

real talk tho, Raqi…..I got mad props for you lil mama…..not in deed, nor thought…..ye’en bout to violate your vows!!!! that’s whats up!

blue®

October 25th, 2010
2:51 pm

@2C – we may have to work out another system, smoke signals or something…mr.blue would kinda worry about my sanity for giving out my number to a dude ive never even seen…just saying…well he kinda wonders about my sanity anyway but thats another story….
@crazy – ok, in just glancing at that i saw “i am not crazy” and started to say cool beans…but then you added the “Just a normal person just like you all” and that did not help your case at all, lol….
@Trevor – awww, your gonna let me wear your medal…awww :oops:

2CPTG©

October 25th, 2010
2:52 pm

awwww, I typed that before I saw your post….you ok? everything good on the home front?

Raqi

October 25th, 2010
2:56 pm

You are correct 2CPTG, I can’t even play like that.

Everything is good. I got some unexpected news but everything is fine.

DreamsMaterialize

October 25th, 2010
2:56 pm

blue
put me down for the meetup joint… dreamsmaterialize@yahoo.com
I’ll be scoping out the rebounding ex blog wives. Please be sure to have your court ordered asset settlements in hand.

Simple Man 2.0...New and Improved!!!!

October 25th, 2010
2:59 pm

Cuteness….Just to show you that we are upstanding guys, Why don’t you have your “boyfriend” come and play golf with me, while you go and get to know the fellas… ( Recognize that ultimate wingman move….)

Leggs ™

October 25th, 2010
3:00 pm

@2C ~ are you asking my apprenctice to post her number here. No fret, I have it (718) 7 8 4-7325!

@blackfoote ~ If a little lunchdate is going to send you over the edge, I’mma need you eat more Wheaties! Ok, I got a glimpse into your sensitivity. Come grab my hand. Hurry don’t you hear that choo choo a coming….to be con’t.

Wise Diva

October 25th, 2010
3:00 pm

don’t put your phone number, sir..ya’ll email me if you want Mr. 2’s phone# *maybe I should charge $*

Wise Diva

October 25th, 2010
3:01 pm

oh wait, I need your phone#

Blackfoote

October 25th, 2010
3:04 pm

Leggs:

Thanks darling I’ll be home waiting.

blue®

October 25th, 2010
3:05 pm

@Dreams – i gotcha. “I’ll be scoping out the rebounding ex blog wives” – well d@mn, and here i thought you wanted to meet me, hmph whatever :roll: … lol

Mo (aka Moeisha - I so hate Mondays)

October 25th, 2010
3:05 pm

Kym – they have started posting SOME date for Prince’s upcoming concert. Right now, all dates are NYC dates, starting Dec 14th.

Dreams – sorry I missed all the festivities but I did make it close to the AUC. My folks were tailgating at Washington High for their homecoming as well. Did you have a good time?

Raqi

October 25th, 2010
3:06 pm

On the topic: I really don’t see the reasons for introducing the ex to the present.

Earlier this year my and mine were out and this woman kept looking in our direction. I jokingly said “you must have left her heartbroken”. When I pointed her out to him he laughed and told me he did date her in college but no introduction took place. We went on, had our dinner and left.

Leggs ™

October 25th, 2010
3:11 pm

@Raqi ~ and that’s exactly how it should have been. No need to get up from the table, introduce each other. If she had come over to your table, all you had to do was drop kick her before the second word came out of her mouth. I kid, I kid about the drop kick!

jarvis

October 25th, 2010
3:11 pm

In general, “fair” is a juvenile concept that should only be applied when dealing with children.

DreamsMaterialize

October 25th, 2010
3:12 pm

don’t put your phone number, sir..ya’ll email me if you want Mr. 2’s phone# *maybe I should charge $*
Ok Madame Wisey!

well d@mn, and here i thought you wanted to meet me, hmph whatever
Now blue it can be me and you alllllll day if you’re giving mr. blue his walking papers. otherwise, I gotta roll with what I can have, not what’s forbidden. Are you forbidden mama? ;-)

SexyCool

October 25th, 2010
3:14 pm

I guess I never commented on the topic. I have met a few exes because of the kid connection. In fact, Shthead’s ex and I are still friendly. We’re even FB friends and share the occasional comment on a status message, but that’s about it. It’s not like we are about to become bosom buddies and start hanging out.

