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Is it fair to judge their ex?

A bunch of friends of mine had an interesting discussion the other day about people we totally regret dating. Heaven knows I have a squad of some pretty interesting characters in my dating history. One of the guys mentioned that he thought that a long history of bad dating choices was a red flag for him. It made him wonder about the choices that were made.

Now we all have people that we probably should never ever, ever have dated. At the same time, isn’t it all a part of the whole “finding the one” process? You try on a couple of great shirts until the right one fit? You may rock a butt ugly shirt that does not compliment you for far too long, but does that mean you are doomed to be in ugly shirts forever?

Awful analogy aside, what do you think about a person’s past mate selections? Have you ever met an ex of someone that you were dating and were slightly horrified at their association?

Is it a good idea to introduce your current significant other to an ex? Should the two ever need to speak to each other? I vote no, but what do you think?

487 comments Add your comment

kimmie

October 25th, 2010
1:35 pm

YES – You & me both – yeah not a good look! :shock:

For Real

October 25th, 2010
1:35 pm

“all he does is sit on the couch and scratch and smell his naughty parts.” – How does one know this if they are at work?

“I am wonderful and any guy would be lucky to have me!!!” – That’s what Madusa said too.

Raqi

October 25th, 2010
1:35 pm

Imnotcrazy, just reading page 3 of your comments you read like the former “ThirdWheel” that drops in every 3-4 months talking about her lazy overweight live in boyfriend of two years. It is you isn’t it?

i'm swiss™ (but you can call me Mr. Goodnight)

October 25th, 2010
1:36 pm

“<<<This is the hardest I have ever seen Mr.G come out the box..You must have had extra Wheaties today!"

Kym — The purity-popo are just getting on my nerves today… I get filtered or even banished anytime I try to post as my usual naughty, yet jovial self, so I guess I’ll just have to keep entertained by posting as [a jerk]:lol:

kimmie

October 25th, 2010
1:37 pm

Hmmm – Did he know the whole time she was married? Or did he find out late in the game and as a result, was heartbroken?

i'm swiss™ (but you can call me Mr. Goodnight)

October 25th, 2010
1:37 pm

“This is the hardest I have ever seen Mr.G come out the box..You must have had extra Wheaties today!”

Kym — Well, I get filtered or even banished anytime I try to post as my usual naughty, yet jovial self, so I guess I’ll just have to keep entertained by posting as an [noun: an abrasive or argumentative individual]:lol:

kimmie

October 25th, 2010
1:38 pm

ThirdWheel

Raqi – YEAH!!!! Sounds just like her!!!

Blackfoote

October 25th, 2010
1:38 pm

Kym:

Excuse me for falling apart and I do apologize must pull myself together………Kym you say you have something for me? Well I’m available now.

Melo!

October 25th, 2010
1:39 pm

Imnotcrazy?!

u not only aggressive but u desperate too.

It’s showing?

For Real

October 25th, 2010
1:39 pm

“I had to give the side eye and a quick goodbye on that note…” – Translation: After 3yrs of hounding ole boy about his previous girl he finally told me that she was the only chick he has ever loved.

Hmmm

October 25th, 2010
1:40 pm

Kimmie: He knew she was married, and was a willing participant…smh

Leggs ™

October 25th, 2010
1:43 pm

Your behind ain’t available until you get your dusty shoes from under my bed and Kym has delivered papers to me. In the meantime, this is Berta Butt and don’t let me snatch you a new a-hole!

I am so very sorry. I’m back to being myself…Berta Butt has been sleeping for almost 7 years now. What happened to make her resurface? At I need, this is all your fault…..

Blackfoote

October 25th, 2010
1:44 pm

Kimmie:

He didn’t know I did it. I went behind his back and did it…

And I’m being controlling?……….LOL

I'mnotcrazy

October 25th, 2010
1:45 pm

No, I am new to this blog.

