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Is it fair to judge their ex?

A bunch of friends of mine had an interesting discussion the other day about people we totally regret dating. Heaven knows I have a squad of some pretty interesting characters in my dating history. One of the guys mentioned that he thought that a long history of bad dating choices was a red flag for him. It made him wonder about the choices that were made.

Now we all have people that we probably should never ever, ever have dated. At the same time, isn’t it all a part of the whole “finding the one” process? You try on a couple of great shirts until the right one fit? You may rock a butt ugly shirt that does not compliment you for far too long, but does that mean you are doomed to be in ugly shirts forever?

Awful analogy aside, what do you think about a person’s past mate selections? Have you ever met an ex of someone that you were dating and were slightly horrified at their association?

Is it a good idea to introduce your current significant other to an ex? Should the two ever need to speak to each other? I vote no, but what do you think?

487 comments Add your comment

2CPTG©

October 25th, 2010
2:32 pm

call me, lil mama….let’s talk about this….

blue®

October 25th, 2010
2:33 pm

@Trevor – ooohh, Myrtle Beach..did you bring me anything?
@Kym – i’ll bring the crossbow for keeping order….
@melo – u think some female might show up pantyless – pro’ly, we do seem to have a frisky bunch….I’m donating 10 Motel 6 weekend overnite coupons – now thats hilarious….

2CPTG©

October 25th, 2010
2:33 pm

“Hello 2CPTG. How are you today?”

that’s all…..so bland and dry??? no kisses?

Simple Man 2.0...New and Improved!!!!

October 25th, 2010
2:35 pm

Anybody seen Ared??? I know she was here a minute ago…I know i did not fix this damn tie for nothing…..

blue®

October 25th, 2010
2:35 pm

@2C – did you email me? and you called for Freds caretaker? what can i do fur you?

YesSheIsCute

October 25th, 2010
2:37 pm

LOL @ Melo you guys do realize I have a boyfriend right? :lol:

Raqi

October 25th, 2010
2:37 pm

Uh, NO. Not even in playland.

czBrat

October 25th, 2010
2:38 pm

u think some female might show up pantyless? and all the while the dudes on there don’t even know of it?

you’re like a dog with a bone, melo. and please don’t twist that. please.

2CPTG©

October 25th, 2010
2:38 pm

“@2C – did you email me?”

ummmmm, my ‘puter ain’t akkin’ right…..what’s yo phone number, that way you can just gimme the details…

Simple Man 2.0...New and Improved!!!!

October 25th, 2010
2:39 pm

Cuteness…And????

2CPTG©

October 25th, 2010
2:40 pm

damn…..not even in playland…..ouch!

I'mnotcrazy

October 25th, 2010
2:40 pm

@blue I am sane…. I am not crazy.. Just a normal person just like you all.

Trevor0529

October 25th, 2010
2:42 pm

@blue, just a medal I got for running in the Myrtle Beach half marathon

Leggs ™

October 25th, 2010
2:44 pm

“…Just a normal person just like you all.” Everything is relative :lol: :lol: :lol:

2CPTG©

October 25th, 2010
2:44 pm

“Just a normal person just like you all.”

have you not been reading today?

Melo!

October 25th, 2010
2:45 pm

Cute?

we know but what ur boyfriend got to do with it? This is about you not some ??????? somewhere!

2Can is a really nice guy too,I can tell you that!
Let Blue have your email and we take it from there!

Blackfoote

October 25th, 2010
2:45 pm

Leggs:

Honey come and get your man off these tracks I’m tired.

YesSheIsCute

October 25th, 2010
2:46 pm

lol @ simple man really? you guys are a trip!

2CPTG©

October 25th, 2010
2:46 pm

Melo…..I may need your help with Raqi….she’s a tough one…

YesSheIsCute

October 25th, 2010
2:50 pm

@ Melo I need those motel 16 coupons for my out of town travel! Can I get one?

czBrat

October 25th, 2010
2:50 pm

congrats, Trevor! glad you had a great weekend :)

Raqi

October 25th, 2010
2:50 pm

2CPTG, I don’t mean to come off so callous. My mind is in another place right now. I am just reading along now to try to get myself to think about something else.

2CPTG©

October 25th, 2010
2:51 pm

real talk tho, Raqi…..I got mad props for you lil mama…..not in deed, nor thought…..ye’en bout to violate your vows!!!! that’s whats up!

blue®

October 25th, 2010
2:51 pm

@2C – we may have to work out another system, smoke signals or something…mr.blue would kinda worry about my sanity for giving out my number to a dude ive never even seen…just saying…well he kinda wonders about my sanity anyway but thats another story….
@crazy – ok, in just glancing at that i saw “i am not crazy” and started to say cool beans…but then you added the “Just a normal person just like you all” and that did not help your case at all, lol….
@Trevor – awww, your gonna let me wear your medal…awww :oops:

2CPTG©

October 25th, 2010
2:52 pm

awwww, I typed that before I saw your post….you ok? everything good on the home front?

Raqi

October 25th, 2010
2:56 pm

You are correct 2CPTG, I can’t even play like that.

Everything is good. I got some unexpected news but everything is fine.

DreamsMaterialize

October 25th, 2010
2:56 pm

blue
put me down for the meetup joint… dreamsmaterialize@yahoo.com
I’ll be scoping out the rebounding ex blog wives. Please be sure to have your court ordered asset settlements in hand.

Simple Man 2.0...New and Improved!!!!

October 25th, 2010
2:59 pm

Cuteness….Just to show you that we are upstanding guys, Why don’t you have your “boyfriend” come and play golf with me, while you go and get to know the fellas… ( Recognize that ultimate wingman move….)