But for all intents and purposes, the kid connection aside, I see no reason for the co-mingling of ex plus new.

DreamsMaterialize

October 25th, 2010
3:15 pm

sorry I missed all the festivities
Mo you definitely missed it. It was probably one of the best homecomings ever…off the chains. I was real nice alllllllll day. lol

blue®

October 25th, 2010
3:21 pm

@Dreams – ima gonna say, as others have so eloquently said, “im not blog married”, lol
@SexyC – Shthead – whoa 8O, lmao

blue®

October 25th, 2010
3:21 pm

Mo (aka Moeisha - I so hate Mondays)

October 25th, 2010
3:22 pm

Dreams – oh I could tell! But after that Making Strides walk I was done! Im surprised I even made it to that side of town!

czBrat

October 25th, 2010
3:22 pm

interesting, Mo. cuz i recently came across a sweet deal at the new yorker hotel that’s good through mid december, and we seriously considered booking it for a just-because getaway. now i’m wondering if we can somehow make that work with the show dates. hmmmmmm. thanx for the heads up.

Mo (aka Moeisha - I so hate Mondays)

October 25th, 2010
3:29 pm

czBrat – yeah I am keeping a serious eye out for those concert dates in case I have to schedule a road trip, babysitter, etc! I need to know so I can be there!

Wise Diva

October 25th, 2010
3:29 pm

I’d be willing to do almost anything for Prince tickets….almost. anything.

SexyCool

October 25th, 2010
3:30 pm

Yep, blue. Shthead. It’s what me and all my friends call him. I think so little of him that I refuse to call him by name.

Lucinda

October 25th, 2010
3:31 pm

Hello all, been a while.
Haven’t read comments, don’t know whether topic has changed…

But if on topic:

Hellz no! I dated somebody rough, then
Married somebody who turned out crazy, so I’m not letting any prospects meet either of them. Turning a new leaf, and all that. Sleeping dogs and crappy exes can lie asleep.

No way is the new man meeting them. Ever ever ever

Melo!

October 25th, 2010
3:32 pm

So let’s see:

dudes will make chics meet with exes and sometimes exes become friends
But

Chics will make ex dudes meet but undercover

conclusion:

Abc is always right then:chics are sly ass ;) &;,$5@84?!

AmazonRed™ - A happy Raiders fan!

October 25th, 2010
3:37 pm

Anybody seen Ared??? I know she was here a minute ago…I know i did not fix this damn tie for nothing…..

Ha ha…sorry I had work to do! I thought being your girl meant I could stay at home! Guess not!

But good look on that Bo Jackson jersey! Wow!!!

Simple Man 2.0...New and Improved!!!!

October 25th, 2010
3:38 pm

I have been sitting here thinking…I can’t think of any situation that will make me ok with being buddies with the dude that use to give my girl a tongue bath!!! He might be cooler than a fan, but I would have no interest in kicking it with him….even for a minute…..

AmazonRed™ - A happy Raiders fan!

October 25th, 2010
3:39 pm

Blackfoote – Has Leggs come back to her senses yet? :lol:

Simple Man 2.0...New and Improved!!!!

October 25th, 2010
3:41 pm

Ared…If you like not only can you stay home, But I will give you cart blanche to re-decorate the crib if you choose to….All i ask is that you be gentle in the kitchen…I waited 7 months to get these appliances deklivered…..

YesSheIsCute

October 25th, 2010
3:42 pm

SIDENOTE: The ex told me his current belle saw me on facebook and began to feel insecure….I’m like what for? lol

Leggs ™

October 25th, 2010
3:42 pm

@ARed ~ now how come I have to come to my senses…I didn’t do anything wrong. I told you I was minding my beeswax when he asked me. Step to him! I’m innocent I tell ya, innocent…..

Lucinda

October 25th, 2010
3:47 pm

Who touts their own cuteness? Ppl who don’t have much to offer . Just sayin

AmazonRed™ - A happy Raiders fan!