Kym

October 25th, 2010
1:45 pm

@Blackfoote..Got you all set her you go.. wait you do have cash right? Cause I don’t take checks for these blog divorces and annulments..Speaking of which..someone ask me to draw some stuff up and they have yet to bring a payment. Times is hard..I am not working for free..but I digress..

**the key to blog divorces is catch them while they still hurt and mad..**

czBrat

October 25th, 2010
1:46 pm

However,people and ex especially sometimes have agendas that u may not know of. Do it’s safer to operate from an arms length.

Especially female ex(exes). They can be freaking jealousy h03s!

and i don’t disagree, melo. if you know an ex (or their fam)is likely to be a prob then i can see you keeping that distance. but to have a blanket policy against it is something i just don’t get. lots of valid points and examples have been given here; it’s simply not my approach. that is all.

2CPTG©

October 25th, 2010
1:47 pm

ummm….Kym….you said, “I am not going around popping caps like that.. unless you hurt my kid..then it’s on.”

didn’t you get onto me and Purp just last week, cause we said we’d go all out to protect ours….ain’t this kinda the same thing?

AmazonRed™ - A happy Raiders fan!

October 25th, 2010
1:48 pm

Leggs – Were you really just on here pushing up on my man?!

kimmie

October 25th, 2010
1:48 pm

Blackfoote – Just be your true, controlling blog-husband self and don’t worry about other folks behaviors! :lol:

2CPTG©

October 25th, 2010
1:49 pm

wonder why my wife, Raqi, ain’t said nuttin to her hubby…..we ain’t seen each other all weekend, and you cain’t speak?

Kym

October 25th, 2010
1:49 pm

@2C..no it is not..in the case we discuss the kid had hurt someone else’s child and the parent knowingly covered it up. Don’t go there..busting a cap in a sick prev..is not the same as protecting my kid when I know he has committed a crime and harmed others..

Hmmm

October 25th, 2010
1:50 pm

For Real: I’m trying to filter through that BS translation…he was screwing her for three years while we only dated for a few months. And he brought the convo up, not me. He was great up until he mentioned that he fell in love with some chick that was cheating on her husband and allowing him to play step-daddy or uncle while the child’s dad was at work providing for his family…I am a firm believer that some things should remain dormant because people will judge you based on your past experiences.

Leggs ™

October 25th, 2010
1:53 pm

@ARed ~ if you read the blog correctly, I was minding my beeswax when he rolled up on me.

Blackfoote

October 25th, 2010
1:54 pm

Kym :

I wasn’t talking about those papers……I thought you had something else that I could hang on to.

Leggs ™

October 25th, 2010
1:58 pm

OMG ~ I’m cracking up. My hubby’s looking for a ta ta pacifier…

Simple Man 2.0...New and Improved!!!!

October 25th, 2010
2:01 pm

Ared….Whats up sweetness?I missed you this weekend….

Simple Man 2.0...New and Improved!!!!

October 25th, 2010
2:03 pm

Private thought to myself….I wonder if Ared knows I have a signed Bo Jackson # 34 Raiders Jersey hanging in the house???

blue®

October 25th, 2010
2:03 pm

ok, so we’re still wondering if Imnotcrazy is really crazy (hey have you emailed me about the meetngreet? could make for an interesting evening….) and Blackfoote is divorcing Leggs over lunch with SimpleMan, wth?

and yes the barber jacked Freds haircut…wth….

Leggs ™

October 25th, 2010
2:05 pm

@blue ~ stop instigating…he already said he wasn’t looking for those type of papers…he’s working through this small hiccup.

Blackfoote

October 25th, 2010
2:06 pm

Ared:
You’re back…….you got to tell Simple Man 2.0 to leave my blog wife alone. We were buds walking on the train tracks kicking rocks together now I’m over here all alone. I even went with him to the Titantic wrekcage site to help him get you away from Billy Zane now look me. I turn my back then I hear a pssssst sound. Leggs know I love her but I’m trying to swallow a big pill now.

2CPTG©

October 25th, 2010
2:07 pm

y’all be killin me with this “Fred” character……freakin hilarious!!!!

