Intentions determine attraction?
When someone is just looking to hook up, obviously there is a different approach involved in what appeals to them. You’re not that concerned about intelligence, sense of humor, or kindness. It’s pretty much all about whether or not they “do it for you” in terms of attraction.
If you actually want to meet someone that has potential, hopefully your attraction will go beyond the superficial things like their body or their face. Interestingly enough there was a study published that described the way we select mates when we want short-term or long-term connections.
Do you consider a person’s body (height, stature, etc.) before you look at their face? What if you are looking for a real relationship? Do you prioritize importance of body and face in a different way?
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Simple Man!!!
October 22nd, 2010
11:57 am
Soooo CZ…Do you have a other “zonian” friends you can hook a brother up with???? Its starting to get cold outside and i might need some company……If she happens to be a big girl with a cute face..I am still game…
Purple Rain
October 22nd, 2010
11:57 am
Swiss, you better stop posting pictures of J-Smoove
czBrat
October 22nd, 2010
11:57 am
I never knew how many hazel eyed or blue eyed black folks existed until I came to the south!
um. yeah. and sistas with beautiful, silky, waist-length hair.
<— for real
no further comment. gotta get back to pickin my row.
Simple Man!!!
October 22nd, 2010
11:58 am
2can…Did you take Cutie in the supplemental draft????
Purple Rain
October 22nd, 2010
11:58 am
kimmie, okay my love. Remember you asked for this.
Purple Rain
October 22nd, 2010
12:01 pm
Hazel and blue eye. Either they are contacts or someone was pouring milk in the coffee.
czBrat
October 22nd, 2010
12:02 pm
Simple, zonians don’t play. but i can hook you up with a mail order catalog if any big panameña will do.
Kym
October 22nd, 2010
12:04 pm
Regulators!!!! Mount Up!!
Purple Rain
October 22nd, 2010
12:04 pm
Swiss, your picture is gone now.
Wise Diva is not playing, I am glad she loves me. No trouble out of me. LOL
Kym
October 22nd, 2010
12:05 pm
@Purple Rain..this is the south that milk and coffee thing went on alot down here..
Silky Smooth
October 22nd, 2010
12:05 pm
good afternoon.
Purple Rain
October 22nd, 2010
12:06 pm
Kym it still seems taboo down there, up here it’s been happening as long as I can remember
2CPTG©
October 22nd, 2010
12:06 pm
Leggs…..dude just hit me up, and said his comments aren’t getting thru….
i'm swiss™ (but you can call me Mr. Goodnight)
October 22nd, 2010
12:07 pm
Purple — I know… Looks like I’m gonna have to rework my whole act… Apparently I can’t work blue anymore (yeah, I’m looking at you, blue)…
2CPTG©
October 22nd, 2010
12:08 pm
wait….he did post….
Simple Man!!!
October 22nd, 2010
12:09 pm
CZ..Remember that Joe Song..”Don’t wanna be playa No more”??? Thats where I am… I need to find me a good christian chick thast OK with midget porn and and not afarid to check out that website Blue told us about….OH yeah..and she gotta have a little Montana Fishburn in her….Think you can find me a Zonian to fit that bill???
Blackfoote
October 22nd, 2010
12:10 pm
2C:
What up man you tryin to hook Leggs up with your boy. Oh Damn……HMMMMMMMMM.
Silky Smooth
October 22nd, 2010
12:11 pm
test, test…..
I’m going to try this again…..if not, 2, I’ll just holla at you later.
YesSheIsCute
October 22nd, 2010
12:11 pm
@ food stamp issue I was reading the article about that. I think its good b/c its a shame when elderly people or unemployed people have to liquid “assets” to prove their poor. Just because someone has net worth doesn’t necessarily mean they have cash readily available….
Leggs ™
October 22nd, 2010
12:12 pm
@2C ~ I know he’s coloful, tell him to tone it down a bit. Oh snap!
Talk to WD!! His commentary is always so colorful.
Purple Rain
October 22nd, 2010
12:13 pm
CanalZone’s people are beautiful. Brat do any of them need a housekeeping job? Honey this is our new maid, she is here to help. LOL
i'm swiss™ (but you can call me Mr. Goodnight)
October 22nd, 2010
12:13 pm
“.and she gotta have a little Montana Fishburn in her”
Simple — What? You looking for a leopard ootybay?
Purple Rain
October 22nd, 2010
12:14 pm
Swiss, LOL
SexyCool
October 22nd, 2010
12:14 pm
YSIC – That’s just as sad as those elderly that have to divorce to qualify for assistance.
Silky Smooth
October 22nd, 2010
12:16 pm
How are you, Ms. Leggs…
I see some filters have been implemented since I last visited…let me catch up, and I’ll be right with you.
Simple Man!!!
October 22nd, 2010
12:18 pm
Swiss…Not the spotty booty, Just that spotty mindset……
BlackMagicWoman
October 22nd, 2010
12:18 pm
Let’s see….I love a guy with a 6 pack…not a keg! I am turned off by men in their 3rd trimester!
She me the “V” baby! You know…that “V” on a guy’s abs that leads to the….oh my!!!
Not into Skeletor but not into Fat Albert either. Nothing feels less masculine than a soft guy. Give me nightmares about the Marshmellow man from Ghostbusters!
It’s no secret…the taller the better for me. Sometime I wear 4.5 in heels and I am 6ft tall. I will not wear flats because the cub jumper has a Napolean complex. Now I have gotten with a guy who was an inch shorter than me….but he was FINE and had muscles for days. Not the vein popping kind…but sexy.