October 25th, 2010
3:47 pm

I told you I was minding my beeswax when he asked me. Step to him! I’m innocent I tell ya, innocent…..

Yeah…I’ma deal with Simple Man…later! But Blackfoote seems to be upset with you too!

Simple Man 2.0...New and Improved!!!!

October 25th, 2010
3:48 pm

deklivered…..= delivered… (sorry)

AmazonRed™ - A happy Raiders fan!

October 25th, 2010
3:52 pm

I like Simple Man…I ask for an inch…he gives me a mile! I don’t need to rearrange your crib. At 40+ I hope you’ve evolved from the days of a futon and a bear skinned rug. :lol:

Leggs ™

October 25th, 2010
3:53 pm

@ARed ~ that’s all I wanted to get out of you…I’ma deal with Simple Man…later! Women tend to pounce on the woman first leaving the man scathed free….just wanted to see how long it would take before you said something toward HIM! :lol:

Yeah, Blackfoote was upset, but I think we’ve ironed things out!

Simple Man 2.0...New and Improved!!!!

October 25th, 2010
3:57 pm

Ared…I have a Futon ( Sunroom) and a Bear Skin rug ( need you ask)..But House could be displayed in BH&G Thanks to Cindy at “By Design” In Norcross and Andrew at Bova in Buckhead!!! :D :D ( Shameless plugs for interior dscorator friends…)

DreamsMaterialize

October 25th, 2010
3:59 pm

“im not blog married”,
blue ok Imma take that as the green light then. let the tango begin!

oh I could tell! But after that Making Strides walk I was done! Im surprised I even made it to that side of town!
Mo yeah it might be better that you stayed away then. In your limited physical capacity, you might not have been able to fight the dudes off you. ;-)

2CPTG©

October 25th, 2010
3:59 pm

in the thinking man pose:

“wow, dude got a Bo Jackson jersey….wonder if my wife will like this popsicle orange, ‘ol school Tampa Bay, Doug Williams jersey….or this one signed by John McKay….”

Mr. Moe

October 25th, 2010
4:00 pm

@YSIC lol sounds like your moniker definitely fits you

DreamsMaterialize

October 25th, 2010
4:00 pm

At 40+ I hope you’ve evolved from the days of a futon and a bear skinned rug.
ARed and the blacklight; don’t forget the blacklight! lol

YesSheIsCute

October 25th, 2010
4:03 pm

@ Lucinda…not sure if you’re comment was directed at me but who said that it had anything to do with the way I looked that she felt insecure?????

Raqi

October 25th, 2010
4:04 pm

SimpleMan, you know Kjell Bratengen?

YesSheIsCute

October 25th, 2010
4:06 pm

@ Mr. Moe cute definitely fits me it’s not like my moniker says yessheisfinerthanhalleberry…….

blue®

October 25th, 2010
4:08 pm

@ARed – never got the whole futon thing, if you want a bed, buy a bed, you want a couch, buy a couch….convertable furniture doesnt work for me….
@Dreams – now i have that John Legend song stuck in my head….

SexyCool

October 25th, 2010
4:09 pm

Actually…YSIC…I’m thinking of changing my screen name to HalleBerryWishesSheWasAsCuteAsMe.
LOL! (totally teasing)

DreamsMaterialize

October 25th, 2010
4:10 pm

Dreams – now i have that John Legend song stuck in my head…
blue I’m ready to go right now, I’m ready to go right now…

Leggs ™

October 25th, 2010
4:11 pm

HBWSWACAM ~ ugly moniker! A bit too much :wink:

Simple Man 2.0...New and Improved!!!!

October 25th, 2010
4:11 pm

Raqi…sorry but I don’t know that person…

Dreams..whats wrong with the black light???? How else am i going to get this Velvet Elvis to fully shine?????

Hmmm

October 25th, 2010
4:12 pm

Random question for the men (and women): what would be the perfect gift for my beau…and please don’t mention ménage a trios or bondage or whips! LOL

czBrat

October 25th, 2010
4:15 pm

what would be the perfect gift for my beau…
is he a Prince fan? :lol: :lol:

2CPTG©

October 25th, 2010
4:15 pm

Hmmmmm….since we don’t know you, nor your husband….umm, how about a ” ménage a trios or bondage or whips!”

tell me he wouldn’t like that…..shiiiid, you too, probably!

