Is it fair to judge their ex?
A bunch of friends of mine had an interesting discussion the other day about people we totally regret dating. Heaven knows I have a squad of some pretty interesting characters in my dating history. One of the guys mentioned that he thought that a long history of bad dating choices was a red flag for him. It made him wonder about the choices that were made.
Now we all have people that we probably should never ever, ever have dated. At the same time, isn’t it all a part of the whole “finding the one” process? You try on a couple of great shirts until the right one fit? You may rock a butt ugly shirt that does not compliment you for far too long, but does that mean you are doomed to be in ugly shirts forever?
Awful analogy aside, what do you think about a person’s past mate selections? Have you ever met an ex of someone that you were dating and were slightly horrified at their association?
Is it a good idea to introduce your current significant other to an ex? Should the two ever need to speak to each other? I vote no, but what do you think?
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For Real
October 25th, 2010
5:23 pm
“Dont Stop may not work so well….” – I can’t tell you how many times I have heard that before.
Purple Rain
October 25th, 2010
5:23 pm
I am here!
Purple Rain
October 25th, 2010
5:24 pm
For Real, LOL “K car”
Simple Man 2.0...New and Improved!!!!
October 25th, 2010
5:24 pm
blue…if you are willing to keep it just between us, I am ok with revisiting that whole platonic friends thing….
Purple Rain
October 25th, 2010
5:25 pm
If a guy is cool with you talking to your ex just know he probably has an ex or two that he talks to just to balance things out….in his mind. LOL
Purple Rain
October 25th, 2010
5:25 pm
Simple Man, New and improved? LOL, you moved on to greener pastures?
blue®
October 25th, 2010
5:27 pm
@2C – im still here, with the assorted nuts….
@For Real – just saying, chick tells you dont stop, and you stop….quick way to get the “WTF” stare…..
2CPTG
October 25th, 2010
5:27 pm
so it’s just us fellas here, right?…….
let’s compare notes…..I got the goods on _____________
Purple Rain
October 25th, 2010
5:28 pm
blue, they are not assorted…that is just my birth mark
2CPTG
October 25th, 2010
5:28 pm
shoot, blue’s here…..forget comparing notes….
Purple Rain
October 25th, 2010
5:29 pm
2CPTG, golf ball and garden hose. LOL
For Real
October 25th, 2010
5:31 pm
“just saying, chick tells you dont stop, and you stop” – Blue I promise right here and now to never stop when you tell me “Don’t Stop” and I put that on everythang I love.
For Real
October 25th, 2010
5:33 pm
2C: I need the goods on all the blog chicks starting with some pics.
blue®
October 25th, 2010
5:33 pm
@Simple Man – see, im not sure if you can handle Ms.Blue…
@PR – and how do you explain the rest of these foo…folks?
@2C – lol, sorry…i was about to say, guess im one of the guys again lol
Purple Rain
October 25th, 2010
5:37 pm
blue, you are our cool friend who happens to be a girl. You are the one who brings more chicks to the pad..LOL
Purple Rain
October 25th, 2010
5:41 pm
I just remembered we are an hour behind/
2CPTG
October 25th, 2010
5:41 pm
blue, what are you still hangin around?
2CPTG
October 25th, 2010
5:43 pm
“2C: I need the goods on all the blog chicks starting with some pics.”
you prolly know more dirt than I do…..
2CPTG
October 25th, 2010
5:44 pm
eh Purp……I know you said you don’t smoke no more, but have you heard/indulged in this new stuff…..”herbal incense”?????
man!!!!!!
czBrat
October 25th, 2010
5:45 pm
If a guy is cool with you talking to your ex just know he probably has an ex or two that he talks to just to balance things out….in his mind.
he would have to have a very small mind to do that JUST because i’m friends with an ex. ijs.
nite all
blue®
October 25th, 2010
5:45 pm
@PR – lol, so thats it…
@2C – i always work late on Mondays…stuck in this cubicle, and its cold in here…..
Simple Man 2.0...New and Improved!!!!
October 25th, 2010
5:45 pm
Purple…No moving on just sayin…
blue….I can handle mine, You just make sure you can support your end of the deal….
Purple Rain
October 25th, 2010
5:45 pm
2CPTG, no I haven’t but since I am no longer in corporate I am going to start back
Herbal Incense? Do tell!
Purple Rain
October 25th, 2010
5:50 pm
CanalZone, LOL.
blue,
2CPTG, that stuff is legal and can’t be traced, that’s righteous
The Situation
October 25th, 2010
5:53 pm
Everybody’s like, “He’s no item! Please don’t like him.
He don’t wife ‘em, he one nights ‘em!”
Now she don’t like him, she never met him
Groupies try to take advantage of him, he won’t let ‘em
He don’t need ‘em, so he treats ‘em like he treats ‘em
Better them than me, she don’t agree with him
She’s mad at that, he’s not havin that
So those opposites attract like mag-a-nets
She sees more than the Benz wagon, the friends taggin along
with a flashy braggin on the song
She gets a glimpse of and she likes that
He 2-ways her, so she writes back
Smiley faces after all of her phrases
Either she the one or I’m caught in “The Matrix”
But let the +Fish-burne+
Red or green pill, you live and you learn, c’mon
Purple Rain
October 25th, 2010
5:54 pm
Jay-Z?
blue®
October 25th, 2010
5:56 pm
@Simple Man – oohh, i do like a challenge, just keep in mind im bringing Patron…..lets see who climbs out the basement first….
@PR – you know, asked dudes to explain that one of the guys thing, and they get all tongue tied….
Purple Rain
October 25th, 2010
6:01 pm
blue, we always need a cool girl to be a spy
Simple Man 2.0...New and Improved!!!!
October 25th, 2010
6:09 pm
blue…its on!!!
Note to self…make sure the stirups on the gyn table are adjustable….
blue®
October 25th, 2010
6:14 pm
@PR – spy, lol, 00blue…its funny, one minute one of the guys, next minute their all tongue tied, inappropriate ideas obviously running thru their heads…must admit its kinda fun, lol
@Simple Man – lol, bring it!
nite all!
Simple Man 2.0...New and Improved!!!!
October 25th, 2010
6:22 pm
“all tongue tied”
blue does not know the half of it…..
Wise Diva
October 25th, 2010
6:24 pm
You guys are supposed to be gone
Purple Rain
October 25th, 2010
6:28 pm
Wise we are still here
Wise Diva
October 25th, 2010
6:36 pm
too funny! Turn the lights off and lock up? Have a great evening!
Purple Rain
October 25th, 2010
6:37 pm
Of course darling!
Purple Rain
October 25th, 2010
6:37 pm
Turning the lights off and locking all of the doors. Heading up into the DJ area to practice my skills
I am whatever you say I am
October 25th, 2010
6:39 pm
Hey Wait!!!! who turned out all the lights!!!?!?!?!?!?
F**** I’m on the toilet!!!!!!!
….Looking at whom my exes have dated prior to me, let’s just say that by dating me they upgraded to Louis the 15th!!! I’m telling you!!!! They won’t deny it either.