Is it fair to judge their ex?
A bunch of friends of mine had an interesting discussion the other day about people we totally regret dating. Heaven knows I have a squad of some pretty interesting characters in my dating history. One of the guys mentioned that he thought that a long history of bad dating choices was a red flag for him. It made him wonder about the choices that were made.
Now we all have people that we probably should never ever, ever have dated. At the same time, isn’t it all a part of the whole “finding the one” process? You try on a couple of great shirts until the right one fit? You may rock a butt ugly shirt that does not compliment you for far too long, but does that mean you are doomed to be in ugly shirts forever?
Awful analogy aside, what do you think about a person’s past mate selections? Have you ever met an ex of someone that you were dating and were slightly horrified at their association?
Is it a good idea to introduce your current significant other to an ex? Should the two ever need to speak to each other? I vote no, but what do you think?
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Simple Man 2.0...New and Improved!!!!
October 25th, 2010
3:38 pm
I have been sitting here thinking…I can’t think of any situation that will make me ok with being buddies with the dude that use to give my girl a tongue bath!!! He might be cooler than a fan, but I would have no interest in kicking it with him….even for a minute…..
AmazonRed™ - A happy Raiders fan!
October 25th, 2010
3:39 pm
Blackfoote – Has Leggs come back to her senses yet?
Simple Man 2.0...New and Improved!!!!
October 25th, 2010
3:41 pm
Ared…If you like not only can you stay home, But I will give you cart blanche to re-decorate the crib if you choose to….All i ask is that you be gentle in the kitchen…I waited 7 months to get these appliances deklivered…..
YesSheIsCute
October 25th, 2010
3:42 pm
SIDENOTE: The ex told me his current belle saw me on facebook and began to feel insecure….I’m like what for? lol
Leggs ™
October 25th, 2010
3:42 pm
@ARed ~ now how come I have to come to my senses…I didn’t do anything wrong. I told you I was minding my beeswax when he asked me. Step to him! I’m innocent I tell ya, innocent…..
Lucinda
October 25th, 2010
3:47 pm
Who touts their own cuteness? Ppl who don’t have much to offer . Just sayin
AmazonRed™ - A happy Raiders fan!
October 25th, 2010
3:47 pm
I told you I was minding my beeswax when he asked me. Step to him! I’m innocent I tell ya, innocent…..
Yeah…I’ma deal with Simple Man…later! But Blackfoote seems to be upset with you too!
Simple Man 2.0...New and Improved!!!!
October 25th, 2010
3:48 pm
deklivered…..= delivered… (sorry)
AmazonRed™ - A happy Raiders fan!
October 25th, 2010
3:52 pm
I like Simple Man…I ask for an inch…he gives me a mile! I don’t need to rearrange your crib. At 40+ I hope you’ve evolved from the days of a futon and a bear skinned rug.
Leggs ™
October 25th, 2010
3:53 pm
@ARed ~ that’s all I wanted to get out of you…I’ma deal with Simple Man…later! Women tend to pounce on the woman first leaving the man scathed free….just wanted to see how long it would take before you said something toward HIM!
Yeah, Blackfoote was upset, but I think we’ve ironed things out!
Simple Man 2.0...New and Improved!!!!
October 25th, 2010
3:57 pm
Ared…I have a Futon ( Sunroom) and a Bear Skin rug ( need you ask)..But House could be displayed in BH&G Thanks to Cindy at “By Design” In Norcross and Andrew at Bova in Buckhead!!!
( Shameless plugs for interior dscorator friends…)
DreamsMaterialize
October 25th, 2010
3:59 pm
“im not blog married”,
blue ok Imma take that as the green light then. let the tango begin!
oh I could tell! But after that Making Strides walk I was done! Im surprised I even made it to that side of town!
Mo yeah it might be better that you stayed away then. In your limited physical capacity, you might not have been able to fight the dudes off you.
2CPTG©
October 25th, 2010
3:59 pm
in the thinking man pose:
“wow, dude got a Bo Jackson jersey….wonder if my wife will like this popsicle orange, ‘ol school Tampa Bay, Doug Williams jersey….or this one signed by John McKay….”
Mr. Moe
October 25th, 2010
4:00 pm
@YSIC lol sounds like your moniker definitely fits you
DreamsMaterialize
October 25th, 2010
4:00 pm
At 40+ I hope you’ve evolved from the days of a futon and a bear skinned rug.
ARed and the blacklight; don’t forget the blacklight! lol
YesSheIsCute
October 25th, 2010
4:03 pm
@ Lucinda…not sure if you’re comment was directed at me but who said that it had anything to do with the way I looked that she felt insecure?????
Raqi
October 25th, 2010
4:04 pm
SimpleMan, you know Kjell Bratengen?
YesSheIsCute
October 25th, 2010
4:06 pm
@ Mr. Moe cute definitely fits me it’s not like my moniker says yessheisfinerthanhalleberry…….
blue®
October 25th, 2010
4:08 pm
@ARed – never got the whole futon thing, if you want a bed, buy a bed, you want a couch, buy a couch….convertable furniture doesnt work for me….
@Dreams – now i have that John Legend song stuck in my head….
SexyCool
October 25th, 2010
4:09 pm
Actually…YSIC…I’m thinking of changing my screen name to HalleBerryWishesSheWasAsCuteAsMe.