YesSheIsCute

October 25th, 2010
4:15 pm

@hmmm depends what is he into? if he’s into cars get him a gift card to summit in mcdonough :D

blue®

October 25th, 2010
4:18 pm

@Dreams – i like a guy who sings ;)
@Hmmm – and please don’t mention ménage a trios or bondage or whips – well you didnt leave much left did you…let mee see…..

Raqi

October 25th, 2010
4:18 pm

Simple, when you mentioned By Design and your interior decorator friends I thought maybe you knew him.

kimmie

October 25th, 2010
4:20 pm

Hmmm – So was the guy you mentioned that was messing with the married woman someone from way back or the recent past?

Hmmm

October 25th, 2010
4:20 pm

We have been doing the long distance thing since he lives in VA, and I’m just about ready to throw in the towel.

Leggs ™

October 25th, 2010
4:22 pm

“….and I’m just about ready to throw in the towel.”

That doesn’t sound like you want to get him a gift.

Hmmm

October 25th, 2010
4:23 pm

kimmie: you and your SO were made for each other, because nothing gets past you…LOL

Raqi

October 25th, 2010
4:24 pm

Hmmm, what’s the occasion for the gift?

YesSheIsCute

October 25th, 2010
4:24 pm

lol @ leggs I was thinking that too…Don’t get him one! Or get the so called gift to yourself :D

Raqi

October 25th, 2010
4:25 pm

Leggs, it seems a “towel” would be the perfect gift. LOL

Hmmm

October 25th, 2010
4:26 pm

Leggs: very thin line for us. I’m yearning to be with him, but at the same time, I wish he were closer so we could spend more time together.

blue®

October 25th, 2010
4:27 pm

“….and I’m just about ready to throw in the towel.” doesnt sound like a great gift-giving attitude…just saying….

Leggs ™

October 25th, 2010
4:28 pm

Good day everyone…see you guys tomorrow afternoon!

@Hmmmm ~ while you’re contemplating a gift or a kick to the curb, would you please leave the E.O.D. quote…thank you much!

Ciao ~

kimmie

October 25th, 2010
4:29 pm

Hmmm – Gifts should come from the heart. You know your man and what he likes. But if you are ready to throw in the towel, sounds like your heart is not in it.

Simple Man 2.0...New and Improved!!!!

October 25th, 2010
4:29 pm

Raqi..Oh….I was in the market to get a new look for my home and Was Introduced to the folks over there.My friend Cindy and a young lady named Angela were so helpful that they ended up reworking most of my home.

Willie Dynamite

October 25th, 2010
4:31 pm

Afternoon All,

popping in/out today and the craziness continues. Is it just me?

Simple Man 2.0...New and Improved!!!!

October 25th, 2010
4:32 pm

“I’m yearning to be with him,”

Sounds like the best gift you can get him is a Plane ticket, a hotel room, and a bottle of Gensing…..

DreamsMaterialize

October 25th, 2010
4:35 pm

Dreams..whats wrong with the black light????
Simple ain’t nothin wrong man. If ARed is down, then run with it.

Dreams – i like a guy who sings
blue well I have lauded for my oral talents. Can I “serenade” you? ;-)

For Real

October 25th, 2010
4:35 pm

“I’d be willing to do almost anything for Prince tickets” – Zipppppppppppp Wise meet Almost and Anything.

For Real

October 25th, 2010
4:36 pm

“….and I’m just about ready to throw in the towel.” – Translation: Fine I’ll marry yo azz!!!

YesSheIsCute

October 25th, 2010
4:36 pm

Hmmm

October 25th, 2010
4:38 pm

It’s his birthday and he’s being flying back and forth to see me… contemplating a surprise tip for his b-day.

Kimmie~And yes, I had a summer fling with dude…am I wrong for stepping out on him??

kimmie

October 25th, 2010
4:39 pm

Hmmmm – Sounds like the best gift you can give him, the both of you, is TIME. A nice long weekend.