Melo!

October 25th, 2010
2:07 pm

Cz?

so u ain’t even gon look ur boo’s ex up and down when u introduced?

Just ‘oh,nice meeting EX… U 2 can sit here and reminisce while I go watch this lifetime movie in the other room?

:lol:

blue®

October 25th, 2010
2:07 pm

@Leggs – see this is what happens, blog keeps moving while you’re typing, you get all off track, ok so no divorce…but, wait, what is this about ta ta pacifiers?

blue®

October 25th, 2010
2:09 pm

oh, and sticking in a side not here:

Incoming message from the blue lady re:meetngreet – firstly, looking to make final invite list this week, so if you haven’t emailed me yet, what your problem issss (blue73079@yahoo.com). Secondly, for all those in Lurksville, Let me tell someting to jyou (for the parents, yes I stole that from Happy Feet, love that movie, their making a second one…but I digress) please vacate Lurksville and join Blogsville b4 rsvp to a meetngreet. We’d love to meet you and all, but hazing is a lot more fun for all parties anonymously rather than in person, so lets get that on out of the way.
end of transmission…..

YesSheIsCute

October 25th, 2010
2:14 pm

@ Hmmmm am a firm believer that some things should remain dormant because people will judge you based on your past experiences

amenq

Melo!

October 25th, 2010
2:14 pm

Blue?

I’m not in favor of blogmeet unless there is intent on all parties to find ‘common ground’.

(said in the most suggestive but politically correct and non too direct sexual way)

2CPTG©

October 25th, 2010
2:16 pm

so which one of y’all is “Fred’s” primary caretaker….

Leggs ™

October 25th, 2010
2:16 pm

@Melo ~ no need to tell us how you meant it. We all know the avenue your posts slither on! Too funny with you attempting to break it down for us.

Leggs ™

October 25th, 2010
2:17 pm

@2C ~ That would be blue!

czBrat

October 25th, 2010
2:17 pm

so u ain’t even gon look ur boo’s ex up and down when u introduced?
i’m not that insecure. but i think you already knew that. :wink:
and as for reminiscing … if that’s what she came here for, she can give it her best shot. i’ll be in the other room watching Snapped.

2CPTG©

October 25th, 2010
2:18 pm

cuteness, call me, I need to holla at you prior to this meet n greet…..

2CPTG©

October 25th, 2010
2:19 pm

Diva…..can I put my phone number on here?

Leggs ™

October 25th, 2010
2:20 pm

@czB ~ Snapped was good last night. She almost got away with it. Well, not really!

blue®

October 25th, 2010
2:21 pm

@Melo – bummer, and i was gonna suggest we play naked twister, just for you and your “common ground”….oh well….

Trevor0529

October 25th, 2010
2:22 pm

Chillin on my porch in BLogsville resting my sore and tired body after a good weekend in Myrtle Beach.

Interesting happenings on Wisteria Lane in Blogsville. Blog hubbies dippin’ out on their blog wives. Blog divorces. HA!! HA!!

:lol:

I must have been the only dude in Blogsville that did not take a blog wife.

Kym

October 25th, 2010
2:27 pm

@Blackfoote..see you trying to get me caught up..

@blue..I am not emailing until it has been confirmed that there will be no invisble poking going on.

Melo!

October 25th, 2010
2:28 pm

Where is I am!?
@blue?
I was just thinking and imagining:

u think some female might show up pantyless? and all the while the dudes on there don’t even know of it?

I’m donating 10 Motel 6 weekend overnite coupons(bed and hearty breakfast) to the first 10 dudes responding affirmatively to Blues email on the Meet!

YesSheIsCute

October 25th, 2010
2:30 pm

@2CPTG ok but not sure if I can go I have a series of out of towns but will try! :)

Melo!

October 25th, 2010
2:32 pm

2Can?

cute seems like a nice girl. A real keeper. So kind and tender hearted.

Ima help u get her!

Raqi

October 25th, 2010
2:32 pm

Hello 2CPTG. How are you today?