LOL! (totally teasing)
DreamsMaterialize
October 25th, 2010
4:10 pm
Dreams – now i have that John Legend song stuck in my head…
blue I’m ready to go right now, I’m ready to go right now…
Leggs ™
October 25th, 2010
4:11 pm
HBWSWACAM ~ ugly moniker! A bit too much
Simple Man 2.0...New and Improved!!!!
October 25th, 2010
4:11 pm
Raqi…sorry but I don’t know that person…
Dreams..whats wrong with the black light???? How else am i going to get this Velvet Elvis to fully shine?????
Hmmm
October 25th, 2010
4:12 pm
Random question for the men (and women): what would be the perfect gift for my beau…and please don’t mention ménage a trios or bondage or whips! LOL
czBrat
October 25th, 2010
4:15 pm
what would be the perfect gift for my beau…
is he a Prince fan?
2CPTG©
October 25th, 2010
4:15 pm
Hmmmmm….since we don’t know you, nor your husband….umm, how about a ” ménage a trios or bondage or whips!”
tell me he wouldn’t like that…..shiiiid, you too, probably!
YesSheIsCute
October 25th, 2010
4:15 pm
@hmmm depends what is he into? if he’s into cars get him a gift card to summit in mcdonough
blue®
October 25th, 2010
4:18 pm
@Dreams – i like a guy who sings
@Hmmm – and please don’t mention ménage a trios or bondage or whips – well you didnt leave much left did you…let mee see…..
Raqi
October 25th, 2010
4:18 pm
Simple, when you mentioned By Design and your interior decorator friends I thought maybe you knew him.
kimmie
October 25th, 2010
4:20 pm
Hmmm – So was the guy you mentioned that was messing with the married woman someone from way back or the recent past?
Hmmm
October 25th, 2010
4:20 pm
We have been doing the long distance thing since he lives in VA, and I’m just about ready to throw in the towel.
Leggs ™
October 25th, 2010
4:22 pm
“….and I’m just about ready to throw in the towel.”
That doesn’t sound like you want to get him a gift.
Hmmm
October 25th, 2010
4:23 pm
kimmie: you and your SO were made for each other, because nothing gets past you…LOL
Raqi
October 25th, 2010
4:24 pm
Hmmm, what’s the occasion for the gift?
YesSheIsCute
October 25th, 2010
4:24 pm
lol @ leggs I was thinking that too…Don’t get him one! Or get the so called gift to yourself
Raqi
October 25th, 2010
4:25 pm
Leggs, it seems a “towel” would be the perfect gift. LOL
Hmmm
October 25th, 2010
4:26 pm
Leggs: very thin line for us. I’m yearning to be with him, but at the same time, I wish he were closer so we could spend more time together.
blue®
October 25th, 2010
4:27 pm
“….and I’m just about ready to throw in the towel.” doesnt sound like a great gift-giving attitude…just saying….
Leggs ™
October 25th, 2010
4:28 pm
Good day everyone…see you guys tomorrow afternoon!
@Hmmmm ~ while you’re contemplating a gift or a kick to the curb, would you please leave the E.O.D. quote…thank you much!
Ciao ~
kimmie
October 25th, 2010
4:29 pm
Hmmm – Gifts should come from the heart. You know your man and what he likes. But if you are ready to throw in the towel, sounds like your heart is not in it.
Simple Man 2.0...New and Improved!!!!
October 25th, 2010
4:29 pm
Raqi..Oh….I was in the market to get a new look for my home and Was Introduced to the folks over there.My friend Cindy and a young lady named Angela were so helpful that they ended up reworking most of my home.
Willie Dynamite
October 25th, 2010
4:31 pm
Afternoon All,
popping in/out today and the craziness continues. Is it just me?
Simple Man 2.0...New and Improved!!!!
October 25th, 2010
4:32 pm
“I’m yearning to be with him,”
Sounds like the best gift you can get him is a Plane ticket, a hotel room, and a bottle of Gensing…..
DreamsMaterialize
October 25th, 2010
4:35 pm
Dreams..whats wrong with the black light????
Simple ain’t nothin wrong man. If ARed is down, then run with it.
Dreams – i like a guy who sings
blue well I have lauded for my oral talents. Can I “serenade” you?
For Real
October 25th, 2010
4:35 pm
“I’d be willing to do almost anything for Prince tickets” – Zipppppppppppp Wise meet Almost and Anything.
For Real
October 25th, 2010
4:36 pm
“….and I’m just about ready to throw in the towel.” – Translation: Fine I’ll marry yo azz!!!
YesSheIsCute
October 25th, 2010
4:36 pm
Hmmm
October 25th, 2010
4:38 pm
It’s his birthday and he’s being flying back and forth to see me… contemplating a surprise tip for his b-day.
Kimmie~And yes, I had a summer fling with dude…am I wrong for stepping out on him??
kimmie
October 25th, 2010
4:39 pm
Hmmmm – Sounds like the best gift you can give him, the both of you, is TIME. A nice long weekend.
Purple Rain
October 25th, 2010
4:39 pm
Judge the ex? I don’t care about my wifes ex, he knows she is in my care. My wife and my ex, have had stare downs and words before. I tell her not to worry about her but we are from a small town, with an even smaller Italian community, so they have crossed paths before. It always leads to good sex
I question anyone who keeps in contact with their ex.