Purple Rain

October 25th, 2010
4:39 pm

Judge the ex? I don’t care about my wifes ex, he knows she is in my care. My wife and my ex, have had stare downs and words before. I tell her not to worry about her but we are from a small town, with an even smaller Italian community, so they have crossed paths before. It always leads to good sex :) I question anyone who keeps in contact with their ex.

Hmmm

October 25th, 2010
4:39 pm

For Real~ you are as real as they cum!

For Real

October 25th, 2010
4:40 pm

“I question anyone who keeps in contact with their ex” – But what if your ex is a 3rd cousin?

czBrat

October 25th, 2010
4:40 pm

between this I went behind his back and did it… (from someone who is “not crazy”) and this I’m just about ready to throw in the towel. (after asking gift ideas :shock: ), i’m just about through with you folks today.

ciao! :lol: :lol:

Willie Dynamite

October 25th, 2010
4:41 pm

How bout you give Dude the Truth and let em know it just aint working for you. I am not the smartest dude around but if you ready to throw in the towel AND you already got a boy-toy then it might be time to K.I.M.

For Real

October 25th, 2010
4:42 pm

“For Real~ you are as real as they cum!” – And i cum as often as i can. Hey are looking to have a 17 second fling?

DreamsMaterialize

October 25th, 2010
4:43 pm

if you ready to throw in the towel AND you already got a boy-toy then it might be time to K.I.M.
That’s what I told her the last time she came out to see me.

Purple Rain

October 25th, 2010
4:43 pm

For Real, 3rd cousin on the mother or fathers side? Mothers side is a no no Fathers sides is okay. LOL

Hmmm, you don’t deserve him I hope he does you and your sister while wearing the gift you bought him. LOL

YesSheIsCute

October 25th, 2010
4:43 pm

@ PR why do you question anyone who keeps in contact with their ex?

Luvbug

October 25th, 2010
4:43 pm

But what if your ex is a 3rd cousin?

:shock: :shock: !!

kimmie

October 25th, 2010
4:44 pm

Hmmm – I can’t tell you you were wrong. That you have to decide for yourself. Being that you’re long-distance and not married, you could be in an open relationship for all I know. I can’t judge and you have to live with yourself and how you’re treating VA guy.

But sounds a little hypocritical, how you looked at “fling” dude sideways for his past indiscretions, when you were “flinging” too!

blue®

October 25th, 2010
4:45 pm

@Dreams – you know there is this empty office right next to me, serenade away ;) ….
@For Real – you know, when she said that i wondered how long b4 one of you caught her, lol….

For Real

October 25th, 2010
4:46 pm

Blue: Ummm can please get Hmmmm’s email and invite her to the meet and greet before Kimmie says something.

kimmie

October 25th, 2010
4:47 pm

Gotta roll, you guys have a safe trip home.

Be easy!

For Real

October 25th, 2010
4:48 pm

Dayum!!! Too Late!!!

kimmie

October 25th, 2010
4:49 pm

4Real – Giving you a nice “Lana” stance and stare! :wink:

Purple Rain

October 25th, 2010
4:49 pm

YesSheIsCute, because once you move on to someone new the past needs to stay the past, if it is worth maintain a friendship with your ex let that be grounds for a relationship. No self respecting guy is going to have his new lady friends with her old flame, call it insecure but it really is not. It’s respect for the new relationship and person.

blue®

October 25th, 2010
4:51 pm

@For Real – i cant force her to give it to me now, lmao…..
@Hmmmm – GIMME YOUR EMAIL ADDY, 4 I UN-ORGANIZE YOUR PAPER CLIPS!!
@For Real – is that good?

why does my office smell like burnt rice?

For Real

October 25th, 2010
4:51 pm

“Mothers side is a no no Fathers sides is okay.” – You got that backwards PR, the bloodline flows through the Father. For Real now wondering if that talking goat on PR’s farm is really a goat.

