Is it fair to judge their ex?
A bunch of friends of mine had an interesting discussion the other day about people we totally regret dating. Heaven knows I have a squad of some pretty interesting characters in my dating history. One of the guys mentioned that he thought that a long history of bad dating choices was a red flag for him. It made him wonder about the choices that were made.
Now we all have people that we probably should never ever, ever have dated. At the same time, isn’t it all a part of the whole “finding the one” process? You try on a couple of great shirts until the right one fit? You may rock a butt ugly shirt that does not compliment you for far too long, but does that mean you are doomed to be in ugly shirts forever?
Awful analogy aside, what do you think about a person’s past mate selections? Have you ever met an ex of someone that you were dating and were slightly horrified at their association?
Is it a good idea to introduce your current significant other to an ex? Should the two ever need to speak to each other? I vote no, but what do you think?
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Hmmm
October 25th, 2010
4:39 pm
For Real~ you are as real as they cum!
For Real
October 25th, 2010
4:40 pm
“I question anyone who keeps in contact with their ex” – But what if your ex is a 3rd cousin?
czBrat
October 25th, 2010
4:40 pm
between this I went behind his back and did it… (from someone who is “not crazy”) and this I’m just about ready to throw in the towel. (after asking gift ideas
), i’m just about through with you folks today.
ciao!
Willie Dynamite
October 25th, 2010
4:41 pm
How bout you give Dude the Truth and let em know it just aint working for you. I am not the smartest dude around but if you ready to throw in the towel AND you already got a boy-toy then it might be time to K.I.M.
For Real
October 25th, 2010
4:42 pm
“For Real~ you are as real as they cum!” – And i cum as often as i can. Hey are looking to have a 17 second fling?
DreamsMaterialize
October 25th, 2010
4:43 pm
if you ready to throw in the towel AND you already got a boy-toy then it might be time to K.I.M.
That’s what I told her the last time she came out to see me.
Purple Rain
October 25th, 2010
4:43 pm
For Real, 3rd cousin on the mother or fathers side? Mothers side is a no no Fathers sides is okay. LOL
Hmmm, you don’t deserve him I hope he does you and your sister while wearing the gift you bought him. LOL
YesSheIsCute
October 25th, 2010
4:43 pm
@ PR why do you question anyone who keeps in contact with their ex?
Luvbug
October 25th, 2010
4:43 pm
But what if your ex is a 3rd cousin?
kimmie
October 25th, 2010
4:44 pm
Hmmm – I can’t tell you you were wrong. That you have to decide for yourself. Being that you’re long-distance and not married, you could be in an open relationship for all I know. I can’t judge and you have to live with yourself and how you’re treating VA guy.
But sounds a little hypocritical, how you looked at “fling” dude sideways for his past indiscretions, when you were “flinging” too!
blue®
October 25th, 2010
4:45 pm
@Dreams – you know there is this empty office right next to me, serenade away
….
@For Real – you know, when she said that i wondered how long b4 one of you caught her, lol….
For Real
October 25th, 2010
4:46 pm
Blue: Ummm can please get Hmmmm’s email and invite her to the meet and greet before Kimmie says something.
kimmie
October 25th, 2010
4:47 pm
Gotta roll, you guys have a safe trip home.
Be easy!
For Real
October 25th, 2010
4:48 pm
Dayum!!! Too Late!!!
kimmie
October 25th, 2010
4:49 pm
4Real – Giving you a nice “Lana” stance and stare!
Purple Rain
October 25th, 2010
4:49 pm
YesSheIsCute, because once you move on to someone new the past needs to stay the past, if it is worth maintain a friendship with your ex let that be grounds for a relationship. No self respecting guy is going to have his new lady friends with her old flame, call it insecure but it really is not. It’s respect for the new relationship and person.
blue®
October 25th, 2010
4:51 pm
@For Real – i cant force her to give it to me now, lmao…..
@Hmmmm – GIMME YOUR EMAIL ADDY, 4 I UN-ORGANIZE YOUR PAPER CLIPS!!
@For Real – is that good?
why does my office smell like burnt rice?
For Real
October 25th, 2010
4:51 pm
“Mothers side is a no no Fathers sides is okay.” – You got that backwards PR, the bloodline flows through the Father. For Real now wondering if that talking goat on PR’s farm is really a goat.
Hmmm
October 25th, 2010
4:52 pm
PR~I’ve learned from my mistakes…yes, I took him for granted, ventured out and dated other men, but in the end, they couldn’t compare to what we had. I haven’t been with anyone other than him since June of this year, so I doing darn good. I just wish he were closer, laying next to me at night, waking up to each other EVERY morning, and keeping these handsome, charming men from approaching me. Its hard when the love of your life is miles away
For Real
October 25th, 2010
4:54 pm
Kimmie: “Giving you a nice “Lana” stance and stare!” – I just got a semi!!!
Blue: “For Real – is that good?” – Imma need you stand on something to make you appear tall and menacing.
Purple Rain
October 25th, 2010
4:54 pm
For Real, my 3rd cousin is a goat. LOL
Hmmm, you should tell him and let him make a decision.
blue®
October 25th, 2010
4:54 pm
@Hmmm – seems to me theres only one thing left for it, MOVE….altho, please be sure he’s on the same page b4 you do cause that would just be messyy…
blue®
October 25th, 2010
4:55 pm
@For Real – how about i just put on my stripper boots and grab my paddle? will that do?