I like a man who cares about his appearance. Not a “metrosexual”…but a guy who can wear a Tux or suit just as well as he wears jeans and a polo.
I love sexy eyes on a guy. I prefer a guy with hair. I have gotten over my phobia of bald heads.
All this is to say….if I am not attracted to you from the first meeting….there will be NO relationship. I will see nothing more than friendship.
Silky Smooth
October 22nd, 2010
12:18 pm
what’s up with the “your comment is awaiting moderation”?
Blackfoote
October 22nd, 2010
12:19 pm
Leggs:
Whats goin on you didn’t me tell about all of this. Oh I get it now it’s the other side that is surfacing. Simple Man wait up dude looks I might be walking the raliroad tracks with you kicking rocks too.
Raqi
October 22nd, 2010
12:19 pm
2CPTG, if I am doing the laundry and find $20 do I get to keep it?
YesSheIsCute
October 22nd, 2010
12:19 pm
*liquidate and they’re. I used to be such a grammar nazi and a really great speller…this whole Internet thing has really dumbed me down….good thing I’m still multi-lingual.
Simple Man!!!
October 22nd, 2010
12:20 pm
Cutie…But you have to admit…If they came to the store in a ‘09 Navigator they should not be standing in line asking “How much room is there on my EBT card???”
I am whatever you say I am
October 22nd, 2010
12:20 pm
anyone ever get paid in food stamps?
That happened to someone I knew who did a pest control job for somoeone.
That gotta be rough- you have no money and roaches!
YesSheIsCute
October 22nd, 2010
12:21 pm
@ sexysmooth, I think that’s very very sad. I’m glad they are relaxing the requirements. Shoot I may go to apply, I went awhile ago and they told me they could give me like $50 in food stamps a month…I was its not worth it I could work 2 extra hours a month and have that.
Purple Rain
October 22nd, 2010
12:23 pm
Is it true that women know that they will sleep with a guy when they first see him?
YesSheIsCute
October 22nd, 2010
12:23 pm
@ Simple Man right…like people in NYC going to the welfare place in chincillas and all…I’m like really?
Purple Rain
October 22nd, 2010
12:24 pm
Foodstamps is free food, fill out the paperwork and get that money. It’s free. LOL
Purple Rain
October 22nd, 2010
12:25 pm
SO if you get food stamps you are supposed to look the part too? LOL
YesSheIsCute
October 22nd, 2010
12:27 pm
@PR yes…doesn’t mean she’s gonna do it but she knows if he has a standing chance or not…in my case I try to be extra adamant about them not even thinking about (usually because I know its a possibility, but sometimes they need to get out my &^*$# hairs because its not even happening).
YesSheIsCute
October 22nd, 2010
12:27 pm
@ PR if you are getting assistance from the government at least don’t flaunt the fact that you have some unverifiable funds some where! Geez, I’m just saying….
blue®
October 22nd, 2010
12:28 pm
@swiss – (yeah, I’m looking at you, blue) why you looking at me? whatever it was, i didnt do it….
@BMW – Not into Skeletor but not into Fat Albert either – LMAO
Purple Rain
October 22nd, 2010
12:30 pm
YesSheIsCute, Atlanta I noticed is the place where almost everyone s lifestyle scream unverifiable income. LOL You work at Publix as a cashier but that is your Range Rover?
Dig That
October 22nd, 2010
12:30 pm
Wassup good people.
TGIF!!!
I see we are a food stamp topic. When I was growing up I thought everybody got them
Purple Rain
October 22nd, 2010
12:30 pm
She must be on Food Stamps. LOL
I am whatever you say I am
October 22nd, 2010
12:30 pm
“…….Is it true that women know that they will sleep with a guy when they first see him…………..”
It’s more like you think that yes, that is someone that I would like to sleep with but not a guarantee that is is going to happen.
Someone could look fine as hell and you’rE like YES!!!
and the feeling can go to hell naw in the matter of seconds by some stupid crap that could come out of their mouth.
Example:
Me: meeting someone online for the first time in person. dude approaching….. Oh wow!!! He is fine as heeellllllll! Much better in person!!!!
the date progresses well at Phipps Plaza
Dude: Looks up and notices Venus Williams on TV and the next conversation is all about her breast, how big they are, do they hurt, what bra size does she wear to carry them.
Me: No longer horny
Silky Smooth
October 22nd, 2010
12:31 pm
ok, I think I’m pretty much caught up…well, as much as I’m going to read, at least.
“Intentions determine attraction”…..well, I don’t think it’s no military secret as to my occupation; so my attraction differs from the traditional. My attraction is strictly earning potential! You can look like a moose in the face, and have a body that looks like 200lbs of chewed bubblegum, I can still use you!
2, boi, I see you still doin ya thang…..I also see where you gettin a lil soft…you lettin your girls keep money now? But it’s cool, I know you’ve been off the blade for awhile now, so I won’t hold it against you.
Dig That
October 22nd, 2010
12:32 pm
Is it true that women know that they will sleep with a guy when they first see him?
Yes
Leggs ™
October 22nd, 2010
12:32 pm
Why do you insist on still spelling it “cencored?”
@blackfoote ~ calm down my dear poohbear…we all are friends! NOT F.W.B.s, just friends.
Purple Rain
October 22nd, 2010
12:33 pm
Well ladies, I am open for viewing in two weeks when I go back to Georgia. LOL
Purple Rain
October 22nd, 2010
12:34 pm
Leggs, the fellas are my friends all the ladies are my FWB’s we just have not acted on them yet. LOL