Hmmm

October 25th, 2010
4:52 pm

PR~I’ve learned from my mistakes…yes, I took him for granted, ventured out and dated other men, but in the end, they couldn’t compare to what we had. I haven’t been with anyone other than him since June of this year, so I doing darn good. I just wish he were closer, laying next to me at night, waking up to each other EVERY morning, and keeping these handsome, charming men from approaching me. Its hard when the love of your life is miles away

For Real

October 25th, 2010
4:54 pm

Kimmie: “Giving you a nice “Lana” stance and stare!” – I just got a semi!!!

Blue: “For Real – is that good?” – Imma need you stand on something to make you appear tall and menacing.

Purple Rain

October 25th, 2010
4:54 pm

For Real, my 3rd cousin is a goat. LOL

Hmmm, you should tell him and let him make a decision.

blue®

October 25th, 2010
4:54 pm

@Hmmm – seems to me theres only one thing left for it, MOVE….altho, please be sure he’s on the same page b4 you do cause that would just be messyy…

blue®

October 25th, 2010
4:55 pm

@For Real – how about i just put on my stripper boots and grab my paddle? will that do?

Purple Rain

October 25th, 2010
4:56 pm

It is going to be messy once he finds out you stepped out on him. Everything in the dark comes to light eventually, women think that only works when a man has hidden something. LOL

Hmmm

October 25th, 2010
4:57 pm

blue~thanks!
PR~And I’m sure you went thru the same thing before your wife moved here…..

YesSheIsCute

October 25th, 2010
4:58 pm

@ PR I guess but I think there are exceptions to the rules.

For Real

October 25th, 2010
4:59 pm

Hmmmmm: Your pain comes thru your writing. I have a suggest that just may work. Now, hear me out, how about on those nights that you are missing him in your bed I come thru and we can pretend that he is me and I is him. I’ll even let you call me by his pet name “Pay for this”.

For Real

October 25th, 2010
5:00 pm

Blue: “how about i just put on my stripper boots and grab my paddle? will that do?” – Grab a whip too and send Mr. Blue for a Tab and I be right over.

YesSheIsCute

October 25th, 2010
5:00 pm

@ PR only comes to the light if you let it for a long distance…most times it comes to light but not always……….

Purple Rain

October 25th, 2010
5:00 pm

Nope never stepped out on her, was in a sticky situation that could have gone bad if I agreed to but I didn’t and I told her about it… and how do you know my wife moved “here” even though we are not “there” anymore. What is you real blog name? LOL

YesSheIsCute, yes I am sure there are exceptions :)

Purple Rain

October 25th, 2010
5:02 pm

YesSheIsCute, or it may come to light on a visit when the SO is in town and borrows your computer and you have messages that you deleted from your inbox but not your sent folder. LOL

For Real

October 25th, 2010
5:04 pm

“Nope never stepped out on her, was in a sticky situation that could have gone bad if I agreed to but I didn’t and I told her about it” – Did that situation involve your 3rd cousin?

Purple Rain

October 25th, 2010
5:05 pm

For Real, on my Father’s Side. LOL

blue®

October 25th, 2010
5:05 pm

@For Real – a whip and a paddle, hmmm….sounds kinky…safeword issss….

Hmmm

October 25th, 2010
5:06 pm

Hope you like the quote(s):
Live the life you love, love the life you live!
and another one:
Love people and use things, don’t use people and love things!

Simple Man 2.0...New and Improved!!!!

October 25th, 2010
5:07 pm

“how about i just put on my stripper boots and grab my paddle?”

I know you are just my Number one Blog friend, But ughhhhhhh…..Thats kinda sexy!!! :) :) :)

YesSheIsCute

October 25th, 2010
5:08 pm

@PR true but there are exceptions to the rule though….but for the most part yeah, it does come to light. But if its a long distance thing…usually doesn’t.

Purple Rain

October 25th, 2010
5:08 pm

The safe word is “PNEUMONOULTRAMICROSCOPICSILICOVOLCANOCONIOSIS”

Purple Rain

October 25th, 2010
5:09 pm

YesSheIsCute, so does that make it okay? Or what if the shoe was on the other foot?