Purple Rain
October 25th, 2010
4:56 pm
It is going to be messy once he finds out you stepped out on him. Everything in the dark comes to light eventually, women think that only works when a man has hidden something. LOL
Hmmm
October 25th, 2010
4:57 pm
blue~thanks!
PR~And I’m sure you went thru the same thing before your wife moved here…..
YesSheIsCute
October 25th, 2010
4:58 pm
@ PR I guess but I think there are exceptions to the rules.
For Real
October 25th, 2010
4:59 pm
Hmmmmm: Your pain comes thru your writing. I have a suggest that just may work. Now, hear me out, how about on those nights that you are missing him in your bed I come thru and we can pretend that he is me and I is him. I’ll even let you call me by his pet name “Pay for this”.
For Real
October 25th, 2010
5:00 pm
Blue: “how about i just put on my stripper boots and grab my paddle? will that do?” – Grab a whip too and send Mr. Blue for a Tab and I be right over.
YesSheIsCute
October 25th, 2010
5:00 pm
@ PR only comes to the light if you let it for a long distance…most times it comes to light but not always……….
Purple Rain
October 25th, 2010
5:00 pm
Nope never stepped out on her, was in a sticky situation that could have gone bad if I agreed to but I didn’t and I told her about it… and how do you know my wife moved “here” even though we are not “there” anymore. What is you real blog name? LOL
YesSheIsCute, yes I am sure there are exceptions
Purple Rain
October 25th, 2010
5:02 pm
YesSheIsCute, or it may come to light on a visit when the SO is in town and borrows your computer and you have messages that you deleted from your inbox but not your sent folder. LOL
For Real
October 25th, 2010
5:04 pm
“Nope never stepped out on her, was in a sticky situation that could have gone bad if I agreed to but I didn’t and I told her about it” – Did that situation involve your 3rd cousin?
Purple Rain
October 25th, 2010
5:05 pm
For Real, on my Father’s Side. LOL
blue®
October 25th, 2010
5:05 pm
@For Real – a whip and a paddle, hmmm….sounds kinky…safeword issss….
Hmmm
October 25th, 2010
5:06 pm
Hope you like the quote(s):
Live the life you love, love the life you live!
and another one:
Love people and use things, don’t use people and love things!
Simple Man 2.0...New and Improved!!!!
October 25th, 2010
5:07 pm
“how about i just put on my stripper boots and grab my paddle?”
I know you are just my Number one Blog friend, But ughhhhhhh…..Thats kinda sexy!!!
YesSheIsCute
October 25th, 2010
5:08 pm
@PR true but there are exceptions to the rule though….but for the most part yeah, it does come to light. But if its a long distance thing…usually doesn’t.
Purple Rain
October 25th, 2010
5:08 pm
The safe word is “PNEUMONOULTRAMICROSCOPICSILICOVOLCANOCONIOSIS”
Purple Rain
October 25th, 2010
5:09 pm
YesSheIsCute, so does that make it okay? Or what if the shoe was on the other foot?
For Real
October 25th, 2010
5:10 pm
Blue: “safeword issss….” – Don’t Stop! or “That’s Mr. Blue’s Car”
Purple Rain
October 25th, 2010
5:11 pm
I get tunnel vision so I probably would not even hear the safe word, but I would hear a garage door opening.
Purple Rain
October 25th, 2010
5:11 pm
I get tunnel vision so I probably would not even hear the safe word, but I would hear a garage door opening.
Purple Rain
October 25th, 2010
5:12 pm
See that, LOL tunnel vision
Purple Rain
October 25th, 2010
5:13 pm
You can’t judge some people by their “ex” because obviously their ex is still their current in addition to you too. LOL
czBrat
October 25th, 2010
5:14 pm
No self respecting guy is going to have his new lady friends with her old flame,
whatever his flaws, s/o is not lacking in self-respect. what he DOES have is the utmost respect for me and the choices I make as to MY friends.
For Real
October 25th, 2010
5:16 pm
PR: I know right, while I’m marveling at how red I have made Blue’s azz sound seems to pass right by my hears but the sound of 84 Chrysler K car I can hear miles away.
blue®
October 25th, 2010
5:17 pm
@Simple Man – ive got this nice pair of thigh high black boots, lace all the way up the front….wait, platonic friends, right…how bout them Steelers….
@PR – well d@mn, that safe words the way to get a he!! of a spanking…
@For Real – Dont Stop may not work so well….
For Real
October 25th, 2010
5:19 pm
“what he DOES have is the utmost respect for me and the choices I make as to MY friends” – That’s right Brat you tell them, we still on for patron shots/you trying on bras and panties/friend night right?
Purple Rain
October 25th, 2010
5:19 pm
CanalZone, who asked you? LOL They are supposed to be “yalls” friends not his and yours. LOL, Baby I am going to go see my ex girlfriend, my current friend do her new pole trick at the “Casey’s Stripclub” LOL
2CPTG
October 25th, 2010
5:22 pm
y’all still in here?