Leggs ™

October 25th, 2010
3:00 pm

@2C ~ are you asking my apprenctice to post her number here. No fret, I have it (718) 7 8 4-7325!

@blackfoote ~ If a little lunchdate is going to send you over the edge, I’mma need you eat more Wheaties! Ok, I got a glimpse into your sensitivity. Come grab my hand. Hurry don’t you hear that choo choo a coming….to be con’t.

Wise Diva

October 25th, 2010
3:00 pm

don’t put your phone number, sir..ya’ll email me if you want Mr. 2’s phone# *maybe I should charge $*

Wise Diva

October 25th, 2010
3:01 pm

oh wait, I need your phone#

Blackfoote

October 25th, 2010
3:04 pm

Leggs:

Thanks darling I’ll be home waiting.

blue®

October 25th, 2010
3:05 pm

@Dreams – i gotcha. “I’ll be scoping out the rebounding ex blog wives” – well d@mn, and here i thought you wanted to meet me, hmph whatever :roll: … lol

Mo (aka Moeisha - I so hate Mondays)

October 25th, 2010
3:05 pm

Kym – they have started posting SOME date for Prince’s upcoming concert. Right now, all dates are NYC dates, starting Dec 14th.

Dreams – sorry I missed all the festivities but I did make it close to the AUC. My folks were tailgating at Washington High for their homecoming as well. Did you have a good time?

Raqi

October 25th, 2010
3:06 pm

On the topic: I really don’t see the reasons for introducing the ex to the present.

Earlier this year my and mine were out and this woman kept looking in our direction. I jokingly said “you must have left her heartbroken”. When I pointed her out to him he laughed and told me he did date her in college but no introduction took place. We went on, had our dinner and left.

Leggs ™

October 25th, 2010
3:11 pm

@Raqi ~ and that’s exactly how it should have been. No need to get up from the table, introduce each other. If she had come over to your table, all you had to do was drop kick her before the second word came out of her mouth. I kid, I kid about the drop kick!

jarvis

October 25th, 2010
3:11 pm

In general, “fair” is a juvenile concept that should only be applied when dealing with children.

DreamsMaterialize

October 25th, 2010
3:12 pm

don’t put your phone number, sir..ya’ll email me if you want Mr. 2’s phone# *maybe I should charge $*
Ok Madame Wisey!

well d@mn, and here i thought you wanted to meet me, hmph whatever
Now blue it can be me and you alllllll day if you’re giving mr. blue his walking papers. otherwise, I gotta roll with what I can have, not what’s forbidden. Are you forbidden mama? ;-)

SexyCool

October 25th, 2010
3:14 pm

I guess I never commented on the topic. I have met a few exes because of the kid connection. In fact, Shthead’s ex and I are still friendly. We’re even FB friends and share the occasional comment on a status message, but that’s about it. It’s not like we are about to become bosom buddies and start hanging out.

But for all intents and purposes, the kid connection aside, I see no reason for the co-mingling of ex plus new.

DreamsMaterialize

October 25th, 2010
3:15 pm

sorry I missed all the festivities
Mo you definitely missed it. It was probably one of the best homecomings ever…off the chains. I was real nice alllllllll day. lol

blue®

October 25th, 2010
3:21 pm

@Dreams – ima gonna say, as others have so eloquently said, “im not blog married”, lol
@SexyC – Shthead – whoa 8O, lmao

blue®

October 25th, 2010
3:21 pm

Mo (aka Moeisha - I so hate Mondays)

October 25th, 2010
3:22 pm

Dreams – oh I could tell! But after that Making Strides walk I was done! Im surprised I even made it to that side of town!

czBrat

October 25th, 2010
3:22 pm

interesting, Mo. cuz i recently came across a sweet deal at the new yorker hotel that’s good through mid december, and we seriously considered booking it for a just-because getaway. now i’m wondering if we can somehow make that work with the show dates. hmmmmmm. thanx for the heads up.

Mo (aka Moeisha - I so hate Mondays)

October 25th, 2010
3:29 pm

czBrat – yeah I am keeping a serious eye out for those concert dates in case I have to schedule a road trip, babysitter, etc! I need to know so I can be there!

Wise Diva

October 25th, 2010
3:29 pm

I’d be willing to do almost anything for Prince tickets….almost. anything.

SexyCool

October 25th, 2010
3:30 pm

Yep, blue. Shthead. It’s what me and all my friends call him. I think so little of him that I refuse to call him by name.

Lucinda

October 25th, 2010
3:31 pm

Hello all, been a while.
Haven’t read comments, don’t know whether topic has changed…

But if on topic:

Hellz no! I dated somebody rough, then
Married somebody who turned out crazy, so I’m not letting any prospects meet either of them. Turning a new leaf, and all that. Sleeping dogs and crappy exes can lie asleep.

No way is the new man meeting them. Ever ever ever

Melo!

October 25th, 2010
3:32 pm

So let’s see:

dudes will make chics meet with exes and sometimes exes become friends
But

Chics will make ex dudes meet but undercover

conclusion:

Abc is always right then:chics are sly ass ;) &;,$5@84?!

AmazonRed™ - A happy Raiders fan!

October 25th, 2010
3:37 pm

Anybody seen Ared??? I know she was here a minute ago…I know i did not fix this damn tie for nothing…..

Ha ha…sorry I had work to do! I thought being your girl meant I could stay at home! Guess not!

But good look on that Bo Jackson jersey! Wow!!!