For Real

October 25th, 2010
5:10 pm

Blue: “safeword issss….” – Don’t Stop! or “That’s Mr. Blue’s Car”

Purple Rain

October 25th, 2010
5:11 pm

I get tunnel vision so I probably would not even hear the safe word, but I would hear a garage door opening.

Purple Rain

October 25th, 2010
5:11 pm

I get tunnel vision so I probably would not even hear the safe word, but I would hear a garage door opening.

Purple Rain

October 25th, 2010
5:12 pm

See that, LOL tunnel vision

Purple Rain

October 25th, 2010
5:13 pm

You can’t judge some people by their “ex” because obviously their ex is still their current in addition to you too. LOL

czBrat

October 25th, 2010
5:14 pm

No self respecting guy is going to have his new lady friends with her old flame,
whatever his flaws, s/o is not lacking in self-respect. what he DOES have is the utmost respect for me and the choices I make as to MY friends.

For Real

October 25th, 2010
5:16 pm

PR: I know right, while I’m marveling at how red I have made Blue’s azz sound seems to pass right by my hears but the sound of 84 Chrysler K car I can hear miles away.

blue®

October 25th, 2010
5:17 pm

@Simple Man – ive got this nice pair of thigh high black boots, lace all the way up the front….wait, platonic friends, right…how bout them Steelers….
@PR – well d@mn, that safe words the way to get a he!! of a spanking…
@For Real – Dont Stop may not work so well….

For Real

October 25th, 2010
5:19 pm

“what he DOES have is the utmost respect for me and the choices I make as to MY friends” – That’s right Brat you tell them, we still on for patron shots/you trying on bras and panties/friend night right?

Purple Rain

October 25th, 2010
5:19 pm

CanalZone, who asked you? LOL They are supposed to be “yalls” friends not his and yours. LOL, Baby I am going to go see my ex girlfriend, my current friend do her new pole trick at the “Casey’s Stripclub” LOL

2CPTG

October 25th, 2010
5:22 pm

y’all still in here?

For Real

October 25th, 2010
5:23 pm

“Dont Stop may not work so well….” – I can’t tell you how many times I have heard that before.

Purple Rain

October 25th, 2010
5:23 pm

Purple Rain

October 25th, 2010
5:24 pm

For Real, LOL “K car”

Simple Man 2.0...New and Improved!!!!

October 25th, 2010
5:24 pm

blue…if you are willing to keep it just between us, I am ok with revisiting that whole platonic friends thing….

Purple Rain

October 25th, 2010
5:25 pm

If a guy is cool with you talking to your ex just know he probably has an ex or two that he talks to just to balance things out….in his mind. LOL

Purple Rain

October 25th, 2010
5:25 pm

Simple Man, New and improved? LOL, you moved on to greener pastures?

blue®

October 25th, 2010
5:27 pm

@2C – im still here, with the assorted nuts….
@For Real – just saying, chick tells you dont stop, and you stop….quick way to get the “WTF” stare…..

2CPTG

October 25th, 2010
5:27 pm

so it’s just us fellas here, right?…….

let’s compare notes…..I got the goods on _____________

Purple Rain

October 25th, 2010
5:28 pm

blue, they are not assorted…that is just my birth mark

2CPTG

October 25th, 2010
5:28 pm

shoot, blue’s here…..forget comparing notes….

Purple Rain

October 25th, 2010
5:29 pm

2CPTG, golf ball and garden hose. LOL

For Real

October 25th, 2010
5:31 pm

“just saying, chick tells you dont stop, and you stop” – Blue I promise right here and now to never stop when you tell me “Don’t Stop” and I put that on everythang I love.

For Real

October 25th, 2010
5:33 pm

2C: I need the goods on all the blog chicks starting with some pics.

blue®

October 25th, 2010
5:33 pm

@Simple Man – see, im not sure if you can handle Ms.Blue…
@PR – and how do you explain the rest of these foo…folks?
@2C – lol, sorry…i was about to say, guess im one of the guys again lol

Purple Rain

October 25th, 2010
5:37 pm

blue, you are our cool friend who happens to be a girl. You are the one who brings more chicks to the pad..LOL

Purple Rain

October 25th, 2010
5:41 pm

I just remembered we are an hour behind/

2CPTG

October 25th, 2010
5:41 pm

blue, what are you still hangin around?

2CPTG

October 25th, 2010
5:43 pm

“2C: I need the goods on all the blog chicks starting with some pics.”

you prolly know more dirt than I do…..

2CPTG

October 25th, 2010
5:44 pm

eh Purp……I know you said you don’t smoke no more, but have you heard/indulged in this new stuff…..”herbal incense”?????

man!!!!!!

czBrat

October 25th, 2010
5:45 pm

If a guy is cool with you talking to your ex just know he probably has an ex or two that he talks to just to balance things out….in his mind.
he would have to have a very small mind to do that JUST because i’m friends with an ex. ijs.

nite all :)

blue®

October 25th, 2010
5:45 pm

@PR – lol, so thats it…
@2C – i always work late on Mondays…stuck in this cubicle, and its cold in here…..

Simple Man 2.0...New and Improved!!!!

October 25th, 2010
5:45 pm

Purple…No moving on just sayin…

blue….I can handle mine, You just make sure you can support your end of the deal…. :D :D :D

Purple Rain

October 25th, 2010
5:45 pm

2CPTG, no I haven’t but since I am no longer in corporate I am going to start back :) Herbal Incense? Do tell!

Purple Rain

October 25th, 2010
5:50 pm

CanalZone, LOL.

blue, :)

2CPTG, that stuff is legal and can’t be traced, that’s righteous

The Situation

October 25th, 2010
5:53 pm

Everybody’s like, “He’s no item! Please don’t like him.
He don’t wife ‘em, he one nights ‘em!”
Now she don’t like him, she never met him
Groupies try to take advantage of him, he won’t let ‘em
He don’t need ‘em, so he treats ‘em like he treats ‘em
Better them than me, she don’t agree with him
She’s mad at that, he’s not havin that
So those opposites attract like mag-a-nets
She sees more than the Benz wagon, the friends taggin along
with a flashy braggin on the song
She gets a glimpse of and she likes that
He 2-ways her, so she writes back
Smiley faces after all of her phrases
Either she the one or I’m caught in “The Matrix”
But let the +Fish-burne+
Red or green pill, you live and you learn, c’mon

Purple Rain

October 25th, 2010
5:54 pm

blue®

October 25th, 2010
5:56 pm

@Simple Man – oohh, i do like a challenge, just keep in mind im bringing Patron…..lets see who climbs out the basement first….
@PR – you know, asked dudes to explain that one of the guys thing, and they get all tongue tied….

Purple Rain

October 25th, 2010
6:01 pm

blue, we always need a cool girl to be a spy

Simple Man 2.0...New and Improved!!!!

October 25th, 2010
6:09 pm

blue…its on!!!

Note to self…make sure the stirups on the gyn table are adjustable….

blue®

October 25th, 2010
6:14 pm

@PR – spy, lol, 00blue…its funny, one minute one of the guys, next minute their all tongue tied, inappropriate ideas obviously running thru their heads…must admit its kinda fun, lol
@Simple Man – lol, bring it!

nite all!

Simple Man 2.0...New and Improved!!!!

October 25th, 2010
6:22 pm

“all tongue tied”

blue does not know the half of it…..

Wise Diva

October 25th, 2010
6:24 pm

You guys are supposed to be gone :)

Purple Rain

October 25th, 2010
6:28 pm

Wise we are still here :)

Wise Diva

October 25th, 2010
6:36 pm

too funny! Turn the lights off and lock up? Have a great evening!

Purple Rain

October 25th, 2010
6:37 pm

Of course darling!

Purple Rain

October 25th, 2010
6:37 pm

Turning the lights off and locking all of the doors. Heading up into the DJ area to practice my skills :)

I am whatever you say I am

October 25th, 2010
6:39 pm

Hey Wait!!!! who turned out all the lights!!!?!?!?!?!?
F**** I’m on the toilet!!!!!!!

….Looking at whom my exes have dated prior to me, let’s just say that by dating me they upgraded to Louis the 15th!!! I’m telling you!!!! They won’t deny it either.